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My uncle received a text and call yesterday from lagos state women affairs department. He is being summon for interrogation on Tuesday regarding a petition from his wife.
His wife has denied him access to his children (2 girls ,1 boy).
January this year he told us he won't pay there fees and upkeep anymore.

A co-operate scam him sometime in 2019, he was a big time farmer and alot of people ed base on his recommendations. He stood as guarantor for the organization.
When the organization disappear with people money he was forced to settle, he sold most of his properties and his business crashed.

The wife left him in 2022 saying she tired of suffering, she moved out with the kids. My uncle have being paying school fees and sending upkeep, he get to see them anytime he want aswell up on till last year.

Last year my uncle got help from a widow he met at a church, she invested in his business and things are getting better for him financially.

My uncle told us on the family whatapp group January he wont pay the kids school fee anymore and placed a curse down for anyone who does on his behalf due the fact the wife have denied him access to his kids since last year may.

His wife reported him to human rights last month, after hearing from both side they told her to allow him see his kids but she refuse claiming he now has another wife and she scared the woman might harm her kids. My uncle hasn't married the woman although they are dating.


Where I need advise is what should we expect on Tuesday? If my uncle doesn't change his mind what will happen.

Lastly his wife works for lagos isnt that an advantage for her, will the case be judge fairly.

dominique, farano, Rocktation

So your uncle decided to punish his children to get back at his wife, nice.

The whole thing’s a setup, his wife working for Lagos State, the human rights involvement, and now this "interrogation"? They’re using his financial rebound as the perfect excuse to drag him into a web of control, with the system just playing along.

If its me I won't honour the invitation...untill they sue me to court. Let meet at family court make Judge Funmilayo con her judgement.

Me wey wicked like beans

invitation for what exactly?
has she honoured the outcome of the last meeting?

Your uncle is on the EIGHT track.

I especially like the part about laying PRE-PACKAGED curses on misguided Good Samaritans.

The WICKED woman kidnapped his kids and PREVENTS him from seeing them. She even went against the resolutions of a mediated agreement just to continue her WICKEDNESS.

YET she wants his money so that she can LIE to the kids and PRETEND to be ONLY one taking care of them in order to form SUPERMOMMY.

FUCCCK THE BITCH!

Advise your uncle to NOT pay shishi!

If the ex-wife is bent on ALIENATING him from his kids, then she can FOOT the bills.

The woman is trying to DESTROY your uncle. Imagine accusing him of emotionally-ABUSING the kids she actively RESTRICTS from seeing their father.

Let him IGNORE that useless invitation until it becomes a court case. Especially since it sounds like he doesn't live in Lagos.

When it gets to court, NOBODY will ask him to pay money without granting him the right to see his kids.

Plus, the human rights NGO can testify to the fact that the ex-wife is a CONTENTIOUS woman who disregarded a viable resolution that'd be great for the kids.

Instead, she used them as PAWNS in her unhinged quest to punish their father.

In fact, let your uncle file a COURT case against the bitch. Let him consult with a lawyer and see if a case of kidnapping and emotional abuse can be filed against her.

TWO can play the game.

He doesn't have to REACT to her madness when he can orchestrate his own.

Plus, the bitch is a government worker who is likely BROKE and unable to afford a decent lawyer for any long period of time.

Let him RUIN her financially until she begs. Then ruin her some MORE.

Samantha125:
So your uncle decided to punish his children to get back at his wife, nice.

I guess you blind to fact the wife is also using him having a new woman to get back at him and punish the kids from seeing there father.

AllBlack:
invitation for what exactly?
has she honoured the outcome of the last meeting?

I want to the message sent by don't know what wrong with NL.

The petition is about him not paying for there school fees, upkeep and emotional abuse.

Bobodee09:


I want to the message sent by don't know what wrong with NL.

The petition is about him not paying for there school fees, upkeep and emotional abuse.

make she go sleep. she should take care of the kids and finish what she started if she's not ready to meet him halfway.

Samantha125:
So your uncle decided to punish his children to get back at his wife, nice.

and the wife denying the children of their value of their father's ACTIVE presence in their lives is not punishment and deprivation to the children?
Your brain is on the floor, pick it up before a dog runs with it.

AllBlack:


make she go sleep. she should take care of the kids and finish what she started if she's not ready to meet him halfway.

Just need an head up what the meeting would be like on Tuesday so we can prepare well.

No one ever believes this woman can go stone cold towards my uncle.
Until a man face some challenges you can never know who you marry.

That you father a child biologically doesn't mean they are your children when a woman wants to deal with you. If you like pay 4 million per term, those children will still grow up hating you if that's what the woman wants... so what's the point, you grow old being poor just because you want to please a child that has grown up to hate you.

You may claim the children will later find out the truth but what if he dies before the truth comes out. Life na one o. His uncle has done the right thing. I can't be paying school fees of children i don't have access to. I can't

Samantha125:
So your uncle decided to punish his children to get back at his wife, nice.

Bobodee09:
My uncle received a text and call yesterday from lagos state women affairs department. He is being summon for interrogation on Tuesday regarding a petition from his wife.

I strongly advise you and your uncle not to go there and say because the wife refused him to see his children, that was why he refused paying their school fees. Apart from the fact that it was ethically speaking, very wrong to hold his children responsible for his wife's misconduct, such action may affect him if may be he wants to claim custody of the children tomorrow. He should rathere inform the people for example that he demanded for an of the children's welfare which the wife refused to give and that he wanted to take sometime to sought out whether the money he was sending was even getting to his children when he got the invitation.

That she works for the Lagos state govt. is not an issue. After all, if custody issue arises, the man is also gainfully employed/self employed with financial capacity to take care of the children, this is a major factor for consideration.

What they would inquire from your uncle is whether it is true that he has stoped their school fees and emotionally apsent. That is why I said he should not be saying he stoped paying school fess because of what their mother did. That will not help him at all both for the long and short term.

By the way, are they actually divorced or just seperated? Would your uncle want custody of the children?, how old are the children even?.

juri:


I strongly advise you and your uncle to to go there and say because the wife refused him to see his children, that was why he refused paying their school fees. Apart from the fact that it was ethically speaking, very wrong to hold his children responsible for his wife's misconduct, such action may affect him if may be he wants to claim custody of the children tomorrow. He should rathere inform the people for example that he demanded for an of the children's welfare which the wife refused to give and that he wanted to take sometime to sought out where the money he was sending was even getting to his children when he got the invitation.

Are they actually divorced or just seperated? Would your uncle want custody of the children?, how old are the children even?.

They did church and traditional marriage in 2011.
The kids are 12yrs,9yrs,5yrs.

The wife was the one who asked for separation in 2022 and she made it clear the marriage was over despite alot of pleading from my family and hers.

So far we haven't heard her side of the story... Because it's like you Nigerian men have tendency of being abusive towards your wives, only to play victims when they leave you and refuse you access to your children.

Bobodee09:


I guess you blind to fact the wife is also using him having a new woman to get back at him and punish the kids from seeing there father.

Maybe she's trying to protect them from him... What if he was abusive?

Let's hear her side of the story first.

AllBlack:


and the wife denying the children of their value of their father's ACTIVE presence in their lives is not punishment and deprivation to the children?
Your brain is on the floor, pick it up before a dog runs with it.

Samantha125:
So far we haven't heard her side of the story... Because it's like you Nigerian men have tendency of being abusive towards your wives, only to play victims when they leave you and refuse you access to your children.

But she needs an abusive man money??

I know you are Naturally dumb anyway...😆

It would still not be the children's fault that they grew up the way that they did, so why punish them?

So you'd prefer for them to be dropouts and resort to doing crime or even prostitution to make ends meet just because you had a fallout with their mother?

koladata:
That you father a child biologically doesn't mean they are your children when a woman wants to deal with you. If you like pay 4 million per term, those children will still grow up hating you if that's what the woman wants... so what's the point, you grow old being poor just because you want to please a child that has grown up to hate you.

You may claim the children will later find out the truth but what if he dies before the truth comes out. Life na one o. His uncle has done the right thing. I can't be paying school fees of children i don't have access to. I can't

Bobodee09:


They did church and traditional marriage in 2011.
The kids are 12yrs,9yrs,5yrs.

The wife was the one who asked for separation in 2022 and she made it clear the marriage was over despite alot of pleading from my family and hers.

Your uncle and the wife may have to have a formally drawn legal agreement as relates to custody of the children.

But like I advised, your uncle should not make the mistake of repeating what you said was the reason he stoped paying school fees pls. That will be bad for him especially if he ever wants the chance of having custody or access to his children.

The money is for the best interest of the children.

This is not about her, but about the children.

And you being emotional and raining insults at me already says a lot about your level of reasoning... An empty barrel always resorts to insults whenever it has nothing valuable to add to the table... So continue with your insults, I won't be bothered...😃😃😃😃

Bobodee09:


But she needs an abusive man money??

I know you are Naturally dumb anyway...😆

Samantha125:
Maybe she's trying to protect them from him... What if he was abusive?
.

So now your brain is back from vacation. You are now using MAYBE.

Samantha125:
The money is for the best interest of the children.

This is not about her, but about the children.

And you being emotional and raining insults at me already says a lot about your level of reasoning... An empty barrel always resorts to insults whenever it has nothing valuable to add to the table... So continue with your insults, I won't be bothered...😃😃😃😃

Yes, the children should not/can not be punished on of their mother's alleged action or bad behaviour. That is very bad. That is why I advised he should not even mention that when he gets there on Tuesday. It's ethically very wrong.

Samantha125:
The money is for the best interest of the children.

This is not about her, but about the children.

And you being emotional and raining insults at me already says a lot about your level of reasoning... An empty barrel always resorts to insults whenever it has nothing valuable to add to the table... So continue with your insults, I won't be bothered...😃😃😃😃

Once again you are naturally dumb.

You wrote "Nigeria men have tendency to be abusive"

Only a shallow idiot will say that. Don't be bother cos the insult will increase with every quote I get from you.

Yes, I did say that it seems like you Nigerian men have a tendency to be abusive and playing victims afterwards and no amount of insults will change my mind.

Now go ahead and increase your insults and see if I care...😃😃😃

Bobodee09:


Once again you are naturally dumb.

You wrote "Nigeria men have tendency to be abusive"

Only a shallow idiot will say that. Don't be bother cos the insult will increase with every quote I get from you.

What do you expect me to use when I wasn't there when everything unfolded?

Like I said, we need to hear her side of the story.

AllBlack:


So now your brain is back from vacation. You are now using MAYBE.

Samantha125:
Yes, I did say that it seems like you Nigerian men have a tendency to be abusive and playing victims afterwards and no amount of insults will change my mind.

Now go ahead and increase your insults and see if I care...😃😃😃

Delulu if your father and all the men in your family are abusive that your problem.

You changing your mind means you trying to be intelligent which is something forbidden.

Keep wallowing in your foolery about Nigeria men. We pray it doesn't ends.

Bobodee09:


Just need an head up what the meeting would be like on Tuesday so we can prepare well.

No one ever believes this woman can go stone cold towards my uncle.
Until a man face some challenges you can never know who you marry.

na the problem wey many people dey face be that

That s why we should keep on praying money should not finished for our hand

Because even ur friend or brother no go pick ur calls again, na only ur mum fit stand for you and not every mother self

Lol... Already I knew you were going to bring up my father into this which I find to be very funny and lame, is that the best you can say? Try something else...🤣🤣🤣

You being this overly defensive and emotional only tells me that you're hiding something and not telling us everything about your uncle.

Bobodee09:


Delulu if your father and all the men in your family are abusive that your problem.

You changing your mind means you trying to be intelligent which is something forbidden.

Feel wallowing in your foolery about Nigeria men. We pray it doesn't ends.

Samantha125:
So your uncle decided to punish his children to get back at his wife, nice.

Exactly the kind of comment I expected from a woman. Very manipulative beings as usual. The woman blocking the man from seeing his kids isn't punishing the children? Don't the kids deserve a father figure in their life? I would have done same too, if I can't see my kids, I won't spend on them!!!.

So far, we haven't heard her side of the story.

suckprick:


Exactly the kind of comment I expected from a woman. Very manipulative beings as usual. The woman blocking the man from seeing his kids isn't punishing the children? Don't the kids deserve a father figure in their life? I would have done same too, if I can't see my kids, I won't spend on them!!!.

Smilleydr:
na the problem wey many people dey face be that

That s why we should keep on praying money should not finished for our hand

Because even ur friend or brother no go pick ur calls again, na only ur mum fit stand for you and not every mother self

Honestly bro ......men are only loved for what they bring Honestly.

This my uncle is just a stong man Honestly, cos he was locked up countless time by different people.

This women left him at his lowest, abused and shamed him several times.


This woman first left in 2021 for about 3 months, she left the kids with my uncle. She claimed she need her head cleared.
2022 she finally moved out with the kids.....we heard rumor she was with a man but no one really cared cos the husband was just doing his thing without any drama.

Only we his family stood by him cos the man sure when things was good for him.

So far, we haven't heard her side of the story.

Of course you'd have done the same, punishing the children for their mothers actions is in your DNA... So there's nothing surprising there.

suckprick:


Exactly the kind of comment I expected from a woman. Very manipulative beings as usual. The woman blocking the man from seeing his kids isn't punishing the children? Don't the kids deserve a father figure in their life? I would have done same too, if I can't see my kids, I won't spend on them!!!.