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When you do a favor for a girl or give her nice things, she might say, “Aww, thank you,” or even seem very appreciative.

Some might even call you a “real man”... Duh!

But that’s where it ends in her heart. I learned this the hard way

The bitter truth: Women don’t genuinely value what you do for them.

And that’s the basic thing most men don’t realize: You don’t win a woman’s heart by doing things for her. You win her heart by making her do things for you.

Women don’t care how much you’ve done for them. Women are naturally selfish by nature.

Empty your bank for her?

Donate one of your kidneys to her?

Sacrifice your life for her?


SHE DOESN’T CARE.

The only thing she cares about is how much she has done for you.

This is why, if you try to break up with a girl who has done a lot for you, she says things like:

“So after everything I’ve done for you?”

That’s all she cares about—what she did for you.

All you did for her doesn’t count. It’s what she did for you that matters.

If you threaten to break up with a girl and she doesn’t seem to care, it doesn’t necessarily mean she has other guys she can easily jump to.

It simply means she has done nothing significant for you in the relationship—so she has nothing to lose.

Guys often ask me, “How can I get a girl to think about me?”

My answer:

Women don’t think about you. They think about what they’ve done for you. If you get her to do things for you, she will think about you all day.

If a girl claims she loves you but has done nothing significant for you, then it’s not genuine love. She just wants to exploit you or manipulate you.

Women don’t fall in love with you—they fall in love with their investment in you.

If you want a girl to genuinely fall in love with you, get her to do things for you. Make her invest in the interaction and the relationship.


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Stay blessed brothers.

Weird...

But true!

Very True!! But my question is

What things should we make women do for us that will make her think of us.

Really interesting topic

From my personal experience

I witnessed this in December 2024
A girl who was my neigbour i have crush on her. But it end with Hi and Hello. We didnt talk with each other

Im a chemist, so one night this girl came knocking loud on my door.
I peep window see say na she dey knock. As i open door i see her holding her stomach and wrething in pain. She said her stomach feels locked she is constipated and it giving her serious pains

As a chemist, i took into action
Took my shop key and use leg to trek in midnight to my shop to get her constipation drug.
In the process vigilante boys stop me threatning to matchete me if i run. Omo that night mad

After explaining to them they extorted me and let me go.
I came back and there she was in pains.
I istered drugs to her for free
And that drug was really expensive
But no wahala i took it and gave her for free...SMH

The next morning she came by to thank me for saving her life.
Mumu me was blushing and i told her if we date she wont spend a dime on medication. We laughed

That evenning we hang out and i told her my mind that i like her.
I ended up telling her some personal secrets about me ( WORST MISTAKE EVER) We talked about the future and so on..

Long story short
She played me like ronaldinho
Then exposed my secrets to everyone in that compound!!!
Telling them that i smoke weed

The girl finished my reputation
I was regretting why i even helped her and risk my life that night going to get drug for her.

The way i see girls now, hmmmm
Make Elon musk create female robot for men. Cause these modern day women will soon end up alone.

Nobody want to marry problem!!

Pukkaolo, You no narrate your story na

You just dey repeat wetin others don talk

Hasty generalization fallacy

RollinTNDA:
Very True!! But my question is

What things should we make women do for us that will make her think of us.

Really interesting topic

You ask a very good question, but the only issue is that you phrased it the wrong way.

Here’s what I mean:

It’s not necessarily about what specific "thing" she does for you. It’s more about how much emotional cost or value she places on those things she does for you.

For example:

If Aliko Dangote donates 1M naira to a charity…

And a random broke guy donates his last 50k naira to the same charity…


Who donated more?

Logically, Aliko Dangote donated more.
But emotionally, the broke guy donated more—because it cost him more.

So, I’d rephrase your question as:

“How do I make a woman do things for me in a way that costs her more emotionally—so she feels truly invested?”

I’ll probably create a new thread to answer that question properly...because it’s going to be a long one

Pukkalolo:



You ask a very good question, but the only issue is that you phrased it the wrong way.

Here’s what I mean:

It’s not necessarily about what specific "thing" she does for you. It’s more about how much emotional cost or value she places on those things she does for you.

For example:

If Aliko Dangote donates 1M naira to a charity…

And a random broke guy donates his last 50k naira to the same charity…


Who donated more?

Logically, Aliko Dangote donated more.
But emotionally, the broke guy donated more—because it cost him more.

So, I’d rephrase your question as:

“How do I make a woman do things for me in a way that costs her more emotionally—so she feels truly invested?”

I’ll probably create a new thread to answer that question properly...because it’s going to be a long one

@ bolded that is exactly what I need to understand
Please do I'm already a fan. Tag me when you post the thread. First time reading your post and I must say this one hits home..

RollinTNDA:
From my personal experience

I witnessed this in December 2024
A girl who was my neigbour i have crush on her. But it end with Hi and Hello. We didnt talk with each other

Im a chemist, so one night this girl came knocking loud on my door.
I peep window see say na she dey knock. As i open door i see her holding her stomach and wrething in pain. She said her stomach feels locked she is constipated and it giving her serious pains

As a chemist, i took into action
Took my shop key and use leg to trek in midnight to my shop to get her constipation drug.
In the process vigilante boys stop me threatning to matchete me if i run. Omo that night mad

After explaining to them they extorted me and let me go.
I came back and there she was in pains.
I istered drugs to her for free
And that drug was really expensive
But no wahala i took it and gave her for free...SMH

The next morning she came by to thank me for saving her life.
Mumu me was blushing and i told her if we date she wont spend a dime on medication. We laughed

That evenning we hang out and i told her my mind that i like her.
I ended up telling her some personal secrets about me ( WORST MISTAKE EVER) We talked about the future and so on..

Long story short
She played me like ronaldinho
Then exposed my secrets to everyone in that compound!!!
Telling them that i smoke weed

The girl finished my reputation
I was regretting why i even helped her and risk my life that night going to get drug for her.

The way i see girls now, hmmmm
Make Elon musk create female robot for men. Cause these modern day women will soon end up alone.

Nobody want to marry problem!!

your case almost got to this point wey be say you for appear for this man's show.....

RollinTNDA:
From my personal experience

I witnessed this in December 2024
A girl who was my neigbour i have crush on her. But it end with Hi and Hello. We didnt talk with each other

Im a chemist, so one night this girl came knocking loud on my door.
I peep window see say na she dey knock. As i open door i see her holding her stomach and wrething in pain. She said her stomach feels locked she is constipated and it giving her serious pains

As a chemist, i took into action
Took my shop key and use leg to trek in midnight to my shop to get her constipation drug.
In the process vigilante boys stop me threatning to matchete me if i run. Omo that night mad

After explaining to them they extorted me and let me go.
I came back and there she was in pains.
I istered drugs to her for free
And that drug was really expensive
But no wahala i took it and gave her for free...SMH

The next morning she came by to thank me for saving her life.
Mumu me was blushing and i told her if we date she wont spend a dime on medication. We laughed

That evenning we hang out and i told her my mind that i like her.
I ended up telling her some personal secrets about me ( WORST MISTAKE EVER) We talked about the future and so on..

Long story short
She played me like ronaldinho
Then exposed my secrets to everyone in that compound!!!
Telling them that i smoke weed

The girl finished my reputation
I was regretting why i even helped her and risk my life that night going to get drug for her.

The way i see girls now, hmmmm
Make Elon musk create female robot for men. Cause these modern day women will soon end up alone.

Nobody want to marry problem!!

Telling her some personal secrets about yourself wasn’t your worst mistake ever.

Your actual first and worst mistake was giving her the expensive drugs for free.

, women don’t genuinely value what they get for free from you.

Your second mistake was telling her you like her.

Instead of saying "I like you," you should have simply told her to cook lunch or dinner for you the next day.

That way:

1. She returns the favor for what you did for her.


2. It marks the beginning of her “doing things for you.”



Here’s the truth, RollinTNDA:

That girl didn’t like you—despite you risking your life at midnight for her and giving her expensive drugs for free.

That’s because women don’t genuinely care about your investment in them.

But guess what?

She would have started liking you if she had cooked lunch or dinner for you.

That’s because women care more about their investment in you—not the other way around.

EmperorCaesar:
Pukkaolo, You no narrate your story na

You just dey repeat wetin others don talk

Hasty generalization fallacy

Others, like who?

I guess this is your first time of reading my post on nairaland

Pukkalolo:
When you do a favor for a girl or give her nice things, she might say, “Aww, thank you,” or even seem very appreciative.

Some might even call you a “real man”... Duh!

But that’s where it ends in her heart. I learned this the hard way

The bitter truth: Women don’t genuinely value what you do for them.

And that’s the basic thing most men don’t realize: You don’t win a woman’s heart by doing things for her. You win her heart by making her do things for you.

Women don’t care how much you’ve done for them. Women are naturally selfish by nature.

Empty your bank for her?

Donate one of your kidneys to her?

Sacrifice your life for her?


SHE DOESN’T CARE.

The only thing she cares about is how much she has done for you.

This is why, if you try to break up with a girl who has done a lot for you, she says things like:

“So after everything I’ve done for you?”

That’s all she cares about—what she did for you.

All you did for her doesn’t count. It’s what she did for you that matters.

If you threaten to break up with a girl and she doesn’t seem to care, it doesn’t necessarily mean she has other guys she can easily jump to.

It simply means she has done nothing significant for you in the relationship—so she has nothing to lose.

Guys often ask me, “How can I get a girl to think about me?”

My answer:

Women don’t think about you. They think about what they’ve done for you. If you get her to do things for you, she will think about you all day.

If a girl claims she loves you but has done nothing significant for you, then it’s not genuine love. She just wants to exploit you or manipulate you.

Women don’t fall in love with you—they fall in love with their investment in you.

If you want a girl to genuinely fall in love with you, get her to do things for you. Make her invest in the interaction and the relationship.

Is not too late to be a Bachelor now, embrace peace of mind and stop suffering with this daughters of eves...

Buy them nothing, buy for yourself what your deserve, make yourself a king on earth.... Stop wasting your hard earned money on this liabilities.... Is not worth it.

BACHELOR FOR LIFE

Let her get pregnant for you even if you have not married her yet.

RollinTNDA:
Very True!! But my question is

What things should we make women do for us that will make her think of us.

Really interesting topic

Nice post as usual.

They don't care about what you did for them. I have experienced this first hand .

Simple! This has always been my way of showing 9ja girls who is the real boss.

In all you do, always starve for them to invest in you. Don't do it directly but with style and you will be amazed how you rule over them like don.

Nice thread. I have had worse experience as well but we learn everyday. Well for me I'm reading a lot of books on redpill and consuming enough to become confident in myself.

🤔 there is truth in this!

I just sent this link to two ladies....let them confirm what I already know to be true.

imagrg:
Let her get pregnant for you even if you have not married her yet.

Dey play.

imagrg:
Let her get pregnant for you even if you have not married her yet.

Ahhhhh this one extreme naa

RollinTNDA:
From my personal experience

I witnessed this in December 2024
A girl who was my neigbour i have crush on her. But it end with Hi and Hello. We didnt talk with each other

Im a chemist, so one night this girl came knocking loud on my door.
I peep window see say na she dey knock. As i open door i see her holding her stomach and wrething in pain. She said her stomach feels locked she is constipated and it giving her serious pains

As a chemist, i took into action
Took my shop key and use leg to trek in midnight to my shop to get her constipation drug.
In the process vigilante boys stop me threatning to matchete me if i run. Omo that night mad

After explaining to them they extorted me and let me go.
I came back and there she was in pains.
I istered drugs to her for free
And that drug was really expensive
But no wahala i took it and gave her for free...SMH

The next morning she came by to thank me for saving her life.
Mumu me was blushing and i told her if we date she wont spend a dime on medication. We laughed

That evenning we hang out and i told her my mind that i like her.
I ended up telling her some personal secrets about me ( WORST MISTAKE EVER) We talked about the future and so on..

Long story short
She played me like ronaldinho
Then exposed my secrets to everyone in that compound!!!
Telling them that i smoke weed

The girl finished my reputation
I was regretting why i even helped her and risk my life that night going to get drug for her.

The way i see girls now, hmmmm
Make Elon musk create female robot for men. Cause these modern day women will soon end up alone.

Nobody want to marry problem!!

Omorr Ur mumu na top tier 😂😂😂😂

KingEarnest:
Nice post as usual.

They don't care about what you did for them. I have experienced this first hand .

My Guy...Respect to you.

Savedday2:
Simple! This has always been my way of showing 9ja girls who is the real boss.

In all you do, always starve for them to invest in you. Don't do it directly but with style and you will be amazed how you rule over them like don.

You are a genius.

Blinking44:
Nice thread. I have had worse experience as well but we learn everyday. Well for me I'm reading a lot of books on redpill and consuming enough to become confident in myself.

If you're Nigerian, I highly recommend adding Top G Dating Secret to your reading list. The book is specifically tailored for understanding and wooing Nigerian women.

EmperorIsaac:
I just sent this link to two ladies....let them confirm what I already know to be true.

I'm curious to know what their responses are about it.

RollinTNDA:
@ bolded that is exactly what I need to understand
Please do I'm already a fan. Tag me when you post the thread. First time reading your post and I must say this one hits home..

Sure, I will tag you.

Pukkalolo:


That girl didn’t like you—despite you risking your life at midnight for her and giving her expensive drugs for free.

This one really hit me for heart
Forget oooo
I really like her and wanted to take things serious with her.

Now here is what shocked me to the core of my soul!!
I opened up to her about my personal life and struggles.

This girl went around telling people that i smoke weed. That really damaged my reputation.

But out of all the things she said
SHE NEVER TOLD ANYONE HOW I RISK MY LIFE TO SAVE HER THAT MIDNIGHT...
Now if this same girl comes again dying and knocking at my door.. Otilor!!!! She go die that night.

Make she go meet jesus for heaven and sort out her problem. I dont care again.
That incident put me in great shock

Now if i see her i act like she dosent exist at all... very fine girl but all that beauty vanished after she did me dirty

Pukkalolo:


If you're Nigerian, I highly recommend adding Top G Dating Secret to your reading list. The book is specifically tailored for understanding and wooing Nigerian women.

where can i find it

dkidd:

Omorr Ur mumu na top tier 😂😂😂😂

No worry.. like i said if any girl dey cry for help.
If no be my family or relative
Otillor!!!! If na die she go die there.

I was never this ruthless
But i have learned the hard way. Experience is the best teacher

Because we never required them to invest in the relationship

True.
100 %

Let me teach you how to read anyone WhatsApp messages directly on your phone.
Might be your kids or youger siblings.

Hold 1k

Check my signature for my WhatsApp

RollinTNDA:
No worry.. like i said if any girl dey cry for help.
If no be my family or relative
Otillor!!!! If na die she go die there.

I was never this ruthless
But i have learned the hard way. Experience is the best teacher

Very true. It's why it's always better to allow certain people make their mistakes instead of always correcting them. They will eventually learn better from themselves.

Pukkalolo:


I'm curious to know what their responses are about it.

The first one sent 3 voice notes to say she cannot speak for other ladies, but for her, she's not like that. She now added that ladies can actually be generally focused only on what they want from men in of materialism. She now ended it by asking why all this? I smiled in my heart in 3D!

The second said, and I quote: "...even me I don't know what women want....I don't know what I want even as a woman..."

The second sounds a little bit more genuine because I had told her I have someone else so no hope with me.