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Hello Ladies

On good information. a Recent Economic Sampling Survey Shows Men aged 30-39 years , Unmarried, and Never Married. in Abuja


Ladies there are a lot of Unmarried Men hitting their 40s, yet unmarried

ACCORDING to the sample Survey. Abuja was used only


The first reason was
1. Financial Constraints/Economic Reasons


2. Financially Able Men, Complaining of The Poor Quality of Available Ladies in the Dating Pool.
Men Complaining of No Wife Material.


3. Men who have their own Baggage, e.g Addiction, Health Constraints, Spiritual Baggage, Character Deficiency. etc


Men are equally very Unhappy and worried about their Unmarried Status at almost 40s
The difference is that men are not as Emotional as women, and they dont have the Menopause Scare, or better put, they dont have any business with menopause, that why they dont go on Social Media Rants


Nevertheless, the unmarried men without children also feel depressed or unhappy at some point


i will throw more light on this Thread later.

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Happy Deliberations.

Single dad!

It is a national problem. Tinubu made everyone realise that if you have kids without money, you will suffer. Even garri is not cheap. I feel very sorry for those that can barely care for themselves but getting married because of societal pressure.

According to Geh Geh, you go cry tire. 😂

It is only the poor or poorly educated without money that are venturing into marriage now, good education and money seems to be natural marriage and birth control for many.

The first reason was 1. Financial Constraints/Economic Reasons

Aside financial constraints, Nigerian girls are becoming scary these days. How can one girl finish one big loaf of bread in one sitting?
No be bandit be that?

Let me book my slot now.

, the bolded got me laughing. On a serious note, naija girls are no longer marriageable, the sad truth and the major cause of all this. Even guys that are doing well hardly marry these days.

Zonefree:



Aside financial constraints, Nigerian girls are becoming scary these days. How can one girl finish one big loaf of bread in one sitting?
No be bandit be that?

This na front page material, make I take position here

Zonefree:



Aside financial constraints, Nigerian girls are becoming scary these days. How can one girl finish one big loaf of bread in one sitting?
No be bandit be that?

That's how I saw sine set of 15 years old girl chat..
One was saying I saw one fine boy using 13 Pro max ..
I want him to toast me so I can spend his money...
Just imagine their mentality at that age..
It goes for the guys too most guys do not have same too ..
Nigerians a creating weak parents this days there is nothing like home training again .
Even my strict aunty a pikin Worst 14 years plus already doing yahoo and carrying hook-up at the end of the day we will be alright

The level of prosperity has dwindled in recent times.

And many guys have actually not put their lives in order and this is becoming a norm.

Some have turned low key gays making women unattractive to them.

No-one wants to learn hand made work but wasting away like APC influencers

Unfavourable govt policies and all sorts.

SocialJustice:
It is a national problem. Tinubu made everyone realise that if you have kids without money, you will suffer. Even garri is not cheap. I feel very sorry for those that can barely care for themselves but getting married because of societal pressure.

According to Geh Geh, you go cry tire. 😂

It is only the poor or poorly educated without money that are venturing into marriage now, good education and money seems to be natural marriage and birth control for many.

Even if Dem no marry, the women go still dey get belle.
Abi what do we say about ladies popping up with pregnancies up and down with any visible man in their life? The hardship still continues albeit by a single ladies taking care of the babies instead of 2 heads.
No matter the hardship, sex will not stop, pregnancies will continue popping up leading to having massive single mothers that will even become cheaper to get laid with

DeJoeee:
, the bolded got me laughing. On a serious note, naija girls are no longer marriageable, the sad truth and the major cause of all this. Even guys that are doing well hardly marry these days.

Marriage is not the only option of man/woman relationship.
There is babymama option, sex mate/bed mate, girlfriend/boyfriend staying together option and many more.
People stress themselves too much to something when there are less stressful options.
Just like life in general were not everyone will love in a duplex, there are some bungalow, some 3 bedroom flat, some self contain or face you I slap you.
Some will use cars, Keke, bike or foot
It is also with relationship. Everyone's situation is not cut off for marriage. Find the one that works for you

emmaodet:


Even if Dem no marry, the women go still dey get belle.
Abi what do we say about ladies popping up with pregnancies up and down with any visible man in their life? The hardship still continues albeit by a single ladies taking care of the babies instead of 2 heads.
No matter the hardship, sex will not stop, pregnancies will continue popping up leading to having massive single mothers that will even become cheaper to get laid with

Did you see the part I wrote about poor and poorly educated people? They are the ones you're talking about here, educated and middle class people don't have babies they can't care for. It is the bottom of pyramid people that will always continue with odd lifestyle they can't .

See what Nigeria politicians has put us. Useless set of criminals. Tell me if buhari did well and this drugged did better alot of job opportunities will be everywhere. Nigeria men aren't weak the government are the major problem see olosho everywhere because of hardship how man go take settle down. To marry no supposed hard like this honestly

It is APC, Buhari and Tinubu's fault.
The number of unmarried single men increased from 2016 till date.
The APC government made Nigerian youths broke.

Let me address Nigerian Men Categorically



2. Financially Able Men, Complaining of The Poor Quality of Available Ladies in the Dating Pool.
Men complaining of lack of marriage material. as one of the reason that Nigerian Men are hitting 40 saying they can not find quality Ladies

The crop of Ladies we find now in the society is a 100 percent reflection of the kind of men we have, you hear people like that Edo baba pablo calling Women Iron Condemn.


Let me take That Edo baba for Example. He encourages Men to get Married to Virgins,
that an awesome advice, isnt it.
i am also a pro-chastity advocate... because i was . The bible said Marriage is Honerable. Bed undefiled.
The question is you, Uncle i must marry a VIRGIN. I hope you are staying a virgin also.
real will always recognize Real.

looking for ideal woman in character and chastity. yet you as a man, you are living intentional living a promiscuous Lifestyle... because your funds can afford it. God is a jealous God he will not allow meet that good woman, even if you see her you will not trecognise her as a wife material.
you Nigerian men looking for a God fearing Kim Kardashian
a holy ghost filled, good charactered Kim K

U want a woman to have a glowing skin
clear complexion,

nice Curved Hips and Breast
Clear Skin no acnes

she should be good in bed and yet she should be a humble virgin with a good character in one breadth
you all men are Delusional


meet a guy today, next thing, he is pressuring you to come to his house

i shake my head for Nigerian Men

keep sleeping around with the loose women. but dont expect the good women to resurface suddenly in the body of an instagram model or video vixen. i think promiscious Nigerian men need to mole their own wifes and breath air into them gaskia.

its the delusional grandeur thinking for me...
the crop of the transaction ladies you have in the dating pool now, is a result of the beast you all created.


imagine inthe early 2006,2009, 2011
a nigerian man on 2go or wherever will lure an innocent girl, buy her lunch and sleep with her, ghost her
he will go on a spree with 10 more girl
free Bleep and she chop blocking.
now in 2025 all those girls have all gone transactional

the age of high awareness on social media
yahoo uprising
odogwu menace etc

Zonefree:



Aside financial constraints, Nigerian girls are becoming scary these days. How can one girl finish one big loaf of bread in one sitting?
No be bandit be that?

Lol. Omo na bandit oh

Adanambra1:
Let me address Nigerian Men Categorically



2. Financially Able Men, Complaining of The Poor Quality of Available Ladies in the Dating Pool.
Men complaining of lack of marriage material. as one of the reason that Nigerian Men are hitting 40 saying they can not find quality Ladies

The crop of Ladies we find now in the society is a 100 percent reflection of the kind of men we have, you hear people like that Edo baba pablo calling Women Iron Condemn.


Let me take That Edo baba for Example. He encourages Men to get Married to Virgins,
that an awesome advice, isnt it.
i am also a pro-chastity advocate... because i was . The bible said Marriage is Honerable. Bed undefiled.
The question is you, Uncle i must marry a VIRGIN. I hope you are staying a virgin also.
real will always recognize Real.

looking for ideal woman in character and chastity. yet you as a man, you are living intentional living a promiscuous Lifestyle... because your funds can afford it. God is a jealous God he will not allow meet that good woman, even if you see her you will not trecognise her as a wife material.
you Nigerian men looking for a God fearing Kim Kardashian
a holy ghost filled, good charactered Kim K

U want a woman to have a glowing skin
clear complexion,

nice Curved Hips and Breast
Clear Skin no acnes

she should be good in bed and yet she should be a humble virgin with a good character in one breadth
you all men are Delusional


meet a guy today, next thing, he is pressuring you to come to his house

i shake my head for Nigerian Men

keep sleeping around with the loose women. but dont expect the good women to resurface suddenly in the body of an instagram model or video vixen. i think promiscious Nigerian men need to mole their own wifes and breath air into them gaskia.

its the delusional grandeur thinking for me...
the crop of the transaction ladies you have in the dating pool now, is a result of the beast you all created.


imagine inthe early 2006,2009, 2011
a nigerian man on 2go or wherever will lure an innocent girl, buy her lunch and sleep with her, ghost her
he will go on a spree with 10 more girl
free Bleep and she chop blocking.
now in 2025 all those girls have all gone transactional

the age of high awareness on social media
yahoo uprising
odogwu menace etc

weewww

most men can not control their sexual urge, yet you want to marry a virgin
if we have 1000 men in a comunity and 90 of such men have slept with atleast 2 ladies aged 13 to 30 in the same society. Nairaland, please i ask you all how many Virgin will be left.

please can men start taking resposiblity of this beast, you all have created. can social media start campaign against men who use money bait just to hook wink and sleep with ladies... as you are luring those girls with urgent 10k and getting sex... someone another predatory man is doing same to your sisters.

because i understand that we Ladies we actually do have chicken brain attimes.

i know a lady in her early 20s Now

she is sleeping with Tom , Dick and Harry
just to furnish her new accomotion, she buying fridge, Fan, Microwave, wardrobe, Bed Mattress , all worth over 1 million
yet her monthly salary is 50k
she does not have a degree yet. very very pretty lady


i am tired of advising her.

that why we have ladies in their early 20s looking 30s

a body of 22yrs with an engine of 40
innocence gone
girly aura disappears
your girls wearing good wig, but already spent... crazy mileages

thanks to you all men, for the mileage and baggage

the Beast you don't tame today. will come after you tomorrow

suzzyboss:
That's how I saw sine set of 15 years old girl chat..
One was saying I saw one fine boy using 13 Pro max ..
I want him to toast me so I can spend his money...
Just imagine their mentality at that age..
It goes for the guys too most guys do not have same too ..
Nigerians a creating weak parents this days there is nothing like home training again .
Even my strict aunty a pikin Worst 14 years plus already doing yahoo and carrying hook-up at the end of the day we will be alright

any woman you are sleeping with now. is currently sleeping other men now or even during marriage

Some of these girls are like Fanta share the fun. 😊

If you aren't married and you don't have a child you might want to be thankful. Look at the way the world is going. Ask yourself, is this the world you want to bring a child in?

If we are to believe the survey results (you did not cite the study), it also means there is an equal number of ladies who are unmarried.

- One, in today's world, many people wouldn't get married. This is not necessarily a Nigerian thing, but a global issue and for varying reasons.
- Two, the major cause for ours is the state of the economy. As of June 2025, the economy has not hit a 5% GDP growth rate. The last time we had a GDP growth rate above 5% was with Jonathan's istration. The population has ballooned to more than 200m (I find this figure debatable anyway), but there are fewer economic opportunities. Unlike the '90s, when tertiary education was not widespread, many would not marry today because of what they know.
- Three, women now earn their money, so modern day women have added more requirements for the kind of men they want beyond "he can provide". Yes, women have maintained their hypergamy, but this time, they want more from their would-be husbands because they, too, earn their money. So, a significant proportion wouldn't mind remaining single forever, going the route of surrogacy (we recently had a "freeze your eggs" debate) or even marrying other women. Again, this was not widespread 30 years ago. Things have changed.
- Fewer economic opportunities for men as more women have ed the workforce. Women have maintained their hypergamy even though they have grabbed 50% of the economic opportunities which would have gone to men. I don't think society should have a situation where many men don't have access to plenty of economic opportunities.
- Lastly, there is the alpha male and ndi ifeminisim ideologies, but I don't think these are major causes.

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Adanambra1:
most men can not control their sexual urge, yet you want to marry a virgin
if we have 1000 men in a comunity and 90 of such men have slept with atleast 2 ladies aged 13 to 30 in the same society. Nairaland, please i ask you all how many Virgin will be left.
please can men start taking resposiblity of this beast, you all have created. can social media start campaign against men who use money bait just to hook wink and sleep with ladies... as you are luring those girls with urgent 10k and getting sex... someone another predatory man is doing same to your sisters. girly aura disappears
your girls wearing good wig, but already spent... crazy mileages thanks to you all men, for the mileage and baggage the Beast you don't tame today. will come after you tomorrow

Many Nigerian men, especially those in the south, find it hard to accept the reality that the ideology behind "we are polygamous by nature" fuels the hookup trade, and as such, it would be difficult to have virgins. We cannot have men who pursue teens complain in five years time that there are no virgins. As long as men hunt for women to have sexual pleasure without marrying them, there will be an equal number of women who aren't virgins. These women don't sleep with themselves.

I don talk tire:
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kingbee90:
It is APC, Buhari and Tinubu's fault.
The number of unmarried single men increased from 2016 till date.
The APC government made Nigerian youths broke.

Thank you!

To add, the insecurity and wanton destruction of communities, especially in the north-central, has been exacerbated under Buhari and continues to date. Entire communities were razed and their men butchered. I recall a Nairalander who stated that he met many young ladies in Nasarawa who had children without husbands because their husbands were slaughtered by Fulani herdsmen. So there is this large number of single mothers whose husbands have been brutally murdered, a growing number of young single women who want husbands and a growing number of young men whose economic growth has been truncated. Mind you, during this same period of Buhari, the rate of hookup swelled as I have been following Nairaland for 10 years, but did not notice the discourse or topic as of 2010 - 2015. Economic servitude pushed many into it. Add social media and a liberal sexual media, it has turned into an industry.

Many Nigerians are ignorant and arrogant about the calamity the incompetent cattle rearer brought upon the country. A man whose antecedents date back to 1984, yet so-called educated people campaigned and voted for him in 2015 because he promised to phight kwarruption.

I’m Unmarried but i have a baby mama…

If the statistics is to be believed. We are not surprised.

And it will get worse more and more.

At last, baby mama and baby daddy will become order of the day in our society like the Yankees.

Since we copy copy from them, most especially naija ladies, following their women.

The country's economy is not smiling at us. If they aren't getting married it's their choice. , they're the major providers and any man who cannot provide for his family is worse than an infidel.

Who get time for marriage

Adanambra1:
Hello Ladies

On good information. a Recent Economic Sampling Survey Shows Men aged 30-39 years , Unmarried, and Never Married. in Abuja

Please where is the link to this survey and study?

Let me enlighten you guys. This is something that surely will happen to any country practising capitalism.

This phenomenon has been happening for some years back to top teir countries like South Korea, Europe, Japan etc.

It became more pronounced after Covid to 3rd world countries. Inflation and high cost of living has increased the rate of single men and women.

Go research what is happening in South Korea, China, Japan, Europe. High decline rate in marriages and child birth. (The population of single ladies in China is more than half the population of Nigeria)

It was fortold to happen in Bible and it can only get worse until we go back to our fore fathers way of everyone having a subsistence farming practice.

Na man wey chop belleful dey marry