NewStats: 3,264,114 , 8,182,638 topics. Date: Monday, 09 June 2025 at 05:37 PM 586bk

1Sharon:
■ I bet you haven't done this personally, you're just talking out of your behind. Who will take care of the children? Do you think there's any free baby sitter or housegirl for you abroad?
Have you ever left Nigeria?

😂😂😂😂😂😂

freshvine:
■ Beautiful sentimental bullshit!
The police officer is an enforcer of the law for a reason and has witness countless number of cases that's irrelevant and putting pressure on the immigrant. He decided to use a Christian platform to speak to people he believes uses Godly standards in their marriages.
If you have issues with him connecting to children of God in the language of marital longevity,then you have issues.

That there in bold is what amounts to sentimental bullsheet! A police officer is never to assume he has in fact seen it all. To top it off, he is required to pocket his religion and the many sentiments that go along with it, when out in that uniform.

DoctorShomo:
■ Once you people go abroad and live there for a few years you started reasoning like idiots who think every petty family issue can only be settled by the police

Remain in Nigeria and enjoy the renewed shege banze of Nigerian reasoning then.

aestake:
■ Women too dey hype calling the police because there are things they will have alone. Mak guys no dey get house together with them women o or rent and collect rent from house wey you get b4 marriage.

If a woman calls for a policeman be sure that the policeman will not show up unless it is a good and serious enough reason. So, this your lame logic no fly at all!

pocohantas:


Whatever helps your UK police uncle in this probe. 🤝

Yeah, he'll be fired.

Or maybe simply cautioned.

Victory for evening Newspaper.

Is that video about women reporting a matter to them or about women reporting every matter even the ones that can be settled amicably? You are abusing the privilege and that's what the video is all about. How about the cases that are none abusive? Abusive cases should be reported, how about the weaponisation of this privilege? How about issues that can be settled amicably? This is not about Africa or not. There are many cases of false accusations against men too. Men have been jailed for false rape accusations, many have lost their jobs and their career. Is that fair? Can you wish your siblings or your sons? Women shouldn't learn to behave themselves and obey the laws too? Are women above the laws? The children are the ones that suffer in all this. Should we talk about paternity fraud? It's a two way thing. Men's mental health matters too. Address this as if your son is the one involved in it and stop the attack. Look for whatever you lack in your life.

Botragelad:

Have you actually read the post? The video is from years ago, and that individual was acting on their own initiative. No sensible police officer would suggest that a woman shouldn't report a matter to them.

If someone is being abusive, you have every right to the police, it's their job to sort out whether you're being abusive or not. This isn't Africa, where people seem to get away with everything. Learn to behave yourself and follow the law. You're not above the law.

You chaps need to lose the macho attitude you have back in Africa, where you think you can boss women about as you please and torment them. Well, let me tell you, that sort of rot isn't tolerated in the UK or any decent society.

This is exactly how you lot mistreat women and tell them to deal with the situation until they end up dead.

babtoundey:
■ First of all, I will like to know if you watched and listened to the man's submissions before reaching your conclusions. Unless only a part of the video was released, there was no point he mentioned domestic abuse or report. His councel is more of child upbringing, why women should instill proper value in their children. I even wanted to comment then that nothing in the man speech points at "telling women not to report their husband". He only told them to tolerate their husband and work against pushing him away as his input in training the child is indispensable.

There is everything wrong with that statement actually since that is the same language used by many of your pastors in Nigeria to keep Nigerian women enduring misery year after year after year — some eventually meeting their end as a result. For Pete's sake, that is the very same language used to cajole Nigerians into tolerating the Buhari shege for 8 years, and it is the same manipulative tongue being used on the people as we speak to cause them to settle for 3 more years of the renewed shege banze.

Even a family or marriage counselor would know not to use such language given what we have learned of how it can and has been used to manipulate people into accepting conditions that they are not supposed to.

Go and watch the video and listen attentively,
if you lack conprehension, ask for help.

cococandy:
He went to the UK police with the Nigerian police mentality of telling women that domestic violence is family matter . Until they die then everyone will start screaming “wHy diDn’t She leAve?” 🙄

prof22:
Go and watch the video and listen attentively, if you lack conprehension, ask for help.

The man was wrong in his choice of words and majorly in the fact that he wore a police uniform while uttering those words.

Are all the cases genuine? Are they not making up stories as well? There's a case of a popular doctor on twitter that was wrongfully accused of rape. He nearly lost his career if not his life. Shouldn't the lady be jailed? What happens when this accusations are false? What happens to the men too? Should false accs lives be destroyed conpletely?

cococandy:
So why were people hyping the video all over the internet in direct attack against women by saying “even the UK police has told Nigerian women to stop calling the police on their men”?

As if to insinuate that they are making up stories about nonexistent abuse and lying to the police?
That’s the impression it gave

Are all the cases genuine? Are they not making up stories as well? There's a case of a popular doctor on twitter that was wrongfully accused of rape. He nearly lost his career if not his life. Shouldn't the lady be jailed? What happens when this accusations are false? What happens to the men too? Shouldn't false accs lives be destroyed conpletely?

cococandy:
So why were people hyping the video all over the internet in direct attack against women by saying “even the UK police has told Nigerian women to stop calling the police on their men”?

As if to insinuate that they are making up stories about nonexistent abuse and lying to the police?
That’s the impression it gave

prof22:
■ Is that video about women reporting a matter to them or about women reporting every matter even the ones that can be settled amicably?
■ You are abusing the privilege and that's what the video is all about.
■ How about the cases that are none abusive? Abusive cases should be reported, how about the weaponisation of this privilege? How about issues that can be settled amicably? This is not about Africa or not. There are many cases of false accusations against men too. Men have been jailed for false rape accusations, many have lost their jobs and their career. Is that fair? Can you wish your siblings or your sons? Women shouldn't learn to behave themselves and obey the laws too? Are women above the laws? The children are the ones that suffer in all this. Should we talk about paternity fraud? It's a two way thing. Men's mental health matters too. Address this as if your son is the one involved in it and stop the attack. Look for whatever you lack in your life.

Listen, if a woman called the police to report that her husband refuses to have Chinese instead of Italian for dinner, the police would not send anyone there. There has to be a valid reason for the dispatcher to send out a policeman to a particular location and that reason has to be a serious enough one. So, please stop trying to trivialize the work of the Police in this.

2. There is no such thing as abusing a privilege as it is the police, not the reporters who determine whether to have a police officer dispatched to a location or not. If the police Force — not a police officer— decides as an organization that a particular citizen is in abuse of privilege, the Office of the police would inform such a person of this. It is not the job of any police officer to make this decision on his own on behalf of the force.

3. The police force would rather you allow them to determine which of the cases are serious and which are not serious. Your job and that of every other citizen is to report any possible crimes when it happens so the authorities can take it from there.

I disagree with you. Some of these officers are counselors as well, its part of their job. He only gave a piece of advice, stop reporting everything. There are some of these cases that could be settled amicably without involving the police. Not all the cases are abusive. Do you think all the cases are abusive?

Kobojunkieee:
The man was wrong in his choice of words and majorly in the fact that he wore a police uniform while uttering those words.

Omoawoke:



That you are a woman and you carry this thing for head exposes you as a man hater. I can bet you must have been frustrated by broken homes and decided you won’t go down alone, you want other women to suffer same fate so you won’t be alone, am I wrong?

What did she carry for head? Wasn't it your colleagues that made this video trend all over again? Do you know this video is almost a decade old?

If your colleagues had let this clip die a natural death the first time, maybe the Police won't have gotten wind of this yoruba uncle's utterances. Now he's being investigated.

You wanted to use him as weapon for your propaganda but instead scored an own goal.

Flangelo12:


Yeah, he'll be fired.

Or maybe simply cautioned.

Victory for evening Newspaper.

Nah, he won't be fired or cautioned.
UK Police sent him? You were on the previous thread na. Where went all that energy?

prof22:
■ I disagree with you. Some of these officers are counselors as well, its part of their job.
■ He only gave a piece of advice, stop reporting everything.
■ There are some of these cases that could be settled amicably without involving the police. Not all the cases are abusive. Do you think all the cases are abusive?

1. Counselors sent out by the Police Force to go onsite to counsel families in their homes? Where did you get this from? Provide evidence of your claim.

2. He has no right to give advise in the capacity of a marriage/family counselor. These jobs are left to professionals and rightly so.

3. Well, if they could have been settled without police, no one would have called the police now, would they? However, saying this after the police have arrived only means you are not being entirely honest at all.

A popular doctor on twitter was wrongfully accused of rape. He nearly lost his career and his life. What happens to his mental health afterwards? I am not against anyone reporting abusive cases, the point here is that i believe people don't marry strangers, there are issues that could be settled amicably. On the second point, you know this is pure abuse of the privilege. If it's a paid service where women/men have to pay for that service, they won't be calling on every issues. This is a pure case of abuse. I am totally against any form of abuse.

Kobojunkieee:
Listen, if a woman called the police to report that her husband refuses to have Chinese instead of Italian for dinner, the police would not send anyone there. There has to be a valid reason for the dispatcher to send out a policeman to a particular location and that reason has to be a serious enough one. So, please stop trying to trivialize the work of the Police in this.

2. There is no such thing as abusing a privilege as it is the police, not the reporters who determine whether to have a police officer dispatched to a location or not. If the police Force — not a police officer— decides as an organization that a particular citizen is in abuse of privilege, the Office of the police would inform such a person of this. It is not the job of any police officer to make this decision on his own on behalf of the force.

3. The police force would rather you allow them to determine which of the cases are serious and which are not serious. Your job and that of every other citizen is to report any possible crimes when it happens so the authorities can take it from there.

Dont get me wrong here, i didnt say counsellors are sent out by the police. I meant some of these police officers academic background is in counseling, maybe he should have allowed the professionals handle it as you have said. There are cases of women weaponising the fact that its a woman and this is a fact. These things are easy to criticise until one is a victim. I am against any form of abuse in any form.

Kobojunkieee:
Counselors sent out by the Police Force to go onsite to counsel families in their homes? Where did you get this from? Provide evidence of your claim.

2. He has no right to advise on the capacity of a marriage/family counselor. These jobs are left to professionals and rightly so.

3. Well, if they could have been settled without police, no one would have called the police now, would they? However, saying this after the police have arrived only means you are not being entirely honest at all.

Dont get me wrong here, i didnt say counsellors are sent out by the police. I meant some of these police officers academic background is in counseling, maybe he should have allowed the professionals handle it as you have said. There are cases of women weaponising the fact that its a woman's world and this is a fact. These things are easy to criticise until one is a victim. I am against any form of abuse in any form.

Kobojunkieee:
Counselors sent out by the Police Force to go onsite to counsel families in their homes? Where did you get this from? Provide evidence of your claim.

2. He has no right to advise on the capacity of a marriage/family counselor. These jobs are left to professionals and rightly so.

3. Well, if they could have been settled without police, no one would have called the police now, would they? However, saying this after the police have arrived only means you are not being entirely honest at all.

prof22:
■ A popular doctor on twitter was wrongfully accused of rape. He nearly lost his career and his life. What happens to his mental health afterwards?
■ I am not against anyone reporting abusive cases , the point here is that i believe people don't marry strangers, there are issues that could be settled amicably.
■ On the second point, you know this is pure abuse of the privilege.
■ If it's a paid service where women/men have to pay for that service, they won't be calling on every issues. This is a pure case of abuse. I am totally against any form of abuse.

1. His mental health would probably suffer as well. However, that is not a good enough reason to tell anyone not to report a crime or call the police when in need of help.

2. Again, if a woman called the cops because her husband did not want Chinese for dinner and would rather have Italian, chances are 100% that no policeman would show up to begin with unless the Chinese was radioactive or something. So, this argument of yours does not enter at all.

3. I made it clear that there is no such thing as an abuse of privilege. That is entirely up to the police department to decide and not for individuals to take it upon themselves to decide on behalf of the entire police department.

4. It is a paid service, paid for with our tax money and the police make money the more we call on them for help so it is to the benefit of the department that we continue to call on them for help, and it is also in our benefit that we continue to call on them for help so we make sure our money is maximally utilized to the benefit of our lives and communities.

prof22:
■ Dont get me wrong here, i didnt say counsellors are sent out by the police. I meant some of these police officers academic background is in counseling, maybe he should have allowed the professionals handle it as you have said.
■ There are cases of women weaponising the fact that its a woman's world and this is a fact. These things are easy to criticise until one is a victim. I am against any form of abuse in any form.

1. That is bullsheet and you know it. If you are not hired by the police department as a family counselor and in fact deployed to the site as exactly that, you have no right whatsoever to portray yourself as a police counselor. If I need counseling, I will the professionals. Try to imagine your gas maintenance guy showing up at your door and then offering you counseling about how you treat your kids because he has a degree as a child counselor; maybe that might help you see how absurd that suggestion about policemen offering counseling sounds.

2. Where you have humans you are sure to have cases where privileges are misused. And as I already said, it is the police department— not you or me or any single police man —to make that determination. It is the police department that investigates each case and decides based on the evidence available whether there has been an abuse of privilege or not.

I don't understand Yoruba language , but it seemed to me that the man gave his official advice in English language and used Yoruba to give the important advice that Nigerian women in UK needed to hear.

Clearly that advice is that involving the police in any issue to do with your family is ill advised and would inevitably lead to break up of marriage and even the family.

For me, the man was spot on because he works in the system and he knows that it is an unwritten objective of the authorities to destroy black families so that they find it easier to seize the children and put them into care or adoption.

Some NL women like ivolt, cococandy, pocohantas, Kobojunkieee, 1Sharon commenting do not understand this about UK, perhaps because they have never lived in White Oyibo land.
Personally Nigerians in particular and black people in general need to understand that the Oyibo land police are not our friends and we should avoid involving them n our personal business.
I would even recommend only calling them if your life is at risk or if serious injury may be imminent. Otherwise we should have numbers of other black familiy and friends we can call as alternatives to police.

franchasng:
Yoruba man don enter wahala, angry, frustrated Nigerian feminists abroad will chew him like sugarcane, Tulumbu should hurry and appoint him in Nigeria abeg

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 This is what that country is indeed made of, all that does not make sense and should be rejected.

OALandAgents:
I don't understand Yoruba language , but it seemed to me that the man gave his official advice in English language and used Yoruba to give the important advice that Nigerian women in UK needed to hear.

Clearly that advice is that involving the police in any issue to do with your family is ill advised and would inevitably lead to break up of marriage and even the family.

For me, the man was spot on because he works in the system and he knows that it is an unwritten objective of the authorities to destroy black families so that they find it easier to seize the children and put them into care or adoption.

Some NL women like ivolt, cococandy, pocohantas, Kobojunkieee, 1Sharon commenting do not understand this about UK, perhaps because they have never lived in White Oyibo land.

I work here in the UK, with a London borough, work in the children and family services department, where I work with children taken away from their family because of neglect, abuse, domestic violence, drugs etc. The Policeman of Nigerian origin was not authorised to make such statements in either languages. If he wanted to give such advice, do so in personal capacity without wearing the UK police uniform...

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He was not authorised and he knows it, but it was advice that Nigerian women needed to hear, so that is why he gave it in a Nigerian language.

Mindlog:


I work here in the UK, with a London borough, work in the children and family services department, where I work with children taken away from their family because of neglect, abuse, domestic violence, drugs etc. The Policeman of Nigerian origin was not authorised to make such statements in either languages. If he wanted to give such advice, do so in personal capacity without wearing the UK police uniform...

lonelydora:
UK is one place I won't like to live, even if they dash me visa with housing and job.

They complain about almost everything.

I pity men that go to UK without any second plan.

See, any day my wife calls police on me, no matter the issue, I will marry second wife that day.

Certainly not in the uk

Goodnewsforlife:
don't mind all those oversabi misogynist that call themselves feminist

All those fools with misplaced priorities, this man is trying to make people understand the value of family n raising children together than going apart

He made it clear something's are best settled at home cos if it escalates n it leads to duess he doesn't have issues with his wife at home cos if we are to go by his logic then couples should call police on each other at every small disagreement so it won't turn big

Don't bother. Let them follow oyinbo style. I only pity the kids that will be the victims.

They forgot that Western society puts a lot of pressure on immigrants and their marriages. African couples must manage these pressures.

Oyinbo don't care about you. They just want to adhere to laws they made without darkie culture and challenges in mind.

Nobody wants his sister or relative to endure physical abuse in 2024. So, that olopa can never advise women to accept beating. But you know these days, nothing a man says or does is right.

A decade ago, one lady used to call olopa on her hubby. At times, she can't even give a reason. When the hubby returns we will try to intercede and settle it. She gives flimsy excuses that even her fellow women were ashamed to hear.

Meanwhile my guy was planning to leave finally the last time she calls olopa again. Sure enough she did. My guy just carry bag comot.

Even we that used to intervene just steered clear. Nobody called her like we used to. One week, a month, 6 months, 1 year ed. Her eyes don clear now. Even her former friends who were pushing her into it now laugh at her.

It was tough for their kids in the beginning but they are managing. Fortunately, the kids know the truth.

Many examples like that.

pocohantas:
He should come to Nigeria and open NL to promote his gospel of ENDURANCE.

Anything you can't do to the white fossils y'all marry, don't try it with your Nigerian wife. Even SA wey una enter, una done dey beat those ones too. With una head like chandelier.

That’s right, Poco. They won’t try it with their Oyinbo women & if you ask them why, they’ll be quick to tell you that their oyinbo women will call the police for them.

OALandAgents:
He was not authorised and he knows it, but it was advice that Nigerian women needed to hear, so that is why he gave it in a Nigerian language.

"Needed to hear or not", that shouldn't be coming from him. If I was there, I would have earlier raised issues with the authorities over that "advice"....he is not in Nigeria.

Goodnewsforlife:
I asked because it will b a great disservice to me arguing with a 20 year old guy who doesn't even have a girlfriend let alone wife

Don't worry when u get there u will understand better

Age & respect don’t always go hand in hand. A single 20 year old guy may be more respectful & understand why abusing women is wrong while a married 50 year old has no respect for women, treating them like objects & punching bags. The 20 year old would be the definition of a real man.

BitterTruth0001:
Good

They want to continue to beat their wives like they do here in Nigeria and get away with it

Gbajue people

Yes, beat their wives & after they’re arrested and kicked out, they call or go back to Nigeria lying, saying that their wife put them out their house for no reason so they should’ve never relocated with her. Nobody gets kicked out their house for no reason as these guys have people back in Naija believing.