NewStats: 3,263,752 , 8,181,265 topics. Date: Saturday, 07 June 2025 at 05:38 PM l6q2y

Wanting an Odogwu is not the problem.

But the big questions are:

Are you an intelligent woman?

Are you a career-oriented woman?

Are you an ambitious woman?

Are you a woman who can invest in love and relationships?

Are you a modest and sweet woman?

Do you have a job?

Can you feed yourself?

Do you depend on men for a living?

What are the quality of your friends?

Are you truly independent to handle your situations and at the same time maintain a quality level of feminity?

Before I proceed, do you have a banging body like Chioma?

Firm boobs?
Sumptuous buttocks?
Average height?
A personified figure 8?

Every woman desires a man like Obiora. But every woman must also understand that men like Obiora are only for selected women like Chioma.

Even though Obiora wasn't portrayed as an accurate representation of masculinity in of understanding female psychology and romantic dynamics, at least he knew what he wanted in a woman. And Chioma ticks his checkbox.

The faulty side of Obiora's masculinity is that he intends to buy love with cash and gifts.

However, there's a difference between winning women with baits and giving a woman who has already won your heart baits (presents).

Trying to buy a woman's love with materials and luxury will always get him exploited. Because women are like what ants are to sugar.

Luckily for Obiora, Chioma wasn't there to exploit his pocket and generosity because she was truly an independent woman.

Concurrently, Chioma was Obiora's species. Hence, he wasn't after her body.

Chioma was very optimistic about the man she desired. But Odogwu Obiora didn't meet that spec and standard. Although it took a retrospective check to correct her patterns before accepting him.

Now, love and relationships can happen from different angles. It's not exactly stated or certain how it should be or how it should go, provided the spouses find themselves convenient for each other.

But settling down as an option is what must be put into consideration.

You are not meant to convince someone to love you. The chemistry might not be spontaneous from the onset, however, it should have a bit of spark.

For Obiora and Chioma, there was a spark, but Obiora needed a notebook of persuasion to win Chioma; Obiora was not Chioma's spec.

Going on a long journey of persuasion to win love is a reckless and foolish one. Even if that person later accepts you, it was because you were the last option and not the best bet.

So these are some of the lessons learned:

1. Have a quality and good standard for everything you want or do.

2. Select quality people and friends.

3. Learn to stand up for yourself when faced with annoying bosses or bullies.

4. Focus on your dreams. Don't abandon your dream trying to build someone's.

5. Be bold. Be courageous.

6. Become truly independent. Your life shouldn't be dictated by the emotions of other people.

7. Don't spend to please people or make people like you.

8. Give leeches a runtime for their existence. Fumigate them thoroughly.

9. For men, find a woman like Chioma - in all of her ramifications.

10. For women, you need an Odogwu.

Summarily, genuine love isn't predicted on luxury and materials. It comes down to hearts who truly love themselves and are willing to make the best out of it.

@emmaodet

Going through your diary has really caused me great ponder and soberness.

In local parlance "na man you be. Idan. Agba".

Please, be careful not to allow yourself become the ultimate sacrifice - you figure out this yourself.

You need to create distance. You need to stay afar.

Your children need you. Your wife need you.

Anything wrong happen to you tomorrow, your immediate nuclear family will suffer. So, it's better you keep yourself alive for them.

You've done well for your siblings and father. If it's to give them a sum of money and ghost them forever, you can think of it. They are not ready to build with you. They don't share in your vision.

Please, be careful with these people. Be extra cautious.

Ghosting or dealing from afar while protecting and guarding your nuclear family should be your ultimate concern now.

Your father and siblings are adults. They will survive if you die tomorrow. So don't kill yourself for them today.

Kudos, big chief.

Happy New month in advanced.

CaveAdullam:
@emmaodet

Going through your diary has really caused me great ponder and soberness.

In local parlance "na man you be. Idan. Agba".

Please, be careful not to allow yourself become the ultimate sacrifice - you figure out this yourself.

You need to create distance. You need to stay afar.

Your children need you. Your wife need you.

Anything wrong happen to you tomorrow, your immediate nuclear family will suffer. So, it's better you keep yourself alive for them.

You've done well for your siblings and father. If it's to give them a sum of money and ghost them forever, you can think of it. They are not ready to build with you. They don't share in your vision.

Please, be careful with these people. Be extra cautious.

Ghosting or dealing from afar while protecting and guarding your nuclear family should be your ultimate concern now.

Your father and siblings are adults. They will survive if you die tomorrow. So don't kill yourself for them today.

Kudos, big chief.

Happy New month in advanced.

Thanks alot Cave. I really appreciate for the kind words.

emmaodet:


Thanks alot Cave. I really appreciate for the kind words.

Kudos, chief.

Happy New Month of May.

CaveAdullam:


Kudos, chief.

Happy New Month of May.

Wish you the same bro