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joedejoe:
Bros

Marrying a girl you are older than by 15 years may look good but definitely will pose challenges at the long run.

When this girl is fully matured - 22 and above, she may realise then that you are an old man and may wish to fantasize with younger men of her age bracket. This will be an infidelity and you will not be able to condone sharing your beloved with other men out there.

This will bring in the problem of disloyalty, lack reverence and submissiveness of a wife to the husbands which are key panacea for a happy home and marriage.

Much later, by the time you are 65, should be 50 and as a 65 year old man, you may not be able to satisfy her intimacy demands. This may push her to the younger ones. The resultant effect is heartbreak and relationship, marriage and broken home.

Candid advise, go for a more matured girls at least those you are older than by 10 years. Otherwise why not go for those within and around your own age bracket?

This may sound too harsh and difficult for you but it will do you much good later. Everything bitter is medicinal.
May GOD give you the grace to take a delightsome decision to HIS glory and your own good in JESUS NAME. AMEN

Fallacy!

Why the prayer? Did he ask for prayers

Are you an hypocrite

Elyonboy:
Yes she is the one for me, I just needed other people's opinion on the matter thanks 🙏

About furthering education. That will wait for a while. She is very understanding, cooperative and Obedient.

Don't be too quick yo scream she's the one for you... Wait until she enter uni and make new friends, only then can you decide if she's the one for you

im 42 planning to marry 23years old

Elyonboy:
What type of stuffs? Like i said earlier, she is very mature for her age. If you see this girl, you won't believe she's 18. No jokes

I recommend you post her picture for validity by of NL

Sir when she starts Uni this relationship MIGHT end... Its just what it is.

Elyonboy:
Like the topic implies I've been dating this girl for almost a year now and we are about to take it to the next level.

She recently finished her waec while I'm a graduate and served since 2017. I am 15 years older than her

Is the Age gap too much to call it quits?

Nairalanders help me pls

Editor: The pix is a file photo, not the girl's Photo

Elyonboy:
Yes she is the one for me, I just needed other people's opinion on the matter thanks 🙏

About furthering education. That will wait for a while. She is very understanding, cooperative and Obedient.

Hmmm

It's so risky marrying an 18 years old girl o. She will likely still want to have fun and won't want to be caged down at some point. The relationship might even collapse when she gain ission.

It's a 50/50 thing sha and shey you get money sha?

koladebrainiac:
im 42 planning to marry 23years old

Girls between the age of 18-25 years no dey really hear word o. Most of them want to explore and have fun

koladebrainiac:
im 42 planning to marry 23years old

Don't plan again.
Go and play football outside.
Una too dey pursue girl-girl.

Elyonboy:
She actually looks and behaves very mature for her age in all honesty. That was the attraction in the first place. And i don't look old too. I have a baby face and i don't keep much beards.

It's in the head, not the body. If she was well trained, she will blossom in your eyes. If she was not well trained, you are in for trouble. Just make sure she is grounded from home. Don't listen to what the public tells you, as a man you are the one to set your house in order and give a woman the ability to build your home. Your future kids will thank you for choosing mommy.

Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde and husband, Matthew, celebrate 29 years in marriage and she got married at 18 when he was 28. People are scared of marriage because bad news sells faster than good news and those who have good homes don't need to what they have so most of what we see is from negative people and their bitter experiences.

Please fly your own plane, ignore the noise. Most importantly, do your homework first, it's all in your head.

The age is not an issue. Girls mature faster [mentally] than you people. Tendency for her to want to cheat [explore] and try to be smart [deceptive] is pretty high sha

…buh then it’s almost in everyone

Go look for girls 25 and over please

18 years old girl is about to start life…

It’s not about the age gap…
But most girls below 24 aren’t matured enough and need to through the test of that 18- 24 years

You don’t even know the kind of person she is yet until she es through that age…

Oga, leave that girl and if you can’ wait, come back when she es through 24

Haba bros

udemzyudex:


Mature in stature or what?

In stature and behavior

wo that one nobi my problems now, so i cant put mouth.

Elyonboy:
Yes she is the one for me, I just needed other people's opinion on the matter thanks 🙏

About furthering education. That will wait for a while. She is very understanding, cooperative and Obedient.

Should we tell him? 😃😃

You want to marry and you are looking for validation on social media.
Ebi like say you sef never mature finish.

The "age gap" isn't an issue provided both parties including her family agree to it. My major issue with that gap is the generational gap. There are many areas you both will not understand each other. For that reason, I cannot be your age and date such a lady girl.

P.S. Please don't mind anyone who says you are a "paedophile". That is one of the words people who live in a country with no constant power supply misuse because others who live in developed societies use it.

Elyonboy:
Like the topic implies I've been dating this girl for almost a year now and we are about to take it to the next level.

She recently finished her waec while I'm a graduate and served since 2017. I am 15 years older than her

Is the Age gap too much to call it quits?

Nairalanders help me pls

Editor: The pix is a file photo, not the girl's Photo

In essence, you started dating her as an underage?

pansophist:
The age gap is not the issue, its the maturity.

For example, a man of 45 years can marry a woman of 30 years old and no one with see it as abnormal.

So the difference between an 18 years old girl and a 33 years old man is her maturity, and the consent of those who loves her, such as her guardians.

This is the kind of situation where arranged marriage is very important, because the responsibilities of vetting you properly is not something the 18 years old girl is matured or experienced enough to do herself.

With such maturity gap, there is a risk that an irresponsible man will find it easy to manipulate and marry a naive girl who lack the life experience to hold him able on anything, especially when it comes to providing and treating her good.

So if you must marry her, make sure it includes traditional marriage, which will involves all her family , and their participation is an evidence to the approval of your union.

So not just court marriage that involves few people which you can recruit yourself.

There is a strong relationship between age and maturity. While there can be exceptions to the rule, it is expected that the man should have a high level of tolerance and maturity to manage the age gap if he truly wants to enjoy the marriage. Teenagers will be teenagers!!!! You can't expect them to have the same level of maturity as 30-year-olds.

At 18 and matured for her age ..... compared to those around her?...18 year olds you've met? Not doubting you. Not doubting that she may look physically more mature as well. Is she exposed enough? Is she experienced enough? Bro ... don't invest too much heart and money in her ...it is likely to lead to heartbreak. How many girls have solid relationships and when they go to university the relationships crash? Why?...because they become exposed. ..they have more choices... see more interesting qualities in other guys. You may be a nice guy ..but now she sees an equally nice guy .... but he is tall ...while you are short ...and now she prefers the taller guy. Do you really think she will stop to consider how long you two were together and give you the benefit of the doubt? Women don't think like that. Even she sticks with you ... that man is going to be in the shadows . How do you think sooo many husbands be raising shadow husband children? Not saying dump her ...give her time to mature ..to be exposed ...before making decisions.

Elyonboy:
Bro, this girl is very different and way matured above most of her peers. When she told me her age i couldn't believe and thought it a joke until i came across her birth certificate.

I will do as stated Sir, already making plans to that effect. Thanks alot 🙏

You are very silly, thinking of impregnating an 18 year old girl so that you can imprison her? I will tell you for free that one day she'll come to her senses, and once she begins to regret everything, she'll make your life a living hell.
She's a kid, leave her alone.

Alot of you giving advice arent saying it whole.

For me, it is a No, thr Age gap is a problem sir.


Why?

Maturity comes in different levels, emotional maturity is something. At 18 years, the emotions are high, it is alot honestly. I am not you but I make it a rule to keep to a relative age gap. A 30+ dating an 18 is not something I would endorse .

, marriage is forever. There is an adage it is he who wears the hat, that knows where it itches him.


Let her mature bro, 18 I believe is period for her to understand herself more. You must treat a woman like a woman before you treat her as a wife. Thats what I believe. Think of 10,20,30 years from now. Anyway, your cup of tea. I believe if you believe she is the one. Let her grow into a woman ,maturity transcend how one speaks and behaves. Not all girls are women and not all women are wives. Time tells who is who , best!

Me and my lady have been together for 3-4 years now, we have a plan of action concerning marriage. Our finances and relationship has to be in proper frame before we jump into marriage. She and I have decided to properly understand ourselves ( not sexually) our characters, temparament and know how we can respond in marriage. None of us want to bring up kids into a dysfunctional home at some point. Marriage is a serious business. Please think twice before you get an 18 years old in a life long decision that could turn out not to favor neither you or her.

Consider marriage within 10 years of your age. There is an unwritten rule about this. Its not a fluke or mistake. Think twice sir, but in the end ,make your choice.

The below is for you

koladebrainiac:
im 42 planning to marry 23years old

U go see shege, no worry, no need to advice you

You realize you are not anonymous here, right?
What it takes is for me to place a call to a female child right NGO director friend and present your case to her and you with the lazy mother of the young girl that is taking money from you will have a case to answer.
Leave the innocent young girl alone. she's not ripe enough to withstand the pressures of marriage.

Elyonboy:
Arrest me for what?

Did i break any law ?

Honesty our love is deeper than physical attraction.

OldNairalander:
You realize you are not anonymous here, right?
What it takes is for me to place a call to a female child right NGO director friend and present your case to her and you with the lazy mother of the young girl that is taking money from you will have a case to answer.
Leave the innocent young girl alone. she's not ripe enough to withstand the pressures of marriage.

As in ehn. Person wey just finish secondary school. Wetin she know?

koladebrainiac:
im 42 planning to marry 23years old

The thing tire me

Ikaeniyan0:
Girls between the age of 18-25 years no dey really hear word o. Most of them want to explore and have fun

Most is yes but not entirely all of them.

Leave that girl to fully develop biko. Look for a girl of btw 24 and 28 years and marry

Shalom

Seun do I really deserve to be ban for this kind of comment below?

Scamburster:


Most is yes but not entirely all of them.

when he marries a 27 to 29 year old gal now, they are the same people that will cry and say she's old and infertile

Ikaeniyan0:
Seun do I really deserve to be ban for this kind of comment below?

yes