NewStats: 3,265,263 , 8,186,163 topics. Date: Saturday, 14 June 2025 at 07:01 AM g4q2i

emmaodet:


Which lane are you actually Gerrard?
You always women being financially independent and mostly don't need men again nowadays since their is intimacy gadget and they can finance their own lifestyle. You also not shamming women for sexual liberation because it is their body and they can use it how they feel without men breeding down on them.
Then, somehow you are worried the same men shouldn't go the babymama way because kids raised under this condition are mostly social misfit and such men are dead-beat dads.
Let me tell you a truth - The moment we accept women sexual liberation aka women can be shameless without been judged, the "dead-beat dad" statement too goes out of the window.
There are no more dead beat dads because you can't use a metric for a man while exonerating the woman.
There can't be a jailer, if there are no prisoners.
The same law that apply to a masquerade apply to a person using hijab because they are both covered.
Nature will always find it's balance irrespective of human's sentiment or biasness.
Lastly, no reasonable person invests where their interest is not protected. The men of olden days were not just responsible (this is debated anyway), ready to die for their women and fight for the village to protect their women and kids. They did that out of the personal conviction that the women are their properties. It is the same way you will fight to the end the land you buy and someone wants to take it away from you.
But when you have properties that can be taken away from you easily without you saying love-vendor, that property becomes a risky investment to do.
If investing my sweat on a lady/relationship, sometimes send her to school, put her on monthly payment, take her abroad etc and she can just wake up to say she is not doing again or give me a bastard or just cheating on me without any repercussion, rather am been laughed at to move on, then it is only natural that survival instinct will kick-off relationship-wise. It will never be about what the kids will turn out to be or whatnot, my survival, sweat, investment is on the line and nothing else people say or gaslighting or emotional blackmailing will do.

I will attend to this much later. Just had to note it make I no forget.

Bananapill:

My advice is, don't look too hard or too far, because the wife material is usually closer than you think.
Listen more than talking when you are with female friends or colleagues, you will hear the statement of a wife material. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
Na so I take find my wife.

Thanks bro

Olachase:
The only advice I have for you

Don't settle for a single mom

According to what one poster said look out Nigeria try Ghana or Kenya 400k as income is something bro

Nigerian girls don't love they're just after the money

I know what my sister did to her husband

is your sis a single mom? Abeg give us full gist

Breaker001:


If you are that serious, it's okay for me.
How do we go about it?

Where in Lagos let’s chill

Those that are single should read this

mjuvey3:
My dear brother,I'm in your shoes

I'm 37,single with no kids but I keep meeting money hungry women....Even the decent ones who comes from good homes and have high paying jobs are money hungry and entitled.

There are still few good women out there but the problem is,they don't go out much and they don't reply DMs on Social media....You can only get them through connections or if you're lucky to meet them on the road or at a particular spot like eateries,malls, church,salon,markets etc.

This is the absolute truth.

imonisweet:
Those that are single should read this

I dey read am everyday😂

Lol i'm enjoying this Thread😂

ufotty2001:
Please, do not Marry a religious woman.. just look for a decent girl and marry but not too religious.

To those of you manhood wey wan marry😂

If you like no listen to this golden advice😂

RichIgboBoy:
I meet one nurse recently but she no fine

Nigerian Nurses that are always broke.better look for a banker if you want a working class lady

Manculated:


To those of you manhood wey wan marry😂

If you like no listen to this golden advice😂

Recommend Abeg…

Manculated:


I dey read am everyday😂

Bro dey eat the word 😂

lusid:
I'm thinking of toasting a POS gal I saw by the roadside. Should I go ahead

Marriage has always been like that from the beginning... A woman would stay at home while the husband would provide.

You men of nowadays are just weak... If he's no longer able to provide financially and he wants me to go back to whoever has be looking after me before him, I'll gladly pack my bags and go back to my father's house... I can't force a grown man to perform his duties as a husband because real men have savings s for rainy days.

optm:
so what happens in situations that he's not able to provide financially? Who has been providing for you before you met the man? This position of yours buttresses the narrative that the majority of women are not looking for life partners but burden bearers and providers. Marriage becomes transactional in these scenarios.

CTee1:


Bro dey eat the word 😂

I tell you my brother😂

I'm in your Age Range as well and i'm experiencing what you are going through too. But me i can't come and kill myself oooo because i'm a very Stoic Person so nothing dey shake me. I have read about this event years ago and this is just the beginning!

I have made up my mind if i don't get what i deserve in romance. No Marriage for me that.

When it comes to Offsprings, I am planning towards Surrogacy because i don't subscribe to that Baby Mama stuff. That's All.

adamkkk:


I swear, apart from my wife, there is no Nigeria woman that will genuinely love you like those days and it only because my wife is always busy working as an officer... even d luv sef get k leg.

Infact my wife .

Women generally are incapable of NATURALLY loving men genuinely, Though there are exceptions but very few.

But in most cases, Most men loves women genuinely without asking for too much from them.

Check most Marriages most especially the Well To Do families. Most women are in the marriage strictly for PROVISION & PROTECTION. If women can naturally get these things themselves EASILY. Most of them won't be under the roof of any man.

So stop demanding LOVE from them.

lusid:
make we tok?

yeah sure

Tolu2024:
Happy I married a good wife though she have her own fault but nothing compared to the ones on the street.

I don’t trust home delivery girls I knack 3 I met in uyo . The funniest 😂 is the one that sell bed sheets I told her i have 4 different types bedsheets, she insists I will buy from her I told her if she will test it and she agreed.

Are you a lesbian

Nnamdipapa:
Get a girlfriend pregnant and move on, settling down is a scam and most married men with kids are never really settled. You are lucky to be single and have no k8d at 3 and you dont know what you have until you lise it. Most married people in Nigeria are suffering and smiling and, will always lie about their experiences. Do not fall for it.

This Post too make sense except for the "Get A Girlfriend Pregnant" which i don't .

Deadbeat parents are one of the biggest problems which affects society.

Nnamdipapa:


That is what I tell people. Save money and go on vacation to Ghana, Uganda, Kenya, Gambia and, mix up with other Africans. I will give everything to be in your shoes, na responsibilities go kill you if you marry most Nigerian ladies or African ladies.

Our men, especially Igbo men, spoilt our women. The entitlement by our women is powered by our men. Those African countries you listed, the native men are complaining of the antics of our men who believe geninue desire can be negotiated.

We fueled this anomaly and should either correct it or live with it.

AngelicBeing:
Hian , 57 crocodiles , like seriously, l know you are joking but continue 😂
Meanwhile, l am the one who called your house assistant to WORK SMART otherwise you will sack her , l have her and cell phone number 😜

I am not. You will get 1 crocodile from the 57.
This man here is 37yo. 37 whole years. 3 years away from 40, but somehow all the females are bad and he is angel Gabriel. How is it possible a 37yo decent man with a good circle cannot boast of meeting 1 responsible woman? Then something is wrong with him or his selection process. As for love. An almost 40yrs old man is looking for a small girl to deceive with love.
Men are deluded into thinking older men are so attractive and desired solely for that. Whereas their appeal is financial stability. Bring that your money or move away.

Lol! I knew there was a snitch here.
Either that or she has very strong instincts.

FalseProphet1:

Please give me like 10 of the crocodiles, I want to use it for prayers.

Let your brother here talk true first. 😂

Pickieox:



Marriage is not by force. You can be single and happy. It's just the way you channel your mind and your energy. By the way, you are living your life according to societal narrative. Don't be caught in the matrix.

Exactly.... And someone in the comment section up there is advising him that 'no time'. No time for what exactly I don't know...there are people who are already dead at 37 (married & unmarried). Everyone should just follow their path in life and do what legally works for them. Societal pressure go kee some people finish for nothing.

SuperOnyi:

I'm in the toilet and something just came up in my head, now this is not directed at the OP.

Despite my extensive knowledge of female psychology, I have avoided contributing to the rot in the society, I'm not perfect but at least I have done well compared to others.

Some men would waste their youth fúcking around, teaching and encouraging moral decadence amongst our women; and just like worn-out feminists, they begin to look for a "good fearing" partner when it's time to "settle down."

There's a heavy price for stupidity and if we do not pay for ours, someone else would — it could even be our children.

Thank you!

I've written it here countless times - Nigerian men created, nurtured and fueled the hookup industry. So blaming women entirely is pure falsehood and hypocrisy. We made our women believe there's so much money to be made and fun to be enjoyed while offering their bodies. Afterwards, you (the women) will still get married.

Women can stay long without sex and with the presence of sex t.oys, they don't necessarily need men to cater to their sexual needs. At the same time, they now earn their money. So technically, modern women don't necessarily need men to live comfortably. But if the demand for sex by men is so high, why not make some money on the side and enjoy their lives?

mjuvey3:
My dear brother,I'm in your shoes

I'm 37,single with no kids but I keep meeting money hungry women....Even the decent ones who comes from good homes and have high paying jobs are money hungry and entitled.

There are still few good women out there but the problem is,they don't go out much and they don't reply DMs on Social media....You can only get them through connections or if you're lucky to meet them on the road or at a particular spot like eateries,malls, church,salon,markets etc

It is well

you are very correct. I met my beautiful angel thru connection where she came to meet with my oga's wife. Those good ones hardly show faces at hotspots. This is why you need to call on the Father to assist and direct you.

Manculated:


I tell you my brother😂

I'm in your Age Range as well and i'm experiencing what you are going through too. But me i can't come and kill myself oooo because i'm a very Stoic Person so nothing dey shake me. I have read about this event years ago and this is just the beginning!

I have made up my mind if i don't get what i deserve in romance. No Marriage for me that.

When it comes to Offsprings, I am planning towards Surrogacy because i don't subscribe that Baby Mama stuff. That's All.

Surrogacy no way… it’s against the faith I’m a Christian. 💔 God abeg

lendahand:
you are very correct. I met my beautiful angel thru connection where she came to meet with my oga's wife. Those good ones hardly show faces at hotspots. This is why you need to call on the Father to assist and direct you.

👏🙏

Also, something that many haven't stated or wouldn't state is the Nigerian economy. I've been following Nairaland since 2010 and within the 2010 - 2014 period, there were few threads then about hookup unlike as it's now socially and societally ubiquitous. We sured 6% GDP growth rate under Jonathan and have never hit 5% ever since. So ten years of economic servitude.

The state of the economy has made almost everyone to be brutish. Blame those who campaigned and voted for Buhari in 2015.

ufotty2001:
Please, do not Marry a religious woman.. just look for a decent girl and marry but not too religious.

why did you say this?

Tolu2024:
Happy I married a good wife though she have her own fault but nothing compared to the ones on the street.

I don’t trust home delivery girls I knack 3 I met in uyo . The funniest 😂 is the one that sell bed sheets I told her i have 4 different types bedsheets, she insists I will buy from her I told her if she will test it and she agreed.

and your gender says F??

SuperOnyi:




I'm in the toilet and something just came up in my head, now this is not directed at the OP.

Despite my extensive knowledge of female psychology, I have avoided contributing to the rot in the society, I'm not perfect but at least I have done well compared to others.

Some men would waste their youth fúcking around, teaching and encouraging moral decadence amongst our women; and just like worn-out feminists, they begin to look for a "good fearing" partner when it's time to "settle down."

There's a heavy price for stupidity and if we do not pay for ours, someone else would — it could even be our children.

Men have always being the architect of rot or nobility in women.

People complain about girls being on Only Fans, but it is men that invented it.

What about cornographic sites, it is men that create and control every chain of such industry.

Pimping nko? or those that patronizes such services, it is men.

Hotels, clubs, bars etc facilitating the negotiation, pickup and drop off for hookup sexperts are controlled and owned by men.

The one that are impregnating unsuspecting girls, catching them when they are very young, naive and broke, it is men.

We complain about single moms, but lots of men have different kids with different women, while being married to none.

Women are like sponges, they will soak up the nonsense or goodness the men of every given society have created.

In good societies, the men led well, and the women turned out to be good.

So the lack of virtuous women in Nigeria is a result of rotten men.

This is why it is necessary for young women not to resist or rebel against male leadership (especially from their dad), because he knows men, and he is only protecting you from the degradation outside decorated under beautiful package.

SeaTrade:
You dey mind am?
Na just to get this age range from good homes.
Lots of 30+ women with great personalities and have their own keep,
The problem is that their body is getting tired.
If I could marry 30+,I'd have 2 kids by now sef in the marriage.
I think 22-25 is ideal.

What makes the body tired??