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pocohantas:


Don't marry a Nigerian woman at all. Go abroad and marry. Have your mixed kids with a white woman. They are the best. 🫂🫂

You must be a prophet/ess! I did that already and we are blessed with children. I sleep with both eyes closed and I have no reason to think one omo ajóberi (opportunist) will call the police on me over trivial issue just to take over all I laboured for years before bringing her over.

Laple0541:



You must be a prophet/ess! I did that already and we are blessed with children. I sleep with both eyes closed and I have no reason to think one omo ajóberi (opportunist) will call the police on me over trivial issue just to take over all I laboured for years before bringing her over.

I bet you are also very submissive and well-behaved. We see your videos on TikTok "My white wife tries egusi", " me to make jollof for my white wife"

Keep it up and you will be fine. Also give same advice to your brothers to marry white women like you did. Don't tell them to create broken homes. Go abroad and marry there. 🤝

babtoundey:


I listened to every utterance the man made there was no time he told the women to remain in abusive marriage. I think feminists are doing too much. His advice bothers generally on family cohesion. The need for woman to tolerate and cooperate with their husband. He even gave a specific instance of unemployment on the part of the husband.

Unemployment is not a crime in the UK, so no husband can be reported for being jobless.
There are 2 categories of valid domestic issue reports, actual violence or threats of violence.
So, if a man is reported for sneezing as you insinuate, then there is no case!

What usually happens is that there is an argument over an issue, the one who loses
in the oral/insults contest(usually men) devolve into subtle or non-subtle threats. Some women believe
the threats(may or may not be credible, nobody knows) and go on to lodge complain. Others don't.

I would have been somewhat sympathetic for the man's view if
1. He wasn't on uniform
2. He provided statistical evidence that shows that Nigerian women
make more frivolous reports than other groups in the UK.

My position is that it is wrong for a cop to discourage reporting for whatever reason.

femi4:
He was addressing the Nigerian community as a Nigerian but trust our overzealous naija uk bloggers, recorded the lecture and gave it a deceptive caption: " UK police advised NIgeran women.....bla bla"

But was wearing the Police uniform?

1stGenAmerican:
The UK Metropolitan Police have made it clear that they had no part in telling Nigerian women not to call the police on their husbands. The police officer speaking in Yoruba in this video is being investigated—I’m sure he’ll lose his job and possibly receive criminal charges which is good!

Here’s the story:



https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/met-cop-telling-nigerian-women-33655942


Previous thread https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/8211011/uk-police-officer-advises-nigerian

That you are a woman and you carry this thing for head exposes you as a man hater. I can bet you must have been frustrated by broken homes and decided you won’t go down alone, you want other women to suffer same fate so you won’t be alone, am I wrong?

femi4:
He never mentioned anything like that. Naija bloggers and sensational headlines. Even here on nl, they do the same thing

Everything he said was about both parents should work together to raise their kids to become responsible people in life

Yes, the blogger emphasised the part they feel will resonate with their readers.
But that he didn't discourage reporting is not true contextually.
It is not as if I was listening to a translation, it is my language.

cococandy:


I’m one of the useless feminists.

This man has surely caused harm in those years since this video has been released. Some people might choose to stay in a potentially dangerous domestic environment because they don’t know what might be considered serious or not until it escalates and they eventually lose their lives or suffer irreparable harm.

Even if we give him the benefit of doubt that he meant well and was only telling them not to call police for frivolous matters, that wasn’t his place to do so. If there are excess cases of people misusing police services, The police department should hold press conferences and make official statements when they feel there’s a need to do so.

I’m sure there are licensed marriage/family therapists in the UK. He could have recommended their services if he felt there was a need for something to be addressed within the congregation. Or he could’ve addressed it without his police uniform on.

He gave the impression that this information was sanctioned by his police department. Not only was it not sanctioned, it would be ridiculous of them to only single out the Nigerian immigrant population to tell such things. It never made sense from the beginning and I’m glad to see that I didn’t doubt my critical thinking.

Beautiful sentimental bullshit!

The police officer is an enforcer of the law for a reason and has witness countless number of cases that's irrelevant and putting pressure on the immigrant. He decided to use a Christian platform to speak to people he believes uses Godly standards in their marriages.

If you have issues with him connecting to children of God in the language of marital longevity,then you have issues.

ivolt:

Yes, the blogger emphasised the part they feel will resonate with their readers.
But that he didn't discourage reporting is not true contextually.
It is not as if I was listening to a translation, it is my language.

Go back and watch again n perhaps relearn your language

1stGenAmerican:
The UK Metropolitan Police have made it clear that they had no part in telling Nigerian women not to call the police on their husbands. The police officer speaking in Yoruba in this video is being investigated—I’m sure he’ll lose his job and possibly receive criminal charges which is good!

Here’s the story:



https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/met-cop-telling-nigerian-women-33655942


Previous thread https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/8211011/uk-police-officer-advises-nigerian

Imagine your statement "I'm sure he'll lose his job which is good" - Are you God? 🤔

They won't kick him out of the force, he didn't preach violence, he only gave an advice, no harm done!

Mindlog:


But was wearing the Police uniform?

Its not a crime to wear police uniform and give you an advice. Police is part of our community

ivolt:

Unemployment is not a crime in the UK, so no husband can be reported for being jobless.
There are 2 categories of valid domestic issue reports, actual violence or threats of violence.
So, if a man is reported for sneezing as you insinuate, then there is no case!

What usually happens is that there is an argument over an issue, the one who loses
in the oral/insults contest(usually men) devolve into subtle or non-subtle threats. Some women believe
the threats(may or may not be credible, nobody knows) and go on to lodge complain. Others don't.

I would have been very sympathetic for the man's view if
1. He wasn't on uniform
2. He provided statistical evidence that shows that Nigerian women
make more frivolous reports than other groups in the UK.

My position is that it is wrong for a cop to discourage reporting for whatever reason.

They know fully well no woman would go report her husband for sneezing. Neither would any man be asked to stay away from his wife for sneezing. Agenda must agend and we can see how hard they sneeze with the reports of unalived women in Nigeria this week alone.

The man knows his country people and how they can misconstrue a statement, but he went ahead to say such fully clad in a police uniform. He should open a church or Youtube page for his teachings. That said, if any woman chooses to divorce her husband to fit into whatever culture, she would definitely find out the importance of teamwork in a hard way.

femi4:
Go back and watch again n perhaps relearn your language

If after watching the full video, not the cut out part and you can't see
the discouragement.

Then I can conclude you don't understand context in language usage.

Goodnewsforlife:
over Sabi u don't even understand what the guy was saying

He's actually talking about home management,nobody is saying they shouldn't but there are some minor issues that could b managed within the home that are blown out of proportion because the women believe they have an upper hand

In pidgin, no b every case u go call police, some small issues dey wey u suppose manage for house na only issues wey Una no fit resolve for house u suppose call police for

Simple

Better start mending your family from here,make you no go speak grammar for Uk tomorrow,some men who are still in Nigeria already have their package waiting in the fridge,A woman whom you don't treat well,who weeps inside always because she's a woman and can't express themselves are really bittered,na them dey even wake for night do stabbing

atiku4President:
UK authority must respond to that garbage that man was selling to innocent women. He directly and indirectly encouraged them to die in silence. He thinks UK is Nigeria where citizens are forced to take rubbish from fellow citizens and even from government.

Some of you just jump into discussion without having the facts on ground. Many homes are breaking up in UK because the women are taking advantage of a very lenient system that is being abused by the women. We know what is going and ignorant ones like you should just shut up. Nobody condones domestic violence. But abusing the lenient system that seeks to protect genuine cases is also unacceptable. That is what the officer came out to say but unfortunately, it was not well said, not carefully worded and he has been misconstrued. Quite unfortunate.

Botragelad:

Are you bloody kidding me? You're only worried about how divorce affects the kids, but what about the poor woman/man getting battered by their partner?

Call the cops as many times as you need, and if they are being abusive, get a restraining order. Don't downplay the small stuff, it can turn deadly fast. Thousands of women die trying to brush off minor incidents. Report everything, no matter how small. Your life's worth more than that.

Once you people go abroad and live there for a few years you start reasoning like idiots who think every petty family issue can only be settled by the police

ivolt:


If after watching the full video, not the cut out part and you can't see
the discouragement.

Then I can conclude you don't understand context.

Same way you all run with Eguavon resignation earlier today. Journalism in Nigeria is in the dustbin

He should have done it on his own time and in his own image not the police image.

A lot of your pastors already preach submission even unto death. No govt has had problems with them and their problematic messaging. If he’s going to go around trying to be a marriage counselor, he needs to remove any ambiguity as to who sent him.

It’s not hard to understand and If you don’t understand that, you have a problem. I don’t encourage anyone to abuse police services or leave their marriage over trivial issues.

I also don’t encourage a person in a position of authority to go around subliminally dropping hints that the whole police department is in of them discouraging potential abuse victims from coming forward

freshvine:


Beautiful sentimental bullshit!

The police officer is an enforcer of the law for a reason and has witness countless number of cases that's irrelevant and putting pressure on the immigrant. He decided to use a Christian platform to speak to people he believes uses Godly standards in their marriages.

If you have issues with him connecting to children of God in the language of marital longevity,then you have issues.

femi4:
Its not a crime to wear police uniform and give you an advice. Police is part of our community

It actually is (at the very least unethical) if you’re not on official police duty. You should know this. It’s a misrepresentation with the aim of using the police backing to add power to what you are saying

ivolt:

Unemployment is not a crime in the UK, so no husband can be reported for being jobless.
There are 2 categories of valid domestic issue reports, actual violence or threats of violence.
So, if a man is reported for sneezing as you insinuate, then there is no case!

What usually happens is that there is an argument over an issue, the one who loses
in the oral/insults contest(usually men) devolve into subtle or non-subtle threats. Some women believe
the threats(may or may not be credible, nobody knows) and go on to lodge complain. Others don't.

I would have been very sympathetic for the man's view if
1. He wasn't on uniform
2. He provided statistical evidence that shows that Nigerian women
make more frivolous reports than other groups in the UK.

My position is that it is wrong for a cop to discourage reporting for whatever reason.

Good job.

If you call the police for a ridiculous reason they actually tell you it's not a police matter and they hang up the phone. Even pranking the police is a crime in the UK.

Let them keep lying to themselves that they're wives are reporting them for coughing and sneezing.

Tjra:

This guy na correct SIMP.

Spits on his bald head.

Not really. But the man involved is a Yoruba man. That's why he's taking that stance.

cococandy:
So why were people hyping the video all over the internet in direct attack against women by saying “even the UK police has told Nigerian women to stop calling the police on their men”?

As if to insinuate that they are making up stories about nonexistent abuse and lying to the police?
That’s the impression it gave

Women too dey hype calling the police because there are things they will have alone. Mak guys no dey get house together with them women o or rent and collect rent from house wey you get b4 marriage.

ivolt:

Unemployment is not a crime in the UK, so no husband can be reported for being jobless.
There are 2 categories of valid domestic issue reports, actual violence or threats of violence.
So, if a man is reported for sneezing as you insinuate, then there is no case!

What usually happens is that there is an argument over an issue, the one who loses
in the oral/insults contest(usually men) devolve into subtle or non-subtle threats. Some women believe
the threats(may or may not be credible, nobody knows) and go on to lodge complain. Others don't.

I would have been very sympathetic for the man's view if
1. He wasn't on uniform
2. He provided statistical evidence that shows that Nigerian women
make more frivolous reports than other groups in the UK.

My position is that it is wrong for a cop to discourage reporting for whatever reason.

First of all, I will like to know if you watched and listened to the man's submissions before reaching your conclusions. Unless only a part of the video was released, there was no point he mentioned domestic abuse or report. His councel is more of child upbringing, why women should instill proper value in their children. I even wanted to comment then that nothing in the man speech points at "telling women not to report their husband". He only told them to tolerate their husband and work against pushing him away as his input in training the child is indispensable.

And nothing, absolutely nothing, is wrong with him saying what he said while on uniform. It was a harmless counseling. He even told them to be free to approach any police officer when they are faced with challenges and need assistance on certain issues. That's where he said if the officer can't handle it, they will take it to superior authority to sort out. He did what he is supposed to do in his position as a police officer.

But people were carried away with the narrative of man told wife not to report husband and those who from time to time blame men for family misgivings, condone women excesses and are always ready to interpret every slight family issue as domestic violence take it to head and call for his head to be crushed

He has done nothing wrong and he acted rightly within his capacity as an officer.

aestake:

Women too dey hype calling the police because there are things they will have alone. Mak guys no dey get house together with them women o or rent and collect rent from house wey you get b4 marriage.

I don’t understand this post

Retype it please

pocohantas:


I bet you are also very submissive and well-behaved. We see your videos on TikTok "My white wife tries egusi", " me to make jollof for my white wife"

Keep it up and you will be fine. Also give same advice to your brothers to marry white women like you did. 🤝

So to you, anyone that doesn’t marry a Nigerian lady marries a white lady? You are absolutely wrong.

Btw, my submission was based on toxic happenings and occurrences Nigerian men face after such sponsorship. Though not all Nigerian women taken abroad by their husbands turn to a monster but I can categorically tell you a vast majority of them do. You may not understand though!

Yoruba man don enter wahala, angry, frustrated Nigerian feminists abroad will chew him like sugarcane, Tulumbu should hurry and appoint him in Nigeria abeg

pocohantas:


They know fully well no woman would go report her husband for sneezing. Neither would any man be asked to stay away from his wife for sneezing. Agenda must agend and we can see how hard they sneeze with the reports of unalived women in Nigeria this week alone.

The man knows his country people and how they can misconstrue a statement, but he went ahead to say such fully clad in a police uniform. He should open a church or Youtube page for his teachings. That said, if any woman chooses to divorce her husband to fit into whatever culture, she would definitely find out the importance of teamwork in a hard way.

What I find funny is that some of the readers who consider the cop a hero in the first thread
have now made a u-turn to claim he never discouraged women from reporting domestic issues.

If he really didn't say anything contrary to the UK's value, then why was he considered a hero
in the first place?

Given that about 99% of Nigerians, if I am not exaggerating, share similar view with him,
the man could become a YouTube sensation if he starts a marital advice channel.
So, your advice is spot on.

babtoundey:


First of all, I will like to know if you watched and listened to the man's submissions before reaching your conclusions. Unless only a part of the video was released, there was no point he mentioned domestic abuse or report. His councel is more of child upbringing, why women should instill proper value in their children. I even wanted to comment then that nothing in the man speech points at "telling women not to report their husband". He only told them to tolerate their husband and work against pushing him away as his input in training the child is indispensable.

And nothing, absolutely nothing, is wrong with him saying what he said while on uniform. It was a harmless counseling. He even told them to be free to approach any police officer when they are faced with challenges and need assistance on certain issues. That's where he said if the officer can't handle it, they will take it to superior authority to sort out. He did what he is supposed to do in his position as a police officer.

But people were carried away with the narrative of man told wife not to report husband and those who from time to time blame men for family misgivings, condone women excesses and are always ready to interpret every slight family issue as domestic violence take it to head and call for his head to be crushed

He has done nothing wrong and he acted rightly within his capacity as an officer.

God bless you.

Some persons are even angry on twitter that the man spoke Yoruba. Calling him a tribalist and all.

Nigerians!!😆

Dis Youkay Nigerian people dey on the spotlight 24/7

cococandy:
I don’t understand this post

Retype it please

Go to the UK and undo the advice.

Laple0541:


So to you, anyone that doesn’t marry a Nigerian lady marries a white lady? You are absolutely wrong.

Btw, my submission was based on toxic happenings and occurrences Nigerian men face after such sponsorship. Though not all Nigerian women taken abroad by their husbands turn to a monster but I can categorically tell you a vast majority of them do. You may not understand though!

Oga, have you not seen how many women your brothers have killed this week alone? When will you comment on the vast majority of Nigerian men? Abi no be same una dey travel abroad?

Encourage your brothers to marry foreigners. I want to see more of such marriages. I want to see more Nigerian men with their foreign wives celebrating 40yrs anniversary. There has to be a reason I hardly see this. The marriage must be so sweet that these women do not remain with you guys until retirement. It is only to hail una for buying Henessey in SA and Kenyan clubs.

The cop didn't say stay in an abusive relationship and nobody even insinuated such from the message ed... He only said manage ur issues better not calling the police over every little issue.

He even said call the police anytime for advice so what is the cops crime?

Problematic women are triggered for no reason.

ivolt:

What if I find funny is that some of the readers who consider the cop a hero in the first thread
have now made a u-turn to claim he never discouraged women from reporting domestic issues.

If he really didn't say anything contrary to the UK's value, then why was he considered a hero
in the first place?

Given that about 99% of Nigerians, if I am not exaggerating, share similar view with him,
the man could become a YouTube sensation if he starts a marital advice channel.
So, your advice is spot on.

That is how they behave when cornered. Their comments on threads on rape, ritual killings and marital issues shows they know what they are cooking. Marriage is not compulsory. Marriage to Nigerian women is not compulsory. They can do without these things. But if you decide to marry, you must keep your hands to yourself. If you are tired, leave peacefully!

The supposed "good wife", if they get tired of her, majority would not willingly give her up to 30% of his asset. At that point all they will see is a WOMAN. All her record doesn't matter. We have seen how they react to elites giving some fortune to their wives even when it is these men that messed the marriage up. We see how they react to men who dump the wives of their youth. Very brutal set!