NewStats: 3,263,974 , 8,182,118 topics. Date: Monday, 09 June 2025 at 06:34 AM 516a34

GloriousGbola:


it is always amazing that people think they can flee their financial difficulties in their home countries and somehow still import the backward attitudes that are responsible for the situations in their home countries.

✅They refuse to understand that their ways & thinking are part of the reason why they had to leave their home countries to flee to a place with a working system. They arrive & try to do all the things that causes systems to fail. Senseless. 🤷🏽‍♀️

TempleHouse:
This is a FAKE NEWS !!!

The Police Officer NEVER mentioned anything like that but advised Nigerian Women to be responsible to their family !

He did it while representing the Metropolitan Police. That makes him wrong. Do you think that the police investigators are stupid? They have interpreters on their payroll, they know exactly what he said & what he meant when he said it. They also have body language experts. He knew better, he’s responsible for upholding the rules of his job.

femi4:
He was addressing the Nigerian community as a Nigerian but trust our overzealous naija uk bloggers, recorded the lecture and gave it a deceptive caption: " UK police advised NIgeran women.....bla bla"

If he wanted to address the Nigerian community, he should’ve done it on his own time, without representing the UK Met police. He knew better, he just thought he would get away with it. Nigerians are smart and the British are dumb, ?

Hohaiiiode:
some of Nigerian community wey think the only thing uk and western world will offer them be freedom to misbehave and push their husbands out of the house at any slight instance done go report officer oo. No one violence or abuse … but if anyone tells you most of your children will turn out great without their father or fatherly upbringing. You are lying to yourself!
Everything must not end in divorce .
Find a way to settle things !
Violence and abuse shouldn’t be tolerated though!

No, everything mustn’t end in divorce but are you saying that it’s better for children to be raised in a home where the father beats and abuses them and their mother instead of in a home where the negative, abusive parent doesn’t live? If that’s what you’re saying, you’re wrong.
Children raised in toxic, abusive environments carry that trauma with them for life. Most of them become abs or grow to accept abuse as a way of life.

citizen202:

So you and your partner have an argument about a spilled milk...you gonna call the police..?? My God I pray I never meet your types

No woman is calling the police over spilled milk.

RealityKings:



I personally used to think you are good but now I understand you are absolutely EVIL.
So losing his job will make you happy...?
It tells so much about you

I’m sorry you feel that way. I prefer he loses his job than a woman or child losing their life because they let his bad advice intimidate them.
There was a story on the FP last year where the Nigerian father in the UK beat the child to death, the mother said she tried to talk to him about the floggings but didn’t call the police because she didn’t want him deported. Now, they’re both criminals, will be deported when they get out of prison, and their child is dead.
If you think I’m evil for the way I feel, that’s your choice.

ivolt:

Nope.
That is the advice giving by religious or traditional folks to cover up abuse
and shame those who call out for help.

Exactly! 💯

cococandy:


I’m one of the useless feminists.

This man has surely caused harm in those years since this video has been released. Some people might choose to stay in a potentially dangerous domestic environment because they don’t know what might be considered serious or not until it escalates and they eventually lose their lives or suffer irreparable harm.

Even if we give him the benefit of doubt that he meant well and was only telling them not to call police for frivolous matters, that wasn’t his place to do so. If there are excess cases of people misusing police services, The police department should hold press conferences and make official statements when they feel there’s a need to do so.

I’m sure there are licensed marriage/family therapists in the UK. He could have recommended their services if he felt there was a need for something to be addressed within the congregation. Or he could’ve addressed it without his police uniform on.

He gave the impression that this information was sanctioned by his police department. Not only was it not sanctioned, it would be ridiculous of them to only single out the Nigerian immigrant population to tell such things. It never made sense from the beginning and I’m glad to see that I didn’t doubt my critical thinking.

No points of yours addressed the issue of false reporting of spouses.



Therapy is a fraudulent circus that will be addressed another day.

Omoawoke:



That you are a woman and you carry this thing for head exposes you as a man hater. I can bet you must have been frustrated by broken homes and decided you won’t go down alone, you want other women to suffer same fate so you won’t be alone, am I wrong?

Yes, you’re wrong on all counts. I didn’t come from a broken home, I love men, and I’m not alone. My father never gave my mother a reason to call the police on him. I love life, freedom, and doing what’s right. Going down alone? 😂🤣

santaclaws:


Imagine your statement "I'm sure he'll lose his job which is good" - Are you God? 🤔

They won't kick him out of the force, he didn't preach violence, he only gave an advice, no harm done!

Is he God? Is he being investigated for no reason? Does he have a background that allows him to give professional relationship advice? Was he hired to give advice? If you understood Western professional ethics and codes of conduct, you’d know that plenty of harm was done.
You mustn’t know anything about professional ethics in the West.

drlateef:




Some of you just jump into discussion without having the facts on ground. Many homes are breaking up in UK because the women are taking advantage of a very lenient system that is being abused by the women. We know what is going and ignorant ones like you should just shut up. Nobody condones domestic violence. But abusing the lenient system that seeks to protect genuine cases is also unacceptable. That is what the officer came out to say but unfortunately, it was not well said, not carefully worded and he has been misconstrued. Quite unfortunate.

It’s not up to anyone to decide if a woman is abusing the system except for the police detectives after reports are filed. Police are paid from taxes, tax payers have the right to call them whenever they wish. Oyinbo call police because their cat gets stuck in a tree or because their neighbor’s dog is barking too loudly—the police respond without ever saying they’re abusing the system.

1stGenAmerican:


Is he God? Is he being investigated for no reason! Does he have a background that allows him to give professional relationship advice? Was he hired to give advice? If you understood Western professional ethics and codes of conduct, you’d know that plenty of harm was done.
You mustn’t know anything about professional ethics in the West.

Yea, teach me western professional ethics as if I haven't lived in one of the best European countries and helped others to secure opportunities there.

The emphasis here isn't even on his work ethics, it's about how you're rejoicing at the possibility of him getting sacked, probably because you never liked the comments circulating on social media about women reporting their husbands... it the truth woman!

DoctorShomo:


Once you people go abroad and live there for a few years you started reasoning like idiots who think every petty family issue can only be settled by the police

Really, sir? Just like you guys stay in Nigeria so long that you become immune to the police abusing their power. You allow people with no authority to dictate what’s right and what’s wrong.
If this guy would’ve gotten away with this, he wouldn’t have stopped there. Soon, he’d be telling husbands to call him instead of the police’s emergency number so they could pay him a few pounds to go to the home and scare the wife, threatening her with arrest. Pretty soon, the UK met police would have a set of officers demanding bribes and threatening to throw people in jail for nothing, just like the Nigerian police. You guys complain about corruption but refuse to stop it as soon as it starts.

babtoundey:


First of all, I will like to know if you watched and listened to the man's submissions before reaching your conclusions. Unless only a part of the video was released, there was no point he mentioned domestic abuse or report. His councel is more of child upbringing, why women should instill proper value in their children. I even wanted to comment then that nothing in the man speech points at "telling women not to report their husband". He only told them to tolerate their husband and work against pushing him away as his input in training the child is indispensable.

And nothing, absolutely nothing, is wrong with him saying what he said while on uniform. It was a harmless counseling. He even told them to be free to approach any police officer when they are faced with challenges and need assistance on certain issues. That's where he said if the officer can't handle it, they will take it to superior authority to sort out. He did what he is supposed to do in his position as a police officer.

But people were carried away with the narrative of man told wife not to report husband and those who from time to time blame men for family misgivings, condone women excesses and are always ready to interpret every slight family issue as domestic violence take it to head and call for his head to be crushed

He has done nothing wrong and he acted rightly within his capacity as an officer.

Can you tell us why he started speaking in Yoruba after he started out in English? He did that because he knew that saying the things he said were against policy.

ivolt:

What if I find funny is that some of the readers who consider the cop a hero in the first thread
have now made a u-turn to claim he never discouraged women from reporting domestic issues.

If he really didn't say anything contrary to the UK's value, then why was he considered a hero
in the first place?

Given that about 99% of Nigerians, if I am not exaggerating, share similar view with him,
the man could become a YouTube sensation if he starts a marital advice channel.
So, your advice is spot on.

You made a perfect point. In the first thread, these same monikers were saying that the police made the statement because they’re tired of Nigerian women abusing the system. They even said they always knew the day would come when oyinbo police would get tired of Nigerian women.

ruffhandu:


Don't you know some Nigerian women have actually levelled "non-existent" allegations against their husbands just to take out of their cheating way? The most common of them is accusing the man of molesting their own daughter. This leads to the deportation of the men eventually most times. Some of the women have come begging for forgiveness and confess their sins after life (Karma) left them miserable, some of them suffer because the man went 'spiritual' on them.

Nobody gets deported over allegations of molestation or other acts. They get jailed & deported because once the allegations are investigated, irrefutable proof that it really happened is found.

Kobojunkieee:
Why do many of you still reason like dindinrins even as 2024 don dey come to a close? The only reason a person would call the cops into a marriage is if and only if there is a disagreement that requires their presence in the home.

A policeman would not be sent out simply because a husband and wife simply disagreed over whether to have Chinese or Italian for dinner. I mean before a police officer is dispatched to a location, the operator collects details of the problem to ensure that the officer is not being sent out on a fool's errand. So by the time the officer lands in your home, they already checked the record on the home, the person making the complaint and the one the complaint is being made about to ascertain they have the records of these people on hand to provide any needed medication or simply need to relocate one of the involved out of the house to de-escalate.

The policeman was already in the home so that there is clear that something real was reported or he was just visiting his friends, happened to be wearing his uniform at the time and was unluckily caught on camera advising the friend's wife not to call the cops on her husband. Whatever the case may have been the police man is wrong to have done that while wearing his uniform.

💯

prof22:
Is that video about women reporting a matter to them or about women reporting every matter even the ones that can be settled amicably? You are abusing the privilege and that's what the video is all about. How about the cases that are none abusive? Abusive cases should be reported, how about the weaponisation of this privilege? How about issues that can be settled amicably? This is not about Africa or not. There are many cases of false accusations against men too. Men have been jailed for false rape accusations, many have lost their jobs and their career. Is that fair? Can you wish your siblings or your sons? Women shouldn't learn to behave themselves and obey the laws too? Are women above the laws? The children are the ones that suffer in all this. Should we talk about paternity fraud? It's a two way thing. Men's mental health matters too. Address this as if your son is the one involved in it and stop the attack. Look for whatever you lack in your life.

Abusing privilege? In a working country, being able to call the police is not a privilege, it’s a RIGHT. Everyone has the same right, no one has privilege over anyone else. It isn’t like Nigeria where only rich people or those who pay bribe get police services.

atiku4President:
UK authority must respond to that garbage that man was selling to innocent women. He directly and indirectly encouraged them to die in silence. He thinks UK is Nigeria where citizens are forced to take rubbish from fellow citizens and even from government.

If you know what our women are doing to their husbands over there, you won't be saying this trash

I am not here to argue nor any … marriage takes effort ! People should be willing to resolve their differences if it is not abuse! Some african men can no doubt be all over their head about being the male figure!
The news we have been hearing no doubt of husbands being kicked out of their houses due to very funny issues is too much. We Africans are not the only immigrants!

prof22:
Are all the cases genuine? Are they not making up stories as well? There's a case of a popular doctor on twitter that was wrongfully accused of rape. He nearly lost his career if not his life. Shouldn't the lady be jailed? What happens when this accusations are false? What happens to the men too? Should false accs lives be destroyed conpletely?

A person who’s wrongly accused can pursue actions against the acc. The police can also determine that the person filed a false report and acts on it. Here in America, people get arrested for filing false reports all the time but not as often as they don’t get arrested because there’s truth to their accusations.

Kobojunkieee:
The man was wrong in his choice of words and majorly in the fact that he wore a police uniform while uttering those words.

We know that he did it intentionally while in uniform with Oyinbo men behind him. His purpose was to intimidate and manipulate. Next, I’ll be he was going to start abusing his power.

1stGenAmerican:


Really, sir? Just like you guys stay in Nigeria so long that you become immune to the police abusing their power. You allow people with no authority to dictate what’s right and what’s wrong.
If this guy would’ve gotten away with this, he wouldn’t stop there. Soon, he’d be telling husbands to call him instead of the police’s emergency number so they could pay him a few pounds to scare the wife. Pretty soon, the UK met police would have a set of officers demanding bribes and threatening to throw people in jail for nothing, just like the Nigerian police. You guys complain about corruption but refuse to stop it as soon as it starts.

You guys are blowing this incident out of proportion.

The police officers in that video had no ulterior motives

Mindlog:


"Needed to hear or not", that shouldn't be coming from him. If I was there, I would have earlier raised issues with the authorities over that "advice"....he is not in Nigeria.

Exactly. You’re a qualified professional who is tasked with doing the things he tried to do. These people don’t understand that if he was qualified to do what he did, professionals like yourself would be obsolete. You wouldn’t try to arrest anyone without the police so why should the police be able to give advice without a skilled professional?
These guys won’t it that he switched to Yoruba from English because he knew what he was doing was outside of his scope. If the audience understood what was said in English, there wasn’t a valid reason for him to switch.

pocohantas:


Nah, he won't be fired or cautioned.
UK Police sent him? You were on the previous thread na. Where went all that energy?

I was on the previous thread.

I said evening Newspapers such as yourself should be dumped.

santaclaws:


Yea, teach me western professional ethics as if I haven't lived in one of the best European countries and helped others to secure opportunities there.

The emphasis here isn't even on his work ethics, it's about how you're rejoicing at the possibility of him getting sacked, probably because you never liked the comments circulating on social media about women reporting their husbands... it the truth woman!

The emphasis here is on his abuse of power and how something that seems small leads to corruption.

Flangelo12:


I was on the previous thread.

I said evening Newspapers such as yourself should be dumped.

Flangelo12:
Guy, when you go abroad, leave your Naija wife and marry another.
The problem wey she be wan give you before, you don dodge am.

This was what you said. So stop sounding like a broken record already. In the real world, men like you do not make the rules. So whatever you say, just like your UK uncle - is irrelevant.

Kobojunkieee:
Remain in Nigeria and enjoy the renewed shege banze of Nigerian reasoning then.

While we're enjoying Tinubu you guys are also enjoying the lackluster performance of sleepy Joe

pocohantas:




This was what you said. So stop sounding like a broken record already. In the real world, men like you do not make the rules. So whatever you say, just like your UK uncle - is irrelevant.

Trust me.

We make the rules and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it.

Flangelo12:


Trust me.

We make the rules and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it.

Sadly you don't.
Ruĺemakers are not on NL obsessing over evening newspapers. There is a reason majority of the world's wealth is controlled by the so-called simps. No you don't. 🫂

Goodnewsforlife:
don't b stupid

I don't know a out any Femi case n I have not even heard about it before so how do u use "some of u"

Guy I did t wait for naira land to anything, I went to Facebook where I saw the live n direct video of what the man said

I guess many of u don't even understand Yoruba so u really don't get the man's point but just reacting on people's comments on social media

Guy I b Yoruba person, I hear Wetin d man talk n it's same advise any family oriented person will give

If u like ruin your home cos u feel u have an upper hand, na your children go suffer am

Don't quote me cos I won't reply u

I have followed your comments keenly and I must say I am impressed with your submissions on the subject. Nigerian women are really somehow once they go abroad. I am not an abusive person but I can be very blunt, and is a personal conviction that I would divorce a woman who called the cops on me.

Botragelad:

Are you bloody kidding me? You're only worried about how divorce affects the kids, but what about the poor woman/man getting battered by their partner?

Call the cops as many times as you need, and if they are being abusive, get a restraining order. Don't downplay the small stuff, it can turn deadly fast. Thousands of women die trying to brush off minor incidents. Report everything, no matter how small. Your life's worth more than that.

Oga, any matter wey reach u to call police, just kuku file for divorce. I am not an abusive person, so if I have some minor issues at home with a wife and she called the police on me because she believes she has an upper hand in the context of the UK, man that woman just submitted her divorce files by that single act, and I will be so generous in giving her the divorce. For God sake, people even gets into physical fights without calling the police to interfere. Twins fight dirty.. Me wey na just mouth quarrell we do for morning, I leave u go work. Probably still the expect my dinner by the time i return, then I hear from work say police the find me from colleague, unto why? your wife report you.. Omo.. do u know the amount of reputational damage that could cause if am actually a decent staff at work? Most Nigerian women gets too familiar with their husband that they don't even know the value of his image outside so they can do anything rash. The rules remains, if I no hit u, or even threaten to physically assault u, n u call police on me.. I go divorce u..