NewStats: 3,264,002 , 8,182,231 topics. Date: Monday, 09 June 2025 at 09:07 AM 1c3q31

This is sequel to an earlier thread


https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/8445299/what-saw-wifes-whatsapp-chat



I want to thank everyone for the advise both good and bad even though I did not highlight my own flaws.
I married my wife because she is the only one I've met that wasn't normal. I dated many girls when I was younger. Alot. They were all the normal girlish types. They drooled over me. They apologised and even cried if they went wrong(I de feel like obasanjo.. Lol) . They wrote emotional notes on cards or even sent emotional love messages.If they come to my house, they clean, wash and cook delicious meals. I enjoyed having them.. Some of them even use to sing love songs to me and professed love.. I was a handsome dude with a good job.
You see, my wife is the only girl I've met that didn't do all these. In beauty she wasn't comparable to the babes I dated-She is jusk ok(she always kept a frowning face by default) . She's Tom boyish like. Very independent minded. She couldnt cook or even clean(but has enormous strength in other good areas) . She wasn't drooling over me.So I became spellbound wanting to find out more.
She is a good woman and very loyal. I married her knowing how she is. She has improved in the cooking now tho not 100%. I even taught her most of what she knows but I get frustrated atimes by calling her names and shouting at her especially when I knew she didn't know basic things like steaming meat or even how to hold a knife to cut vegetables.
She was never the emotional type so it's not that she changed(forgive me for saying she has been acting wierd.. She has always been wierd) .
I feel she talks to me anyhow but in truth that's how she talks. In thier family they talk aggressively compared to me that came from a home where we talk in a calm way. I have tried to make her talk with me in a calm way but she can't help it.
She won't cheat on me.. I know women a little. She comes straight from work and she doesn't go anywhere that I don't know(she is a good woman and has a good heart) .
She doesn't make up, doesn't even dress to impress anyone. She doesn't even buy things for herself but for our home. I make it a duty to buy her clothes- make she even de try small.
That message could mean anything but why should I suspect the worst? My wife is not reactive as I am. She's never checked my phone for hints. She doesn't hide her phone and I have access to it anytime.
I won't divorce her.She knows her situation(so she plays attack these days.. Lol) I will Instead show more leadership and care. She is already going through a lot.Imagine losing a child and an all just to be diagnosed with diabetes.. Its a lot to bear. My idea of love is not her idea of love cos she is different and was raised differently.
She believes we should be like friends in the marriage but I hammer on respect all the time.
I even later showed her the former thread and didn't say anything(thats her nature).
If I demand an apology for what she said, she won't give it. She'l by herself think it over for 2weeks and apologise.. (I am not built that way-If in reverse, I would apologise immediately and get it off my chest)

I will go ahead and do surrogacy for her to have her own children.Lastly, She remains my wife and that's final.

Your wife told you to come and make this confession, after lying against her, and smearing her image, right?

Futuristica:
This is sequel to an earlier thread


https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/8445299/what-saw-wifes-whatsapp-chat



I want to thank everyone for the advise both good and bad. I married my wife because she is the only one I've met that wasn't normal. I dated many girls when I was younger. Alot. They all were the normal girlish type. They drooled over me. They apologised and even cried if they went wrong(I de feel like obasanjo.. Lol) . They wrote emotional notes on cards or even sent emotional love messages.When they come to my house, they clean, wash and cook delicious meals. I enjoyed having them.. Some even sing love songs to me and professed love.. I was a handsome dude with a good job. You see, my wife is the only girl I've met that didn't do all these. In beauty she wasn't comparable to the babes I dated-She is jusk ok(she always kept a frowning face by default) . She's Tom boy like. Independent minded. She couldnt cook or even clean(but has enormous strength in other good areas) . Wasn't drooling over me. I became spellbound wanting to find out more. She is a good woman and very loyal. I married her knowing how she is. She has improved in cooking now. I taught her most of it but I get frustrated atimes calling her names and shouting at her when I knew she didn't know basic things like steaming meat or even how to hold a knife to cut vegetables. She was never the emotional type so it's not that she changed(forgive me for saying she has been acting wierd.. She has always been wierd) .I feel she talks to me anyhow but in truth that's how she talks. In thier family they talk aggressively compared to me that came from a home that we talk in a calm way. I have tried to make her talk with me in a calm way but she can't help it. She won't cheat on me.. I know women a little. She comes straight from work and doesn't go anywhere I don't know(she is a good woman and has a good heart) . She doesn't make up, doesn't even dress to impress anyone. She doesn't even buy things for herself but for our home. I make it a duty to buy her clothes make she even de try small. That message could mean anything but why should I suspect the worst? My wife is not reactive as I am. She's never checked my phone for hints. She doesn't hide her phone and as I have access anytime. I won't divorce her.She knows she doesn't offer me much in some sense(so she plays attack.. Lol) Instead I will show more leadership and care. Shes already going through a lot.Imagine losing a child and your womb and just being diagnosed with diabetes.. Its a lot to bear. My idea of love is not her idea of love cos she is different and was raised differently. She believes we should be friends but I hammer on respect all the time. NB.. I showed her this thread and didn't say anything(thats her nature).If I demand for an apology, she won't give it. She'l by herself think it over for 2weeks and apologise.. (am not built that way-If in reverse, I would apologise immediately and get it off my chest)

I will go ahead and do surrogacy for her to have her children. She remains my wife.

You know why I quoted the post? For keepsake.
So that you won't change your mind and delete it.

Mariangeles:
Your wife told you to come and make this confession, after lying against her, and smearing her image, right?




You know why I quoted the post? For keepsake.
So that you won't change your mind and delete it.

You are very wrong. She's not the type.

Op, is that all?

Shalommy:
Op, is that all?

What else do u want to hear?

Futuristica:


You are very wrong

So, why did you lie against your wife, and allow bitter nairalanders call her all sorts of names?
Did that make you feel good?
A woman you were supposed to protect.

Futuristica:


You are very wrong. She's not the type.

"She's not the type." Now, you defend her! 🙄

Mariangeles:


So, why did you lie against your wife, and allow bitter nairalanders call her all sorts of names?
Did that make you feel good?
A woman you were supposed to protect.

I didn't lie.Maybe I exaggerated some bits. I was kinda paranoid.

Mariangeles:


So, why did you lie against your wife, and allow bitter nairalanders call her all sorts of names?
Did that make you feel good?
A woman you were supposed to protect.




"She's not the type." Now, you defend her! 🙄

That's the truth.. Anything wrong in a husband being Voltron for his wife?

The solution to your family problem is very simple.

All you need to do is to find a quite time, no TV, no distractions, make her seat on your laps, rest her head on your chests, your arms round her and then talk things out calm and slow.

You react to fast like "two fighting chemicals".

Wow! What did I just read?
I guess you just realized who your wife is after 7 years of marriage

Mariangeles:
Your wife told you to come and make this confession, after lying against her, and smearing her image, right?


You know why I quoted the post? For keepsake.
So that you won't change your mind and delete it.

Any small thing... vawulence!!.

advanceDNA:


Any small thing... vawulence!!.

Na wetin God send me come nairaland come do...to hammer truth inside people head, both men and women.
That truth wey nobody wan talk/hear, I go talk am.

Mariangeles:


Na wetin God send me come nairaland come do...to hammer truth inside people head, both men and women.
That truth wey nobody wan talk/hear, I go talk am.

This 'truth' na 'above the bar' lol

Futuristica:


This 'truth' na 'above the bar' lol

Better go beg your wife!
No be this one wey you dey here dey yarn.🙄

Una matter long jare

You come from a family that talks in a calm way, but you'd call her names and shout at her for not steaming the meat or not holding the knife the right way? Is that your definition of being calm?

And what kind of a good husband brings his wife's sensitive issues on a public platform without consulting with her first? If you had lost your child and balls, were you gonna be okay with her opening a thread about it on this same forum?

Futuristica:
This is sequel to an earlier thread


https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/8445299/what-saw-wifes-whatsapp-chat



I want to thank everyone for the advise both good and bad though I didn't highlight my own flaws. I married my wife because she is the only one I've met that wasn't normal. I dated many girls when I was younger. Alot. They all were the normal girlish type. They drooled over me. They apologised and even cried if they went wrong(I de feel like obasanjo.. Lol) .

They wrote emotional notes on cards or even sent emotional love messages.When they come to my house, they clean, wash and cook delicious meals. I enjoyed having them.. Some even sing love songs to me and professed love.. I was a handsome dude with a good job. You see, my wife is the only girl I've met that didn't do all these. In beauty she wasn't comparable to the babes I dated-She is jusk ok(she always kept a frowning face by default) . She's Tom boy like. Independent minded. She couldnt cook or even clean(but has enormous strength in other good areas) . Wasn't drooling over me. I became spellbound wanting to find out more. She is a good woman and very loyal. I married her knowing how she is.

She has improved in cooking now. I taught her most of it but I get frustrated atimes calling her names and shouting at her when I knew she didn't know basic things like steaming meat or even how to hold a knife to cut vegetables. She was never the emotional type so it's not that she changed(forgive me for saying she has been acting wierd.. She has always been wierd) .I feel she talks to me anyhow but in truth that's how she talks. In thier family they talk aggressively compared to me that came from a home that we talk in a calm way. I have tried to make her talk with me in a calm way but she can't help it. She won't cheat on me.. I know women a little. She comes straight from work and doesn't go anywhere I don't know(she is a good woman and has a good heart) . She doesn't make up, doesn't even dress to impress anyone. She doesn't even buy things for herself but for our home. I make it a duty to buy her clothes make she even de try small.

That message could mean anything but why should I suspect the worst? My wife is not reactive as I am. She's never checked my phone for hints. She doesn't hide her phone and as I have access anytime. I won't divorce her.She knows she doesn't offer me much in some sense(so she plays attack.. Lol) Instead I will show more leadership and care. Shes already going through a lot.Imagine losing a child and your womb and just being diagnosed with diabetes.. Its a lot to bear. My idea of love is not her idea of love cos she is different and was raised differently. She believes we should be friends but I hammer on respect all the time. NB.. I showed her this thread and didn't say anything(thats her nature).

If I demand for an apology, she won't give it. She'l by herself think it over for 2weeks and apologise.. (am not built that way-If in reverse, I would apologise immediately and get it off my chest)

I will go ahead and do surrogacy for her to have her children. She remains my wife.

Very repulsive reading this at first!

Help the reader ... Everything was just packed like a can of sardine!

Samantha125:
You come from a family that talks in a calm way, but you'd call her names and shout at her for not steaming the meat or holding the knife the right way? Is that your definition of being calm?

And what kind of a good husband brings his wife's sensitive issues on a public platform without consulting with her first? If you had lost your child and balls, were you gonna be okay with her opening a thread about it on this same forum?

So you know her?

Mariangeles:


Better go beg your wife!
No be this one wey you dey here dey yarn.🙄

LiveData:


Very repulsive reading this at first!

Help the reader ... Everything was just packed like a can of sardine!

Didn't u get the message? Everyone is not skilled in the art of writing u know!

I don't need to know her to know that you're a bad husband... You're busy portraying yourself as a saint while demonizing her.

How would you feel if you lost your child and balls and she opened a thread about it? Would you rejoice?

Futuristica:


So you know her?

Samantha125:
I don't need to know her to know that you're a bad husband... You're busy portraying yourself as a saint while demonizing her.

How would you feel if you lost your child and balls and she opened a thread about it? Would you rejoice?

Was the thread about her losing her child?

Why then did you mention such a sensitive issue on a public platform if it wasn't about her losing your child and her womb? Was that necessary? And you regard yourself as a good husband?

Futuristica:

Was the thread about her losing her child?

Nonsense and ingredients. Why will you bring your life affair to public domain? You are not fit to be a married man.

Thank you op for this addendum. Marriage can be complicated atimes. You know your wife better than everyone here. her the best you can.

Do your wife find it difficult to make friends?

Do she find it difficult to communicate?

I am vindicated at last 😄
A lot of people attacked me for pointing out in the previous thread that your wife was probably not cheating. It was the frustrations that made her become rebellious.
I respect you bro, cos you are one of the few men who actually understand women.
Most times we expect women to behave like us and think the way we do.
I wish you all the happiness in your home, bro.

His wife is the one who opened this second thread.
The husband is probably kneeling down outside with his hands holding his ears

The OP is under a spell.. you're still doubting yourself after seeing what you saw in her Whatsapp chat.
Wait till she runs off with her married male lover.. na that time your eyes go clear.

Futuristica:


That's the truth.. Anything wrong in a husband being Voltron for his wife?

Oga go and handle Ur family wahala and leave us out of it. It's Ur marriage. Do what works for u

MrMcJay:
His wife is the one who opened this second thread.
The husband is probably kneeling down outside with his hands holding his ears

Lol my first thoughts 😂

You both should see a marriage counselor.