NewStats: 3,264,018 , 8,182,280 topics. Date: Monday, 09 June 2025 at 10:07 AM r2s64

CallmeTrinity:
You are a coward , weak man and a coward 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣


Foolish man confusing fear with spiritual advise. That was your cowardice talking ... Weak willed coward 🤣🤣🤣🤣.

You are a so weak and a coward. You know who is killing your flock and you are too much of a coward to defend your investment 🤣

Even the Nigerian law recodnizes self defense. The moment someone steps foot on your property and is killed the law recodnizes your right to defend your life and properly and won't persecute you so you are talking.trash..

You are just a coward who has been bullied and his investments wiped off because you are too weak and cowardly to pick up a machete and lay a trap...

Foolish man ,trying hard to make his cowardice look like a virtue ..🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Please how old are you? Do you even know the law? Pls be careful with this your half-baked knowledge cos the law does not recognise ignorance as excuse o.

Slime7:
Hi guys,
I need your advice on this. It is causing issues in my 2 years relationship.
I came to Lagos in 2018 after my NYSC. Prior to that, I had plans for my older sister to come stay with me, considering how difficult things were.
Note that my married eldest brother was in Lagos before then. I understand that maybe he needs his privacy, but he didn't help in any way (he didn't have to).
 
When I got the apartment, I met my girlfriend while she was serving in Lagos. My older sister has yet to move in with me, but I have mentioned to her not once but twice that she will soon come and live with me.
 
I will also like to mention that my elder sister was living with her boyfriend before I came to Lagos. This doesn't seem right to me or to her.
 
She moved in, and we were living together peacefully. Along the way, she broke up with her boyfriend. About 6 months later, she got into another relationship. The man seems interested in marrying her. And they were making plans for settling down. Unfortunately, she got pregnant out of wedlock for the man. She had to move in with the man.
 
Now this is where the issues begin. After a few months (after her childbirth), they always have issues. They go on and off. Two times they had issues; she carried her bag and came to my place. Two times it happened, and she stayed with me for not more than two months put together. This didn't go well with my girlfriend. She complained that my sister is always in the picture, and she doesn't like that.
 
The third time, the man abused my sister, and he beat her up. I went to the man's house with my "married eldest brother." We fought with the man and threatened to arrest him. He pleaded, plus the neighbors and the landlord too. That night, we took my sister away from him. My sister chose to stay at my place until she gets an apartment for herself and her kid.

This really annoyed my girlfriend. She always says things like, "My family does not respect me." That's why my sister can move in to my house knowing that I am in a relationship.
"Why does she like to stay with me and not my brother?" "Why do I have to always be the one to bear the burden?" Note that my sister works, and she can take care of herself and her kid. She just needed a place to stay until she got her own apartment.

She feared that my sister could just move in with her bags when we get married, which I have assured her is not possible.
She claims she likes her space and all. She claims she doesn't like the "on and off" as sometimes she may want to spend a "lone" time with me. Spend weekends... and this won't be possible when my sister is around.
She claims that she has never seen a scenario where an older sister with a kid is leaving with younger brother.
She always give instances where she has never seen guys in relationships allow their older sister to come stay with them.
She claimed that sometimes I should "man up" and say NO to her. 
 
Is she overreacting? What did I do wrong in all of this? Am I being manipulated? Is her anger justified?
 
N.B My sister has gotten a place for herself and has moved out.

Bros, you never see wife wey u go marry.

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This is very much appreciated. Thanks

Malory:
Yorubas are hot tempered.

U r sure they are Yoruba or you just want to show your tribalism to the public.

Itape is a name from Kogi.

I am from Kogi by the way.

peepydelano:
Their next agenda is to rubbish the DNA tests so they can enjoy hoeing around in peace, it won’t ever work. She never talk truth . Or the baby was swapped at birth but I no trust that gender at all.

U too get sense. I was just thinking this. I have read 2 other similar stories this week. Ko le work mehn.....(1) Why the secret test in the first place. (2) why paying attention to the character of the child, if not guilty?

MufasaLion:


Her birth mother only wanted to see her just to have that memory till she dies. She was never interested in being in her life.

Also, how dare you blame her for reacting harsh to her mother? Do you know what it feels to be abandoned by your mother at birth? Do you know what it feels to learn that you're a product of incest? Do you know what it feels to have many questions but still couldn't ask when you have the chance? Do you know the psychological and emotional impact of her story on her?

Her decisions has made her a successful woman already. There's no need for future tense.

Make una dey calm down. The guy was just speaking his mind WC is fine. U have a strong point but picking querrel over someone's opinion is not logical to me( my opinion too).

Gudfadah:
Good evening nairaland.

I am a married man and I have six children. When I met with my first wife she was a single mother of 1 girl she was a years 6 months we got married when she was 5 years old.
We had 3 children together making them 4 unfortunately we lost her in 2016 during the birth of our twins.

Before she ed on she asks me to promise her that if anything happened to her I should never send her daughter back to her family to experience the same thing she went through in there hands.
I have promised her that the child is mine and she will never go anywhere the day she will leave my house will be on her wedding day.
I have also promised her that nothing will happen to her and we will grow old together. Unfortunately we lost her and I have continued being a father to all four children and I have never treated my step daughter differently.

I have since remarried and we are blessed with twins. When I met with my current wife I didn't tell her that my step daughter is not my biological child she knew she was my first child.
She has been a part of me ever since she was 1 plus and I didn't think it was necessary telling my wife she was not my child.

She was treating all four children good until my wicked aunty has spill the beans which I have apologised for not telling her in the first and I have asked her to continue being a good mother she was before knowing the truth.
But she refused saying I didn't tell the truth and the child should go and leave with her mom family. I have explained to her the reason why she cannot stay with them to no avail and I ask her not to tell the child the truth but she has told her.

It wasn't easy for her knowing the truth she asks me if I will take her back to her mom people I said no. She is still my child and she will not go anywhere and I will resolve the problem very soon.

Unfortunately my wife has totally changed so much toward the child and I hate coming home seeing her crying all the time. She feel insecure in the house knowing that she is not the biological child of the house.

Talking to my wife was to no avail she has insist that the child must go back to her mother family or they will be not peace.

I reported the problem to her people nothing was done and we are still dealing with the same thing everyday.

Honestly speaking I hate being in such a messy situation but I will not send her back to her mom family she is my first child and I have made a promise to my late wife that the day the child will leave my house it will be the day she will get married.
Since my wife want her to leave and the child is already depresses.
I have come to conclusion I will not divorce her but I will rent a 2 bedroom apartment for her to be staying with the twins while I continue staying with the four children in my house I owe the house.

I haven't told her anything about my decision yet and I want to know if getting her own house will help the situation. This is where I need your advice nairalanders what do I do in this situation?

Sit her down n ask her what she wants while u let her know sending the girl to her grandparents is not an option. If she choose to leave, let her go. But be ready to ignore a lot of rubbish from her.

this is really good . inspiring

funny