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My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

when I pressed further,she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated,I should give her a divorce .

When a woman starts to hint on divorce, she's no longer in love with you.





*They won't teach you this in marriage class.

Hmmm.... She's no longer with you. She's done with you a long time.

Zonefree:

When a woman starts to hint on divorce, she's no longer in love with you.





*They won't teach you this in marriage class.

She doesn't have a child for me yet after over 7years and I can say that I started the divorce thing first as I was fond of threatening her that if she doesn't do right,we may have to have a divorce

Futuristica:


She doesn't have a child for me yet after over 7years and I can say that I started the divorce thing first as I was fond of threatening her that if she doesn't do right,we may have to have a divorce

If she doesn't do what right?

Zonefree:

If she doesn't do what right?

I meant like is she keeps doing the wrong things or acting nonchalant

Futuristica:

I meant like is she keeps doing the wrong things or acting nonchalant

What are the wrong things?

Zonefree:

What are the wrong things?

She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc

A man should always be steps ahead in matters like this with a good strategy.
Most cheating women are not very smart,catching them is very easy if you don't show any signs of suspicion.
You confronted her too early cos you allowed emotions get the better of you.
If she's truly cheating, what you've done will make her to become more secretive and be more careful.

Futuristica:


She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc

Nawao.

God is your strength.

shortgun:
A man should always be steps ahead in matters like this with a good strategy.
Most cheating women are not very smart,catching them is very easy if you don't show any signs of suspicion.
You confronted her too early cos you allowed emotions get the better of you.
If she's truly cheating, what you've done will make her to become more secretive and be more careful.

Point is,I don't even want to catch her.But I suspect she had a thing that has ended.whats ur view about the message her work colleague sent her?

Zonefree:

Nawao.

God is your strength.

even lost our pregnancy due to too much sugar intake against my advice..now she is fully diabetic

Futuristica:


Point is,I don't even want to catch her.But I suspect she had a thing that has ended.whats ur view about the message her work colleague sent her?

The message is clear that she has ridden the married man.

Futuristica:


She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc

Did you not see all these things before una marry? Una 2 na una own problem

Futuristica:
even lost our pregnancy due to too much sugar intake against my advice..now she is fully diabetic

You want to know the undiluted truth?


She doesn't want to birth for you. She knows what she's doing.

Women always have plan B, unfortunately their husband or boyfriend are not always in that plan.

Like I said before, the Lord is your strength.

Do you still love her or want the marriage?

Futuristica:


Point is,I don't even want to catch her.But I suspect she had a thing that has ended.whats ur view about the message her work colleague sent her?

There's nothing much to the message, the friend might as well be referring to herself and not your wife.
With some of the things you've listed about your wife, i see a frustrated woman. It's time for you to look in your direction, the problem might just be with you

Zonefree:

You want to know the undiluted truth?


She doesn't want to birth for you. She knows what she's doing.

Women always have plan B, unfortunately their husband or boyfriend are not always in that plan.

Like I said before, the Lord is your strength.

Nope..she lost her womb in that pregnancy

shortgun:

There's nothing much to the message, the friend might as well be referring to herself and not your wife.
With some of the things you've listed about your wife, i see a frustrated woman. It's time for you to look in your direction, the problem might just be with you

Probably.But if love is gone as they say,then what's left?

Next time you will not open her phone again

shortgun:

There's nothing much to the message, the friend might as well be referring to herself and not your wife.
With some of the things you've listed about your wife, i see a frustrated woman. It's time for you to look in your direction, the problem might just be with you

My brother how is it him?
She can't cook and still refuse to learn
Lost alot of money invested in her to ponzi scam
Still refuse to say she is sorry when she is wrong due to her been too egomaniac.
If na you will u be happy.
A wise man once told me this word (am sorry )is a big breakthrough that comes without any cost.

ARISHEM:
Next time you will not open her phone again

a spot check is necessary bro..better to know what's up than to be taken by suprise

joceey:



My brother how is it him?
She can't cook and still refuse to learn
Lost alot of money invested in her to ponzi scam
Still refuse to say she is sorry when she is wrong due to her been too egomaniac.
If na you will u be happy.
A wise man once told me this word (am sorry )is a big breakthrough that comes without any cost.

He was threatening her with divorce instead of looking for workable solutions to fix the marriage from onset. Women feel devastated, demoralized and frustrated in any environment where they are shown rejection....she will never give her best or even try!
A man in every home must know how to work on the psychology of his wife

She had left you before now. Move on man better days ahead. No go kill yourself o.

Exceed15:
She had left you before now. Move on man better days ahead. No go kill yourself o.

..lol..I strong bro..na clarification na em I need to act o

Futuristica:
..lol..I strong bro..na clarification na em I need to act o

Toor ..

You had better let her go NOW. My candid advice

Person wey lost her womb, go dey triggered emotionally with any little thing.
If una nor settle matter, make una go una way.

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Nope..she lost her womb in that pregnancy[/quote]

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what can I do?was planning to do surrogacy to have kids with her.we live abroad but now am skeptical about it because once children are involved and if there is no love..that's a weapon against me