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Carchoice:
sure you can do that. But don’t do it because you want to impress her.

Bro make friend with her. Stop asking to date her. I don’t know why you guys sees a lady and make it a must to date her when you’ll see a more beautiful lady tomorrow. Except you are ready to settle down. Make friends with her and do so with other ladies. You’ll see how she’ll disappear from your mind.

But will making friends with her give me the opportunity to make love with her on bed. I've never tried this trick before maybe you can give me a hint�

DominusPrime:


It's stupid for a young man who has not found his feet to fall in love, especially when he is in love with the wrong person or someone not meant for him. Love in itself is far less than 30% of what is required for a successful union(if I'm permitted to quantify it). Poverty kills love. Sickness kills love. I have seen a couple marry and give birth to a sickler all in the name of love. When they lost all their money, jobs etc cos of that child it eventually ended in divorce. So a man who can keep his head above that feeling is much better than one who is driven by it. How many young men in their teens to early or mid 20s can have the resources to take care of a woman? Yet they chase these girls in the name of love and when these girls outgrow them or start following bigger men with good jobs, cars etc and a promise of a better life these young men start crying and opening topics on NL.

I have fallen in love before. Or what I thought was love. I was young, foolish and broke and all i had to offer her was a heart full of love and a handsome face and an intelligent brain. Till she was ready and i wasnt then she moved on to a better guy. I failed an exam cos of that. But today things have changed. I have turned out a better version of my former self all thanks to God and now I do as I want with women until I am ready to settle down.

You're inspiring sir but there's one thing you are mixing up here. You've so quick forgotten that these days most ladies( like 90%) is after a man's money and not the feelings they have for him. I want a real woman not a woman that will be after my money. Making money is not the issue here but the issue here is finding the right partner that would stand with you in 'thick and thin', that's why if I tell people sometimes about me so much in love with a girl they'll be so fast to remind me that" I should go hustle for money". Are ladies marrying you as a man or they're marrying money? I need clarification on that. I'll make money that's certain. Considering alot of potentials in me I know there's big hope but I don't want to make this money before a girl will come knocking because it'll be difficult for me to really decipher if she is truly for me or for my money. I can only get true love now that I've not really harmmer so big

Gaggi:
Nobody is boring or too busy for the one they care about. There is someone out there that she chats with enthusiastically, better let her be before you become an irritant.

Okay. Thanks man

DominusPrime:

Well said. The man that will get her might not even go through all this stress you are going through. Imagine, 11 months!!! Let me tell you something that will help your life. Build yourself up, make money and you will see that getting girls will become easier. The major thing blinding your eye is that stupid feeling you have. Once you get over it and see that the bigger you become the more control you have over your emotions you'll understand. I still think its stupidity for a young man who's still finding his feet to think his priority in life is getting a woman. Even if you get her now she will outgrow you in months cos women tend to grow faster than men until a certain age or stage before a man who has developed himself takes over.

It's not stupid for a young man to fall in love. Once you see love you'll know and let me ask you,have you ever been in love with a girl before?

Carchoice:
11months? This OP don’t understand anything. Any lady tells me NO, I don’t mind. I’ll become her best friend. But she’ll want me and fvck me later.

She’s ahead of you already. Become her best friend. Start teasing her a lot.

“Is it because of that fine bobo that has Camry that is making you do this to me?”

She’ll say “which bro’s?”

Then tell her that fine bobo that stays in the next street after hers. She’ll deny knowing any bobo with Camry even if there’s one smashing her currently.

Another time send her the crying emoji and don’t say anything. She’ll ask what is it. Tell her you just went to buy rope to hang yourself because she has refused to date you but the rope is not long enough.

Now she’ll start laughing and stop being too serious with her chats.

Another time, write her that you saw a lady that looks exactly like her but you didn’t see her face, you only saw her from behind, the curves and shape is same as hers. That you wanted to go grab the lady from behind but she was standing with a man, you were not sure if it’s the fine bobo with Camry. Say you nor fit chop beating because the guy is very muscular and huge.

OP, that lady you are thinking she’s too serious might not really be too serious. Give her better lines or call to tease her always but not more than 2min call. You’ll see her looking out for your calls and chats. Na she go dey send you “hello” but when she starts sending you “hello”. It’s now your turn to start ignoring her chats. Las las, she’ll serve it hot on a platter of Gold with all styles you can think.

I know you just want to fvck her. Relationship my foot idiat!!!!

Lol. You're funny bro. Actually I don't see her everyday like that since we've graduated since December last year. The lady plainly told me that she doesn't have any boyfriend now. Now she doesn't have subscription on her phone I've been thinking to subscribe her phone for her do you think it's wise for me to do so? At least to show her I can at least take care of her as a man.

Your last line crack me up bro

There was this lady I'm madly in love with but she isn't reciprocating my love for her.

MY ENCOUNTER WITH THIS YOUNG LADY..
I met this girl in my campus fellowship ( RCF). Initially her beauty Drew me closer to her( which mostly apply to all guys). I became friends with this girl. I was in my finals, same thing with her also. We were so close that I do call her mostly in the evening but she is this introvert and boring type of a person. She doesn't last long on chat even when you call her she always form so serious- minded to be so busy with her books but she is also responsive to my chats but in a boring way like" k,ya,cool,no,lol" just like other girls outside do. I eventually ask her out and she outrightly rejected my proposal with the fact that she still wants to concentrate on her studies that she isn't ready for any relationship. I never gave up as guyman wey I be. I tried convincing her more and more but her NO still remain NO.

I decided to give her some space like 3months, she wasn't bothered and when I chatted her back she seems so interested again and when I bring up the dating issue again she will reply me with the same NO. This continue for almost 11months( off course,this month made it 11months). Since I thought perhaps because of her studies that was why she hasn't been interested now that we've both graduated I thought it will be the best time to engage her again with the same discussion but when I eventually told her that now that she has graduated isn't it right she got herself a boyfriend and she said that I'm right that this is the best time for her to look for boyfriend and for me to start giving myself hope again by asking her out again but she still reply me with "Not yet', the next reply was "she isn't interested","that we can just be friends", I thought of moving on but I couldnt because I so much love this girl.

One turn off about her is her boring nature. She would never chat me up first even when she noticed am online unless I started the chatting and she doesn't have any meaningful things to say than to be nodding like agama lizard like the usual"yh","No","cool","lol" etc.All those boring chats.

This girl has everything I want in a woman. She is pretty, calm,morally wise and the rest but I don't know if this thing she is doing is also called hard to get or I should just move on with my life?.

Note that I can't cope becoming friends with her without asking her out again. If atall I want to move on that means I'll delete her number and also delete every means of communicating with her in that case it would be easier to erase her from my mind.

Pls, mature response only!
I'm dying emotionally here..