NewStats: 3,265,253 , 8,186,132 topics. Date: Saturday, 14 June 2025 at 05:48 AM 1p1hu

This one thinks we're still in the stone age. Lol.

TOPCRUISE:
1) All that is filled in your social media is your twerking videos

2) Saying you are a virgin yet having a long knife scar in your lower abdomen which you explain it was caused by an accident.

3) Always going out at night with heavy make up and coming back early in the morning with the excuse that your factory work shift happens at night time.

This your number 2 point, I don't really understand it.
Please what do you mean by that?

BlackMenDumb:


This your number 2 point, I don't really understand it.
Please what do you mean by that?

Probably C-section I guess. This OP is just delusional.

AllBlack:


This one don vex oh. Avoid her. 😂

I agree with you 💯. All shades of toxicity in her through her comment.

Amwitty:


Probably C-section I guess. This OP is just delusional.

I wonder sha, some are valid some are not.

Ned Nwoko with all his money still allowed his wife to do BBL and have tattoos.

That's all true. That doesn't apply only to Nigerian men. It applies to all men.
Men haven't changed in the last 5,000 years, and they won't change anytime soon.
Only three things matter on a woman.
Pity the women who think otherwise.

free2ryhme:


Single adult giving marital advise

misplaced priority

Odiegwu my brother

UnknownQueen:


Very dangerous ke, .
Don't worry about me lightwind, na 6ft go end all of us last last, I don't mind drinking sniper if the pain is too much for me to bear.....
I've seen people with children suffer pain in old age, they weren't lonely but left alone in their sickness...so what difference did it make.

My queen come to me now....

yeyebrity:


Speak for yourself. I have pre wedding pictures of ladies that wear nose rings and leg chain. They even had their nose rings on in the pictures.

I'm talking in generalities here, you're bringing exceptions. Na wah o

You didn't see where i said MOST?
The average man does not want to marry a woman who dresses like a prostitute. Now does wearing nose ring make a woman a prostitute? No. But when she does ALL or most of those LovePeddler type of dressing, plus her friends do the same thing, and the kinds of places she goes to spend the nights in, then she's most likely a Prostitute or just the everyday Hoe.

* Economic hardship
* Body odor
* Bleaching
* Bad character ( nagging, complain over petty and silly things;etc)

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Women don't really know what fits them. If you advice them they will say you're jealous.

femi4:
yinmu

Don't let minimal exposure deceive you. Enter island n Ikoyi registry to o see people with those attributes and more getting married on Saturdays

Continue encouraging nonsense.

I'm disappointed in OP considering his history on NL. So ladies who graduated from schools outside Lagos should do what to live in Lagos? Using an expensive phone has nothing to do with being marriagable provided she can afford it or her family member gifted (dashed) her. So like this now, if I gift my sister an expensive phone, she becomes unmarriagable? The first high end phone she got was even a gift from her school.

What should ladies who got jobs in Lagos do, Nna? Live in Anambra and travel to Lagos every day for work? Some points are understandable (some modern men would be okay with tattoos to an extent), but using an expensive phone, answering many calls and living alone aren't reasonable at all.

franchasng:



Unfortunately some are as a result of fibroid which is beyond their control



But honestly, I hate big tummy on a lady, especially the single ones more than any other thing.



Dear ladies please strive to work on your tummy, I know it's not easy but try please, there is nothing sexy about a lady having a big protruding tummy when she isn't pregnant. It even makes you not to have fitting on any clothe

Whatever you say, they are always on food section gluttonously... They eat a lot. We have men with bigi belle ing the too much eating habit . After eating they fvck.. Thats enjoyment. Funny enough, a lot of these women and men are the ones controllin' the money.... But they can't be number 1(president). From President Obj to Tinubu, none of them had a bigi belle...
Currently, Obi no get big belle, Atiku no get big belle.. Shettima no get big belle..

It is disgusting seeing all those men with bigi belle coming to eatry, beer parlour with fit hungry ladies to these spots.

Eat eat big bellle, we like seeing you with bigi belle ladies like una. We know say una come to chop.
Bigi belle people are always there to chop. They are mostly SSA, PA, etc, but never President(number 1). Sorry for this, bigi belle people.

It is hard to find bigi belle people at 70 upward.. If you are young or mid age and wants to live longer!!!! Think twice.

Esthered:


Don't use your neighbor to generalize everyone.

I'm currently doing a training with a bank and most of my female colleagues are single, responsible and well to do in their own way and live alone. Guess what, some are in serious relationships.

Someone relocated from ABJ to LOS where she has no family for a better offer, you'll tell her to leave the offer because she'll have to rent and live alone and will never find a man. Babes we get cars and are independent.....I laugh in Spanish.

Funny enough my sister is in a serious relationship wey the family sabi the guy and he helped her select the apartment while she paid herself.

You guys talk as if you don't have sisters with career aspirations and big dreams that if staying alone will help them SCALE, why not?

Abi una sisters no japa to UK or Canada alone? You'll tell her to stay back because she needs to keep th3 image of a responsible lady to land a man at the expense of her growth and self-development.

Sometimes, I understand why many ladies stay off Nairaland and the feminist ideology of many educated Nigerian women. Staying alone shows independence as an adult, and we've men scream daily for their wives-to-be to be independent, aka don't be liabilities. Then all of a sudden, the women shouldn't use expensive phones and live alone even if they have no one in the state/city they work.

The thing with social media be say it has people from all walks of life who comment based on their outlook, which most times, are extremely limited in the grand scheme of things. One up there, a Keke driver (no offense to them) is wooing a lady based on what he has seen about her in the spirit realm. He doesn't even know if the lady is economically better than him.

Esthered:


I hope you didn't take offense and if you did, I apologize.

Non taken... Hope U enjoy Ur evening

blesdman:

Continue. Time will validate or invalidate ur opinion

A lady graduated from Unijos and got a job in a law firm in Lagos. She knows no one there. Where should she stay? Or should she let go of the job offer?

A lady runs a thriving business. As a way to reward/spoil herself, she gets the latest iPhone. Is that a bad thing to do as a spinster?

I'm genuinely curious to read your response.

Geofavor:

No serious man with functioning brain cells wants his wife smoking and getting high when there are kids to raise.

Bro leg chains, waist beads, multiple piercings, crazy hairstyles and colours, crazy outrageous tattoos all over, people dey marry them. Na Thier choice. U don't know some men even prefer to marry ex OS? They do everything together, drinking and smoking, hard drugs and shiii... Abi OS nor go marry? True thier brains might not be functioning normally but it's functional and it's what they choose

If she dey use necklace or wear revealing or transparent pants
Omo she no fit see husband oo

Gerrard59:

A lady graduated from Unijos and got a job in a law firm in Lagos. She knows no one there. Where should she stay? Or should she let go of the job offer?

A lady runs a thriving business. As a way to reward/spoil herself, she gets the latest iPhone. Is that a bad thing to do as a spinster?

I'm genuinely curious to read your response.

First case scenario: she should rent a modest apartment for easy movement to and from work.

2nd case scenario: Absolutely fine and that's a super babe who goes for what she needs and gets it legitimately. That's a queen no doubt. Even if she buys a Merc SUV provided her means are legit, to me she's a star ✨

Esthered:



Someone relocated from ABJ to LOS where she has no family for a better offer, you'll tell her to leave the offer because she'll have to rent and live alone and will never find a man. Babes we get cars and are independent.....I laugh in Spanish.

My story. Except the bolded part.

Gerrard59:

Sometimes, I understand why many ladies stay off Nairaland and the feminist ideology of many educated Nigerian women. Staying alone shows independence as an adult, and we've men scream daily for their wives-to-be to be independent, aka don't be liabilities. Then all of a sudden, the women shouldn't use expensive phones and live alone even if they have no one in the state/city they work.

Uncle use common sense na

It is the optics of the thing. If a young woman is single and lives alone, there's a good chance that she'd be more prone to engaging in certain... activities. Now is that the case for all single women who live alone? No. But again, it's the optics. If a woman is single and lives alone, she has the freedom to be a hoe and engage in hoe activities however she likes. But does that always mean she's going to be a hoe? No.

And as for the expensive phones, It's the optics once more. The issue is that if she doesn't have a job and she's using a very expensive phone, most people are gonna to assume a guy bought it for her. Could be a sugar daddy or it could just be from hook-up work. OR, it could be her father or brother.
Again, it's the optics.

And for guy, so simple.

Just be poœr

folake4u:


My story. Except the bolded part.

Awwwnn...lolz....you'll definitely have yours soon jare.

Gerrard59:

Sometimes, I understand why many ladies stay off Nairaland and the feminist ideology of many educated Nigerian women. Staying alone shows independence as an adult, and we've men scream daily for their wives-to-be to be independent, aka don't be liabilities. Then all of a sudden, the women shouldn't use expensive phones and live alone even if they have no one in the state/city they work.

The thing with social media be say it has people from all walks of life who comment based on their outlook, which most times, are extremely limited in the grand scheme of things. One up there, a Keke driver (no offense to them) is wooing a lady based on what he has seen about her in the spirit realm. He doesn't even know if the lady is economically better than him.

Thanks for saying the obvious. They say don't marry a liability: she's independent and now irresponsible. I think some are just confused or lack high value women in their family.

dkidd:


First case scenario: she should rent a modest apartment for easy movement to and from work.

2nd case scenario: Absolutely fine and that's a super babe who goes for what she needs and gets it legitimately. That's a queen no doubt. Even if she buys a Merc SUV provided her means are legit, to me she's a star ✨

In your submission of the first case, should she live alone in the modest apartment?

dkidd:

Non taken... Hope U enjoy Ur evening

Yes and you?

I am married and happy lol. To a foreigner who isn't expecting me to stop breathing because I have to get married. You guys need to grow up. You are not the standard.

odinson1:


Aje some women too stubborn. They'd be doing all manner of nonsense, and when men call it out, saying that men looking for relationships don't find those traits in women attractive, they'll say that there are some men who like women like that.
They don't know that those men are just using them for sex



Where you wan see foreigner wey go marry you?
Wetin you fit offer that foreigner exactly wey go make am marry you? This woman thinks It is only Nigerian men who have standards
My dear, MOST men, regardless of nationality or religion, have the same standards in women. If you like be stubborn and don't listen when men tell you what they want.

Esthered:

Yes and you?

Yup

Esthered:


In your submission of the first case, should she live alone in the modest apartment?

I think it completely depends on what she can afford or prefers although I would rather she lived alone cos i enjoy us times and if she has room mates that will be difficult except when she comes to my place. So it all depends on a lot sha