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A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.

You really don't like her o...

You didn't say if you were in a relationship. Or your reasons you aren't into her

Don't be pressured into a relationship you don't want to be in!

U can't hold d two, if u keep on holding d wkly job, u will eventually married her,wait? U no get gf?? Why??

muyico:
U can't hold d two, if u keep on holding d wkly job, u will eventually married her,wait? U no get gf?? Why??

I have dated women and I currently don't have any nor want any in the next 5 years, I don't feel any attraction for her but I think she's confusing how I care about her for Love.

Because her Brother was even calling me his in-law when he saw me for the 1st time, omo I dae fear abeg.

Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.

I ire how you keep standing your ground... Keep doing that in an amicable and assertive manner

Connected1:

I have dated women and I currently don't have any nor want any in the next 5 years, I don't feel any attraction for her but I think she's confusing how I care about her for Love.

Because her Brother was even calling me his in-law when he saw me for the 1st time, omo I dae fear abeg.

smile! U don buy market, by accepting d deal, or just try to carry her siblings along, explain everything to him! Or else ?? U wanna put put ya self in trouble u can't even explain how u get into

She is desperate and will soon visit a pastor or a dibia to use whatever to either convince or confuse you.

May she find genuine happiness at last.

It is of advantage to a man when the greater love in a relationship is from the woman op give her a chance stop playing hard to get

JAOS:
It is of advantage to a man when the greater love in a relationship is from the woman op give her a chance stop playing hard to get

I have a lot of women profess love for me, to be honest I don't even know how to ask a woman out again because they mostly do it these days but this lady in question don't want to take No for an Answer.

I don't need a woman's love, I need finances and connections.

*Singing Love wan tintin ❤️ love wan tintin . Give her a chance . Use CD to enter the oil rig oo .Dnt impregnated her now make she nor show u her true color..U can date her for 6 months/1 year to knw bout her/attitude first.



Marriage/relationship isn't by FORCE .If u too aren't interested in her,find somebody and she'll move on

This ur style doesn't stop women from coming close.

If u are not interested in a woman,don't ever accept anything from her especially business deal from her brother. She will definitely tell those who care to listen to her that,she has helped u in ways she can't describe.

So,be careful before she start thinking juju for u.

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Connected1:

I have a lot of women profess love for me, to be honest I don't even know how to ask a woman out again because they mostly do it these days but this lady in question don't want to take No for an Answer.

I don't need a woman's love, I need finances and connections.

you need both, don’t be deluded, a relationship that works is one where a man chases his dreams while a woman chases his attention/affection and love and protection and everything fits. “Tell her you want to date her on trial/probation” see how she reacts

Laugh wan finish me here... Haven't laughed so hard in a while 😂😂


Make I continue reading

Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.

Lol don't chase her away angrily oo
Omor this thing funny die but to U I know it's very painful cos I been there a lot. The greatest mistake U will make is to knack her for whatever reasons. The day U try it is the day U buy Ur own coffin in the matter. No try am!!!
She's evil and is working on U. She may use that job to frustrate U but don't react angrily unnecessarily, forget about her intentions they're just what she's obsessed with always let her know her boundaries gently but with authority.

No dey act like say U dey consider her proposal

No dey act like it's affecting U by showing any form of emotions (-+) when she brings it up

And do not hate her for wanting U at least try mask am make she nor conclude say U hate her.

Some girls the moment they start being with U, Ur already their property. Na God save U say U never knack na sorry for be Ur name

brain54:
You really don't like her o...

You didn't say if you were in a relationship. Or your reasons you aren't into her

Don't be pressured into a relationship you don't want to be in!

Issa Lie!

He likes her even though he knows she is a very bad thing and but e don enter one of the Curses of fornic. so he does not know what to do.

Since he did not love himself so he must help her to help him, destroy him. It is when she has finished destroying him that she will go away while he will be wailing and screaming that women are evil.

dkidd:

Lol don't chase her away angrily oo
Omor this thing funny die but to U I know it's very painful cos I been there a lot. The greatest mistake U will make is to knack her for whatever reasons. The day U try it is the day U buy Ur own coffin in the matter. No try am!!!
She's evil and is working on U...

Too Late!

Shebi, Men believe that God is talking rubbish and that it is their right to knack any woman wey make dia pissing tool stand. So uncle don die already, e no know.

dkidd:

And do not hate her for wanting U at least try mask am make she nor conclude say U hate her..

So you no mind if evil wants you? Then you are not different from him

WantsandMore:
you need both, don’t be deluded, a relationship that works is one where a man chases his dreams while a woman chases his attention/affection and love and protection and everything fits. “Tell her you want to date her on trial/probation” see how she reacts

So, you think he's wriggling and jiggling in delusion, because he's firm and certain of the fact that, he doesn't want distraction and exploitation disguised as love?

TheBlueDiamond:



So, you think he's wriggling and jiggling in delusion, because he's firm and certain of the fact that, he doesn't want distraction and exploitation disguised as love?

you’re acting with logic but we all know there’s nothing logical in the matters of the heart…He mustn’t sacrifice one for the ambitions of the other, moreover what’s guaranteed if not love and affection?

She fine?
She get good character?
She sabi cook?
She promiscuous?

Answer those questions then marry/date who loves you more than you love them. But this one wey you say you no like am at all😂😂😂


Give her a chance but with no financial benefits and see what happens.

dkidd:

Lol don't chase her away angrily oo
Omor this thing funny die but to U I know it's very painful cos I been there a lot. The greatest mistake U will make is to knack her for whatever reasons. The day U try it is the day U buy Ur own coffin in the matter. No try am!!!
She's evil and is working on U. She may use that job to frustrated U but don't react angrily unnecessarily forget about her intentions they're just what she's obsessed with always let her know her boundaries gently but with authority.

No dey act like say U dey consider her proposal

No dey act like it's affecting U by showing any form of emotions (-+) when she brings it up

And do not hate her for wanting U at least try mask am make she nor conclude say U hate her.

Some girls the moment they start being with U, Ur already their property. Na God save U say U never knack na sorry for be Ur name

To be honest eh, I am always glad I never asked her out for fun or whatever neither did I ever have sex with her and she has been hiding under the mask of being a strong Christian.

She's very manipulative but it's well, we learn everyday.

Dtruthspeaker:


Too Late!

Shebi, Men believe that God is talking rubbish and that it is their right to knack any woman wey make dia pissing tool stand. So uncle don die already, e no know.



So you no mind if evil wants you? Then you are not different from him

Baba I haven't had sex with her oh, you think sex is my problem, how do some of you even feel about sex.

Connected1:

Baba I haven't had sex with her oh, you think sex is my problem, how do some of you even feel about sex.

Bros, sorry o, I no believe you. You know how much you don bleed troway already?

Men no dey troway money for woman wey dem no penetrate. And from the way you still allow her hang around you, e be like say you dey collect release

Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.

witch

Haunt am back fa

The girl saw a nice guy and wants to secure her future with you, I ire your discipline towards her by not having sex with her or dating her out of pity, some guys for Nairaland for dor knack her wetin nor good. But you should block her and never let her sub stories get to you, move on with your life. if you can't do that get two dulls write your name on one and her name on the other, wash them together with ogogoro, throw one at elegushi beach then the other at elekun beach, after that she will hate you for life and never get back to you again, trust me.

Really?

Lol she wan use Relationship trap u

WantsandMore:
you’re acting with logic but we all know there’s nothing logical in the matters of the heart…He mustn’t sacrifice one for the ambitions of the other, moreover what’s guaranteed if not love and affection?

Buhh in this case, his heart doesn't yearn for the lady at all, so there's no "matters of the heart".
It's the lady that's forcing herself on him through manipulation.

Besides, in all life facets, love especially, allowing the heart the sole liberty of choice, is something dicey, because it could lead an individual far astray.

With this valid and pragmatic concept, an enlightened individual won't boycott logic and circumspection when it comes to "matters of the heart", because his stability, focus and progress in life depends on it.

The heart would always feel. It's something involuntary which defies volition.
Buhh the brain is also allowed to do critical analyses, to play safe.

And no, love and affection aren't ultimately guaranteed, if he gives in to her advances.
More manipulations, exploitations and narcissism are what's guaranteed, if he panders to her tendencies.

Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.

Keep her till u get the job.

bro she is trying to manipulate you and you are half way in her trap, tell her to Bleep off and dont worry about the job if they dont pay you, you can find a new job, she is playing on your emotions and is getting the best of you at the moment, consider your peace of mind as paramount in this situation and block her, unless you done Bleep am and you no wan tell us e no suppose hard to block her

Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.

If she say you be her husband then you be her husband na