NewStats: 3,265,110 , 8,185,704 topics. Date: Friday, 13 June 2025 at 01:49 PM 6q2v1r

semid4lyfe:


Yes, many Nigerians wear suits and white gowns, and go to church but that's due to colonization, and imposition through religion. education and law. We didn’t pick up white weddings because we thought it was fancy and cute . It became part of our formal wedding system because of power, not preference.

That’s very different from a foreigner, who has no connection to Nigeria or any Nigerian partner waking up one day and saying, “Let’s do a Nigerian wedding", wear agbada, tie gele, and dobale just for fun.

That's Cultural appropriation which is the act of people from a more dominant or unrelated culture picking and using another culture’s sacred traditions for fun, performance or profit — without any connection, understanding, or respect.

Me wey be Nigerian, I know when we dobale, it’s not for camera. It’s respect. When we kneel, it’s not performance — it’s tradition. The Alaga that leads our engagement is not just there to shout “mo gbeyawo” — she’s holding decades of ancestral wisdom and protocol. That thing no be for aesthetics.

And let’s be real — most Nigerians still do traditional marriage first, before any white wedding. The agbada and aso oke come out before the tux and tie. We know where our roots lie.

So no, the two situations are not the same. We adapted white weddings under pressure. Foreigners are copying our traditions for pleasure.

At the end of the day, all I’m saying is, if you no get any tie to Nigeria — no partner, no family, no lived experience — then leave our culture alone. Observe, enjoy from afar, even learn. But don’t turn our traditional wedding rites into a theme.

Our Traditional weddings carry weight. Dem no be costume. Dem no be content

Simple!

.........And for those saying but you do white wedding, I didn't. This quoted poster knows cos he was there.

Now that they are costume and content and many Nigerians don't have an issue with it what will you now do? This isn't America where black Americans cry over every little thing. No body cares well except you about this. There are more important matters on ground. As long as they are showing Nigeria in a good light it gives us good publicity after years of bad publicity.

AndroBlaze:


I am clearly wasting my time on a silly Soviet apologist looking to rewrite history.

So in your mind Taliban came back after 20 years to defeat USA, but Syrian Rebels who only needed 5 years to come back and defeat Russia does not count because Russia still have a base their....lol lol lol....

In fact I hope you get your Biafra...as you will then say you came back after 70 years to defeat Nigeria, UK and USA combined and never surrendered in 1970. Clown.

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/czr7rkzz2gmo.amp

This is a very stupid reply to be honest. What has Biafra got to do with your discourse. Some of you are caused to forever be a bigot. No atom of sophistication just nonsense bigotry.

How you even compare Russia helping Syria with US actively fighting in Afghanistan is crazy self. Wanted to give you the benefit of the doubt but this your last paragraph just eliminated all doubt.

Doobie:
Are you currently in Nigeria or perhaps even a typical Nigerian? Many people are finding it incredibly challenging to save even N50K over the course of a year, let alone N500K in just nine months. What may seem manageable for you can be a significant struggle for many average Nigerians today!!!

All the more reason to plan religiously no? There are options, health insurance, government hospitals, use of contraceptives to stop getting pregnant. We need to learn to cut our cloth according to our size. Its even more critical now

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You can cry all you want but that's how it works. Thats why there is health insurance. Get it for emergencies. A private hospital is under no single pressure to treat you without paying thats the simple truth.

People have to be smart and start taking their health more seriously, if only this man had health insurance it would be a different story.

Also he had the opportunity to go to a government hospital where Tinubu had ordered weeks ago that emergencies due to pregnancy will be treated for free but he nor go.

We should learn to hold the right people able. Nobody went to school to treat you for free. It doesn't happen anywhere in the world. If the patients aren't paying, government is paying. Someone must pay.

This your strategy doesn't hold any water its just like asking civil engineers to build free houses for homeless people. It doesn't work like that. We should be intentional with our health and not expect free health care which is a privilege not a right.

francis5051:
This is one of the reasons I don’t cry much when people like doctors and co get killed imagine if this man should engage in bad activities and get the doctor killed the news will carry it and be expecting us to write RIP

The problem with you guys is you don't think. First its a private hospital. Its not a government one neither is it a charity organisation. They should treat Nigerians lose a lot of resources and manpower only for the patient to disappear. Tell me how that hospital will keep operating in a few months. Lemme guess God will provide...

Your anger should be at the inefficiencies and ignorance about health insurance in Nigeria. All this man needs to do was to be paying for health insurance which your country can subsidize and give for free self but lets not even go to the government.

The man could have taken the wife to a government hospital where treatment is guaranteed because Tinubu announced weeks ago that emergencies due to pregnancies will be treated for free. But nooooo its a private hospital that must carry the problem.

The fact that you condone violence on medical professionals without taking time to consider the nuisance of the situation shows how low level you look at things before ing judgement.

If the husband was intentional, I mean you don't have the means, you don't even have a plan to counteract your lack of means problem. You just sit and hope for the best as if anyone owes you anything in this life outside the government. We should all learn to be intentional oh, and plan our ways very well.

Coolbreeze123:
I find it quite ridiculous that its very hard findingan obidient respondingto logic. It every post that is logically out out, they throw tantrums and fail to respond logically. Its futile debating such people whose capacity to debate is centered around emotions only. The other one is ing anyone and anythingthat is against the nations progress even if the person is a known and confirmed terrorist,
theybwill still such.

All these ones you are typing not one thing to address what he said all you guys do is personal attacks. Forget the person for a sec and respond to the points raise thats how you have intelligent conversations not all these insults and attacks which moves away from the point. But I guess thats all you guys can do to defend Tinubu is move the discuss to attacks and insults

helinues:
You never believed in democracy to start with.

While the likes of president Tinubu, even little Sowore was fighting for the restoration of democracy back to Nigeria, Peter Obi was being appointed by Abacha as one of the Lagos port board meaning he never believed in the democracy he's enjoying today.

This same Peter Obi never conducted local government election for good 7 years out of his 8 years as Anambra state governor. Why should he when democracy is nonsense to him.

This same Peter Obi showered all the good talk about the Supreme court when he favoured him as Anambra governor, but today that same Supreme court is rubbish to him because he's not having his way.

Peter Obi is just busy contradicting his own beliefs . You want to say all rubbish things about Nigeria and still delusional thinking you would be the president of the same country.. Hahaha you must be a joke

As how learned Peter Obi claimed to be, he's still talking about Forged documents.. one term senator, two as a governor and now the president.. Shame on you Peter Obi for that nonsense talk

Classic attack the messenger not the message. We have head you now at least respond to the points he made.

Morphinne:

Obviously I’ve been wasting my precious time engaging a kindergartner kid
How did my not being crude with you mean receiving L?
You initially said gaming pcs were better than console which I promptly schooled you about and later had to apologize to you after I realized that what you meant was that Gaming pc were better in the sense that you can use them for both gaming and productivity at the same time and one of your strong points was that consoles had no ray tracing feature which was later bursted be FALSE AND YOU STILL Haven’t apologized for feeding the publics lies . How many of the gaming pcs shipped out-of- the-box with the so-called latest graphic card and how much are they being sold (money has always been a factor since the start of the argument so I don’t understand your inept reasoning of making it look like money isn’t a factor to consider here). Like are you just too slow or stupid to see that I’ve been trying to be civil with your sorry ass by just schooling you without resorting to insults? You’re also too dull to know that the default graphic card that comes out of -the-box can’t be modified in consoles like we have it in pcs and that’s why some reasonable ppl say that a long-term investment on a gaming pc can be really expensive but will be worth it at the end. Calm down nobody is dragging winning the argument with you as I’m only doing this to purge and enlighten the public of your gross miseducation lest they think you’re reasonable . An honorable person would have come back here to edit what he previously erroneously said (ray tracing ) when he later realized that he was actually wrong after you got the ps5 as claimed that’s if it’s even true you got it
So much for someone who until yesterday, didn’t even know that desktops and laptops are both pcs
Like I said earlier, I’m not saying all these to redeem your miserable life but to call out your misinformation as you can keep on wallowing in your ignorance, no one cares bra

Just stumbled on this thread, you clearly don't know what you're talking about. Instead of you to learn you just wallow in ignorance. This is 2025 and gaming PCs are still better than consoles infact now the distance is even greater.

Many laptops ship with the latest graphics cards. Like what are you saying.

Money is a factor thats why he said get a console instead, if all they want to do is gaming. Why are you talking as if you can't connect dots. You are the one schooling him on strength of pc gaming to ps5. How does strongest correlate with money management? Obviously the best of the best will always be very expensive thats why its the best!

He itted he was wrong already about the ray tracing what do you want him to do, create a whole new thread just to make you happy?

Where did he say desktop and laptops aren't PCs?

The only misinformation I see from him is the Ray tracing which he has itted he was wrong about. You on the other hand can't it to your own misinformation that gaming PCs are not better than consoles.

He even gave you more reasons why gaming PC are better aside graphic cards self, you obviously didn't respond to those because you have no idea what he was talking about.

I mean its only on nairaland that you will see people argue so blindly and ionately with ignorance. You don't know something just be humble and learn nooooo. Your ego is too big for you to learn anything. Tufia!

nnamdi640:
What do you want him to do, Russia invaded his country and you expected him not to fight back, how will you feel if your neighbour invade your house just because you decided to dine with your neighbour's enemy. Does your neighbour have the right to tell you who to dine with? Russia is overriding Ukraine just because they believe they have more advantage in winning the war

I understand but we have to be realistic he is not winning this war. He can keep fighting and condemn more of his people to death or he can lose lands but salvage what is left. Its unfair I will not lie but what's the alternative? He can't win, if he could I would say sure keep fighting but he can't.

Its just like if the US invades Nigeria now and takes half the country, sure we can fight but we will never win the fight. There's no chance. Russia is just too strong for them.

I am sympathetic to what he said that Russia has broken peace deals in the past what are the guarantees that this will stick. Trump is saying Putin has never and will never break an agreement with him. But Trump won't be president forever. When he leaves whats the guarantee that Russia won't just go in for more land again.

I get where he is coming from but whats the alternative? It's a very shitty position to be in. It's a real mess of a thing. But we can't keep condemning young people to endless death, he should at least sit on the negotiation table see what the offers are, try as much as possible to reduce the loss of land to a bearable minimum. But he should push very very hard for the security guarantee. So Russia doesn't break the deal again.

Its not sustainable to keep this war going. Its not.

Kobojunkie:
I am not against your advice but has the man really failed her? Or is it that she originally thought she could train him only to see now that it was stewpid of her to think she could train a grown-arsed man, to begin with? 😏

It was an arranged marriage so not sure what level of choice went into it, but regardless at a minimum a husband should stand up for his family.

SouthAmericalif:
so my life story is on front page , first time after being here on nairaland for more than 15years
omo i will just keep my fingers crossed and fither the advice from other people’s experience thank you all.

I will say this you deserve so much better. The amount of work you have put in is wild. You should be enjoying life much better than this. Please and please divorce him, I know all these Christain values are pushing you not to leave 100%.

Please for your sake leave 100%. He has failed you, move on and focus your efforts on yourself and kids. Which you the best

litaninja:
After paying taxes, electing a central government, putting them in charge of the vast resources to do the exact things you describe, you still want a private citizen to build roads?

Please, I'm trying to remain civil here

I don't understand your question, I want to be civil too but your question sounds like you didn't understand what I said and jumped to your own conclusions and sent this reply. Because tell me where did I say a private citizen should build road? Like I don't get is it that what I wrote was spanish or what?

jUeLiZ:
please do you have any plan B you can suggest for me ... thanks...

Farming, real estate, there are so many research on it

jUeLiZ:


I intend to do software engineering program. Basically I just want to have a good skill. I dropped from school few years ago, I was studying mechanical engineering at Uniuyo, but things became tougher after I lost my dad so I dropped. I just want to be skilled in something. Also, I just love problem solving and logic

See save yourself the cost invest that money in something else. You can learn these skills on your own without paying anyone a dime. I learnt everything I know on my own without paying a single kobo. All you need is discipline to go at it every single day. No matter the set back you keep plugging away at it every day. If you pay these people sure they will give you some sort of structure and knowledge but in the end you will still need to go back and actually learn and understand these things yourself.

Software engineering is not for the week its better you get into it on your own without paying anyone should in case you later realise its not for you. And yeah jobs are not at a currently, so I won't advise you spend that amount of money on learning something that you will struggle to get job from after. Instead have a plan A and plan B don't put all your eggs in one basket. Invest that money in a plan B while you sit your ass down and grind out this path as a plan A.

MindHacker9009:
You and you brother here are very clueless, that you don't use Google or AI but only go by what you hear in the beer parlor!

ReactExpress:


Lol I saw that na why I call am dump of cluelessness. He just opens mouth waaaaa and dumps trash effortlessly.

He does Google and use Ai so I would say there is some effort put into the trash however dubious, these are efforts none the less

hector:


Lmao 😂. No be only AI you go learn

When I tell am he dey insult me. Ai he doesn't even know what it takes to be an entry level Ai developer. He thinks its a simple tutorial that will get him there

ReactExpress:


Nothing really is in his head. People like him is what a prof in school call stony dull. No atom of intelligence. I have been waiting for an intelligent responds for ages all he does is copy ai chat message and dump. The Ai message is even contradicting him with the Instagram thing he still post am thinking he is making sense. I have lost several braincells talking to this dude. I will definitely just follow your advice.

I would love to hear where he saw react releasing 2 versions in a year. But looking back at all his comments its clear his empty head pounded for a bit and drop that point. Because this has never happened in the many history of react. One of the many reasons you should give him his W make him go sleep. The amount of rubbish he has spill on this thread is alarming.

ReactExpress:


See mouth like defeated .

You defeated yourself long ago I am just here for the endless dump of foolery. Man how can someone have this low an iq that he thinks he has any W anywhere damn! Not one single point did you get a W. The thread is full of your endless Ls. You should work in the circus thats where people like you belong not in intellectual discuss. React uses signals men that line broke me

Give him his small W na. He is clearly desperate for it. At least even if we all know nothing dey him head . Let him have this one that jquery is the best js framework to use nowadays.

donmik:


You are funny and useless to NA sha

Whats with the insults when I am giving you good advice. What you are doing is exactly what the op did. He heard of this new flashy thing, heard he will make money from it. He jumped into it without any research at all like you basing his belief of on other people's opinions like you are doing now.

The parallels is crazy hence why I am saying don't come back and do the same thing op is doing now crying of split milk

donmik:


Pls, can u enlighten me on my prospects of learning AI?

Or, what tech can I start with as a novice?
Thanks dealry

Don't come back like the op and start saying no job I was told this and that

Acidosis:

Does Nigeria really have a viable tech sector, or is it just people in T-shirts with laptops hopping from one remote work hub to the next? I mean, our tech industry is basically a glorified game of "brilliant minds" with Wi-Fi.

When we're actually ready for a real tech industry, we'll be calling on the government to build a proper industrialized environment for real tech companies - think mobile phone manufacturers, satellite companies, robot factories - basically, places with actual addresses, not just free Wi-Fi and coffee.

You go wait tire. Government that haven't completed federal roads, look at the national grid, this same government will come and build these things for you dey play. Either you build it yourself or get investors thats how it is everywhere in the world. No body will come and put food down for you especially not the Nigerian government

markcute:
85% of tech jobs in Nigeria is based on recommendations
Only few can be gotten via normal job applications process

This so accurate. All my Nigerian gigs were from recommendations. Except 1 that I got after an interview

Revealpanda:

You type alot.
Yet not a single valid take

So accurate

ReactExpress:


Lol he has been proving me right since the beginning of this thread its nothing new. From signals to issues with react and jquery. Its just been an endless dump of cluelessness

100%

MindHacker9009:
You and your brother have proved yourselves wrong but both of you are excited about it.

Yes boss you are right

MindHacker9009:
You have just proved yourself wrong and you are excited about it!

this guy so hilarious

ReactExpress:


Set up ke its like asking an illiterate to calculate 1 + 1 using a calculator. He doesn't even know where to start from.

He literally just proved us right lol no need to stress more than that

ReactExpress:


These are things any FE dev knows its why I don't bother educating or correcting him again. He doesn't understand all these things you have said, he will just run to one chat ai to get outdated info and post here. Its sad that human beings like this exist despite going through school. It now begs the question of what exactly did he learn in school.

100% fact boss truer words have never been said

MindHacker9009:
I'm not like you that talk from your ass and can only setup simple hello world apps with React.

These are the kinds of projects I work on that React is of no use:
1. Enterprise-Level, Long-Lived Applications with Strict Stability Requirements
2. High-Performance, Low-Latency Real-Time Applications.
3. Large-Scale, SEO-Critical Websites (e.g., News, Blogs, E-commerce).
4. Apps With Limited or No JavaScript (e.g., Government, Accessibility-Heavy Apps)

Love it when people prove me right so effortlessly

MindHacker9009:
You are the one that can't write frontend code to save your life. See how clueless you are not to know that Instagram is owned by Facebook the creator of React, so they will stay what the like to defend their React. You have now clue of what front-end development it, you are just following your brother above without know what you are doing.

Set up a simple react app now with nextjs or react router 7 you will see they are not defending anything but speaking facts. No way you can lie about tools developer use every day and go scot free. I see you are still arguing this easily verifiable claim they made. Proving you can't write any frontend code to save your life. If you can you will easily this and not be speaking out of your ass

ReactExpress:



Lol so jquery is built on the moon not javascript. You are sounding less intelligent every single post you make.

Even with all these issues I will gladly die on the hill of react than step one foot on that of jquery. You cannot pay me enough to go through that torture.

But does react 19 have all those your many problems you have been listing upandan do well to ask chatgpt lets hear what it has to say.

As much as I hate react I still come back to it. I ran away to solid, to vue to svelte to astro to remix even to qwik trust me I have ran places. But react just feels like home, when I want to build scalable website react is my go to because its tested and trusted. When I want to build smaller website I experiment.

The only framework I haven't really experimented with well is angular. The battery of files the set up created when I first installed it was crazy I just didn't continue. However that was long ago before typescript became a thing in React. I was sha using it to show my self small for work that time because I had a little bit of experience with it in angular.

But you see your precious jquery, I use it for one site several years ago and I have never returned and will never returned. Although I did see they pushed a new update late last year. Made me think of giving it a chance but nah, when you can have chicken why settle for chewing stick

The guy you are talking to can't write frontend code to save his life. Let him keep advocating for jQuery, actual frontend dev will continue to use the better options out there no doubt about it. It's clear for everyone to see his 100% clueless about this. Even when he listed companies that left react he listed Instagram in the same post it was noted react was improved on to fix these issues by introducing server components. Anyone who know an atom will understand that the reason most of those companies left react has been fixed and addressed with server components that let you serve pages with very little js and with 100% SEO compatibility.

The fact he wrote that and still don't understand its implications and he think its a plus in his argument says all you need to know