NewStats: 3,264,985 , 8,185,271 topics. Date: Friday, 13 June 2025 at 04:13 AM j4661

NevetsIbot:


The point is... You are a simp for letting a girl below you be in the position to tell you "no" without you knowing the next point of action you should do is to delete her like she never existed.

And again


Stop going for girls you'd manage... Manage comes with a lot of baggage

Okay. I understand bro. Thanks though

Sixfeetbelle:


So why were you trying to date someone you already decided was below your standards? Is it an ego trip to boost your morale, which explains why once she rejected you, it resulted in you creating a thread for it?


To answer your post, I don't see the big deal in her saying "No" to dating you or whatever you had proposed to happen between you two. Choices are what makes us human. She doesnt "feel" you and sticking around waiting for her attention is like diminishing your value. You should move on completely and find someone else to date; preferably someone in the same class as you this time around.

Okay boss. Thanks

MARX77:
Never let a person tell you they don't want you more than once.

I love this. Thank you boss

elipheleh:
It's a normal thing. Girls instinctively know when a guy is way above them. And if you approach a girl too low for you, the probability of her rejecting you is 100%.
I don't know why.
But that is what I have noticed myself.

Guys at times underrate their selves a lot. I used to underrate myself before.
But not anymore.

I think you're right boss. You're truly an expert with what I've red here
Now if you see the high class of girls I go for and how the girls even follow me easily, e go shock you.

My advice is try those girls you think are higher than you. More often than not, those are the real class you belong to.
Note: You must damn and overcome your anxiety of approaching those high class girls. Just damn it and do it.

Stop going for low lives. Their fear and inferiority complex won't allow them say yes.

I think you're right boss. You're truly an expert with what I've red here . The best thing for me is to try those high class girls. But why I don't like trying those high class girls is because I see them so much demanding than the low class ones if they eventually accept my proposal

NevetsIbot:
She's way below you..

Na manage you wan manage am

She no dey benefit your life

All she probably has to offer is the wet moist between her legs

Then. You let her tell you no and her number is still stored on your phone?

Bro, I don't really get your point. Pls, hit the nail!

SIMP OF THE YEAR

Bro I don't really get your point. Pls, hit the nail!

NevetsIbot:
She's way below you..

Na manage you wan manage am

She no dey benefit your life

All she probably has to offer is the wet moist between her legs

Then. You let her tell you no and her number is still stored on your phone?

Bro, I don't really get your point. Pls, hit the nail!

SIMP OF THE YEAR

Sixfeetbelle:


Wait, let me get this.

She's beyond your class but you want to manage her? Shouldn't she be the one managing you?

Sorry I mean she is below my class . That's a typo

Good day fellow nairalanders.

Pls, I'll love to seek for relationship advice from relationship expert.

I just met a girl not more than two weeks now. I recently ask her out yesterday where she openenly told me that "she can't date me". I ask her her reasons but she said "she has no reasons". Pls, is it advisable to continue asking her out until she agrees or I should just move on with my life?? Note, she only said NO to me once.

Meanwhile, this said girl is way below my class and level that I should start running after her like one mumu. Na manage I wan manage am before o!

What do you think, pls?

Only for mature minds, pls!

RedPhoenix:



Send a mail to the email on my signature

I sent you a mail have you seen it?

RedPhoenix:



Check signature for

I'm also interested Sir. I've checked but couldn't find any signature of yours. Pls, kindly add me up on my watsap line on 08072005455

Squillaci:


Lol, no be you dey chyke am?

Na me o. But why did you say she isn't attracted to me?

Squillaci:

She isn't attracted to you, bro.

Or you mean to say I'm not attracted to her?

tribalwarlord:
everything you wrote here is so true... I'm more motivated... I needed to see this post now !!! Thanks

You're a lady. See wetin ur fellow lady dey do me o. Don't you have any advice for guy man like me ni?

stanliwise:
yeah just act nicely same way you do to anyone. The most important thing is that you ensure you don’t give a girl the impression that she deserves a favour because she is pretty or because you ire her. Infact the more pretty they look, the less amount of favour you start giving them.

Word. Noted bro

themaestro08:


You are a first class simp( no offence man), your weakness is Clear for all to see What the hell is wrong with you?

Listen, we all have encounter such ladies - you love them but they don't. In this case, walk away and search elsewhere. You are making yourself look pathetic by being at the Mercy of this lady. Where is your self esteem? Have you no pide and self worth? Its time you get your act together.

Walk away - ladies are everywhere - all it takes is for you to make your intentions known.

Noted. Thanks bro

stanliwise:
staying with someone that takes time to appreciate your love is what makes relationship a happy one. So it is best if we are with someone that when we do it. We don’t feel it.

Sure bro. I doff my hat for your intellect

stanliwise:
SIMP means a silly guy and AFC means Average frustrated chump/guy

This two words refer to guy that lack social skill and confidence when they are around women. So they instead behave unnecessarily nice to women so as to be accepted. But unlucky for them they are only accepted as friends.

Now I get. So being unnecessary nice is harmful to us a guy? I think I get you

DominusPrime:


Exactly. At least let money or success be a priority first. Or else one will suffer heartbreaks and emotional trauma. Well I won't say life isnt fair. It's just a lesson we as men need to learn early in life so our focus can be on improving ourselves. By the time you hammer and things become easy as regards women and you are able to get women fat better than the ones you claim to love in brokenness you'd see things differently.

Yeah. You're right bro. I really appreciate alot. I've really learn from you.

stanliwise:
Omo na long story o. Short story is that I use to be a SIMP or an AFC. Until I later learnt things through books and reality from big boys who understand too.

Nice one. You really learn Sha. But what do you mean by "SIMP" ,"AFC"?. I'm not too familiar with all these abbreviation

stanliwise:
Omo na long story o. Short story is that I use to be a SIMP or an AFC. Until I later learnt things through books and reality from big boys who understand too.

Nice one. You really learn Sha. But what do you mean by "SIMP" ,"AFC". I'm not too familiar with all these abbreviation

Raeheemwayne:

"Friends with Benefits" - You should know what it entails.
That is how far you can go for now.

Alright. I understand you. Thanks alot bro

stanliwise:
stay away from this advice. A lady that get interested in you because of how buoyant you are is only good for flirting. If you need a serious relationship let it be a girl that likes you even when you sometimes behave stingy ( don’t be stingy to a caring girl sha o)

Wow! Wonderful assertion you have there,"the right girl is one who likes me even when I'm stingy with her". I have a classmate then. This girl is so much obsessed with me,couple with the fact that I was very intelligent and the most intelligent guy in my class(among all the boys I mean). But I don't like her in return. She gave me all forms of green light then even call me her husband in the midst of her friends but I was just showing uninterested guy because I don't like her. She has ask me for money severally but I dont usually give it to her till the fact that she now started calling me stingy guy. Event till today when we communicate most times she still call me stingy guy. Would you say she likes me?

stanliwise:
Anytime anyday, girls has taught me so many lesson in the past. I understand their psychology.

Really? Maybe you can brief me little of your horrible experience with girls.

Raeheemwayne:
Op, that girl is all shades of red flag. well except you're ready to keep a boring relationship - God4bid.
She is a broken doll dreaming of a guy with glue but unfortunately, to her, you're not that guy.
In essence, I'll advice; you give her space, don't act too serious around her, i.e, just be yourself at all times, become fwb, then you smash and move on if possible.
OR, better still, you forget about her and move on with your life, you've made yourself too available already and some girls don't like it.
A girl once told me "Raeheem make enough money, I'll be the chasing one you" I just gave her an Evil smile.
Guess what? Today I'm the one avoiding her advances.
Don't just over stress yourself because of a girl; They're alot of girls out there looking for attention - You'll find one.

Thanks bro. I appreciate. But what do you mean by "fwb"?

stanliwise:
Guy why you no wise na?
The girl dey play you like basket ball, just start respecting yourself and deny her the attention she is seeking jare.
The good thing you did is making your intentions known. But one thing you seem to be missing out is playing by her rule.
What the fućk, she tells you this and that and you stick with it. See you want a relationship and that is your mandate and goals, if she said she don’t want you, ask like two more time without sounding like your life depends on it and if she still resist.
Omo carry yourself unto higher things in life. Don’t give her the impression that she holds the key to what happens to your romantic life, stop calling and chatting her and never show any remorseful attitude, just make the impression of doing fine without her and drop all the calls and chat, if she chat you or call you, talk casually and be the first to leave the call and chat.
And Ultimately if she is not ready keep your eyes and mind open for new girl in your life.
The worst thing any man can do is giving a woman the impression that she holds the remote control to his decisions.

Start improving your attitude the moment she starts to behave normal. And by improving I mean follow the mirror strategy. If she start showing 30% interest then complement it with exact 30% an nothing more, nothing less.

I salute your intellectual prowess bro. I rate this opinion over �. You've just enlighten me on what to do from now on. Thanks so much bro!

DominusPrime:

My quote meant that if you go through threads on either romance or general sections and take a sample of the average mentality of ladies regarding dating broke men you'd realise that most of them aren't interested in people who are struggling and the ones who are are mostly young girls who are not yet exposed. The exposure changes their perception of the current boyfriend.
In a nutshell I'm saying that most of the girls if our generation will not stick with a broke man who has only sweet words and dreams to offer. I am also saying that the fact that they prefer a man who is more financially stable is not a bad thing or is not enough to say she is only after your money. Being after that money is part of the whole package. Would you work in a company that's not your father's own even if you have been offered better pay and job conditions somewhere else? No. You'd resign and move to the better company. Its because of the money you moved and not cos of the ion or love you have for the new company. I don't see why girls should now be termed gold diggers for simply wanting what men want naturally. Yes some are just gold diggers but let's not mistake a normal human trait for that. There are girls that get satisfied with the level of comfort their husband or guy can give and are not move by more. But such girls are rare. That's my point.

Alright. I respect your opinion bro. That means no sensible man should be after a lady without being financially buoyant? But this life is not fair at all you know

Foodqueen:
Don't chat her up again but don't lock all root of communications.

If she is really into u, she will start communicating with you.

Finally, a lady comment. So for me to know if she's truly into me is when she start conversation with me? Or when she calls me? What if she communicate with me on chats but her feelings about me have not change from the previous?

Carchoice:
you just wasted my time commenting on the thread. I thought you wanted her for something serious. How can you chase a lady for 11 months just to fvck her ?? I nor blame you. I blame mtn wey dash me 10mb to waste my comment on you.

Lol. You're funny. I wanted something more serious with her o but since she is not giving me a serious response so I think I need to sleep with her at least if I couldn't date her, let me taste her. I cannot short in two places now

PlsBanMe:
You are the a lucky guy and you don't even know it.
She is a boring girl. Your life will be miserable if you date or marry a boring girl. Use your head instead of your heart. Forget her and look for more interesting, more reasonable girls.

There are several girls who are decent and aren't boring.

Don't let yourself be the unlucky one to date a boring girl. Flee from her.

Nice input bro. I'll take to your heed

DominusPrime:

I love and respect your realistic views. But there are disadvantages to both.

You've already shed good light on the disadvantage of making money then going after the girls. They will most likely love you for the money. I have solved that already in my own way.

Now the problem with looking for the one you'd love now that you are yet to hammer. First if you are honest and she sees your vision and dreams she could love you as you are. That happens. But then ladies change, they grow, their needs increase with time. A young lady of 18 who is not interested in hair will one day at 22 suddenly realise she wants to buy Brazilian wig, or she needs the latest iphone. Then again the taste of luxury can scatter a girl's innocence. Imagine you meet her without a car and she loves you like that. One day a man will ask her out on a date with an AC tight car to a beautiful expensive place and she will experience or see things you cant afford to provide for her. Nobody is a slave to poverty. She will yearn for more of that. Yet it doesn't mean she doesn't love you. But with time the love will fade as she gets exposed to more of these things or she sees her friends enjoying. And then those same friends will encourage her to go out more and spoil you in front her as you won't be with them most times. Every young lady goes through this phase of life and this is usually when the ho.e phase starts. Most girls on this forum will attest to what I'm saying except the few that will falsely claim they don't like money. So unless you are fortunate to meet a girl who is way richer than you and does not care about riches or you meet a girl who somehow is kept away from the realities of this world or has no exposed friends you will be searching for a pin in a haystack. Such girls exist no doubt but what are your chances of finding them? Look at this forum and tell me how many girls you can describe like the simple ladies you want. Good luck finding such a girl sha.

Very nice input. But that your quote,"look at this forum and tell me how many girls you can describe like the simple ladies you want" is what I don't actually get, can you rephrase that quote in a more clarify way so I understand you. In a nutshell,what you're saying is that none of this generation girls can truly love a man except for his money.?

Rgade:
So 11 months wasn't enough to convince you she's made her decision?
You gotta ask yourself what you enjoy mehn.
Perhaps you're enjoying this cat and mouse game you're playing with her. Sometimes it's fun to keep chasing and chasing something seemingly out of reach; the girl keeps looking hotter and hotter everyday and you can't get enough of chasing and getting rejected, not even knowing if she'll agree one day.
I think that's a fetish or something.
If this what makes you happy,then keep shooting.
But if you're looking for a woman that will love you back and commit to a relationship with you, this chick clearly isn't her.

Disclaimer: what I just delivered should not be regarded as expert advice.

You're inspiring Sir. I love your advice and will take heed to it..

Carchoice:
forget what that ignorant poster is saying. What if you the OP is the boring one? Have you thought of that?


What if you have not been able to make her open up to you?

Even if you worwor or you you are so poor, so many beautiful and intelligent women out there still roll with ugly and poor guys but these guys are different with their game and balls.

Is there any other special way of making her open up to me than the one I have been doing for the past 11months now?