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I've not been lucky in relationships. Now I'm trying to get married and it seems all the ladies I meet have a red flag.

I created a thread on my last relationship
https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/8324668/wedding-plans-suspended-advice

My uncle referred one to me and she's subtly billing already. Saying her phone hangs and she doesn't take calls only Whatsapp. I'll call and she won't pick up and she'll say hello on Whatsapp.

I have prayed and fasted.

I just need a 25-28 yo igbo lady preferably imo state that's very reasonable

Am I the problem or is it a general thing for Nigerian women?

Go and make amends with that lady (and her family) you were about to marry and jilted.
You deeply offended that family.

Not only you. Many men face similar situations before and after marriage.

And don't make any amend with any former woman you wanted to marry. You owe her and family nothing., they owe you nothing as well.

Now back to my advise for you.

It seems you are going after wrong women. The other one never loved you and came from "women affairs only" family. This one too is showing a sign that she doesn't like you and only interested in billing you.

Go after ladies in your societal class. STOP looking down to pick a wife. That method is now old and not working with modern women.

The modern tactics or method for men too is to marry in their class or even marry higher class women.

These days, no matter the class of a woman, poor, rich, educated, non educated, famous , unknown etc. They all demand same responsibility from men. They are looking for a "sponsor" that they will be bossing around in the name of "gender equality".

adaperry25:
➜ I've not been lucky in relationships. Now I'm trying to get married and it seems all the ladies I meet have a red flag.
➜ I created a thread on my last relationship https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/8324668/wedding-plans-suspended-advice
My uncle referred one to me and she's subtly billing already. Saying her phone hangs and she doesn't take calls only Whatsapp. I'll call and she won't pick up and she'll say hello on Whatsapp. I have prayed and fasted. I just need a 25-28 yo igbo lady preferably imo state that's very reasonable. Am I the problem or is it a general thing for Nigerian women?

Yes, you said it yourself in your first line that you are the problem. So, imagine my shock when in the next sentence you claim you are trying to get married.

2. Is your particular goal to come back here, less than 2 years into the marriage, to blame the woman for why the marriage did not turn out the way you expected, or what? I am beginning to believe some of you preplan these retarded moves.

adaperry25:
I've not been lucky in relationships. Now I'm trying to get married and it seems all the ladies I meet have a red flag.

I created a thread on my last relationship
https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/8324668/wedding-plans-suspended-advice

My uncle referred one to me and she's subtly billing already. Saying her phone hangs and she doesn't take calls only Whatsapp. I'll call and she won't pick up and she'll say hello on Whatsapp.

I have prayed and fasted.

I just need a 25-28 yo igbo lady preferably imo state that's very reasonable

Am I the problem or is it a general thing for Nigerian women?

Take it from a man in his 40s. If u never ready to adopt total stranger wey go make Ur life miserable and become entitled to your properties and cut Ur life short. No marry at all. Stop looking for problems for Ur life

People can perceive desperation. It’s better to “look” for wife when you’re not desperate. You just broke up a relationship, why are you in a hurry to start another?

Cowbell521:
Take it from a man in his 40s. If u never ready to adopt total stranger wey go make Ur life miserable and become entitled to your properties and cut Ur life short. No marry at all. Stop looking for problems for Ur life

women are bad while men are good abi?

Na you sabi. As for me, marriage has never been my cup of tea. I'm a free bird till I die. 😤

FiveFootNinja:
Na you sabi. As for me, marriage has never been my cup of tea. I'm a free bird till I die. 😤

you no go get generation right

Lol 😂

Firebox123:
➜you no go get generation right Lol 😂

What real value do you obtain from having this generation?

Kobojunkie:
What real value do you obtain from having this generation?

I have a properties to handover to them

So rest

Firebox123:
you no go get generation right

Lol 😂

No be only generation. Generator nko? 😂

Firebox123:
➜I have a properties to handover to them. So rest

What is the guarantee that once you hand over that property, it will not be used up in buying women and paying for booze the next moment?

Now, I am not saying that you shouldn't have property or have your generations. I am simply trying to understand how you determined the real value of this generation of yours.

Why are you praying and fasting to get married?

Acidosis:


Why are you praying and fasting to get married?

Because it is very necessary to seek GOD while searching for a life partner.

you're the problem


fix that

Mariangeles:
Go and make amends with that lady (and her family) you were about to marry and jilted.
You deeply offended that family.

Helpout12345:
Not only you. Many men face similar situations before and after marriage.

And don't make any amend with any former woman you wanted to marry. You owe her and family nothing., they owe you nothing as well.

Now back to my advise for you.

It seems you are going after wrong women. The other one never loved you and came from "women affairs only" family. This one too is showing a sign that she doesn't like you and only interested in billing you.

Go after ladies in your societal class. STOP looking down to pick a wife. That method is now old and not working with modern women.

The modern tactics or method for men too is to marry in their class or even marry higher class women.

These days, no matter the class of a woman, poor, rich, educated, non educated, famous , unknown etc. They all demand same responsibility from men. They are looking for a "sponsor" that they will be bossing around in the name of "gender equality".

Hmmmmm
Good write-up

Come and marry me, biko. That is, if you don't mind a night newspaper transgender.

adaperry25:
I've not been lucky in relationships. Now I'm trying to get married and it seems all the ladies I meet have a red flag.

I created a thread on my last relationship
https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/8324668/wedding-plans-suspended-advice

My uncle referred one to me and she's subtly billing already. Saying her phone hangs and she doesn't take calls only Whatsapp. I'll call and she won't pick up and she'll say hello on Whatsapp.

I have prayed and fasted.

I just need a 25-28 yo igbo lady preferably imo state that's very reasonable

Am I the problem or is it a general thing for Nigerian women?

If she doesn't pick your calls, her number should not be in your phone s.

Mariangeles:


Because it is very necessary to seek GOD while searching for a life partner.

He gave God a condition for who he wants as a partner. I think the prayer and fasting are pointless. The same applies to the majority of people who want a particular kind of man or woman as a partner.

I just need a 25-28 yo igbo lady preferably imo state that's very reasonable.

Acidosis:


He gave God a condition for who he wants as a partner. I think the prayer and fasting are pointless. The same applies to the majority of people who want a particular kind of man or woman as a partner.

That is the prayer pattern of most of us anyways.
We pray, then tell GOD how to answer.

Mariangeles:


That is the prayer pattern of most of us anyways.
We pray, then tell GOD how to answer.

I get irritated when I see men praying to have women to marry. Are you that poor, ugly or without brain? Some of us have more than 5 decent women with sweet characters begging us to marry them and it’s not as if we are Dangotes or Otedolas of this world. We just have the steeze of a proper man.

StPete:
➜I get irritated when I see men praying to have women to marry. Are you that poor, ugly or without brain?
➜ Some of us have more than 5 decent women with sweet characters begging us to marry them and it’s not as if we are Dangotes or Otedolas of this world. We just have the steeze of a proper man.

The saddest of all of this is that na these same proper men of steeze dey suffer at the hand of women the most. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I am not for people praying foolishly but engaging common sense in these things. The same way you go about choosing the kain shirt you want to wear, considering weather, occasion, and circumstance, etc., is pretty much the same way any man or woman ought to go about picking a spouse. 🤔

These things are not meant to be do-or-die affairs, and not by number. Saying you are, for instance, surrounded by women begging you to marry them should mean absolutely nothing, but unfortunately, many of you, even after all of the lessons of history, never learn. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

adaperry25:
I've not been lucky in relationships. Now I'm trying to get married and it seems all the ladies I meet have a red flag.

I created a thread on my last relationship
https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/8324668/wedding-plans-suspended-advice

My uncle referred one to me and she's subtly billing already. Saying her phone hangs and she doesn't take calls only Whatsapp. I'll call and she won't pick up and she'll say hello on Whatsapp.

I have prayed and fasted.

I just need a 25-28 yo igbo lady preferably imo state that's very reasonable

Am I the problem or is it a general thing for Nigerian women?

Whatever you do, make sure you don't end up marrying a liability in this hard economy.

Kobojunkie:
The saddest of all of this is that na these same proper men of steeze dey suffer at the hand of women the most.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I am not for people praying foolishly but engaging common sense in these things. The same way you go about choosing the kain shirt you want to wear, considering weather, occasion, and circumstance, etc., is pretty much the same way any man or woman ought to go about picking a spouse. 🤔

These things are not meant to be do-or-die affairs, and not by number. Saying you are, for instance, surrounded by women begging you to marry them should mean absolutely nothing, but unfortunately, many of you, even after all of the lessons of history, never learn. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

That you suffer in the hands of women does not mean proper men like us share the same fate with you. Don’t post your insecurities or shortcomings to me, I’m not the cause of it.

I have said my beat about me. I am a proper man with steeze. I don’t beg nor brag about women. I just hope the OP finds his own value rather than looking for women to look his way. I have said my piece, any other contrary opinion you post after this is for your pocket!

StPete:
➜That you suffer in the hands of women does not mean proper men like us share the same fate with you. Don’t post your insecurities or shortcomings to me, I’m not the cause of it.
➜ I have said my beat about me. I am a proper man with steeze. I don’t beg nor brag about women. I just hope the OP finds his own value rather than looking for women to look his way. I have said my piece, any other contrary opinion you post after this is for your pocket!

1. I am afraid you have got it twisted. It is mostly these proper men like you who suffer at the hands of women. Other men, who have long realized that like men, women are in relationships for their benefits as well, are not that phased in relationships.

2. And I made clear in my last post that it is these so-called men of steeze that litter the pages of Nairaland with stories of their bitter experiences with women.

Kobojunkie:
1. I am afraid you have got it twisted. It is mostly these proper men like you who suffer at the hands of women. Other men, who have long realized that like men, women are in relationships for their benefits as well, are not that phased in relationships.

2. And I made clear in my last post that it is these so-called men of steeze that litter the pages of Nairaland with stories of their bitter experiences with women.

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Any other contrary opinion you post after this is for your pocket! Kapish