NewStats: 3,264,345 , 8,183,423 topics. Date: Tuesday, 10 June 2025 at 05:03 PM p566t

Successful men share one dark truth:

They buried their emotions early in life.

Now they walk through the world with a dead heart.

Pain is the greatest teacher in the universe. Run from it and it will chase you to the very end. Use it wisely and become a man of utmost character and integrity.

Money gives you choices. Power. Respect.

After Losing All Your Money

When it's gone, so are your “friends,” your girl, your peace.

You realize money doesn’t change you—it exposes those around you.

Most men don’t talk about it. The kind of pain that rewires your soul.
The loss. The betrayal. The silence that follows.
But it’s in those moments that something shifts.
Not weakness… but awakening.
The world doesn’t hand you strength. It forces you to build it in the dark.

It teaches you the game is rigged, and you better learn to be your own boss.

That pain forces you to grind harder, smarter, and never trust a paycheck again.

When a man buries a parent, he buries a part of himself.

The last person who cared for him unconditionally is gone.
He realizes: No one’s coming to hold me anymore.

You’ll never understand why the ones with the biggest hearts always get f*cked over.

- They give without keeping score.
- They see good in the worst.
- They fight for love, even when it’s one sided.
- Their silence is mistaken for weakness.
- Their kindness, for naivety.

But here’s the twist :

They don’t lose.
They just get sharper.
And when they rise.
They love smarter, not softer. ♟️

The Betrayal of a Woman You Truly Loved

You gave her your heart, your time, your dreams.

Then she lied. Cheated. Left.

It breaks something inside you that never heals the same.

Being Used for Your Kindness, Money, or Status

They smiled. They praised you.
But they were only there for what you gave, not who you are.

The moment you stopped giving they disappeared.

That betrayal builds discernment.
From that day, you learn to say “No” without guilt.

Because your value isn’t in what you provide it’s in your power to withhold.
That loss changes you.

You become cold… not out of hate, but out of self-preservation.

You don’t chase anymore. You attract or replace.

Being Abandoned When you Hit Rock Bottom

You were broke. Sick. Mentally drained.

And suddenly everyone vanished.

You sent texts. No replies.
You cried for help.

Nobody answered.
That moment teaches you the coldest truth: If you’re not useful, you’re invisible.

So you rebuild and never let yourself get that weak again.

Acidosis:


That means Jumia should be making more sales, right? Now go and check Jumia's sales volume in 2024/2025 vs. 2021/2022. 😂

Jumia may not because there is heavy competiton in that sector.
Many are making a killing marketing on tik-tok, facebook marketplace, jiji etc

Invest in yourself.
You can never lose; you'll either grow richer or wiser.

A man who is healing ALONE is a dangerous person.

If you don't work to build your own dream, someone will hire you and give you a purpose.

ZUBY77:
Every year

Oga Zuby.
Will you be in Morocco by December for the nation's cup? Maybe we can hangout there

moneymanager:


Sir, see all the adjectives you used
Comparatively, on the average, seemed, seem that bad.
With all due respect sir, if you will indulge me and not take my response as impertinent, this is a noncommittal tangentially misleading response.

ariesbull:
🇷🇺🚀 🇺🇦Military channels reported that an underground bunker containing 56 Storm Shadow missiles, 32 Patriot air defense missiles and 53 ATACMS missiles was destroyed in Ternopol.

These missiles were transferred to Ukraine 5 days ago.

5 days ago? which means freshly supplied.
Storm shadows from UK
Atacms from US if am right.
So much for those mediating and keep the good boy poster to the media

DeJoeee:
, the bolded got me laughing. On a serious note, naija girls are no longer marriageable, the sad truth and the major cause of all this. Even guys that are doing well hardly marry these days.

Marriage is not the only option of man/woman relationship.
There is babymama option, sex mate/bed mate, girlfriend/boyfriend staying together option and many more.
People stress themselves too much to something when there are less stressful options.
Just like life in general were not everyone will love in a duplex, there are some bungalow, some 3 bedroom flat, some self contain or face you I slap you.
Some will use cars, Keke, bike or foot
It is also with relationship. Everyone's situation is not cut off for marriage. Find the one that works for you

SocialJustice:
It is a national problem. Tinubu made everyone realise that if you have kids without money, you will suffer. Even garri is not cheap. I feel very sorry for those that can barely care for themselves but getting married because of societal pressure.

According to Geh Geh, you go cry tire. 😂

It is only the poor or poorly educated without money that are venturing into marriage now, good education and money seems to be natural marriage and birth control for many.

Even if Dem no marry, the women go still dey get belle.
Abi what do we say about ladies popping up with pregnancies up and down with any visible man in their life? The hardship still continues albeit by a single ladies taking care of the babies instead of 2 heads.
No matter the hardship, sex will not stop, pregnancies will continue popping up leading to having massive single mothers that will even become cheaper to get laid with

Zonefree:



Aside financial constraints, Nigerian girls are becoming scary these days. How can one girl finish one big loaf of bread in one sitting?
No be bandit be that?

STRENGTH ISN’T A CHOICE. IT’S THE ONLY OPTION LEFT.

They say, What doesn’t kill u makes u stronger.

But they forget to mention it also makes u colder.
More savage. More guarded. Less trusting.

Life doesn’t build strong men through comfort.
It breaks them first.
It humbles them.
It tests them with betrayal, heartbreak, loss, and silence.

You trusted too much? Now u read people twice.
You loved too deeply? Now your heart has armor.
You were too kind? Now you move with calculation.

Because once you’ve been used, overlooked, betrayed, and left for dead
You stop hoping for rescue.
You become the weapon.

You realize strength isn’t a vibe.
It’s not a trend.
It’s the only thing that keeps you from being stepped on.

So let them talk.
Let them say you’ve changed.
Let them call you cold, heartless, different.
They weren’t there in the trenches with you.
They didn’t see what it took to rebuild what they destroyed.

Because here’s the brutal truth:

The world doesn’t care about your pain.
It only respects the beast that pain built.

So stay cold.
Stay calculated.
Stay dangerous with purpose.

As for me bro, pain taught me silence.
Silence taught me strength.
n Strength made me wise.
Now I walk with depth.

Your peace is earned through power.
Your healing comes with scars.
Master yourself, or suffer with the rest.

The pathway to SelfMastery is the way.

As copied

emmaodet:
Nobody checks on men until they’re successful again.

Go broke for a minute.

Watch how fast the love turns into silence.

This is why men grind in private and trust very few.

This is the harsh truth a lot of men live with , love often feels conditional. When a man stumbles, the world gets quiet. The calls stop. The fades.
That's why so many men suffer in silence, rebuild alone, and keep their wins private. Not out of pride, but because experience taught them that loyalty is rare, and silence reveals everything.

Isolation is the price a man pays when he starts to fix his life.

Nobody checks on men until they’re successful again.

Go broke for a minute.

Watch how fast the love turns into silence.

This is why men grind in private and trust very few.

joeyswift:
I present to you the leaders of tomorrow.

Olachase:
The only advice I have for you

Don't settle for a single mom

According to what one poster said look out Nigeria try Ghana or Kenya 400k as income is something bro

Nigerian girls don't love they're just after the money

I know what my sister did to her husband

Gbaunss!!

flokii:
Nowadays, na who wan chop your money full outside.. majority of them are vendors doing home delivery.

CTee1:


Seriously, I’ve tried several relationships to no avail. It’s now hungership… 90% of them dey hustle u…

Gerrard59:

Children raised in the two parent household have better prospects than those raised in single parent homes. That's the global result. So all these baby-mama comes across as irresponsibilty. It's hard to see a responsible man intentionally state he wants to have a baby-mama arrangement.

Which lane are you actually Gerrard?
You always women being financially independent and mostly don't need men again nowadays since their is intimacy gadget and they can finance their own lifestyle. You also not shamming women for sexual liberation because it is their body and they can use it how they feel without men breeding down on them.
Then, somehow you are worried the same men shouldn't go the babymama way because kids raised under this condition are mostly social misfit and such men are dead-beat dads.
Let me tell you a truth - The moment we accept women sexual liberation aka women can be shameless without been judged, the "dead-beat dad" statement too goes out of the window.
There are no more dead beat dads because you can't use a metric for a man while exonerating the woman.
There can't be a jailer, if there are no prisoners.
The same law that apply to a masquerade apply to a person using hijab because they are both covered.
Nature will always find it's balance irrespective of human's sentiment or biasness.
Lastly, no reasonable person invests where their interest is not protected. The men of olden days were not just responsible (this is debated anyway), ready to die for their women and fight for the village to protect their women and kids. They did that out of the personal conviction that the women are their properties. It is the same way you will fight to the end the land you buy and someone wants to take it away from you.
But when you have properties that can be taken away from you easily without you saying love-vendor, that property becomes a risky investment to do.
If investing my sweat on a lady/relationship, sometimes send her to school, put her on monthly payment, take her abroad etc and she can just wake up to say she is not doing again or give me a bastard or just cheating on me without any repercussion, rather am been laughed at to move on, then it is only natural that survival instinct will kick-off relationship-wise. It will never be about what the kids will turn out to be or whatnot, my survival, sweat, investment is on the line and nothing else people say or gaslighting or emotional blackmailing will do.

yMcy56:

Loco wey suppose be our marketer don get trapped inside Ellah bus, he don become investor by force..... 😁

*Updated*

Investor BJ

Coolcash1:


And the debt burden continues to balloon whilst crude oil price is falling casting serious doubt on the ability of the assets to repay these humongous debt.

Today’s pump is one of the strategies to be deployed by the top management to counter the negative audit opinion and sentiments about the ability of the entity to continue to exist as a going concern.

Anyway, my exit strategy remains intact and very solid.

To newbies on this forum, don’t fall for the merchants of evil trying so hard on this platform to promote this moribund stock if you’re not ready to lose your shirt.

Forget anything about investing your hard earned funds in this disguised “CIBEX”.

It’s the dog that wants to get lost that ignores the whistle of its owner.

Ire o.

Una too get bad mouth for this group

Gerrard59:
You better appreciate what you see o. Some of us don't get to even see yan... let alone sh. The one that pains me the most is breasts!

God! I have suffered!

Chaii !!!

Gerrard59:
The comments here and on Twitter say a lot about the founder's persona and business practices. Besides, it is not every business model that works abroad would work in Nigeria. Basic trading and manufacturing are the key businesses to propel Nigerians' economic growth. People need to earn comfortably and consistently before they can afford alternative entertainment. And one wonders why the Indians, Chinese and Lebanese thrive. Why won't they when they solve basic problems? The other day, some cl0wns on Twitter mocked Dangote for building a refinery, whereas his American counterparts are releasing tech services and updates. Many ignor.ant people with access to the Internet. Na Obasanjo caused all this thing.

Acidosis:
Any subscription-based pay-TV programme that concentrates fully on the Nigerian market will fail. There's no other way. You either go the way of YouTube and Spotify by bombarding people with ads to make up for their low purchasing power and poverty, or pack up. Another way is to make your money by stealing data, then sell to willing partners abroad. But if your aim is to convince Nigerians to pay for streams, apps, or anything they can easily get a counterfeit from China or a fraudulently-hacked alternative that allow multiple s (e.g., Truecaller Pro, Canvas, Capcut, Netflix, Apple Music etc.), you have already failed before you even begin. They will never pay because they can't afford it.

Unfortunately, we don't even see our inability to afford basic things like that as a problem because of our strong affinity for failed governance. In fact, Nigerians consider their low purchasing power and inability to afford the very basic things of life as smartness because there is always that fake engineer and hacker willing to by the due process as well as a professional politician willing to convince them to exercise the same level of patience their great grandparents had.

Ordinary Grammarly Pro subscription, many can't afford. Microsoft Office installation, they still can't afford, instead we run to computer village, the home of fake counterfeit software, looking for a fake uncertified engineer to install a fake software or a fake movie site that sells their data to American and Chinese companies for crumbs.