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It’s all about optics, outlook and perspective. She may have dated people in the past who didn’t mind these things. The question is do you mind? If you do it’s your responsibility to communicate your displeasure to her.

It’s up to her to decide what’s worth more to her, you or the other guys. It’s up to you to decide on how to proceed based on her decision.

If you have put in all these efforts and they haven’t yielded results it’s because you are not an attractive person. My suggestions to you are;

1. Referral - Talk to your married friends and relatives, tell them you want a wife. Most married people always have those single friends who are willing to settle down asap. The downside of this is your wife may not like you, she just wants to marry.

2. Platonic friends - stop chasing something serious, look for friends, while most people make platonic friends in childhood, teen and early youth, it’s not too late for you. The goal is your friend may fall in love with your personality. Your looks, status or whatever makes girls not to reply your messages wouldn’t matter to her.

3. Give up - Jesus did not get married.

He most likely never liked you or he got tired of you. All the maltreatment was him pushing you away, you just didn’t take the clue.

What’s happened has happened, forgive yourself for your lack of self respect and move on. Do better next time.

She wanted the outing not you. She could not tell you she wasn’t going to come, seeing as you spent money in anticipation of a private moment with her.

Imagine you meet a girl today and she starts talking about marriage tomorrow, would her desperation not scare you? Thats the same way your desperation to knack scares her.

Where’s the fun in that? If he replaces her husband another guy will replace him.

Most of Trump ers are racists.

The Yorubas don’t have to dispel sheet! The hate & name calling was on both sides. There were also more yorubas condemning the outburst. Noble should stop playing the victim.

APC wasn’t responsible for the polarization, it’s not the first time Yorubas and Igbos have clashed, it won’t be the last either.

One reason they are one of the happiest country in the world.

There are many women who saw short term courtship as a blessing. They got married, got divorced after two years and are back to chasing the guys they once called time wasters.

You were a good girl but your desire to get a husband did not come to fruition, you then believe the solution to getting someone to marry you fast is to be disloyal?

The reason your man isn’t in a haste to get married is because there’s another lady who has taken your advice to not be loyal, she’s cheating on her own bf with your man. The opportunity cost of marrying you is that he would have to give up the pleasures of being with the other girl.

The bottom line is marriage is not the ultimate, there are relationships that are way better than some people marriages. If you leave a decent human being because he’s not ready in six months, whatever you see in the hands of 4ck boys out there is your cross to bear.

These days I don’t find any Naija comedian funny except for Aproko. There was a time when comedians did it for the ion, these days it’s all for the money. Comedians today just dance, insult the audience and bill e-money.

Being called stingy by a lady should be seen as a compliment. It means you are prudent and you have your priorities in order.

When you have gathered enough even your stinginess will be considered generosity as opposed to a generous broke man. Imagine you have 100m and assist a lady with 500k, would she not appreciate you over someone who has 150k, who gives her 50k?

Everybody should be scared of marriage. If there was a research that 50% of airplanes will experience a crash, would you not be scared of flying? Infact if you aren’t scared of marriage I’m scared of you.

He can’t wait for her to enjoy her record for one month? Let’s see how far he goes. 93 hours to go.

A more suitable analogy would be; you go to a dealership to buy a car, you try to test the car but it wouldn’t start. You then conclude the reason it wouldn’t start is because you haven’t paid for it. Your assumption is, once you pay and tow it home, it’s very likely to start functioning properly.

Are you saying married women don’t go out with other guys? Are they also keeping their options open? This is how you assume yourselves into bad marriages then start disturbing people with tales of your marital woes.

There are no family abroad to call for family meetings. Many marriages in Nigeria are been held together by family meetings.

A party decides they’ve had enough and want out, the couple’s family organizes an intervention for them. How will you insist on leaving when your mother in-law kneels with tears in her eyes to apologize on behalf of her child?

Elders intervention on phone doesn’t have the same effect as in person.

There’s no chance at a better life with his friend. So the comfortable bachelor has been waiting his whole life to marry a divorcee who’s known to cheat on her husband with his friends?

This is possibly why he has chosen to remain single. You are probably not the first married woman he’s slept with. If he decides to be with you, the opportunity of sleeping with other married women like yourself diminishes.

My only advice to her is to not leave her marriage because she thinks there’s a chance with Mr friend or she could, and learn from experience.

The average 30 year old today has had between 3-4 relationship that started out good but failed. How you think getting the 5th and promising forever changes anything beats the imagination.

I think people get married today to satisfy the society, then in the marriage they begin to look for their own satisfaction.

If you do your findings, one of them was tired before the marriage, they just had to see it through for their family and society, they will continue that way in marriage, tired but holding on for family -immediate and extended.

‘’She argued that no reasonable woman would abandon a partner who treated her fairly and justly while they were still in Nigeria’’

Getting a reasonable one is often where the problem lies innit.

Anytime I got into an acrimony argument with a lady, I ask one question. If you were the other lady who picked him up from dirt and helped him prosper, would you be happy if he returned to his ex wife? That question usually ends the argument.

It will make sense that the guy would connect more with a Nigerian girl than with girls from other Nationalities. He’s is Nigerian. Whenever I meet a Nigerian girl, the friendship and laughter is instantaneous, it’s like we have known ourselves since forever.

One of the pros of been with a Nigerian girl is the predictability. You were raised the same way, you know how she moves.

One of the cons is see finish. You are just another Nigerian guy she could be with. Unlike if you were with a Kenyan, Somalian or South African.

Once you start having sex without condom, it’s almost impossible to go back to the use of condom. You may filter the kind of people you sleep with as a form of protection.

From experience, men control sexual activities. You want sex, you have to initiate it, you want a particular style, you put her in that position, you want head, you push her head towards your bick, you want protection, you wrap it up.

The conversation you had about visiting platonic friends should have happened at the the beginning of the relationship. These are the things you should have ironed out to ensure your values aligned.

Some people will soon arrive to call you insecure and tell you she would have deleted those chats if they weren’t platonic but you are a guy, you’ve had female friends and you know how it goes down.

In my opinion, begin a new relationship. List out your deal breakers and ensure you are on the same page before you proceed. So when these deals are broken, it’s clear she knew the right thing to do, she just didn’t find you deserving of it.

How are you sure they hate you because you have more money? They may hate you because you have a bad character. You are a pauper to some other people, do you hate those people?

Either ways not everyone will like you, if you think people hate you, it may be because you hate them.

He will resume talking to you next month when you must have paid your house rent.

The ex-husband/new husband deserves what he’s getting. They say the money made by the fool will be spent by the wise. The woman married by a fool will be banged by the wise!

The curves looks like a disability. Like she got in an accident and dislocated a t.

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Some foolish ladies would say, they are cheat, .....yet emotional chest is even killing than real cheat, 75% of ladies involved in such non sense, most especially from bestie angle.

I guess they had a distance relationship, when she was in Awka she could talk to the guy for 4hrs a day and nobody would care. He would have found out if they really dated. It’s his cross to carry.

At the end of the day, single guys deserve to have sex too and it’s easier to get it from someone in a committed relationship. So one man’s loss is another man’s gain.

Have you ever told yourself, I am going to drink some harmless water? I’m going to have a harmless sleep? If you use harmless before a word then there’s a possibility of it been harmful and you have to go close to find out e.g. harmless snakes, harmless bulldogs etc.

You are not the first student the man is taking on a harmless date, you won’t be the last. There’s a reason every man in the comment section is saying the same thing. Men know how men think.

Nothing said here will stop you from doing what you want to do. Just don’t get caught. The dating scene isn’t kind to even single women talkless of a divorced single mother.

WWHD-What would Hakimi do?

On a more serious note, you are married to her so your options are really limited. This is why women want to marry ASAP. They tell you a real man knows what he wants, he can marry you 2hrs after meeting you. This is why most long term relationships seldom leads to marriage. When you know someone enough, the idea of forever with them starts looking scary.

Your wife may not like the guy but she has to keep him happy if the money is to continue coming. One day he will lure her over with a gift, then what?

When men discover things like this and out of distrust decide to hide things from such woman people start shouting mummy’s boy, not a real man bla bla.

There’s nothing like one last sex, the sex will continue even in marriage.

Well, how do I know it was just a dance? Am I sure she didn’t go to the hotel with him or she wouldn’t have gone if he asked.

I would breakup If it’s a girl I like, obviously I had higher expectations of her. If the emotions aren’t high with her then we can continue playing till she gets tired.