NewStats: 3,264,085 , 8,182,546 topics. Date: Monday, 09 June 2025 at 03:36 PM 2p4v66

In reality check, if all Nigerian families should move to UK or America, 2/3 of the families will end up in divorce, separation and other turbulence dealing with marriages over there. The results are all these children raised to be misbehaving, and when they grow up and get married, their marriages also collapse like that of their parents. Oyibo people has lost family values unlike Africans and it is a disappoinment seeing Africans following in their footsteps. Learn to sort some minor issues with your spouse at home. Am not saying that one must stay back in abusive marriages but our women don't know how to manage their new found "power once they travel to Europe. And that is exactly what the officer is trying to explain.

Omoawoke:

That you are a woman and you carry this thing for head exposes you as a man hater. I can bet you must have been frustrated by broken homes and decided you won’t go down alone, you want other women to suffer same fate so you won’t be alone, am I wrong?

Its just so obvious

1stGenAmerican:


Can you tell us why he started speaking in Yoruba after he started out in English? He did that because he knew that saying the things he said were against policy.

My God! He was speaking to Yoruba women abroad and the best way to communicate to them is their native language. You communicate in language people understand better to achieve the purpose of communication.

It's like you asking why a social radio drama is delivered in native language even though it has English Title...

Kobojunkieee:
There is everything wrong with that statement actually since that is the same language used by many of your pastors in Nigeria to keep Nigerian women enduring misery year after year after year — some eventually meeting their end as a result. For Pete's sake, that is the very same language used to cajole Nigerians into tolerating the Buhari shege for 8 years, and it is the same manipulative tongue being used on the people as we speak to cause them to settle for 3 more years of the renewed shege banze.

Even a family or marriage counselor would know not to use such language given what we have learned of how it can and has been used to manipulate people into accepting conditions that they are not supposed to.

In short, you as a man or a woman, are in search of a man that meets all your emotional and financial needs, a saint and a god. If you're not married, you're definitely waiting for godot.

If you can't accept and accommodate others' differences and use bearable human weaknesses to define the need to dissolve marriage you are meant to live all your life alone without friend, brother or even neighbor to associate with.

Kobojunkieee:
Why do many of you still reason like dindinrins even as 2024 don dey come to a close? The only reason a person would call the cops into a marriage is if and only if there is a disagreement that requires their presence in the home.

A policeman would not be sent out simply because a husband and wife simply disagreed over whether to have Chinese or Italian for dinner. I mean before a police officer is dispatched to a location, the operator collects details of the problem to ensure that the officer is not being sent out on a fool's errand. So by the time the officer lands in your home, they already checked the record on the home, the person making the complaint and the one the complaint is being made about to ascertain they have the records of these people on hand to provide any needed medication or simply need to relocate one of the involved out of the house to de-escalate.

The policeman was already in the home so that there is clear that something real was reported or he was just visiting his friends, happened to be wearing his uniform at the time and was unluckily caught on camera advising the friend's wife not to call the cops on her husband. Whatever the case may have been the police man is wrong to have done that while wearing his uniform.

When you're ready to use your brain and stop being an idiot, you will listen to the clip with clear and objective mind and not with the toxicity the headline already injected into your unformed mind!

babtoundey:


My God! He was speaking to Yoruba women abroad and the best way to communicate to them is their native language. You communicate in language people understand better to achieve the purpose of communication.

It's like you asking why a social radio drama is delivered in native language even though it has English Title...

Why didn’t he speak Yoruba from start to finish, since it was the best way to communicate and understand?
Because he had ill intentions and an agenda.

DoctorShomo:


You guys are blowing this incident out of proportion.

The police officers in that video had no ulterior motives

Right, only the Nigerian officer did.

babtoundey:


My God! He was speaking to Yoruba women abroad and the best way to communicate to them is their native language. You communicate in language people understand better to achieve the purpose of communication.

It's like you asking why a social radio drama is delivered in native language even though it has English Title...

Thanks to the foolish man, all Nigerian police officers will be watched and monitored closely going forward as being domestic violence friendly.

Also there will be strict instructions that they only communicate in English. And there will be immediate reviews of any non English communications.

Rest assured that all UK police of Nigerian origin are now under a searchlight.

The met police are undoubtedly reading this and other threads, seeing the casual attitudes towards domestic violence, and planning on vetting of all Nigerian police officers.

It will now likely be much harder for Nigerians to get hired as police.

Another own goal by foolish Nigerians thinking they are smarter than dumb white men.

atiku4President:
UK authority must respond to that garbage that man was selling to innocent women. He directly and indirectly encouraged them to die in silence. He thinks UK is Nigeria where citizens are forced to take rubbish from fellow citizens and even from government.

abeg shut up awon wereys which die silence liars talking rubbish you are the committing violence and evil against yourselves and your husband. When did women become innocent what a big form of lying black witches

Malroux:
What's wrong in what the police officer said? Or is it better for Nigerian women in the UK to continue treating their husbands as scraps?

Na mumu dey carry woman go UK

GloriousGbola:


Thanks to the foolish man, all Nigerian police officers will be watched and monitored closely going forward as being domestic violence friendly.

Also there will be strict instructions that they only communicate in English. And there will be immediate reviews of any non English communications.

Rest assured that all UK police of Nigerian origin are now under a searchlight.

The met police are undoubtedly reading this and other threads, seeing the casual attitudes towards domestic violence, and planning on vetting of all Nigerian police officers.

It will now likely be much harder for Nigerians to get hired as police.

Another own goal by foolish Nigerians thinking they are smarter than dumb white men.

This!!!

So much for "logical" Nigerian men.

sonofthunder:


No points of yours addressed the issue of false reporting of spouses.

I don’t need to address the issue of false reporting. There’s already a law against making false police reports. It’s a crime. Unless you’re asking me to be like you people and assume that anyone who reports domestic abuse is lying. We call that being abuse apologists

Therapy is a fraudulent circus that will be addressed another day.

The fact that you consider therapy fraudulent is a great indication that you might be in need their services. People who need introspection, self reflection and self ability are often the ones who hate to do it the most

1stGenAmerican:
The UK Metropolitan Police have made it clear that they had no part in telling Nigerian women not to call the police on their husbands. The police officer speaking in Yoruba in this video is being investigated—I’m sure he’ll lose his job and possibly receive criminal charges which is good!

Here’s the story:



https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/met-cop-telling-nigerian-women-33655942


Previous thread https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/8211011/uk-police-officer-advises-nigerian

That video is old video. I think at this juncture, one only needs to mind ones business and move on. More women will not have the opportunity of moving abroad with their husbands. Simple

lagosrd:


That video was an old video. I think at this juncture, one only needs to mind ones business and move on. More women will not have the opportunity of moving abroad with their husbands. Simple

What?

1stGenAmerican:


What?

Yes I watched it almost 2 years ago

lagosrd:


That video was an old video. I think at this juncture, one only needs to mind ones business and move on. More women will not have the opportunity of moving abroad with their husbands. Simple

It would have been better if it was a new video. Because it is an old video there will be a much deeper investigation and a review of multiple DV cases/calls that were handled by Nigerian police officers.

This is not naija police where there are no records. Police work is about records and paperwork.

God help any Nigerian policeman who was dieing dv cases on his watch. It will all come out now. If that video 2as recent they would assume it was a one off. But an old video indicates it may be an endemic issue

The guy went to the UK with his Naigeerian corrupt and cover ups mentality.

GloriousGbola:


It would have been better if it was a new video. Because it is an old video there will be a much deeper investigation and a review of multiple DV cases/calls that were handled by Nigerian police officers.

This is not naija police where there are no records. Police work is about records and paperwork.

God help any Nigerian policeman who was dieing dv cases on his watch. It will all come out now. If that video 2as recent they would assume it was a one off. But an old video indicates it may be an endemic issue

But I think the man was just trying to help out on marital issues unfortunately, it may affect him and others who fish out such advice to fellow country men. I think one just have to mind our business and behave well abroad ,Otherwise there will be a big challenges dealing with such issues when both parties return home.

lagosrd:

I think one just have to mind our business and behave well abroad ,Otherwise there will be a big challenges dealing with such issues when both parties return home.

This . This is just it

Mind your business and behave well AKA follow the laws. You will hardly have any issues.

OALandAgents:
I don't understand Yoruba language , but it seemed to me that the man gave his official advice in English language and used Yoruba to give the important advice that Nigerian women in UK needed to hear.

Clearly that advice is that involving the police in any issue to do with your family is ill advised and would inevitably lead to break up of marriage and even the family.

Don't you think the individual involved is better equipped to decide if to report or not?

Some NL women like ivolt, cococandy, pocohantas, Kobojunkieee, 1Sharon commenting do not understand this about UK, perhaps because they have never lived in White Oyibo land.

I must be a NL women because I called out the unprofessionalism of the cop in this video, right?
Are you aware that the current laws on domestic issues in the west were made by men-dominated assemblies?

That said, you and the man wants to enforce Nigerians tolerance of abuse in the UK.
People must never say anything to outsiders unless when taking their last breath, right?

The only thing that has changed is your location and income assuming you have been to the UK
before as you insinuate.

For me, the man was spot on because he works in the system and he knows that it is an unwritten objective of the authorities to destroy black families so that they find it easier to seize the children and put them into care or adoption.

Trying to scare potential abuse reporters again?
Children are seized when both parents are incompetent.

Personally Nigerians in particular and black people in general need to understand that the Oyibo land police are not our friends and we should avoid involving them n our personal business.

Another scare tactic.
You are trying to use racism argument to rationalise covering up abuse.
More like shut up and take the abuse because white police are racist.

I would even recommend only calling them if your life is at risk or if serious injury may be imminent. Otherwise we should have numbers of other black familiy and friends we can call as alternatives to police.

People should be free to use alternatives if they want but not discouraged from reporting
by a man in police uniform.

But if it is the typical Nigerian alternative to domestic abuse resolutions.
It usually goes like this;
The wife is told to be more patient, tolerant and stop challenging the lord of the house
and she is reminded that her mother went through similar issues and her endurance was
rewarded by successful children.

The husband is urged to be more considerate and merciful which
an abusive person will ignore because he has just been validated as the alpha and omega
of his own home. Why should he give an inch?

When you create incentives where there is no consequence to violence or abuse, the society
becomes more violent and vice versa.

Kobojunkieee:
Here are some of the freedoms you are meant to enjoy as a human being wherever you may live on this planet.
All of this means that a woman, same as a man, has the right to call it quits in a marriage— divorce— if and when she wants. You should get used to it if you want to be happy in your marriage and in this life.

Abeg most of dis rights are rubbish propaganda and a fallacy of the west

pocohantas:


Sadly you don't.
Ruĺemakers are not on NL obsessing over evening newspapers. There is a reason majority of the world's wealth is controlled by the so-called simps. No you don't. 🫂

Evening Newspapers.

Glad you recognise your pseudonym.

Flangelo12:



Evening Newspapers.

Glad you recognise your pseudonym.

Stale...✌️

lagosrd:


But I think the man was just trying to help out on marital issues unfortunately, it may affect him and others who fish out such advice to fellow country men. I think one just have to mind our business and behave well abroad ,Otherwise there will be a big challenges dealing with such issues when both parties return home.

Help out on marital issues?

In the west, your neighbours will call the police if they suspect dv. Schools will call child protection if they suspect child abuse.

THIS IS THE LAW.

It is not the place of a police officer to advise people to subvert the law. That is what the man was doing.

It is like a police officer saying yahoo is actually not that bad. If you want to maintain a Nigerian attitude then stay in Nigeria. Do not think you can transplant a Nigerian attitude outside Nigeria.

Stop thinking your hosts are fools who will stand by and let you being in Nigerian culture.

It is Nigerians too who go abroad and start trying to date small girls because they can get away with it in Nigeria.

You cannot eat your cake and have it

Goodnewsforlife:
over Sabi u don't even understand what the guy was saying

He's actually talking about home management,nobody is saying they shouldn't but there are some minor issues that could b managed within the home that are blown out of proportion because the women believe they have an upper hand

In pidgin, no b every case u go call police, some small issues dey wey u suppose manage for house na only issues wey Una no fit resolve for house u suppose call police for

Simple

Why you waste your precious time dey explain gi am? E wan form woke and sane

GloriousGbola:


Help out on marital issues?

In the west, your neighbours will call the police if they suspect dv. Schools will call child protection if they suspect child abuse.

THIS IS THE LAW.

It is not the place of a police officer to advise people to subvert the law. That is what the man was doing.

It is like a police officer saying yahoo is actually not that bad. If you want to maintain a Nigerian attitude then stay in Nigeria. Do not think you can transplant a Nigerian attitude outside Nigeria.

Stop thinking your hosts are fools who will stand by and let you being in Nigerian culture.

It is Nigerians too who go abroad and start trying to date small girls because they can get away with it in Nigeria.

You cannot eat your cake and have it

Watch the audience he was talking to and watch the settings. This was I mean people from his country , Africans , say blacks with certain shared cultural beliefs and way of life. He wouldn't have said that in the public domain and I honestly don't think the man overstepped his boundaries except for the fact that he is one foreign soil where those kind of advice may land you I to trouble. Cos government is Interested in everything you do including your private life.

lagosrd:


Watch the audience he was talking to and watch the settings. This was I mean people from his country , Africans , say blacks with certain shared cultural beliefs and way of life. He wouldn't have said that in the public domain and I honestly don't think the man overstepped his boundaries except for the fact that he is one foreign soil where those kind of advice may land you I to trouble. Cos government is Interested in everything you do including your private life.

The audience he was with are they in Nigeria?
The audience he was with was he there as himself or as a representative of the met police?


Let me put this is you will understand

In Nigeria it is against the law to be gay.

An NGO was shut down for promoting lgbtq. It does not matter if gays have rights in the west. It does not matter if the NGO was promoting human rights.

Can a un French national come to a in convention in Nigeria and start advising gays in French in how to by Nigerian laws on gays?

This should be simple for you to understand. You cannot promote attitudes that are against the a country's law and against accepted cultural norms, especially hard issues like dv.

GloriousGbola:


Thanks to the foolish man, all Nigerian police officers will be watched and monitored closely going forward as being domestic violence friendly.

Also there will be strict instructions that they only communicate in English. And there will be immediate reviews of any non English communications.

Rest assured that all UK police of Nigerian origin are now under a searchlight.

The met police are undoubtedly reading this and other threads, seeing the casual attitudes towards domestic violence, and planning on vetting of all Nigerian police officers.

It will now likely be much harder for Nigerians to get hired as police.

Another own goal by foolish Nigerians thinking they are smarter than dumb white men.

I saw the headline and was like 'Unbelievable.'

Then I opened the video, saw a Black cop, and thought, 'Oh, no wonder.'

Then I heard the language and said, 'Ah, na we we,' because I knew deep down that no white cop would give that advice in an official capacity. So I closed the thread and moved on to other important things.

You see, a monkey and a baboon may claim oneness, but a monkey is a monkey, and a baboon is a baboon. A Nigerian man is a Nigerian man.

Botragelad:

Have you actually read the post? The video is from years ago, and that individual was acting on their own initiative. No sensible police officer would suggest that a woman shouldn't report a matter to them.

If someone is being abusive, you have every right to the police, it's their job to sort out whether you're being abusive or not. This isn't Africa, where people seem to get away with everything. Learn to behave yourself and follow the law. You're not above the law.

You chaps need to lose the macho attitude you have back in Africa, where you think you can boss women about as you please and torment them. Well, let me tell you, that sort of rot isn't tolerated in the UK or any decent society.

This is exactly how you lot mistreat women and tell them to deal with the situation until they end up dead.

There is this "woke" guy on Twitter that used to sound enlightened on Twitter, always bashing men in favour of those UK women, his name if Dr. Fumilayo. One day, one Nigerian witch in London showed him shege. By the time she was done with him, he was contemplating suicide. He has since repented. You guys will learn by and by.

Kobojunkieee:
If a woman calls for a policeman be sure that the policeman will not show up unless it is a good and serious enough reason. So, this your lame logic no fly at all!

Haha..fabricated stories and water works are making UK police to reconsider your calls. Stay and live by yourselves holy women.

1stGenAmerican:


Why didn’t he speak Yoruba from start to finish, since it was the best way to communicate and understand?
Because he had ill intentions and an agenda.

I think your concern is "you don't understand the language" and you strive hard to dissect the information. Now i understand why you must by all means link the message to a totally strange and unrelated context.

And mind you, he didn't start with English. He speech from the beginning to the end, is code mixed. His intentions and message have no toxic colouration except the ones the hate filled and toxic feminists ascribed to it. Interpret everything he said into English, check t he context or whatsoever, you will find nothing insinuating domestic violence or abuse of woman. It was all better wishes for children and their women.

I don't know why we chose to cry louder than the bereaved. Someone was even shouting "context" "context". So all the women he was addressing were so dumb and daft that the best response and reactions they could give to an advice on abuse on their person in the name of marriage is joviality and agreement.

1stGenAmerican:


It’s not up to anyone to decide if a woman is abusing the system except for the police detectives after reports are filed. Police are paid from taxes, tax payers have the right to call them whenever they wish. Oyinbo call police because their cat gets stuck in a tree or because their neighbor’s dog is barking too loudly—the police respond without ever saying they’re abusing the system.

We know what operates on ground, not you. We have experience of this. When police are called, in nearly all cases, they decide in favour of the woman and give the man a curfew not to go near his family for many months or for life. He will be ejected from his house which he pays for and he will have to look for alternative accommodation evebn if it is dead in the night it happens. I have not seen a case where police decide in favour of the man. We who live there know what’s happening. Many marriages have been destroyed because a selfish woman wants to take benefits for single parents.