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My good people I am in a bit of a situation here and would like to hear from the community. I have lived the last few years in the UK and can say I am in a reasonably "settled" place in my life except for one thing: I don't have a wife and I am getting old!.

For the last few years, going by people's advice I thought it was best to cultivate a relationship here with someone here in the UK, learn about them and settle.

It has not worked out for me. Maybe its my luck, it has not quite worked with me with the ladies over here. I always end up with someone diametrically opposite to my goals and aspirations. The idea of marrying an Oyibo is even worse - things just did not work out in that direction either.

To compound the problem, I my job does not allow me much of a social life. I just cant make it happen without help.

On a friend's advice, I have been invited to come back home to naija and see how things can work out. I have therefore taken a months leave and am headed home for the next 1 month. Our plan is to visit a few good families and places to see if anything can materialise from that.

My people any advice on this? If you were in my shoes, how will you conduct this affair. What will you look out for. What will you avoid.

Lol see format.

Leave our girls on Nairaland alone with this COME and MARRY format.

What is the difference between the girls in Nigeria and the UK?since the UK is an extention of Nigeria anyway.

And you think 1 month is enough to meet a girl,develop a relationship and then marry her?

Story is not adding up.

You want a Nigeria girl?then go to Nigeria in the UK to look for them. Nigeria in the UK is the South East part of London.

I lived there for almost 10 years,and I can authoritatively tell you that all the kinds of girls you want from your village,then some, is there.

hmmm

Pls stay where you are. Kidnappers are much in nigeria now.

HungerBAD:
Lol see format.

5g lite so fast

I like this Guy's concept. But I'll advise you go to a typical village. Your jass fit work on them.

Cutehector:
Pls stay where you are. Kidnappers are much in nigeria now.

Abi na UK people go Kidnap Nigerians.

The Owu wey dey beat them there no be here.

HungerBAD:


Abi na UK people go Kidnap Nigerians.

The Owu wey dey beat them there no be here.

are u serious? be like say dis u.k op dey find maga

I just can't stop laughing when I see this kind thread

ibx1976:
My good people I am in a bit of a situation here and would like to hear from the community. I have lived the last few years in the UK and can say I am in a reasonably "settled" place in my life except for one thing: I don't have a wife and I am getting old!.

For the last few years, going by people's advice I thought it was best to cultivate a relationship here with someone here in the UK, learn about them and settle.

It has not worked out for me. Maybe its my luck, it has not quite worked with me with the ladies over here. I always end up with someone diametrically opposite to my goals and aspirations. The idea of marrying an Oyibo is even worse - things just did not work out in that direction either.

To compound the problem, I my job does not allow me much of a social life. I just cant make it happen without help.

On a friend's advice, I have been invited to come back home to naija and see how things can work out. I have therefore taken a months leave and am headed home for the next 1 month. Our plan is to visit a few good families and places to see if anything can materialise from that.

My people any advice on this? If you were in my shoes, how will you conduct this affair. What will you look out for. What will you avoid.

Pls if the girls there didn't cheat on you kuku marry them...and endure their luggage.the ones here will cheat on you and still give you luggage to carry. All of them except those that will not bash me for saying this secret of theirs are olosho.

I'm inside one 5yr relationship and It appears it has been an olosho relationship all along.

EkoErrands:


Pls if the girls there didn't cheat on you kuku marry them...and endure their luggage.the ones here will cheat on you and still give you luggage to carry. All of them except those that will not bash me for saying this secret of theirs are olosho.

I'm inside one 5yr relationship and It appears it has been an olosho relationship all along.

Hahahahhahahahahhaha ' iam inside one 5yr relationship and It appears it has been an olosho relationship all along
Lol these days it's hard find a good girl don't know what went wrong

OP I understand you perfectly well... But one month is basically a very tiny time-frame to get to know whom you want to marry...
Surely all of the girls you will approach will agree to what ever nonsense you gonna tell them...

They will love you for what you are and not whom you are....

What you are
<<< You are a guy leaving in UK
<<<you got a job in UK
<<< Better life in UK
<<< The hype about Abroad husband, some girls will worship the ground you worked on...
<<<Her Parent Occasional visit abroad for Medical check up... and "mouth Makings" in the community ie my daughter is in UK..

These are all the benefit you will give But what about Love?

What about who you are?
>>> The fact that maybe you are a quite, Not so flamboyant as they thought over there , not a party person, etc.... They will not even care to know until both of you enter into it and find out you guys are not compatible...Then the beginning of miserable marriage will start

OP you will not kii me o.

I have this question for you , Have you done your village clearance yet ?


I also have this piece of advice for you.. seek the face of the Lord on this matter.

My brother, my only candid advice is to find someone to pop out kids for you. what I Am saying in essence is, don't think of getting married to true loving Nigerian lady or any woman who is gonna be a 100% with such period of check and see… cos our women only dance to the tune of Dallas and Nairas. The economy is hard and the HUSTLE IS REAL YOU are warned.







AJA (girls) Gberaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Goodluck!!!

You made it seem like you are coming to buy something off the shelve. Something as important as marriage.

A Nigerian girl will pretend to be anything you want sensing your desperation, and move to the UK, then you will see her real color.

I know most UK girls (Nigerian) can be difficult, mostly girls from South London. But the truth is they are already used to the system. If you marry a home based and take her to the UK, I give you 2yrs max, you will regret it. When she realize the liberty and right she has, she will want to exercise it and will abuse it. I have seen this happen 100 times over...

I believe you are looking for a "yes sir" kind of girl, and you think you will find that in Nigeria? You are in for a shocker.

what is ur age?dont be decived that ladies here are better than those over there

you're so on point but watch out o..9ja ladies aren't smiling especially this recession period

ibx1976:
My good people I am in a bit of a situation here and would like to hear from the community. I have lived the last few years in the UK and can say I am in a reasonably "settled" place in my life except for one thing: I don't have a wife and I am getting old!.
For the last few years, going by people's advice I thought it was best to cultivate a relationship here with someone here in the UK, learn about them and settle.
It has not worked out for me. Maybe its my luck, it has not quite worked with me with the ladies over here. I always end up with someone diametrically opposite to my goals and aspirations. The idea of marrying an Oyibo is even worse - things just did not work out in that direction either.
To compound the problem, I my job does not allow me much of a social life. I just cant make it happen without help.
On a friend's advice, I have been invited to come back home to naija and see how things can work out. I have therefore taken a months leave and am headed home for the next 1 month. Our plan is to visit a few good families and places to see if anything can materialise from that.
My people any advice on this? If you were in my shoes, how will you conduct this affair. What will you look out for. What will you avoid.

My brother it does not work like that. Naze Chidinma of Solo2hooked on Facebook and she will make it happen.

You are welcome bro.

Just be careful because karashakas many for Naija

I will advise pretend as a nobody for a while to know you truly love you for who you are and not for what you have


Good luck

mmmkayyy kwantinue

FORMATTTTTT

RUNNNNNNN


If it's true

Sisisioge


Wait ooo
Ibx1976
Since 2011?

Go to Quilox or Peckers. . Wives plenty waiting from u

i pity u...u think naija women are what dey used to be....dey ve changed
majority of dem are 'olosho' and gold-diggers.

U better find one dia.if u fall into naija girls hand(especially this recession period),dey will dig holes into ur pockets and dump u inside dustbin.


Trouble dey sleep,yanga wan wake am

ibx1976:
My good people I am in a bit of a situation here and would like to hear from the community. I have lived the last few years in the UK and can say I am in a reasonably "settled" place in my life except for one thing: I don't have a wife and I am getting old!.

For the last few years, going by people's advice I thought it was best to cultivate a relationship here with someone here in the UK, learn about them and settle.

It has not worked out for me. Maybe its my luck, it has not quite worked with me with the ladies over here. I always end up with someone diametrically opposite to my goals and aspirations. The idea of marrying an Oyibo is even worse - things just did not work out in that direction either.

To compound the problem, I my job does not allow me much of a social life. I just cant make it happen without help.

On a friend's advice, I have been invited to come back home to naija and see how things can work out. I have therefore taken a months leave and am headed home for the next 1 month. Our plan is to visit a few good families and places to see if anything can materialise from that.

My people any advice on this? If you were in my shoes, how will you conduct this affair. What will you look out for. What will you avoid.

I'm here honey..if u need me

Expect your mail box to full soon

Op connect with that muslim sister that was on Frontpage yesterday, she might just be the right spec!

This is the right format if you want Nairaland ladies to flood your mailbox with friend request

I am single, I live abroad, I have a very good job, I dont want to marry out of the millions in UK,

Op tell me what you are looking for in a woman in Nigeria that you wont find among the numerous Nigerians in UK

Nice move, but I don't think a month will be enough for you to find that woman. You really need to take your time to avoid entering one chance, same with her woman. Your folks or relatives, if they are here will be of a great assist.

Safe journey

this is serious

All I have to say is Good luck in your search.