NewStats: 3,265,164 , 8,185,855 topics. Date: Friday, 13 June 2025 at 05:32 PM 2i4822

the tax on it too

donbachi:
Fuel, transportation and food stuff.... before you say "jack".1million done finish in on month

he is a very possessive partner if you notice he never once mentioned she tracks him but he tracks her every movement if she was in her married friends house and had to lie she was still on the road it means you are overly possessive and dont even give her a bit of space if she has to lie to hang out, and you track your partners phone to know where they are means you have serious issues

pocohantas:
In all this your CIA work, you have never seen that she is with a man or in a man's house. I also like the fact that you don't rely on "them say...them say", but do the work and come up with evidence of where she is. These places come out clean, the problem is she distorts facts. That counts for something.

The issue here is that you might be a possessive partner, so she has to twist things a bit. It is bad, very bad, but many partners do it when they know who they are dating/married to.

If she is picking other calls but not picking yours ALONE, then wherever she went to, wasn't the worst place to be. If you were a woman, you will be advised to give your husband breathing space. Stop checking his phones and or monitoring him.

So, I will suggest you don't give yourself high bp. Is this grounds for separation? I can't be the one to tell you the level of emotional abuse you should endure. That decision is yours to take.

Your wife has the characteristics of a Nigerian tailor or artisan. Is she one?

they need the influx of ppl to generate money, more holiday goers more money spent in osun

successmatters:
It's a very poor state, wonder why they are giving free services there. Almost the poorest state in Nigeria.

have you ever considered that it maybe because she devotes extra time to your baby that makes her seem emotionally unattached? raising a child is stressful, you even said she slept in the sitting room with your child have you ever imagined that she probably dozed off while tending to your child. the best advice and best thing you can do is call her on the phone or send her a message requesting that the 2 of you have a talk and bare your mind to her let her know how you feel then she can also give you answers to the things that keep bugging you.

CuriousMind2022:
It's a known fact that most Nigerian girls marry who they consider ready for marriage and not necessarily who they love. I am exactly in that dilemma and the question I am asking myself is whether I should continue in this loveless marriage or slowly drift and walk away.

My marriage is barely 2 years and a few months, but it has been a rough journey for me. Things I never envisaged I would experience in my marriage, I have suffered, from utmost disrespect to verbal abuse.

I came to the conclusion that she doesn't love or care about me based on what happened yesterday. I was recently transferred from my base to a new location and because of that, I would only be able to visit weekends or twice a month. Prior to that, we barely had sex once a week.

We had already had sex the normal once we usually had it (Saturday morning), but I wanted more because I will only be coming back after two weeks. I initiated a move on Sunday morning, she declined because she was thinking of preparing food for our baby before we leave for church. We went to church and came back, and as usual, my wife was in her undies (just panties and bra) in the sitting room (This was what she wore throughout that Sunday).

I watched her walk around the house in that and that even turned me on the more. I am a practicing Christian, and I try not to look after other women lustfully, but common this is my wife, even God sanctions that. After being turned on throughout the day, I went to my wife in the night, (note she slept in the sitting room with our baby leaving me alone in the room) to enjoy my conjugal rights with her, but she gave me excuses that she is upset and not in the mood.

I left and went back, seriously konjified, I managed to sleep. The next morning, I woke up with my urges and went to the sitting room to have my morning devotion, but I could barely concentrate because I was still very Hot. I explained to her that so really wants me to go to my new station like this knowing fully well I will not be coming back until 2 weeks time. This woman did not care!

I took my bath, prepared myself, and set out for my office. I was not happy with her but I kept my cool and left for work. She had demanded that I dropped some money for her before leaving and despite the fact that I was not happy with her, I dropped the money in a conspicuous place where I know she will see it before leaving. This was my own way of saying I am not happy with what you did, but I still cared.

I try to do things I usually do for my wife even when I am angry with her. This is my own way of saying I may be angry with you, but I still cared about you and I am open to a resolution. On the other hand, my wife doesn't care what happens to me when she is upset. She immediately stops cooking for me ad any other thing she does for me when she is upset. It is obvious to me now that to my wife I don't really matter in the grand scheme of things. She is only caring and concerned, when she is not angry (when we are good and we don't have any issues). I believe that when you love somebody, you treat them right and show genuine love and care for them even when you're upset with them. This is what I have constantly shown to my wife in our 2+ years of marriage.

Back to my story of what happened weekend/Monday. My wife never bothered to call me to check if I arrived safely since I left the house yesterday. I even called her once (primarily to check on my daughter), but she didn't pick up and she didn't call back, and up till now, we have not spoken.

She obviously does not care whether I arrived safely in my station or not. In this country of insecurities, a family member of yours will travel and you do not care whether he/she arrived safely, that is the height for me, and in the actual sense, I should be the one upset here because she left me high and dry, despite knowing fully well I am very Hot.

I am a family-oriented person, I have always dreamt of having a peaceful, loving, and Godly home but unfortunately, the reverse is the case for my wife. I began to understand why family background is very important in a person's life, after getting married. My wife is from a family where they place little or no value on marriage. Her mother had children with 2 men, and my wife is obviously working very hard to follow that same path. She shows little or no enthusiasm in making our marriage work. I am always the one to initiate moves to resolve issues when we quarrel, whether I am right or wrong, I do not care, my focus is just on making my marriage work and my home peaceful.

This last episode shook me very hard, and I have been asking myself whether I want to continue in this loveless marriage or opt out. Working and living in a different city will even make it easier for me.

I needed to let my thoughts out and thanks to Nairaland, I have done so.

This man and foolish talk everyday how is it your business what someone else is wearing as long as theyre not naked. whenever he feels irrelevant he looks for something to say to viral

Odewaleadesoye:


DAILY POST

ppl should find out on their own, imagine if he commits sucide and thats the father of her child. do you know the stigma it could leave on his son? just try to have small sense

Persephone1:
When gays gather......

you are a thief

Motirayo2018:
I bought this 400 hundred naira

oga dont go there oh! everyone has their personal demons they are fighting with and when the person you look to for understanding and care becomes your enemy you are doomed. i very well understand her because ive been through it i actually made an attempt to end my life because i believed maybe then i will have peace. im grateful it wasnt successful and that im wiser now

chukwuoke:




Guy all what you said above you didn't point out exactly what your mom did. Besides if you abandon your mom whose mom will be yours. Mom's degative way of talking sometimes have impact in one's live. Your are the last is the reason you have to listen to her for your progress. Strive to get your own no matter how small it is. Think we'll bros!

my mum is exactly like this like there is no family friend or relative whom she doesnt complain to and most of the things she says are things that never happened and later when she has issues with them they use them against her, like the same ppl ing her will literally tell her that she is always frustrating her child and how can a mother say such things about her own child to every1 she meets, i have let it stop bothering me. ever since i got a job and moved out i rarely go home and if i have to i make sure its not more than a night i spend there because if its 2 nights then i wont rest. i saw shege when i was living with her.. imagine going to work and coming back at night to meet a kitchen i cleaned very dirty with used plates from my younger brother and they expect me to clean that up, if i complain i would not have peace. My best advice distance yourself from her provide what you can for her when you can and talk to her on the phone when you can the distance will help you mentally and she may also realize how far she pushed you

whyteteeth:
It's draining dealing with my mom everytime she comes to the city to stay in the same house with me. I live in my elder sister's house but she (my sister) stays abroad with her family. I am the last child and I am not married. I work from home though. My mum visits here once in a while. Anytime she comes around she does a lot of things that spoils my mood. For instance, she doesn't like taking her children's advice no matter how important it is to them. She likes having her way all the time. And when we try to stop her, she guilt trips us and emotionally blackmails us.

I have other siblings who do not live with me but they used to come around with their children anytime mom is around. My father is back home and hardly visits. She doesn't listen to my dad if he advices her.

Mom will first and foremost get someone upset, and when the person complains, she will watch out for one negative word that will slip out from your mouth and use it to emotionally blackmail you. She will cry because of what you said to her until you feel guilty and beg her to forgive you. She also likes reporting her child to another of her child without minding if it would damage their relationship.

She likes making her child feel bad so long as she has her way and she is happy. She pays no attention to the feelings of her children anytime she wants anything. For instance, My mom can make you spend money on something that she already has. Sometimes she will drag for something that she doesn't even need. She feels as a mother all her children must make her happy else they don't like her.

Also, She is terrible with conversations both on phone and physically. If you try to have a one on one talk with her, she will make the conversation very unpleasant because she will keep interrupting, next thing she will cry or she will get up and leave you.

She never sees her fault. Even if she apologies, she would do the same thing again and blame you for making her do it.

If she comes around and everywhere is peaceful, after a short while argument will begin which may lead to a fight.

This is because she likes jamming one person with another person and eventually make them quarel. She enjoys adding words that was never in the conversation when she is reporting somebody to another perosn. Most times those words are very hurting and will lead to a fight. And when the fight begins, she will start crying. Sometimes she would intentionally fall on the ground while trying to separate a fight, just to make sure everybody runs helter-skelter trying to get her up on her feet.

She has blood pressure issues, hence she uses that as a weapon to guilt-trip her children so they can succumb to her demands. For instance, if she says things that are not true about her child to another of her child and the person finds out, once you confront her, she would say " don't query me oh, shey you know my blood pressure would soon go up. I didn't kill my mother, don't kill me oh." Or she will just start crying and say the person hates her and what was said isn't true, and that she never said anything like that. She denies the things she says that are bad soon after she says them.

Gosh, I am just tired of my mom. I feel like packing out of this house, blocking her and not letting her come close to me because of how emotionally draining it is everytime she comes around.

the same brother you claim moved to a 1 bdroom because things were difficult, the same one you claim sold his car and students reduced in his school. This shows you guys never tried to help him and as a human being its understandable he probably went into depression, know this and know peace your brother stopped getting close to you guys because you guys gave him no peace. it rather feels like whatever goes on in his life you guys bring up the wife you never wanted him to marry

dboY1123:


This my brother was the second born of the family, he is comionate, nice and he loved his family not until this lady came in..
The point is, Since my mum warned my brother against this lady, my brother took a step backward from us all, and since then more than 4/5 years, I knew things weren't right. There's no mutualisms, true love between his and our family.

That was part of d reason my brother didn't stand up for his mum. Things already started heating up. My other elder ones don't stay as close to my mum. My and my brother are the closest, and moreover he didn't spend a dime in hospital bills of my mum and imagine that. More like it was intentional.. Not even 5k.

From what my brother did during those times my mum was sick, I detest him..and he knew it. Has the Second born and a man, he should be the front-runner..
Infact, my brother stopped coming to my dad's church completely, and he was d choirmaster. Everything was strange like something came upon him.

maybe they already started frustrating the lady and the mother saw it and rejected their family, because she definitely knew the guy b4 things got so serious with families getting involved. their family strikes me as the type to want to sit on a girls head in the name of she is marrying my brother

1Sharon:


The mother of the ex wife of your brother had her reasons for rejecting your brother.

If you contest this, you're a hypocrite.

she also wants the best for her daughter.

he was your brother yet you did not reach out to him like a brother would because you guys keep insisting that his decision was wrong. i will also not reach out if i know opening up about my problems and asking for help will come with conditions you guys want to impose on them. i dont know his wife but good or not he needed you guys to reach out without any conditions but he also knew it was impossible

dboY1123:


Wow, God bless you brother... Exactly my point!!!
My brother couldn't open up anymore because he detached himself already. someone who didn't visit his mum in hospital and he stays a bus away and neither did his wife called my mum till she ed.

My brother died in silence 😭, thinking he'd put everything in control but it was getting worse and worse.

you guys never liked nor accepted her the cold shoulder you guys gave her initially is what prompted your brother to keep his family away now i even understand why she wants nothing to do with your family, she was avoiding you guys and confrontation. for them to be struggling and still not reach out shows how much they wanted to stay away from you guys

dboY1123:


My brother was deaf! Deaf!! My mum warned him sternly against this evil woman.
First, he had a wife who gave him a boy already, but the mother of that girl didn't let her stay with my brother so he has to marry this particular one.
But before my mum ed on last year, this wife didn't like my mum at all, infact they stopped my mum from visiting them, and my brother took sides with his wife, thinking to be a strong man to his own family by distancing himself from his mother and family..
But things got worse for him, parked from a flat to a room, his school(he's a proprietor) value and numbers dropped heavily and he sold his car.. All these, he still wouldn't speak with any of his siblings, even when we called him on phone to check on him as a brother ,his wife would be the one to pick our calls or tell us he's not around..

Clearly, the wife didn't like my mum at all.. and I know my mum, she wanted the best for her son that's all and she made findings about the lady before she moved in with him., So my mum had her reasons to reject her.

We all don't like the wife, infact my dad who's a pastor (aged) doesn't like her, she couldn't even visit my Dad since the ing away of my mum since last year April.

So, If not that the wife was a bad woman.. Even if your husband is going through shits, you're the closest to him and you would have called on his family, when they took him to hospital for the blood stuff, we paid the money as siblings that was when she called.

so you dont know those local tomatoes sellers pay tax ba? all those papers you see them paying and collecting at the market what do you think its for and anywhere you buy stuff in nigeria and get a receipt the tax is there

Tadadobe:


Where do they pay taxes in Nigeria? Who pay taxes in Nigeria? Usually in the US, you see taxes you pay on everything you buy. Even if you buy a $1 tomato at Walmart, you'll see the tax added to your receipt.
.if you earn $CAD50k in Canada, $CAD18K will probably go to taxes. Is this how it is in Naija?

I believe that if nigerian don't get everything for free but rather spend the way they spend in abroad, Nigeria go better.

With the exception of those working federal, State, local government and some private organization, who are the ones paying taxes in Nigeria? Nigerians don't even pay for electricity. Lol

its a t business if it was his he wouldnt need to ask her to relinquish her shares, and it seems she is a major shareholder since he wants the company as condition for the divorce. the man is simply trying to frustrate her because he doesnt even want the marriage too and i believe the house and car documents are co-owned because it seems the woman is smart business wise.the fact that she is a governors daughter means they also received "gifts" that cant be in her name alone hence adding the mans name. i feel he doesnt want to leave the marriage empty handed because what is 50k its obvious she has got more money than him

advanceDNA:


Thats not how it works oooo...if he already had the business with no contribution from her before she came into the marriage ...they will not dissolve anything......especially in the north where sharia law is biased against women forming woke..

She will only be entitled to setlement...and now that she's the one willing to go...she will not collect shígbain.....u think is abroad

i think it was a chance meeting, she was about to leave the place saw him and ran to take pictures because she left immediately

meobizy:
I’ll write it off as her been an entertainer. Honestly, she should have dressed for the occasion. Stylists are a thing in Nollywood.

Nigeria police make una dey fear God oh! they could not retrieve the knife because he threw it away? the same knife he did not want to let go off at the hospital or when the hausa boys held him hostage because he wanted to run? yet the nigerian police could not retrieve the knife. The most corrupt force ever and the court wont question this

i'd try my best but sometimes helping someone who never learns encourages their behavior making you an enabler

MartinsD12:

So if you have a child today the child misbehave, you will stop caring for the child?

To be honest this is really lame, like how can you be so interested in your boyfriends income and savings balance when you are unemployed and still dependent, that alone has made you unqualified to question what he does with his hard earned money and to top the issue you have clearly seen he is unwilling to save with you then why dont you focus on building the future you want for yourself and if he is able to meet that future then its good but if he doesnt then you know you tried. long story short build your own future with your own hardwork

Banilla:
He's one the other side of the world! How can I be sure? He's young, indecisive... I love h, and I don't want us to ever break up. But long distance relationships don't last! If we don't settle down quick, we are over. And I don't want to give all my heart to someone who could break it. Half the time we were together, he had no job. And I didn't mind cause the relationship was relatively young. Now, we need to work towards something. What's the point if we don't? I won't spend his money, it's a promise. But either that or I find some way to pressure him into saving.

A very foolish man, i guess its this mentality that made the wife desperate for a t he is the type that wants the wife to even tell him before she buys pad. The foolish man should be aware she can get a new port and still get visa to the USA because the embassy has her data all she needs to do is thumb print. Mumu man

BMathew:
I saw this post on Facebook, guys what's your honest opinion?

One of my senior friend met his wife in the 1990s as a typist working in a business centre near a court. He was smitten by her and promised to upgrade her.

He is a lawyer, he married her and trained her in school to become a lawyer too. She was called to bar, he got her a job in the court and she became a Legal Assistant at Judiciary.

His aim was for her to become a judge or magistrate. Presently, she is a Chief Registrar, she would have been among the judges appointed by Governor Wike except that she was originally from Akwa Ibom.

My senior friend have on many occasions travelled to the UK, USA, and Hong-Kong. He never thought of divorcing the wife or abandoning his family. They have 4 children together.

Few years back, he decided for the first time to travel with the wife. The wife's sister has been living in the USA. He trained the wife's sister too, she met her husband who took her to the USA while living in his house in Port Harcourt.

The USA Embassy usually give 2 years Tourist Visa to first timers. So his wife got 2 years. While they were in the USA it was decided that the wife stayed back and give birth to their last child whom she was pregnant with.

My senior friend came back to Nigeria, few months after she gave birth and was expected back. A lawyer from FIDA (Women's Lawyers Association in Nigeria) served my friend a Divorce Petition.

He was heartbroken. He still loved his wife, but she said she wanted to stay back and was no longer interested in the marriage.

At the end of the day my senior friend was able to use her family and some of their mutual friend to talk to her. He promised to have a t bank with her and do all other conditions she stated, including another marriage at the registry.

She came back. He stole her port. He decided within himself never ever to let her travel again. They celebrated their 25th anniversary recently. They were so happy in church, she bought him an expensive wristwatch, while he bought her a car. They have not done the marriage at the registry.

During his birthday last year, she surprised him with a trip to Transcorp Hotel, Abuja. She loves the husband, but if he allowed her to travel to UK or Canada today, she will begin to see a world better than what she has and she will forget her love for him and wish to have something better than him.

My friend has decided that he will make sure she doesn't become a judge. He wants his daughter, who was recently called to the bar to go into the judiciary, and he will pursue for her to become a judge in place of her mother.

He has learned his lesson, but the wife doesn't know this. The wife is not a bad person. She was being a wvmån. It is a biological trait in them.

Don't wait till it happens to you before you learn.

Go to many families in Anambra and Abiriba whose children flooded overseas in the late 1990s to 2000s; I make bold to say that 70% the mothers who went for Omogwu never came back to their husband. They abandoned their younger children, the family, and their husband and stayed back.

If you genuinely love your wvmån, do not upgrade her to a better life that she has never been accustomed to, you will regret it bitterIy. Build your wvmån but keep her below you.

Seun, RoyalRoy

eja nla is his second name lol

TUFFSS:
If na for water this na big fish

i have 110k

he said buhari catch your sub

Tony4988:
Indirectly condemning the current istration you are into with ers claiming that you were handicapped from service. Integrity requires your resignation when such is in place but rather you cuddled along with the hope of clinching the highest power. You don't need to be a president, to make a difference. you failed at the opportunity given, and I see no special service you have to offer anymore.











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for someone that has said all these if those were lies he would come out and say it. The dude needs help but with an addict he has to want that help himself else hed relapse

Swaelyf:
he sold their fathers jeep where is the money and if he was serious about the uber he could have used the jeep to start

all this people you mentioned have you seen their siblings cant you see that with the little platform or help she gave they all became independent imagine helping someone who keeps wasting money you struggled to earn right in front of you wont you run mad

azammi:
You spoke wisdom , thank you .

i cant blame her for wanting to help its a good thing the only problem is helping unreasonable people who turn around and feel entitled to the help

Mooh247:



i really blame Annie for this... she keeps forming Nice woman and perfect woman while her relatives keeps capitalizing on that to milk her.... the sooner she drops the forming nice and saint and stick to her nuclear family the better for her

this is an adult not a child sometimes you need to let them struggle to know its hard to earn money if i can see his effort then i will step in to help but if he doesnt even try he shouldnt call my name

MartinsD12:

So if you have a child today the child misbehave, you will stop caring for the child?

he sold their fathers jeep where is the money and if he was serious about the uber he could have used the jeep to start

MartinsD12:

Let's not take all the things Annie said here to be true look at this guy he needs help , I don't think this guy is properly taken care of as Annie has just said , the brother here needs help he is really depressed forget all these things Annie might have said on social media she takes care of these or that , in life all fingers must not be equal am not ing these guys laziness but in the video I heard him saying he asked Annie for a car to be doing Uber , from what I can see Annie should go and take care of her brother, this brother of her's needs even a proper rehabilitation both Annie self matter tie person is Annie really the right woman for 2 baba always issues all the time

like she doesnt have bills to pay too

OdenKelechi:
I don't know what's going on but this guy sounds really entitled. If she wasn't famous, wealthy or married to a celebrity, would you still be demanding all these things from her??

and that made you hustle but imagine this fool coming out to destroy the image of someone who carries your family and you even stole her car instead of deciding to work hard for himself he comes to cry on social media destroying her brand where she makes money from no one owes anyone anything in this world if they decide to help you be grateful but if they dont the see it as part of life and hustle for yourself without annie he would survive all i see is him trying to emotionally blackmail his sister she worked for her money if he cant run errands for her to get that money he should run errands elsewhere and get money its that simple

Quim2:



I was very poor once and my youngest brother rode me like a bicycle.

He was the manager of a company importing musical instruments and I was jobless

It went on for years until I made my own dollars. Now he can hardly be live I'm richer.

It's a terrible thing. When you don't obey, they cut off your allowance and make you beg for everything.

seems like you have not met addicts before he sold their fathers jeep where is the money could he not have used it to start his dream uber for and addict you have to be willing to accept that you need help else no rehab in this world can help you any money you give to him he would squander it and lets even forget him the wife also has hands and feet why doesnt she want to work but depend on another lady like her to feed and cloth her family shameless people

kingthreat:


Yeah the guy seems unalright. Annie can afford rehabilitation for this man. But she rather flaunt her outfits on the gram

and he has the audacity to say she turned him to an errand boy foolish somebody if you are in their house 24/7 and they cloth and feed your family the least you can do is be useful to them the money you are eyeing and want to collect they also worked for someone to earn that money ungrateful human being

Mooh247:
shameless man

your younger sister for christ sake... even if she gives you stuff you should respectfully decline it as a man except its a gift with no sentiments attached

how will my younger sister and her husband cloth and feed me, and even pay for my childrens school fees

i'll rather stay in a room that i can afford and take my kids to a public school than leave off another man.. especially an in law