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A family of 6 3 boys and 3 girls, they all went to school, got job and are working. Now all the children decided that they will be making contributions for the wellbeing of their parents and the family in general.

All the sisters are part of the monthly contributions.

Now along the line one of the sister got married and leaving with the husband.

The sister is still working and the husband is working in a better place than the wife. An issue came up between the husband and the wife and the issue escalated that they have to call the both family for meeting.

Now the husband is saying that since he's married to the sister, she have no right making contributions to her own family. That all her money belongs to him.

The sister's family is saying that she have been making contributions before she got married so the man have no right to stop her from making contributions.

As at the time the issue came up, the wife contribution is roughly 50k per month.

What's your take on this....

Is the wife wrong for making contributions to her family even after getting married.

That all her money belongs to him.

MADNESS!

My first instinct was to ask about the financial wellbeing of the lady's nuclear family.

Because the fact is it's IMPORTANT for the immediate family to be financially secure before making any kind of REGULAR contributions to the extended family.

You can't be STRUGGLING to feed and still dashing out #50k.

To that end, I was going to ask about the wife's income and her contribution to the household and the husband's income too.

But it seems that's NOT the case. It seems her nuclear family is doing well.
And #50k is NOT a stretch for them.

Plus, #50k is NOT really a lot of money anyway.

And after reading the quoted part, it seems the husband is just a FOOL on a power trip.

It's one thing if the woman is JOBLESS and doesn't contribute to the household OR takes money from her husband to give to her parents when the household isn't buoyant enough to afford it.

But voicing the idea that a GROWN adult must CEASE all financial s to her parents and instead give you ALL the money she worked for is another thing.

And that other thing is MADNESS!

The husband is simply not reasonable. The woman is married doesn't mean she was sold and was supposed to turn her back to her family.
The contribution to the family of the woman supposed to be from the woman's pocket. For the man to be angry is not a good idea.

Namaster:


MADNESS!

My first instinct was to ask about the financial wellbeing of the lady's nuclear family.

Because the fact is it's IMPORTANT for the immediate family to be financially secure before making any kind of REGULAR contributions to the extended family.

You can't be STRUGGLING to feed and still dashing out #50k.

To that end, I was going to ask about the wife's income and her contribution to the household and the husband's income too.

But it seems that's NOT the case. It seems her nuclear family is doing well.
And #50k is NOT a stretch for them.

Plus, #50k is NOT really a lot of money anyway.

And after reading the quoted part, it seems the husband is just a FOOL on a power trip.

It's one thing if the woman is JOBLESS and doesn't contribute to the household OR takes money from her husband to give to her parents when the household isn't buoyant enough to afford it.

But voicing the idea that a GROWN adult must CEASE all financial to her parents and instead give you ALL the money she worked for is another thing.

And that other thing is MADNESS!

You've said it all.

All her money do not belong to him, she has every right to still contribute to her birth family as marriage in no way, wipe their existence from her life or has the husband also stopped contributing to the welfare of his own birth family.......she is a daughter, sister before becoming his wife and can also become another man's wife in the future.

It is not war and if civility in communication can not be applied in sorting out that issue, their marriage is slippery.

Namaster:


MADNESS!

My first instinct was to ask about the financial wellbeing of the lady's nuclear family.

Because the fact is it's IMPORTANT for the immediate family to be financially secure before making any kind of REGULAR contributions to the extended family.

You can't be STRUGGLING to feed and still dashing out #50k.

To that end, I was going to ask about the wife's income and her contribution to the household and the husband's income too.

But it seems that's NOT the case. It seems her nuclear family is doing well.
And #50k is NOT a stretch for them.

Plus, #50k is NOT really a lot of money anyway.

And after reading the quoted part, it seems the husband is just a FOOL on a power trip.

It's one thing if the woman is JOBLESS and doesn't contribute to the household OR takes money from her husband to give to her parents when the household isn't buoyant enough to afford it.

But voicing the idea that a GROWN adult must CEASE all financial s to her parents and instead give you ALL the money she worked for is another thing.

And that other thing is MADNESS!

I didn't want to say much about the family. But the nuclear family is very comfortable. The husband income alone is capable of placing the wife on a minimum of 200k monthly stipends.

And like I said, the wife is working and makes contributions from her own salary.

Rich4god:


I didn't want to say much about the family. But the nuclear family is very comfortable. The husband income alone is capable of placing the wife on a minimum of 200k monthly stipends.

And like I said, the wife is working and makes contributions from her own salary.

Then the request is SENSELESS and borne out of sheer WICKEDNESS.

Advise the lady to END that marriage.

Rich4god:
@✓ A family of 6 3 boys and 3 girls, they all went to school, got job and are working. Now all the children decided that they will be making contributions for the wellbeing of their parents and the family in general.
All the sisters are part of the monthly contributions.
Now along the line one of the sister got married and leaving with the husband. The sister is still working and the husband is working in a better place than the wife. An issue came up between the husband and the wife and the issue escalated that they have to call the both family for meeting.
Now the husband is saying that since he's married to the sister, she have no right making contributions to her own family. That all her money belongs to him.
The sister's family is saying that she have been making contributions before she got married so the man have no right to stop her from making contributions.
As at the time the issue came up, the wife contribution is roughly 50k per month. What's your take on this....
Is the wife wrong for making contributions to her family even after getting married.

The woman chose to marry that particular man who does not want her to make contributions to her family anymore, did she not?

Rich4god:
✓ I didn't want to say much about the family. But the nuclear family is very comfortable. The husband income alone is capable of placing the wife on a minimum of 200k monthly stipends.
And like I said, the wife is working and makes contributions from her own salary.

Does the husband not give any dime to his own parents or siblings?

Namaster:


Then the request is SENSELESS and borne out of sheer WICKEDNESS.

Advise the lady to END that marriage.

You guys like making hasty inferences to please people.

Are you married or you're one of those single guys who think marriage is like the friendship they're used to?

Did you ask if the woman contributes to her own nuclear family financially?
Or you just believe that as long as the 50,000 is from her pocket, it doesn't matter?

The husband can't be carrying all the family's financial burdens alone, even if he earns billions monthly, and the wife will be focusing only on making contributions to her parents's family.

Besides, in marriage, both need to agree on whatever the other wants to get involved in.
The woman needs the husband's consent to continue with that contribution.

The Man is a mumu man. So far she doesn't interfere in his own family, WTF

Is that not the submissivemess you people are always expecting of women?

Which kain yeye shitty submisiveness be that?

dominique:
Is that not the submissivemess you people are always expecting of women?

Free2Fly:


You guys like making hasty inferences to please people.

Are you married or you're one of those single guys who think marriage is like the friendship they're used to?

Did you ask if the woman contributes to her own nuclear family financially?
Or you just believe that as long as the 50,000 is from her pocket, it doesn't matter?

The husband can't be carrying all the family's financial burdens alone, even if he earns billions monthly, and the wife will be focusing only on making contributions to her parents's family.

Besides, in marriage, both need to agree on whatever the other wants to get involved in.
The woman needs the husband's consent to continue with that contribution.

Most of them ain't married so they don't know how things work.

She must have been doing it in secret and when the man found out she was unapologetic about it.

Women do this alot in marriage.....they do alot in secret and will fight the husband over the same thing in open.

Free2Fly:


You guys like making hasty inferences to please people.

Are you married or you're one of those single guys who think marriage is like the friendship they're used to?

Did you ask if the woman contributes to her own nuclear family financially?
Or you just believe that as long as the 50,000 is from her pocket, it doesn't matter?

The husband can't be carrying all the family's financial burdens alone, even if he earns billions monthly, and the wife will be focusing only on making contributions to her parents's family.

Besides, in marriage, both need to agree on whatever the other wants to get involved in.
The woman needs the husband's consent to continue with that contribution.

You are TOO DUMB to be quoting me.

REFRAIN from doing so in the future.

dominique:
Is that not the submissivemess you people are always expecting of women?

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Issues like this always arise when families turn a wedding ceremony into a business transaction. I'm sure the husband feels he purchased the woman in all her entirety. Only God knows what else she suffers in the marriage.

What's the problem? Are women not supposed to respect their husband's wishes?

The man is insane

Free2Fly:


You guys like making hasty inferences to please people.

Are you married or you're one of those single guys who think marriage is like the friendship they're used to?

Did you ask if the woman contributes to her own nuclear family financially?
Or you just believe that as long as the 50,000 is from her pocket, it doesn't matter?

The husband can't be carrying all the family's financial burdens alone, even if he earns billions monthly, and the wife will be focusing only on making contributions to her parents's family.

Besides, in marriage, both need to agree on whatever the other wants to get involved in.
The woman needs the husband's consent to continue with that contribution.

the man should thank God he has a wife working and ing her family. If she wasn't working, it is the man that will be helping her family once in a while when the need arise. Even with the fact that she's working that doesn't stop the man from ing her family when necessary. She should also her own nuclear family even if the husband didn't husband didn't ask for her .

1Sharon:
What's the problem? Are women not supposed to respect their husband's wishes?

Only reasonable demands and wishes. See it now oo, it is men that is fighting for women rights but stupid feminists won't see this one.

Babamide:
Issues like this always arise when families turn a wedding ceremony into a business transaction. Im sure the husband feels he purchased the woman in all her entirety. Only God knows what else she suffers in the marriage.

Xactly! And this where my mind goes to the people of the place where the sun rises

Dtruthspeaker:


Only reasonable demands and wishes. See it now oo, it is men that is fighting for women rights but stupid feminists won't see this one.

We can disobey our husbands as long as his request sounds stupid?

Got it 👍🏽

1Sharon:
We can disobey our husbands along as his request sounds stupid? Got it 👍🏽

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Free2Fly:


You guys like making hasty inferences to please people.

Are you married or you're one of those single guys who think marriage is like the friendship they're used to?

Did you ask if the woman contributes to her own nuclear family financially?
Or you just believe that as long as the 50,000 is from her pocket, it doesn't matter?

The husband can't be carrying all the family's financial burdens alone, even if he earns billions monthly, and the wife will be focusing only on making contributions to her parents's family.

Besides, in marriage, both need to agree on whatever the other wants to get involved in.
The woman needs the husband's consent to continue with that contribution.

Did you not read that she did it even before marrying?

See awon "my wife is my property people".

To be someone's wife does not mean that she has lost her human rights. Since her husband and direct family have no need for her money she can dispose of it however she seems fit. Clearly this is a man suffering inferior complex, a control freak and a stupid man who thinks that being a dictator makes him a man. What a stupid simp who deserves to be divorced, he would soon beat that wife to death if she does not buy sense and run away.

1Sharon:


We can disobey our husbands as long as his request sounds stupid?

Got it 👍🏽

Not sound stupid but must be judged stupid by every reasonable person who hears it.

But, you know, if you married an unreasonable man, it is you who began the stupidity ooo and you know, you go pay oo if you disobey am.

As long as she has not been selfish and totally dependant on the man ,she has the right to send money to her family.

That's a wicked request .

Dtruthspeaker:


Did you not read that she did it even before marrying?

See awon "my wife is my property people".

To be someone's wife does not mean that she has lost her human rights. Since her husband and direct family have no need for her money she can dispose of it however she seems fit. Clearly this is a man suffering inferior complex, a control freak and a stupid man who thinks that being a dictator makes him a man. What a stupid simp who deserves to be divorced, he would soon beat that wife to death if she does not buy sense and run away.

Is it just all about whether he has been doing it before marriage or not?
Is she contributing financially to her nuclear family at the moment or you think that doesn't matter because she's a woman??
You guys shouldn't be too biased as to throw away common sense
And, intelligent people don't reach conclusions when they don't yet have all the facts.

What was their discussion regarding finance before marriage?
What does he mean her money by her money belongs to him?

As long as she is not directly or indirectly taking that money from her husband but from her own salary or business, the man should rest and mind his own money!

The woman should equally make sure she is contributing enough to her own nuclear family.

Rich4god:
A family of 6 3 boys and 3 girls, they all went to school, got job and are working. Now all the children decided that they will be making contributions for the wellbeing of their parents and the family in general.

All the sisters are part of the monthly contributions.

Now along the line one of the sister got married and leaving with the husband.

The sister is still working and the husband is working in a better place than the wife. An issue came up between the husband and the wife and the issue escalated that they have to call the both family for meeting.

Now the husband is saying that since he's married to the sister, she have no right making contributions to her own family. That all her money belongs to him.

The sister's family is saying that she have been making contributions before she got married so the man have no right to stop her from making contributions.

As at the time the issue came up, the wife contribution is roughly 50k per month.

What's your take on this....

Is the wife wrong for making contributions to her family even after getting married.

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Didn't she notice he's kind of character before marrying him?