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For decades, men have been told that marriage is a partnership—but let’s be honest.

In reality, the old rule still applies:

💰 A man’s money is for the family.
💸 A woman’s money is for herself.

And when she does contribute, she expects it back—one way or another.

🚩 If a man pays for everything, that’s his duty.
🚩 If a woman contributes, she wants a refund later.
🚩 If she buys her husband a gift, she expects something bigger in return.

This is the unspoken financial scam that keeps men trapped.

Men, Stop Being Brainwashed!

Society has trained men to believe that accepting financial help from their wives is a failure.

❌ If your wife pays the rent, you should feel ashamed.
❌ If she covers school fees, you are not man enough.
❌ If she buys groceries, you must refund her.

So what do men do?

✔ They overcompensate.
✔ They refuse help—even when struggling.
✔ They return the money—sometimes doubling it—to "prove" they are still the man.

Meanwhile, women exploit this insecurity by giving just enough to guilt-trip men into paying it back later.

The Hypocrisy of Financially Selfish Wives

Let’s paint a picture:

Your wife earns money but contributes nothing to household expenses.

You pay the rent, school fees, healthcare, food—everything.

She keeps her salary untouched—spending it on wigs, vacations, designer bags.


Now, who exactly is she saving her money for?

🔴 A secret boyfriend?
🔴 A future escape plan?
🔴 Or does she just enjoy watching you suffer while she relaxes?

If she truly loved her husband and children, she would contribute to their well-being.

Marriage is Not a One-Man Burden

In the past, men were the sole providers because women didn’t work. Their job was to raise kids, cook, and manage the home full-time.

But in 2025:

✔ Women work.
✔ Women earn money.
✔ Women demand equality.

Yet, some still cling to outdated expectations where the man carries all the financial burden—while they enjoy full equality everywhere else.

🚨 This is selective feminism. 🚨

✔ If you want equality, contribute equally to the household.
✔ If you want to keep your salary to yourself, stop demanding financial security from a man.

You cannot pick and choose when equality benefits you.


Men, Wake Up!

A wife who earns money but refuses to the household is not a partner—she is a financial parasite.

Marriage should not be a one-man job.

🚩 Don’t marry a woman who won’t contribute financially.
🚩 Don’t let a woman manipulate you into carrying all the burden.
🚩 Don’t believe the lie that provision = love.

Men, choose wisely. The economy is getting tougher daily. Your future depends on it.

Cc Nlfpmod seun

The most interesting point about this whole conversation is that, both the feminist, non-feminist & those who fully believe in traditional roles all want men who are ready and willing to pay all the bills. Be a traditional man etc.

So for a man, there is really no difference. They all want the same thing.

The biggest cue which I tell everyone is, during dating if that lady doesn't buy you anything TANGIBLE with her OWN money for you, she is never going to contribute anything financially in the future. The cue has never failed, once you access your life & can't point on any tangibles received. It's time to go.

Some women operate with a deeply ingrained belief that financial responsibility belongs solely to the father.

Even when they are earning their own money, they:

🚩 Hoard their salary for personal use.
🚩 Ignore their children’s needs, expecting the father to provide everything.
🚩 Only spend when pressured or embarrassed.

This is not motherhood—it’s financial neglect.

A father should be a provider, yes. But parenting is a shared duty, not a financial contract where one parent carries all the weight.

tosinhtml:
The most interesting point about this whole conversation is that, both the feminist, non-feminist & those who fully believe in traditional roles all want men who are ready and willing to pay all the bills. Be a traditional man etc.

So for a man, there is really no difference. They all want the same thing.

The biggest cue which I tell everyone is, during dating if that lady doesn't buy you anything TANGIBLE with her OWN money for you, she is never going to contribute anything financially in the future. The cue has never failed, once you access your life & can't point on any tangibles received. It's time to go.

You are very correct. Marriage doesn't change people it amplifies their characters.

It is disturbing that some women will freely spend money on themselves, their friends, and even strangers—but not on their own children.

And yet, when their husbands struggle financially, they still expect the same level of provision.

This is hypocrisy.

A Mother’s Money is Not Just Hers

A mother’s role isn’t just emotional—it’s financial too.

✔ If you can afford to help your child, do it.
✔ If you expect your husband to provide, contribute as well.
✔ If you can spend on yourself, you can spend on your child.

No child should feel abandoned by their own mother—not because she is broke, but because she is selfish.

Men are the biggest problem to themselves...Their are a lot of young girls who are jobless, or earn less than 500k a year, who came from poor or very poor background but meet them and talk to them; they will tell you they want a man who has this, that and many more...she doesn't want to settle for less, she wouldn't even date a guy without a car...where do you think she gets that audacity from?....Men...she knows that there are men out that willing to go above and beyond just to get her.

I have been in hospitality business for years now and bro I cannot even begin to tell you what I have witnessed...I have seen guys send 200k to girls just for her to agree to go out with them...I have seen guys buy a higher model of phone for girls just for her to leave who she is currently dating....


After all these madness and waste to get girls..what do you think will happens to their mentality? They become entitled...they feel it is their right to get everything from a man, the world revolves around them.so why expect her to give you her money, or care about your struggles when society and other men have made her understand that she is Queen and only thing she deserves is the "soft life".

tosinhtml:
✓ The most interesting point about this whole conversation is that, both the feminist, non-feminist & those who fully believe in traditional roles all want men who are ready and willing to pay all the bills. [/b]Be a traditional man etc.
✓ So for a man, there is really no difference. They all want the same thing.
✓ The biggest cue which I tell everyone is, during dating if that lady doesn't buy you anything [b]TANGIBLE with her OWN money for you, she is never going to contribute anything financially in the future. The cue has never failed, once you access your life & can't point on any tangibles received. It's time to go.

Are theen in question imbe-ciles?

2. Wait a second...are attempting to convince us that men who marry women who do not contribute their quota in the relationship are somehow victims?!

3. Ah! So, you do concede that only an imbe-cile of a man would openly choose to marry a woman who has no intentions of contributing to the marriage, and then turn around to complain about it?

Dpsychologist:
✓ Some women operate with a deeply ingrained belief that financial responsibility belongs solely to the father.
Even when they are earning their own money, they:
🚩 Hoard their salary for personal use.
🚩 Ignore their children’s needs, expecting the father to provide everything.
🚩 Only spend when pressured or embarrassed.
This is not motherhood—it’s financial neglect.
✓ A father should be a provider, yes. But parenting is a shared duty, not a financial contract where one parent carries all the weight.

Why stalk such women if they are not the sort of women you are interested in marrying?

2. If this father-man feels this way then the common sense thing for him to court and marry women who share the same values. Why daye women who don't share your same value only to then complain about the expected outcome? No be brain damage be that?

Magnetic010:
Men are the biggest problem to themselves...Their are a lot of young girls who are jobless, or earn less than 500k a year, who came from poor or very poor background but meet them and talk to them; they will tell you they want a man who has this, that and many more...she doesn't want to settle for less, she wouldn't even date a guy without a car...where do you think she gets that audacity from?....Men...she knows that there are men out that willing to go above and beyond just to get her.

I have been in hospitality business for years now and bro I cannot even begin to tell you what I have witnessed...I have seen guys send 200k to girls just for her to agree to go out with them...I have seen guys buy a higher model of phone for girls just for her to leave who she is currently dating....


After all these madness and waste to get girls..what do you think will happens to their mentality? They become entitled...they feel it is their right to get everything from a man, the world revolves around them.so why expect her to give you her money, or care about your struggles when society and other men have made her understand that she is Queen and only thing she deserves is the "soft life".

Yes men play a huge role to this.

Magnetic010:
1. Men are the biggest problem to themselves...Their are a lot of young girls who are jobless, or earn less than 500k a year, who came from poor or very poor background but meet them and talk to them; they will tell you they want a man who has this, that and many more...she doesn't want to settle for less, she wouldn't even date a guy without a car...where do you think she gets that audacity from?....Men...she knows that there are men out that willing to go above and beyond just to get her.
I have been in hospitality business for years now and bro I cannot even begin to tell you what I have witnessed...I have seen guys send 200k to girls just for her to agree to go out with them...I have seen guys buy a higher model of phone for girls just for her to leave who she is currently dating....
✓ After all these madness and waste to get girls..what do you think will happens to their mentality? They become entitled...they feel it is their right to get everything from a man, the world revolves around them.so why expect her to give you her money, or care about your struggles when society and other men have made her understand that she is Queen and only thing she deserves is the "soft life".

1. Exactly! It is the men who chase after these women with nothing to their names. Hence it is the men, not the girls, to blame for the absurdities.

2. These girls were already entitled before the men came up to them. Tradition has them believing they are in their right to expect a man to take care of all of their needs in marriage. So, their sense of entitlement comes from the very traditions in the same society. To this day, various ethnic groups continue to hold on to traditions which almost guarantee a woman a place as a kept woman in her husband's house. These men are fully aware and mostly embrace these very traditions. So, where are these complaints coming from? Men who reject traditional ideas regarding marriage or men who openly embrace tradition only to then whine about the weight that goes along with doing so?

Kobojunkie:
1. Exactly! It is the men who chase after these women with nothing to their names. Hence it is the men, not the girls, to blame for the absurdities.

2. These girls were already entitled before the men came up to them. Tradition has them believing they are in their right to expect a man to take care of all of their needs in marriage. So, their sense of entitlement comes from the very traditions in the same society. To this day, various ethnic groups continue to hold on to traditions which almost guarantee a woman a place as a kept woman in her husband's house. These men are fully aware and mostly embrace these very traditions. So, where are these complaints coming from? Men who reject traditional ideas regarding marriage or men who openly embrace tradition only to then whine about the weight that goes along with doing so?

Nobody was born entitled my bro....Free things and unlimited attention creates entitlement

Magnetic010:
➜Nobody was born entitled my bro....Free things and unlimited attention creates entitlement

Entitlement, as described here, is not of birth but of training. Yes, tradition is training, not birth. Nigerian marriage traditions ensure the woman that her needs and wants would be taken care of by the man in marriage if she willingly sacrifices her will and desires in marriage.

Everything is about money for you guys. If a woman doesn't contribute in cash, she is doing it in kind. She cooks, wakes up early to prepare the kids for school, gets pregnant and risks her life to have your kids. If all these means nothing to you, then file for divorce or do it yourself.

We4all:
Everything is about money for you guys. If a woman doesn't contribute in cash, she is doing it in kind. She cooks, wakes up early to prepare the kids for school, gets pregnant and risks her life to have your kids. If all these means nothing to you, then file for divorce or do it yourself.

Risk her life to have my kids? Are the kids not also her kids? In the near future, the kids will also likely put her first before their father. So wtf you mean risk her life for my kids? Are they not her kids too? You are mad stupid and a very big fool.

Keepamsafe:




Risk her life to have my kids? Are the kids not also her kids? In the near future, the kids will also likely put her first before their father. So wtf you mean risk her life for my kids? Are they not her kids too? You are mad stupid and a very big fool.

Ode, do you know how many women die during labor? You must be brain dead not to know that pregnancy is very risky for women.

We4all:



Ode, do you know how many women die during labor? You must be brain dead not to know that pregnancy is very risky for women.

What has that got to do with anything? So men should worship their wives and not demand responsibility because of mortality?
Your opinion is just like water closet. Full of shit.
A fool is will find it difficult proving otherwise

Keepamsafe:



What has that got to do with anything? So men should worship their wives and not demand responsibility because of mortality?
Your opinion is just like water closet. Full of shit.
A fool is will find it difficult proving otherwise

Keep roaring like a wounded lion, while trying hard to twist the truth.

We4all:


Keep roaring like a wounded lion, while trying hard to twist the truth.

I have accepted the truth that you are a dumb fool. Now fucckkk off

Keepamsafe:



I have accepted the truth that you are a dumb fool. Now fucckkk off

Agreed, I am dumb, but I know more than you and your entire oloriburuku generation.

We4all:


Agreed, I am dumb, but I know more than you and your entire oloriburuku generation.

I know u will be a Yoruba woman. Very rude people. Enugu woman can never be this stewpid. I blame men marrying u people. Most of u will go and do rubbish outside marriage and bring baaastard for the man to care for. rubbish

Cowbell521:
I know my mother is a Yoruba woman. Very rude people. Enugu woman can never be this stewpid. I blame my father for marrying her. Most of her people will go and do rubbish outside marriage and bring baaastard for the man to care for. rubbish

Hmmm

DeltaBachelor:
Hmmm

Speak

As long as you're equally ready to contribute to the running of the home, cleaning, cooking, childcare. Or is that still a woman's job?

You're not a simp if you rely on a woman financially. But you're a simp if you back your own baby. Explain the hypocrisy.

1Sharon:
As long as you're equally ready to contribute to the running of the home, cleaning, cooking, childcare. Or is that still a woman's job?

You're not a simp if you rely on a woman financially . But you're a simp if you back your own baby. Explain the hypocrisy.

You have followed me to this thread again with your emotional responses.

So a woman who works and contributes to her family as she should do, now means a man is relying on her salary

Please of you don't want to be contributing to the family due to the way the world have changed, you can just be a stay at home mom, doing all the house chores. Cos I don't see why you will b working and earning and not what to atleast contribute to the running of the family.


Simple things an adult should do is what women are seeing as if they are doing a favor.

This starts right from relationship. You claim you are in love with a man, he spends on you but if though you are working, you keep all the money to yourself saying it's the man's duty to provide, is that not unfair or petty.


We have uncovered case where a married woman was sick and instead of her to spend her own money to treat her self she refused.

Allowing the husband to run helter skelter trying to borrow loan to fix her health. This woman end up dying unfortunately. The husband gets to find out she has 1.5million naira hidden. What kind of stinginess is that, even her own life she prefer to hide her money so that the husband will keep spending his money than to spend hers.

As for the aspect of house chores. You are making it look like some impossible work to do.

As long as the domestic front is shared too

If not na scam.

Dpsychologist:


You have followed me to this thread again with your emotional responses.

So a woman who works and contributes to her family as she should do, now means a man is relying on her salary

Please of you don't want to be contributing to the family due to the way the world have changed, you can just be a stay at home mom, doing all the house chores. Cos I don't see why you will b working and earning and not what to atleast contribute to the running of the family.


Simple things an adult should do is what women are seeing as if they are doing a favor.

This starts right from relationship. You claim you are in love with a man, he spends on you but if though you are working, you keep all the money to yourself saying it's the man's duty to provide, is that not unfair or petty.


We have uncovered case where a married woman was sick and instead of her to spend her own money to treat her self she refused.

Allowing the husband to run helter skelter trying to borrow loan to fix her health. This woman end up dying unfortunately. The husband gets to find out she has 1.5million naira hidden. What kind of stinginess is that, even her own life she prefer to hide her money so that the husband will keep spending his money than to spend hers.

As for the aspect of house chores. You are making it look like some impossible work to do.

What is even the house chores they keep ranting about? Cooking? Did the man die of hunger before he met you? Washing of cloths, most 21st century men have washing machines, washing plates? Most 21st century men have dish washers. Sweeping? Every adult should know how to sweep. So, whats the big deal they keep ranting about.

One idiot up there @we4all was telling me about women dying from birth of children as if husbands don’t die in trying to provide for their families yet, that doesn’t stop men from providing.

If you like don’t require responsibility from your wives oe even serious girlfriends because they will birth “your” kids 😂😂😂

Keepamsafe:




What is even the house chores they keep ranting about? Cooking? Did the man die of hunger before he met you? Washing of cloths, most 21st century men have washing machines, washing plates? Most 21st century men have dish washers. Sweeping? Every adult should know how to sweep. So, whats the big deal they keep ranting about.

One idiot up there @we4all was telling me about women dying from birth of children as if husbands don’t die in trying to provide for their families yet, that doesn’t stop men from providing.

If you like don’t require responsibility from your wives oe even serious girlfriends because they will birth “your” kids 😂😂😂

Ah tell you oo. They keep ranting about house chores. As if it's one kind difficult work.

Women want to make us feel as if their responsibility is something we should go on our knees and be thanking them for.

Keepamsafe:




What is even the house chores they keep ranting about? Cooking? Did the man die of hunger before he met you? Washing of cloths, most 21st century men have washing machines, washing plates? Most 21st century men have dish washers. Sweeping? Every adult should know how to sweep. So, whats the big deal they keep ranting about.

One idiot up there @we4all was telling me about women dying from birth of children as if husbands don’t die in trying to provide for their families yet, that doesn’t stop men from providing.

If you like don’t require responsibility from your wives oe even serious girlfriends because they will birth “your” kids 😂😂😂

So, you're still crying? Ouch! Come and borrow some handkerchiefs to wipe your venomous tears. Ode...

Magnetic010:
Men are the biggest problem to themselves...Their are a lot of young girls who are jobless, or earn less than 500k a year, who came from poor or very poor background but meet them and talk to them; they will tell you they want a man who has this, that and many more...she doesn't want to settle for less, she wouldn't even date a guy without a car...where do you think she gets that audacity from?....Men...she knows that there are men out that willing to go above and beyond just to get her.

I have been in hospitality business for years now and bro I cannot even begin to tell you what I have witnessed...I have seen guys send 200k to girls just for her to agree to go out with them...I have seen guys buy a higher model of phone for girls just for her to leave who she is currently dating....


After all these madness and waste to get girls..what do you think will happens to their mentality? They become entitled...they feel it is their right to get everything from a man, the world revolves around them.so why expect her to give you her money, or care about your struggles when society and other men have made her understand that she is Queen and only thing she deserves is the "soft life".

Succinctly put!!
No truer words have been spoken since the homo-sapiens parted way with the apes 🦍

It all depends on the partners and what they want. What was discussed during their courtship? You can't tell her you will be her all in all and then blame her for not ing.

In some cases too, the man is so traditional and feels he providing everything makes him the man and head of the home. As such, he is okay to slave and you hear things like "I don't care what she does with her money." The worst is how he them hyperventilate when he heard she's built a house and earning rents when he has not even acquired a matchbox to his name.

In my home, we both contribute 95% of our paychecks. This include bonus. This is what we concluded before marriage. I don't scrutinize her spending because shes very reasonable with money and never an impulsive spender. On the other hand, I'm the impulsive one and that is why we keep the 5% for each person to help with those impulsive spending.

Dpsychologist:


You have followed me to this thread again with your emotional responses.

So a woman who works and contributes to her family as she should do, now means a man is relying on her salary

Please of you don't want to be contributing to the family due to the way the world have changed, you can just be a stay at home mom, doing all the house chores. Cos I don't see why you will b working and earning and not what to atleast contribute to the running of the family.


Simple things an adult should do is what women are seeing as if they are doing a favor.

This starts right from relationship. You claim you are in love with a man, he spends on you but if though you are working, you keep all the money to yourself saying it's the man's duty to provide, is that not unfair or petty.


We have uncovered case where a married woman was sick and instead of her to spend her own money to treat her self she refused.

Allowing the husband to run helter skelter trying to borrow loan to fix her health. This woman end up dying unfortunately. The husband gets to find out she has 1.5million naira hidden. What kind of stinginess is that, even her own life she prefer to hide her money so that the husband will keep spending his money than to spend hers.

As for the aspect of house chores. You are making it look like some impossible work to do.

Oh sh*t !!
Now should her soul RIP ?