NewStats: 3,264,181 , 8,182,886 topics. Date: Tuesday, 10 June 2025 at 04:52 AM 6s3412

Obavoh:


Thank you for the insult sir.

My wife and Children are living the best life I can give. We are not hungry we are not suffering.

I earn 150,000 Naira monthly and take good care of my family for your information.

See our dinner last night. None of my children goes to bed with an empty stomach

Well I understand Ur situation happened suddenly and U had to make do with what's available so no qualms. Keep hustling and planning bro. But 7 kids with a woman and it's like U still want more lol it's Ur choice oo... Just try to upgrade first before adding more people to the team cos as they're getting older it's improper to be in same room space with u and Ur wife. God is Ur strength bro

Xavier0978:
Hey guys,

Please, I need your opinion on this issue. So I’ve known my girlfriend since NYSC 2019, and ever since then, we’ve been best of friends. I travelled out in 2022, but we still kept in touch and from there we started dating. I’m 29 and she’s also 29. Honestly, I have plans to settle down and marry her when things are right.

A quick note: she’s been trying to come over to meet me as a student ever since I got here, but for one reason or the other it hasn’t worked out (Canada visa rejections and all). Now, she’s talking about how she plans to settle down before her next birthday and even suggested that I marry her while she waits in Nigeria for a maximum of two years before ing me. She really just wants to get married.

To be honest, I currently work and I’m also doing another master’s program in a very reputable institution here in Canada, and I will be done this year. The stress of working and schooling is a lot, and my current workplace pays the barest minimum. I literally have nothing left after sorting out all my bills and expenses. I’m not financially ready to settle down right now, and I even gave her a timeline of two years. Worst case, no matter what, we’ll settle down in two years max. Let me try and fix things for myself here. I can’t marry and bring someone’s daughter here to come and suffer.

I’m a worried person. My dreams are really big and God knows I’m working tirelessly to achieve them. She also knows because I discuss everything with her. Honestly, I understand her point of view, but I’m the kind of person that gets really anxious easily. It would kill me to get married, have kids, and not be able to cater for them.

I know you can’t have everything financially before settling down, but I want at least a moderately stable job. One that allows me to take care of her confidently even if she comes over and doesn’t work immediately. To be honest, my job pay is very low, like unimaginably low, and I’m just barely surviving. I’ve pictured every possible scenario, thinking and planning ahead, but everything is pointing to one answer — I’m not ready.

Considering her age and the kind of person she is, I strongly believe that after marriage she will want kids and to start building a family. That’s not a bad thing, but I, as a man, don’t want to get stuck in that life yet because I know the kind of future I envision. I’ve always promised myself that I won’t raise a family on “manage-manage.” I feel like if I get married now and start raising a family, my focus will shift entirely to making sure they live well, which could make me lose track of my personal goals.

I swear, I know my girlfriend loves me. That’s not in doubt. But I’ve been pleading with her to give me at least two more years. If after that things are still not great, then we’ll settle down and manage until something better comes.

Right now, to be honest, I don’t even have anything financially to plan a small wedding, and I definitely won’t borrow or ask anyone for financial to do a wedding.

Please, I want your honest opinion. The two options here are: either get married before this time next year or end the relationship now, as there are other people already asking for her hand in marriage.

She's manipulating U with her desperation to get married and trust me U will regret it sooner than later if U fall for the bs... Face Ur journey and conquer all U need to and if she's for U she will be available and find ways to help U succeed for both of U but now she's only for herself and how U still can't see this beats me. She really loves U? Really? Make we test am? Lol Baba ur just 29 with great opportunities before U breath in and out and take full advantage of everything. If I were U I would let her go. Marriage is more than saying I love U or baby this and that. It's a journey and the girl is walking alone oh sorry she's about to use U to climb... U really are on a long long ride bro 😁

Starz825:
Use the block button if you feel anyone's handshake has gone beyond the elbow...the person won't get to see your post again for a week or two

Meanwhile, you won't see theirs either for same duration.

Interesting but I think it's totally unnecessary for this forum

Mariangeles:
I'm wondering the same thing too, and I honestly would like to know.
Make I know how many people I wan block. 😀

Lool U go block taya 😂

Lol Maria... Oh sorry Mariangeles, Come and listen to this Sound of Music 😁

Brandiebird:
How are people not understanding op. He wanted to tell his cousin (male) that he dated the girl. Dating can and does include being intimate with her!

His cousin knows/knew this but nobody wants to dirty their mouth. When op was ready to spill the beans his cousin told him that he's marrying the girl BECAUSE SHE IS PREGNANT FOR HIM!

Why is everyone acting all Holly or dumb? His cousin knows they slept together. People are so slow today that they need someone to spoon feed them!

His cousin knows! Op has made it clear. They ate expecting a baby and want to move on. Damn. Op, you tried!

Now try to move on and stay Cordial. Visit, send gifts, stay away from his wife and continue your brotherhood/friendship with your cousin.

I wonder why people are acting dumb too... Anyways if I were the OP I would cut my cousin off ASAP no friendship just cordial phone calls and we only meet at family occasions. How can U be fvcking the same girl I had. Such a guy can still go for Ur ex wife if there's one. No moral codes or respect for anything anymore. It's why they die like chickens cos they don't even know or apply the golden rules of life. If he didn't know it's different but he knew and still went for it... Damn

Mariangeles:
So, what is the issue?
Why did you bring such a private family matter here?

You're jealous, if not, you wouldn't have brought their business here.

They're living their lives happily.
Be happy for them, and move on with your life.

Really? U see no issues with dating relatives and settling with one of them after sampling both or after both have sampled U rather? Leave jealousy out of this. There are some things that's inappropriate and would always breed disharmony. Na wah oh

Thundafireseun:
Edo people are serial betrayals….
I have said this before and I will keep saying it

Lol this one is confusing Edo for Yoruba people. Edo no dey betray if we dey do U we dey do U clearly without fear

Mariangeles:


Honestly. That is what most of them do.


Dkidd, come and carry your Edo sister!

TrennixGLOBAL:


[email protected]

Noted... Been very busy. Will send U a mail now

Hahahaha... Online and offline prostitutes. Na them dey claim boss lady and boss bitchhx. I wonder for how long though. Make Ur money how U can but create an escape and don't be too far gone else the money won't be able to save U in the end ✌️

So I noticed the block button on here and I'm wondering what exactly is it's function?

Seunpapa65:
Dinner from last night fried egg with custard

Strangest combo ever

korexes:
Everything plate

Kimchi cabbage (first attempt)
Eggs
Plantain
Pork
Rice & stew

Where is Ur location? I wan quickly check something 👀

TrennixGLOBAL:


Its totally legal and i have sent you a PM but i no longer have access to my email so i don't know how we can exchange s..

Drop an email then where I can reach U on

Mariangeles:


I would ooO!

I'm a nature person.
My soul thrives where nature is.

The best part is that when I'm close to nature, I don't miss whatever I thought I would miss about the city.

Interesting

Cowards

Righthussle:

Coconut heads like you are the fools who despite their big grammar still fall victims to these pulpit banditry business. There's no jesus outside the Roman Catholic Church. The jesus you know and pray today is a construct of the Roman Roman Catholic church. The stupid ancient story book ypur colonisers forced your forefathers to read, i mean the one you put under your pillow every night tp protect you from evil spirit was written and canonized by the Roman catholic church.

Lol... Why will I put bible under my pillow? Well all I was trying to say is the papacy, Vatican and their branches are all religious political organisations for selfish gains and to suffocate the downtrodden.

And when I said Jesus U know exactly what I meant and the bible was not written by Europeans. Abeg go and rest

Funny I'm going through this temptation right now. Only last week an ex who recently married called to say she would come spend time with me and this is a girl we used to have the most craziest sex in unimaginable ways. Then yesterday again another married one was disturbing she wants to come because she now knows my estate. In all I thank God they don't know my exact location yet but how can U be married less than a year and U still want to come and collect what Ur not supposed to? Women these days are something else. Lord knows I don't play such games and I will never start it now. They can take thier married pussy some place else, no be my life Satan go use play Amapiano

Haynnie:
Curry noodles and eggs

Fruit salad

Lol sometimes I feel some of U guys just pictures for show. How the hell do U combine spicy noodles and eggs with a combination of such fruits? Is Ur stomach made of steel? The reaction between those acids can cause serious bloating, so much gas and real discomfort but what do I know Ur probably Iron Man

Righthussle:

No matter how much Jesus love and use black people, he can never make a black man pope.

Even if the tithe and offering of black people is as much as the grains of sand on earth, the Christian god will never let a black man become pope.

Jesus Christ has nothing to do with Ur Vatican political and occultic bs. The day U fools realize that the papacy and the Vatican is politically structured to grab and control as much resources as possible from gullible shitheads who equate that bloody office with God is the day ur souls will be free

Is that Arinze man not the one the pope stylishly snubbed on two different occasions? Anyways, the only way a man of African descent can be there is by political maneuvering just to give the fake belief that we all are one when in reality it's false

I thought they said Enugu is very safe 100% lol mammy wata sef has been kidnapped... These herdsmen got no chills 😂😂😂

tobore4u:


Must you take sex enhanced drugs to sleep with your wife??

Your wife is not olosho oga.

Maybe she told him his best wasn't enough for her

Chubhie:

What Is more toxic to getting married to a community prick? Is the national and international shame and embarrassment not enough for a nuclear reaction? Annie was indeed a victim.

See them

Coolsat:
Annie was not a victim but women will always play the victim game. She was toxic and violent and never accommodating to his family. Make everybody find their peace in peace

Na so them be my bro. Always twisting the plot to make them the victims why we are always the toxic villain but we don't get fazed by all that anymore. Anybody like believe anything. It's live and let live now. Or they can die if they want

Mariangeles:


Not that everything is cheap there o, but life is just simple and sweet. 😌

But U still wouldn't trade it for the city abi

anuoreangel:
Available sir

No pics or price? Where is Ur location exactly again?

Mariangeles:


✅😌




Honestly.
Life was just too easy in that place, it was as though I shouldn't go back.

The truth be say ehn, as Nigeria hard reach, e get places wey still dey easy to live.
Then again, money wey you make for city dey sweet to spend for village.

Lol @spending city money in the village. U will now feel like one super hero 😂😂

Imo state ladies... It's well

anuoreangel:
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Less than 5 pairs 16,000/pair

1 pair 16,500

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Hmm.... We need Timberland boots

Myhaven:
And the child will keep going from one foster home to the other. Sad

And the risk of abuse by foster parents over there is very high which they rarely address. I just pray the hand of God is upon her

Ochyes:
I dislike dipping

Same here... First time I witnessed it as a kid was when my grandma came over from the village lol she was just dunking in the tea and then to her mouth wham wham wham 😂. I can't even eat dry bread and tea there must be something with the bread at least na