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This na nice topic. Me eh. If I talk my own una go pity me.i help woman. She insult me ontop of the help even tell lies about me to people. Women. Apart from my mother and sisters, I no dey help woman tataaa. Even 8f she dey die

RollinTNDA:
This one really hit me for heart
Forget oooo
I really like her and wanted to take things serious with her.

Now here is what shocked me to the core of my soul!!
I opened up to her about my personal life and struggles.

This girl went around telling people that i smoke weed. That really damaged my reputation.

But out of all the things she said
SHE NEVER TOLD ANYONE HOW I RISK MY LIFE TO SAVE HER THAT MIDNIGHT...
Now if this same girl comes again dying and knocking at my door.. Otilor!!!! She go die that night.

Make she go meet jesus for heaven and sort out her problem. I dont care again.
That incident put me in great shock

Now if i see her i act like she dosent exist at all... very fine girl but all that beauty vanished after she did me dirty

Lol I will still blame U a bit though. Firstly why do U smoke weed if U know Ur hiding it from people? And why do U care what people think about U smoking weed? If U think smoking weed is morally wrong then U should quit.

See as a man U should never hide who U truly are, never be ashamed of urself but rather be proud of every bit of u. It builds Ur confidence. How can a grown man be going about smoking weed in hiding when Ur not a secondary school boy? U have learnt Ur lessons but U still have a lot of classes to attend.

Wear Ur shii with pride and damn what anyone thinks or says about U. So long as Ur still doing everything ur supposed too, paying Ur bills, taking care of Ur health and responsibilities, building urself up emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and financially they can all go to hell. My neighbours know me.

I can go out to get loud outside the estate gate as late as 2 am, I go still smoke am for my veranda. In a house I used to stay. The ladies there were talking about the guys in the compound who smokes. One deeper life looking spiroro woman and some other young girls. They were just bad mouthing some guys who lived upstairs cos I was downstairs and then the woman mentioned me I was just by my corner listening to them.

Lol U need to see the way the girls all of them defended me... They were all saying yes I do smoke but I was very different from the rest and they liked how I comported myself so it's no issue. Everything boils down to U oga. Thank God U have learnt something from the girl but if she didn't cast U as a smoker U would have still continued wooing her and she would have eaten U badly.

U like babe but U no talk until she come find help from U for midnight. You think say she no wise? Even if Ur intentions are pure she would read otherwise. U have no confidence in urself is what I can deduce from all of this. Love urself and all U do. Never be ashamed in Ur own skin or game. Na U be U. Who no like am make em look bush.

EmperorIsaac:

The first one sent 3 voice notes to say she cannot speak for other ladies, but for her, she's not like that. She now added that ladies can actually be generally focused only on what they want from men in of materialism. She now ended it by asking why all this? I smiled in my heart in 3D!

The second said, and I quote: "...even me I don't know what women want....I don't know what I want even as a woman..."

The second sounds a little bit more genuine because I had told her I have someone else so no hope with me.

The first girl is likely being insincere—she's the typical manipulative Naija girl.

The second girl is also being insincere, but not intentionally.

Women know exactly what they want—they seek a sense of power over a man.

The problem is once they get that power, they lose respect for him.

RollinTNDA:
where can i find it

Check my profile... You'll see a Link to it.

[For real you guys don’t have any thing better to do than bashing women every day. Not all women are ungrateful please

Anyway I design websites and mobile app

RollinTNDA:
This one really hit me for heart
Forget oooo
I really like her and wanted to take things serious with her.

Now here is what shocked me to the core of my soul!!
I opened up to her about my personal life and struggles.

This girl went around telling people that i smoke weed. That really damaged my reputation.

But out of all the things she said
SHE NEVER TOLD ANYONE HOW I RISK MY LIFE TO SAVE HER THAT MIDNIGHT...
Now if this same girl comes again dying and knocking at my door.. Otilor!!!! She go die that night.

Make she go meet jesus for heaven and sort out her problem. I dont care again.
That incident put me in great shock

Now if i see her i act like she dosent exist at all... very fine girl but all that beauty vanished after she did me dirty

The sad part is, a lot guys have had your experience, and many are currently experiencing it now. But most Men are suffering in silence.

The typical naija women are selfish and ruthless in nature.

This is why I'm ruthless and a total asshole when dealing with women.

If you play the good guy or nice guy when dealing with naija girls, they'll destroy you. They will wreck you financially, emotionally and psychologically.

Girls have this naturally hatred for good guys who are nice to them or who sincerely like them.

Women crave assholes, jerks and cocky guys.

If you applied the knowledge in Top G Dating Secret, some girls might say you're cocky or stubborn or jerk or bad boy.

But those kind of guys—cocky, stubborn, jerk, asshole and bad boy—are the guys that makes her wet. Those are the guys she freely give her body to.


As a guy, if you truly understand the female nature, you'll stop being nice to them.

tanigororo:
Because we never required them to invest in the relationship

That's probably the biggest mistake men make with women — They don't make women invest in the relationship.

RollinTNDA:
From my personal experience

I witnessed this in December 2024
A girl who was my neigbour i have crush on her. But it end with Hi and Hello. We didnt talk with each other

Im a chemist, so one night this girl came knocking loud on my door.
I peep window see say na she dey knock. As i open door i see her holding her stomach and wrething in pain. She said her stomach feels locked she is constipated and it giving her serious pains

As a chemist, i took into action
Took my shop key and use leg to trek in midnight to my shop to get her constipation drug.
In the process vigilante boys stop me threatning to matchete me if i run. Omo that night mad

After explaining to them they extorted me and let me go.
I came back and there she was in pains.
I istered drugs to her for free
And that drug was really expensive
But no wahala i took it and gave her for free...SMH

The next morning she came by to thank me for saving her life.
Mumu me was blushing and i told her if we date she wont spend a dime on medication. We laughed

That evenning we hang out and i told her my mind that i like her.
I ended up telling her some personal secrets about me ( WORST MISTAKE EVER) We talked about the future and so on..

Long story short
She played me like ronaldinho
Then exposed my secrets to everyone in that compound!!!
Telling them that i smoke weed

The girl finished my reputation
I was regretting why i even helped her and risk my life that night going to get drug for her.

The way i see girls now, hmmmm
Make Elon musk create female robot for men. Cause these modern day women will soon end up alone.

Nobody want to marry problem!!

You lost when you hurriedly professed love to her. You need pride and arrogance as a man.

Creamypie:
This na nice topic. Me eh. If I talk my own una go pity me.i help woman. She insult me ontop of the help even tell lies about me to people. Women. Apart from my mother and sisters, I no dey help woman tataaaaa

That's the bitter truth about women.

She wants you to be nice to her, but she despise you for that, and hurt you.

Samantha125 is different! I will donate my balls for her in case she needs it. What's life without her

RollinTNDA:
This one really hit me for heart
Forget oooo
I really like her and wanted to take things serious with her.

Now here is what shocked me to the core of my soul!!
I opened up to her about my personal life and struggles.

This girl went around telling people that i smoke weed. That really damaged my reputation.

But out of all the things she said
SHE NEVER TOLD ANYONE HOW I RISK MY LIFE TO SAVE HER THAT MIDNIGHT...
Now if this same girl comes again dying and knocking at my door.. Otilor!!!! She go die that night.

Make she go meet jesus for heaven and sort out her problem. I dont care again.
That incident put me in great shock

Now if i see her i act like she dosent exist at all... very fine girl but all that beauty vanished after she did me dirty

It was too early to be vulnerable with someone you just met. Vulnerability works better when the friendship has started..not before.

RollinTNDA:
This one really hit me for heart
Forget oooo
I really like her and wanted to take things serious with her.

Now here is what shocked me to the core of my soul!!
I opened up to her about my personal life and struggles.

This girl went around telling people that i smoke weed. That really damaged my reputation.

But out of all the things she said
SHE NEVER TOLD ANYONE HOW I RISK MY LIFE TO SAVE HER THAT MIDNIGHT...
Now if this same girl comes again dying and knocking at my door.. Otilor!!!! She go die that night.

Make she go meet jesus for heaven and sort out her problem. I dont care again.
That incident put me in great shock

Now if i see her i act like she dosent exist at all... very fine girl but all that beauty vanished after she did me dirty

Keep it up.
Tell yourself that the modern woman is a LovePeddler that does not deserve a king like you. The stats are there. You see the baby mamas increase everyday. Over 100 million abortions yearly. You see them disgrace themselves on social media sticking their tongues out, showing their boobs and ass, walking around semiclad. No sane man will marry these modern women. They see too reckless with everything and they will be reckless with your life. Just as the lady was reckless with your reputation.

Tell yourself that you have been doing stuffs and going the extra mile for women. If she's not willing to go the extra mile for you, let her bounce.
Even if you are broke. Tell yourself that you are a man and that means you are a god. As long as this world is concerned, there is no being higher than man.
Any woman who claims a broke man is not a real man will know the truth when the broke man strangles her and there is no man to save her.

dkidd:


Lol I will still blame U a bit though. Firstly why do U smoke weed if U know Ur hiding it from people? And why do U care what people think about U smoking weed? If U think smoking weed is morally wrong then U should quit.

See as a man U should never hide who U truly are, never be ashamed of urself but rather be proud of every bit of u. It builds Ur confidence. How can a grown man be going about smoking weed in hiding when Ur not a secondary school boy? U have learnt Ur lessons but U still have a lot of classes to attend.

Wear Ur shii with pride and damn what anyone thinks or says about U. So long as Ur still doing everything ur supposed too, paying Ur bills, taking care of Ur health and responsibilities, building urself up emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and financially they can all go to hell. My neighbours know me.

I can go out to get loud outside the estate gate as late as 2 am, I go still smoke am for my veranda. In a house I used to stay. The ladies there were talking about the guys in the compound who smokes. One deeper life looking spiroro woman and some other young girls. They were just bad mouthing some guys who lived upstairs cos I was downstairs and then the woman mentioned me I was just by my corner listening to them.

Lol U need to see the way the girls all of them defended me... They were all saying yes I do smoke but I was very different from the rest and they liked how I comported myself so it's no issue. Everything boils down to U oga. Thank God U have learnt something from the girl but if she didn't cast U as a smoker U would have still continued wooing her and she would have eaten U badly.

U like babe but U no talk until she come find help from U for midnight. You think say she no wise? Even if Ur intentions are pure she would read otherwise. U have no confidence in urself is what I can deduce from all of this. Love urself and all U do. Never be ashamed in Ur own skin or game. Na U be U. Who no like am make em look bush.

baba I don drop mic for you......The stage is all yours !!!

Pukkalolo:



You ask a very good question, but the only issue is that you phrased it the wrong way.

Here’s what I mean:

It’s not necessarily about what specific "thing" she does for you. It’s more about how much emotional cost or value she places on those things she does for you.

For example:

If Aliko Dangote donates 1M naira to a charity…

And a random broke guy donates his last 50k naira to the same charity…


Who donated more?

Logically, Aliko Dangote donated more.
But emotionally, the broke guy donated more—because it cost him more.

So, I’d rephrase your question as:

“How do I make a woman do things for me in a way that costs her more emotionally—so she feels truly invested?”

I’ll probably create a new thread to answer that question properly...because it’s going to be a long one

Please tag me when you post the matter

RollinTNDA:
From my personal experience

I witnessed this in December 2024
A girl who was my neigbour i have crush on her. But it end with Hi and Hello. We didnt talk with each other

Im a chemist, so one night this girl came knocking loud on my door.
I peep window see say na she dey knock. As i open door i see her holding her stomach and wrething in pain. She said her stomach feels locked she is constipated and it giving her serious pains

As a chemist, i took into action
Took my shop key and use leg to trek in midnight to my shop to get her constipation drug.
In the process vigilante boys stop me threatning to matchete me if i run. Omo that night mad

After explaining to them they extorted me and let me go.
I came back and there she was in pains.
I istered drugs to her for free
And that drug was really expensive
But no wahala i took it and gave her for free...SMH

The next morning she came by to thank me for saving her life.
Mumu me was blushing and i told her if we date she wont spend a dime on medication. We laughed

That evenning we hang out and i told her my mind that i like her.
I ended up telling her some personal secrets about me ( WORST MISTAKE EVER) We talked about the future and so on..

Long story short
She played me like ronaldinho
Then exposed my secrets to everyone in that compound!!!
Telling them that i smoke weed

The girl finished my reputation
I was regretting why i even helped her and risk my life that night going to get drug for her.

The way i see girls now, hmmmm
Make Elon musk create female robot for men. Cause these modern day women will soon end up alone.

Nobody want to marry problem!!

Omo laugh wan kill me. You must collect na.

Pukkalolo:


Check my profile... You'll see a Link to it.

It requires payment and am still strongly, please can I get PDF from you?

Pukkalolo:


That's probably the biggest mistake men make with women — They don't make women invest in the relationship.

Because most of us grew up watching too much Indian movie, where the good guy do everything for the girl and the bad guy meet with karma.

We think is the same in real life, so we jump ahead and invest a lot in the relationship and not expecting her to proof herself worthy of the relationship.

Pukkalolo:



The first girl is likely being insincere—she's the typical manipulative Naija girl.

The second girl is also being insincere, but not intentionally.

Women know exactly what they want—they seek a sense of power over a man.

The problem is once they get that power, they lose respect for him.

Fact!😊

Pukkalolo:


That's the bitter truth about women.

She wants you to be nice to her, but she despise you for that, and hurt you.

Looking back at that incident in 3D
I was too Nice to her and it backfired so badly..
Forget about the life saving incident
Lets focus on what happened after that.
We got to hangout after that incident. As a guy i took her out and ate and talked. During the discussion
From her own mouth she said

" i like guys that are very honest with me, if you smoke tell me you smoke, if you drink tell me u drink if you womanize tell me instead of hiding it from me. I dont respect a man that will hide and do those things and cover it up"

Now mumu me was blushing like Sabinus, telling her that im a very honest guy. That infact im brutally honest. All of a sudden i began to tell her my secrets to prove that im a very honest guy..SMH

The girl was just giving me adlibs like migos.. Oh wow, seriously, OMG and mumu me was just rapping and exposing things that my family dont even know about.

And she was gaslighting me to tell her more...

Seeing the whole thing backfire to the point neigbours heard about it and it was like the whole compound began to See me finish.
Bro it felt like a real stab to the heart and it changed me for life.
The way i view women now
It will take 10000 years for me to go back to being a nice guy i was last year.

RollinTNDA:
From my personal experience

I witnessed this in December 2024
A girl who was my neigbour i have crush on her. But it end with Hi and Hello. We didnt talk with each other

Im a chemist, so one night this girl came knocking loud on my door.
I peep window see say na she dey knock. As i open door i see her holding her stomach and wrething in pain. She said her stomach feels locked she is constipated and it giving her serious pains

As a chemist, i took into action
Took my shop key and use leg to trek in midnight to my shop to get her constipation drug.
In the process vigilante boys stop me threatning to matchete me if i run. Omo that night mad

After explaining to them they extorted me and let me go.
I came back and there she was in pains.
I istered drugs to her for free
And that drug was really expensive
But no wahala i took it and gave her for free...SMH

The next morning she came by to thank me for saving her life.
Mumu me was blushing and i told her if we date she wont spend a dime on medication. We laughed

That evenning we hang out and i told her my mind that i like her.
I ended up telling her some personal secrets about me ( WORST MISTAKE EVER) We talked about the future and so on..

Long story short
She played me like ronaldinho
Then exposed my secrets to everyone in that compound!!!
Telling them that i smoke weed

The girl finished my reputation
I was regretting why i even helped her and risk my life that night going to get drug for her.

The way i see girls now, hmmmm
Make Elon musk create female robot for men. Cause these modern day women will soon end up alone.

Nobody want to marry problem!!

Remove emotions from it.

You caused this by yourself.

Just because you saved her does not mean she will suddenly be your girlfriend, what if she was dating someone.

Another mistake you made was telling someone you know nothing of your secret.

Are you that trusting of strangers

You kept shouting " Get her to do things for you", did you mean things like washing your dirty singlets and boxers?

RollinTNDA:

Looking back at that incident in 3D
I was too Nice to her and it backfired so badly..
Forget about the life saving incident
Lets focus on what happened after that.
We got to hangout after that incident. As a guy i took her out and ate and talked. During the discussion
From her own mouth she said

" i like guys that are very honest with me, if you smoke tell me you smoke, if you drink tell me u drink if you womanize tell me instead of hiding it from me. I dont respect a man that will hide and do those things and cover it up"

Now mumu me was blushing like Sabinus, telling her that im a very honest guy. That infact im brutally honest. All of a sudden i began to tell her my secrets to prove that im a very honest guy..SMH

The girl was just giving me adlibs like migos.. Oh wow, seriously, OMG and mumu me was just rapping and exposing things that my family dont even know about.

And she was gaslighting me to tell her more...

Seeing the whole thing backfire to the point neigbours heard about it and it was like the whole compound began to See me finish.
Bro it felt like a real stab to the heart and it changed me for life.
The way i view women now
It will take 10000 years for me to go back to being a nice guy i was last year.

In this life, our experiences is what help reveal our true natures. And I think your experience with the girl in question was just a little test to reveal your true color. The beast you are now ready to let loose was actually in you all along waiting for the right time and opportunity to come out.

I followed your story, and I want to put it to you that you didn't help the girl for free.
Yes, there was a hidden desire that was driving you. You didn't go through all that and helped her because you were a nice person, no. Something was actually driving you -- your desire to be with or have her.

To make it simple for you, answer this question; If it was one ugly girl that had same issue, will you have done it for free because you are a nice person?

In the process of you trying to take advantage of the situation, you broke many rules. And that's why you failed in making that beautiful angel your girl.

Next time, try to follow the rules. Let your intention be genuine or pure and you will be fine.

In real life, if I see you in a deep problem or dying and, I have the solution, you have to realy beg and ask me before I help. I don't offer unsolicited help because it will never be appreciated.

I also never try to impress a lady with anything. Why would I try to impress a broke .

Maka gini kwa nu.

LoneSoldier:


Is not too late to be a Bachelor now, embrace peace of mind and stop suffering with this daughters of eves...

Buy them nothing, buy for yourself what your deserve, make yourself a king on earth.... Stop wasting your hard earned money on this liabilities.... Is not worth it.

BACHELOR FOR LIFE

Dude, you be smart guy.

Guys, let's calm down and not run ahead of ourselves, we have to wait and hear the inputs of our ladies of Nairaland in other to have a balanced views. For now, it's been only guys show.

We have to hear from them as well.

Samantha125, what is your opinion about this topic?

I honestly don't know what to say.

Nnamdipapa:
Guys, let's calm down and not run ahead of ourselves, we have to wait and hear the inputs of our ladies of Nairaland in other to have a balanced views. For now, it's been only guys show.

We have to hear from them as well.

Samantha125, what is your opinion about this topic?

Samantha125:
I honestly don't know what to say.

You have to weigh in one way or the other. What do you think about the op's assertions?

I don't know, I feel like Nigerian women would be in a better position to give their opinions on this.

Nnamdipapa:


You have to weigh in one way or the other. What do you think about the op's assertions?

Samantha125:
I don't know, I feel like Nigerian women would be in a better position to give their opinions on this.

You have a good point. Let's wait for the reaction of the Nigerian ladies.

Thank you... Now let me quickly get out of here before you call me back...🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️

Nnamdipapa:


You have a good point. Let's wait for the reaction of the Nigerian ladies.

Samantha125:
Thank you... Now let me quickly get out of here before you call me back...🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️

I will let you rest motlogolo wa ka

From muratiwa to motlogolo wa ka... I saw that...

Nnamdipapa:


I will let you rest motlogolo wa ka