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There is this orientation given by our elders that, there are some town within yoruba that they don't marry each other, and when they coincidentally do, bad things will happen to them.
They said, it is advisable for those areas to marry themselves than inter-marriage with other areas. This leads to the place like Ijebu in ogun state, where due to some things in the part, those who are not from Ijebu area are not advisable to marry from Ijebu. Whereas I envisage Ijebu citizens are not comfortable with this perception from other areas within yoruba with my recent encounter with some Ijebu citizen.
What is your opinion about this diatribe/bitter criticism within yoruba's sons and daughters?
Do you think we are in the right direction?

Your perception about this may help in great ways in our yorubaland!

Superstitions made so that people won't marry out of their clans. Just made to scare people and some dundi United will believe that bs

SAMBARRY:
Superstitions made so that people won't marry out of their clans. Just made to scare people and some dundi United will believe that bs

Thank you joor...
Honestly, I need more conviction about this because of my marital choice. I have a girl from this area but this my mind set is still disturbing my conviction about her personally.

Joy83:

Thank you joor...
Honestly, I need more conviction about this because of my marital choice. I have a girl from this area but this my mind set is still disturbing my conviction about her personally.

somethings people have held for ages and have sold the lie for decades and so has now become a stronghold that has been permanently tatood on their brains.




The same way one ibo man will comnit fraud and label the entire ibo lineage as fraudulent is still what is going on in that part of ijebu.maybe one part of one of then don mess up



Nigeria and tribalism since 1800

The truth is when you ask many people the cause of the special hatred for the ijebus, you will be hearing reasons like *Ijebus are stingy
*Ijebus use jazz and all sort of meaningless reasons. As for me, I stood my ground that I'll marry my Ijebu boyfriend. I did and am happy

olaglamour:
The truth is when you ask many people the cause of the special hatred for the ijebus, you will be hearing reasons like *Ijebus are stingy
*Ijebus use jazz and all sort of meaningless reasons. As for me, I stood my ground that I'll marry my Ijebu boyfriend. I did and am happy

I must stand my ground then...
How has been the experience so far with Ijebu man?

To me there is no reason for not marrying ur hearthrob because of some superstitious belief. Some say ijebu are stingy, wicked e.t.c. Believe me this same people will tell u, u can't marry from some family in your own clan, who will you marry then? As long as you know the person in question and you understand each other plus love, you're good to go. I married an ijebu man ( sagamu) (the very place people are afraid of ) and I've never regretted my action and am from Niger delta. What will u say to that?

Joy83:

I must stand my ground then...
How has been the experience so far with Ijebu man?

To God be the Glory, understanding between the partners matters

i really dont have any objections to people marrying within their own places, unless its not expedient to do so. For example, if outside input is needed for various reasons.

however, i noticed some people take offense at any suggestion of them marrying or dating within their locality including tribe or ethnicity.



everyone should do what suits them or what works best for them..

olaglamour:
The truth is when you ask many people the cause of the special hatred for the ijebus, you will be hearing reasons like *Ijebus are stingy
*Ijebus use jazz and all sort of meaningless reasons. As for me, I stood my ground that I'll marry my Ijebu boyfriend. I did and am happy

..

Nigerians thrive on superstition

zeemoore:


I told her "I love him and he loves me, that's all that mattters"

hehehehe

Tufia to the KWA-KWA!
I have never met a "semi-normal" one o.
E get as dem "look" like "OJUJU"!
E get as dem dey behave too!
Uncivilizeable!

Ijebu sha.......!

dapsy4u2:
Ijebu sha.......!

How do you mean?
Share your thought naa, and let's learn together.

KanwuliaJara:
Tufia to the KWA-KWA!
I have never met a "semi-normal" one o.
E get as dem "look" like "OJUJU"!
E get as dem dey behave too!
Uncivilizeable!

Don't put us in dark... Elaborate more on that sir!

tpia1:


hehehehe

Madam Tpia, ko funny o

You cannot blame people like me. I just blame people who have prejudice wiv out having first hand experience. I have never had it good wiv any ijebu person. Never. The ones I have come across all have the same traits..... Chaiiiiii it's a horrible experience for me and my family.

hmmm, the same thing happens here in the igbo tribe, Don't know why are people being adviced not to marry from Mbaise. When i asked why, they gave the same reasons to that of Ijebu. They usually say this "if you see an Mbaise man and a snake on the road, kill the mbaise man before you kill the snake" putting it that they're worse than snakes.
Hmmm.
I've told my parents, tribes or myths about a certain place or people won't stop me from marrying someone i see as a husband.
I don't give a damn!

Joy83:

Don't put us in dark... Elaborate more on that sir!

Look around NL!

Start with the "dysfunctional family" section!
I don't believe in ETHNIC-bashing and cleansing!
I just state my opinions and move on!

Nothing to elaborate on.
Me and dem nor get business.
Dem minds small and dark dem shyte-hole. . . .

Dazzzzzzzzz all!

sandijey:
You cannot blame people like me. I just blame people who have prejudice wiv out having first hand experience. I have never had it good wiv any ijebu person. Never. The ones I have come across all have the same traits..... Chaiiiiii it's a horrible experience for me and my family.

Hmmmmmm, I like your input here as you talked from experience with Ijebu man without bias I think.
Na wa ooo... So you have never seen any with good character to your taste? Does it mean you are still living with ijebu person though enduring?

Chaiiiiiiiiii... With the word 'horrible' you mentioned, I think I'm feeling the way you feel.
It is well with us!

Joy83:

Hmmmmmm, I like your input here as you talked from experience with Ijebu man without bias I think.
Na wa ooo... So you have never seen any with good character to your taste? Does it mean you are still living with ijebu person though enduring?

Chaiiiiiiiiii... With the word 'horrible' you mentioned, I think I'm feeling the way you feel.
It is well with us!

Wish I could explain the horrible experiences. Anyway it is well.

sandijey:



Wish I could explain the horrible experiences. Anyway it is well.

Just give us little point about the experience

Joy83:

Just give us little point about the experience

Number 1 is jazz and ritual. Number 2 betrayal. 3 love of money . Those 3 things I mentioned. I experienced it wiv all the ijebu people I came across. Had the opportunity of staying at ijebu igbo. Can't even say what my eye saw especially wiv the indigenes. That's all I can say

Joy83:
There is this orientation given by our elders that, there are some town within yoruba that they don't marry each other, and when they coincidentally do, bad things will happen to them.
They said, it is advisable for those areas to marry themselves than inter-marriage with other areas. This leads to the place like Ijebu in ogun state, where due to some things in the part, those who are not from Ijebu area are not advisable to marry from Ijebu. Whereas I envisage Ijebu citizens are not comfortable with this perception from other areas within yoruba with my recent encounter with some Ijebu citizen.
What is your opinion about this diatribe/bitter criticism within yoruba's sons and daughters?
Do you think we are in the right direction?

Your perception about this may help in great ways in our yorubaland!

from what i have been able do gather through extensive research, i think the other clans in yoruba are just envious of the ijebus first & foremost. they are the richest in yoruba, the most enlightened & they had first hand transaction with the white men back in the days.

another angle to it is - they benefitted immensely during the slave trade era. they set their own toll-gate and they were ruthless in taxing any slaveowner taking slaves to lagos port. all slaveowners must through ijebu to get to lagos back in the days.

the other accusations are stinginess, occultism, jujuism & the myth that their women are a poisoned chalice. their men have no issues at all(apart from love of money, stinginess, etc) according to my research but their women are a double-edged sword.

an ijebu woman is ready to push a newspaper vendor to the senate through her vast connections but if he betrays her via infidelity, womanising or having a love-child outside the marriage, the punishment is death!

believe it or not, this bit seems true. the ratio of ijebu landlords to ijebu landladies is about 1 to 20. so you are in safe hands marrying an ijebu chic provided all the agreed before the marriage are respected. if you default, you have bought yourself a first class ticket to lucifer.

Sounds like my kind of women.
Do you know any ijebu lady I can befriend?

I don't need anymore soppy,wimpy,jelly-brained female friends.

coogar:


from what i have been able do gather through extensive research, i think the other clans in yoruba are just envious of the ijebus first & foremost. they are the richest in yoruba, the most enlightened & they had first hand transaction with the white men back in the days.

another angle to it is - they benefitted immensely during the slave trade era. they set their own toll-gate and they were ruthless in taxing any slaveowner taking slaves to lagos port. all slaveowners must through ijebu to get to lagos back in the days.

the other accusations are stinginess, occultism, jujuism & the myth that their women are a poisoned chalice. their men have no issues at all(apart from love of money, stinginess, etc) according to my research but their women are a double-edged sword.

an ijebu woman is ready to push a newspaper vendor to the senate through her vast connections but if he betrays her via infidelity, womanising or having a love-child outside the marriage, the punishment is death!

believe it or not, this bit seems true. the ratio of ijebu landlords to ijebu landladies is about 1 to 20. so you are in safe hands marrying an ijebu chic provided all the agreed before the marriage are respected. if you default, you have bought yourself a first class ticket to lucifer.

cococandy:
Sounds like my kind of women.
Do you know any ijebu lady I can befriend?

tpia
sambarry
alutacontinua

Chai tpia is more than I can handle

Aluta na my babe so all I need is to take it to the next levels now.

Sambaryy eh?
Ok.

coogar:


tpia
sambarry
alutacontinua

Joy83:

How do you mean?
Share your thought naa, and let's learn together.

. I am not against the comfort and pleasure money bring but when it becomes an obsession..... Sorry I can't stand it now add the love of men! Jeeeeez!....Sorry I'm so so out of your life. Hope you get the picture

coogar:


tpia
sambarry
alutacontinua

i am not an ijebu woman. I am a lagos big girl and sorry I am not a lesbian.check next bus top

@ sandijey and coogar, thank you so much for this your experience and insight here.
I have really learnt a lot from you people.
@coogar, I will have to copy and save that your write up somewhere for reference sake... In all, that your term "poisoned chalice" in describing their female scare me now oooo.