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Let’s be honest—when it comes to relationships in Nigeria, the financial burden mostly falls on the man. It’s an unspoken rule that the guy should pay for dates, handle bills, send “urgent 2k,” and generally finance the relationship.

But here’s the real question: If your woman never spends on you, does she truly love you?

I’ve always believed that a woman who loves a man will spend on him—even if it’s just a little. It doesn’t have to be millions, but if she values you, she will make an effort to contribute, no matter how small.

Unfortunately, in Nigeria, at least 85% of relationships are completely one-sided financially. The man spends, the woman receives, and that’s just how it is.

But should it really be this way?


1. Are Nigerian Relationships One-Sided Transactions?

A lot of men don’t even question this dynamic. They’ve been raised to believe that being a provider is their duty, while a woman’s role is simply to exist and be taken care of.

Typical Nigerian relationships look like this:
✅ The man pays for dates.
✅ The man sends transport fare.
✅ The man handles rent.
✅ The man funds vacations, gifts, and “small business capital.”
✅ The man even pays her bills when she is not his wife yet!

Meanwhile, many women believe their beauty, presence, and affection are enough “payment” for everything the man does.

But is that love or entitlement? 🤔


2. Love vs. Transactional Relationships: What’s the Difference?

A loving woman naturally gives back in her own way. Even if she doesn’t earn as much, she will show appreciation through small gestures—maybe buying a gift, handling a bill, or just making sure the man feels valued too.

On the other hand, a transactional woman expects the man to do EVERYTHING while she only enjoys the benefits.

Signs of a transactional relationship:
❌ She never spends on you—no matter how small.
❌ She expects you to always pay, even when she has money.
❌ She never surprises you with gifts or thoughtful gestures.
❌ She gets upset when you say “I don’t have money right now.”
❌ She believes it’s a man’s job to provide while she just collects.

At this point, is it still a relationship or just a business arrangement?


3. If She Loves You, She Will Spend on You Too

Many men don’t realize this, but spending is a love language. When a woman truly cares about you, she will:
✅ Buy you small gifts—even if it’s just snacks or perfume.
✅ Pay for lunch sometimes, even if you insist on covering most dates.
✅ you when you’re broke instead of vanishing.
✅ Take initiative to make you feel appreciated.

It’s not about 50/50, but about effort. If she truly values you, she will reciprocate in some way.


4. Final Thoughts: Is She in Love or Just Enjoying the Benefits?

A lot of men are in relationships where they are sponsors, not lovers. They think they are being loved, but in reality, they are just being used.

So, ask yourself this: If she never spends on you, does she truly love you?

Or is she just there for the financial benefits?

Let’s discuss in the comments—what’s your experience with this?

That's the reality we find ourselves now. Dating a Nigeria girl is like you just open an orphanage. They are always hungry.

ojaysam25:
That's the reality we find ourselves now. Dating a Nigeria girl is like you just open an orphanage. They are always hungry.

the hungry part got me laughing. However it's the truth.

The relationship is usually parasitic instead of it being mutual.

“If she loves you, she will spend on you”. 💯

Should we just say most of these ladies you talk about don’t love their men?

They believe that "sex" is more than enough to compensate for your spending.
"Na him dey fvck me, so na him go pay my bills"
LOL.

Colson:
They believe that "sex" is more than enough to compensate for your spending.
"Na him dey fvck me, so na him go pay my bills"
LOL.

Yes that's the mentality.

ItisWell22:
“If she loves you, she will spend on you”. 💯

Should we just say most of these ladies you talk about don’t love their men?

Exactly. Most are just broke and need someone to sponsor their lifestyles.

If your woman never spends on you, does she truly love you?



No


Any woman who doesn't spend her money on you aka my money is ny money and your money is our money doesn't love you

So you've been F**KING in relationship,hope you are not a one minute man sha...

to buy herbs,As you are spending money,you should sha enjoy what the woman is serving in return...


I sell herbs for sexual enhancement and general wellness tho

idahme:
If your woman never spends on you, does she truly love you?



No


Any woman who doesn't spend her money on you aka my money is ny money and your money is our money doesn't love you

Simple.

Have good taste in women and you’ll not have to spend money on women at all.
Most men don’t know how to carry themselves, completely lost with zero awareness of their potentials as men.
Y’all should stop rewarding bad women with sex and relationships.