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I always shake my head whenever I see people saying good things about their mother and neglecting the father. Only if they knew what does men has gone through for them.

skywalker240:

It is what it is

Even this year now we are battling how to make payments for school fees, house rent around the corner, the expenses keeps building up

Most times when I get home from work, after taking my bath, i just pretend that am sleeping and take a quiet place to reflect on what and what to do to improve the condition to favour

Life goes on

Nowadays, I don't work myself up, elders over here say

"Na the one WEY you chop for your Belle, na im be your own"

So most times when am at work and I see anything that i long to put in my stomach or for my satisfaction, I buy it, even if it means telling my wife a lie

Try to rest mostly on Sundays and when you get any chance off, lock yourself in the room and sleep

I'll never forget what A Man in his late 60s told me almost 10 years ago

He said if you as a family Man fall down and die today, the children you left behind will still achieve their goals and life purposes and yes they'll survive even without you.

This thread is the best so far. My take home is close to 300k but throughout last year I cannot even buy myself a pair of shoes. In fact, as a man of God I must learn to take small beer and ponmo at weekend, make I no kpai

When you choose a certain life style, be prepared to match that life style with corresponding responsibility.

A lot of Nigerians are often influenced by "what people will say" than their own personal conviction, and if I insinuate that a certain man made religion could be partially responsible, don't argue with me ;

1. How can a human being who has a wonderful structure in his village and large farmlands and spaces at the market square, settle for 100k job in a town he would be required to pay rent and other bills ?
2. How can a human being give his first salary to a pastor rather than a woman who shared the umbilical cord with him?
3. What informs the decision of Humans to get married to an unproductive and unable partner; Do they hope such partner would change after marriage?


I'm not married but I still have common sense to continue with the things I do, because I know it will still be the same case in marriage.

Bobodee09:


See we always forget life happens people make huge lost sometimes in life that is hard to bounce back.

You don't know him, so I how what I meant by he was well to do.if he invested well and have like 1 or 2 kids , he won't be too hard hit, most people with 1 or 2 kids are coping well, unless he and his wife are too proud or lazy


He is a businessman who was just so unfortunate with some business deal.

This was a man who could conveniently dash relatives 1million some years back.

if he invested well and have like 1 or 2 kids, he won't be hard hit, most families with 1 or 2 kids are coping well, unless he is not hard work or he is too proud

Fact! I'm only going to have 1 child and live my life to the fullest. Anybody that is not happy with that can hug transformer. Nigeria economy is going to get worse, people should stop having more than 2 kids max.

tensazangetsu20:
The man is a fool for having 4 kids and men can control child birth. What happened to getting a vasectomy after having the first kid. Nigeria is only going to get harder. 2 kids is even a lot for an average Nigerian. There has never been a time the economy of Nigeria has been good enough for the average person to adequately provide for 4 kids.

I have always had this in mind.

You would realize that there are more young widows that widowers, either young or old, out there.

A lot of men believe if they are not working too hard that they are not productive. Some of them who have easy lives deliberately make it hard just to please the society.

I don't really care about them because they are fools but I hate it when I see a young person and they tell me their dad is dead.

They die and create problems for people like us who hustling with sense.

Young men! Take care of yourselves!

Bobodee09:
This advise goes especially to married men and men in general.

Don't put yourself under unnecessary pressure or take up loans to maintain a certain lifestyle.

I just lost an area senior bros this morning, the news didn't come as shock cos he has been in the hospital for a while and his BP refused to come down.

He is man in his late 40's married with 4 kids. This man was under alot of pressure to meet end means, he took up too many loans just to maintain his living standards to please his family.

The last time I visited him in general I also checked my BP and it was very high, I was also under pressure myself to meet target.
When I got home I promised myself I wont die young to please anyone.
I will do my best and leave the rest cos at the end no one really care all they want to do is take from you as a man.

Married men enjoy yourself, take care of yourself, buy what you want. You can't be working everyday and be suffering to please your wife and kids.

The men who die young are the ones who always labour and don't take care of themselves, you see men who only provide what they have and take care of themselves they live longer.

We are in this mess together trust me....those people you think are doing better have alot of loans on their neck. So don't let anyone push you by comparing you to them.



If what you provide isnt enough or appreciated tell your wife to also provide or take her leave.

A very good advice...

Bobodee09:
This advise goes especially to married men and men in general.

Don't put yourself under unnecessary pressure or take up loans to maintain a certain lifestyle.

I just lost an area senior bros this morning, the news didn't come as shock cos he has been in the hospital for a while and his BP refused to come down.

He is man in his late 40's married with 4 kids. This man was under alot of pressure to meet end means, he took up too many loans just to maintain his living standards to please his family.

The last time I visited him in general I also checked my BP and it was very high, I was also under pressure myself to meet target.
When I got home I promised myself I wont die young to please anyone.
I will do my best and leave the rest cos at the end no one really care all they want to do is take from you as a man.

Married men enjoy yourself, take care of yourself, buy what you want. You can't be working everyday and be suffering to please your wife and kids.

The men who die young are the ones who always labour and don't take care of themselves, you see men who only provide what they have and take care of themselves they live longer.

We are in this mess together trust me....those people you think are doing better have alot of loans on their neck. So don't let anyone push you by comparing you to them.

If what you provide isnt enough or appreciated tell your wife to also provide or take her leave.

powerkey:


Pray to get married first. As a woman, what are you bringing to the table?

You can not come to the table just to be a liability to a man, who does that?

Keep your liability in your father's house.

Most of these Bannies acting karashika for men are always from very wretched Backgrounds.

Why are you sounding like my mom

Bobodee09:


Most times I don't like arguing this things cos it like you women never be able for anything.

So having those kids was actually only the man decision The woman didn't want them to be 4 ,the man was constantly raping her.

They just gave birth to the children last night and since he went broke due to the economy he should killed 2 out of those kids so he can take of wife and the remaining 2 according to you.


It very easy to know someone like you isn't married.


No this fact today, left to most men just having 1 or 2 kids is enough but it is women who clamor for more kids in marriage.

You should have just ignore the fool. Giving those kind of people a response would make them feel important and continue with their stupidity.
I saw her post I just deliberately decided to ignore her.

tensazangetsu20:


Ode. DNA test should be done immediately a kid is born. How much is dna test. Not even up to 150k.

Mumu...see this Chile man ooh...marry first before u blow speaker..and if satan wan punish you make u no do that vasectomy after two kids ursef

BTW, where do they do dna for less than 200k?? I want to do for a child. Now bn serious

skywalker240:

It is what it is

Even this year now we are battling how to make payments for school fees, house rent around the corner, the expenses keeps building up

Most times when I get home from work, after taking my bath, i just pretend that am sleeping and take a quiet place to reflect on what and what to do to improve the condition to favour

Life goes on

Nowadays, I don't work myself up, elders over here say

"Na the one WEY you chop for your Belle, na im be your own"

So most times when am at work and I see anything that i long to put in my stomach or for my satisfaction, I buy it, even if it means telling my wife a lie

Try to rest mostly on Sundays and when you get any chance off, lock yourself in the room and sleep

I'll never forget what A Man in his late 60s told me almost 10 years ago

He said if you as a family Man fall down and die today, the children you left behind will still achieve their goals and life purposes and yes they'll survive even without you.

Look at foreign stocks and thank me later.

Very well served advice.The pressure the days from wife is out of limit despite the new phase of zero subsidy suffering Nigerians

That's why have a whole lot widowers than widows........let's do it all together

GloriousGbola:


https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boots_theory

I was once a victim of this theory and I have since ed it.

TrackerSK:
How can I remain single.My mother just dey stress me to marry

Tracker you cannot remain single, you must go ye into the world and multiple.

Bobodee09:


So we many on this table.

Chai men dey suffer

I swear,marriage just favours woman
I will have money but my family comes before my very own interests
One time my daughter asked me dad u buy things for us regularly but u Hardly buy things for ur self
I just smiled but mehn is not easy

Bobodee09:


He was a well to do man . He had those kids when things were good.

We could ever imagine things will go this bad 10yrs ago.

You came blame anyone who got married 2010 who has 3-4kids. Things was good then

The problem with Nigerians, we are never proactive. We are always reactive.

ibechris:
Na men dey like to suffer.

When u are in your 20's start early and awake ur investment mindset.

If u can do this early enough,at your 40's ur ive income should be enough to take care of your family expenses while u continue to grind with life.

I learnt this technique at an early age...not from my father but from someone whom I lived with years back.

Example is. If u have 30million,invest it for one year,use the proceed to settle all family expenses for one year,after that u can rest and be happy. Not all the time,waiting for salaries that isn't enough.

May his soul rest in peace and may this serve as a lesson for all our able young men especially our teenagers.

For those who may not find this feasible,this theory is working for me and u can always adjust it to suit ur figures especially if u think the figure is too high. na advice ooooooh.

Where does an average Nigerian see 30million??
Did you have 30m in your 20s?

Godwin4444:
y must u always show your stupid side on every thread, I know u have good sides y not endeavour to show that so people won't see u as a fool

U never bothered to care about what happened to his finances or probably he lost his job or lost his business u just come here to display madness

I wish there could b a technology where fools like u could b slapped through d phone, at least it will purge d internet of stupid people

tensazangetsu20:


Ode. DNA test should be done immediately a kid is born. How much is dna test. Not even up to 150k.

Which language should a child of 10 - 13 years learn and what app is applicable here.

Well I can relate small sha even though I’m not yet married. I used to do this nonsense years ago, But one thing I’ve been doing for like a year plus now is, if I should spend 1naira on anyone like friends and family , I’ll ensure I spend atleast 40naira on myself that same day..
My woman would complain that I’m selfish, now she’s used to it.

Obaaderemi2:
My brother, if you are no longer there those family needs will be met somehow. That's even when your wife will begin to shine. My elder brother is an example. He hustled till the end even when he was ill. Now his two children got into the university same time last year. Did they not survive? My brother, go out today and close your eyes buy that pair of jeans and a good t-shirt plus good leather slippers. On your way back home branch at a buka and eat good food. If you see fine babe wey get better job sef wey no go dey bill you or one young woman wey never too open eye, brother enjoy yourself o.

I sent money to my wife twice yesterday this morning she is asking for money for something again. Person wey even get money me o.

Can you imagine? Advising him to cheat

OlawaleBammie:
Mumu...see this Chile man ooh...marry first before u blow speaker..and if satan wan punish you make u no do that vasectomy after two kids ursef

BTW, where do they do dna for less than 200k?? I want to do for a child. Now bn serious

lol I understand the pain. Unfortunately I don’t live in Nigeria and will never live in Nigeria to partake in the suffering with you. My current income can comfortably take care of 5 children without sweat 😂😂. Continue playing.

Obaaderemi2:
Abi.
Many Nigerians both rich and poor have this warped mentality that the man should be solely responsible for taking care of the family. So who takes care of the man?

I think the men most times too assume the responsibility without talking about their financial expectations in the home.

Godwin4444:
is it real that people truly give their first salary to church?
Like seriously I have heard it a couple times but don't believe it's real

The day my wife tells me that is the day she will start taking care of herself n start feeding herself or better still she should b collecting money from those pastors

I know of someone whose wife dey partipate for all the church fasting wey dey, mfm go declare 70 days, she go , rccg declare 100 days she don , the man just dey console himself say he get one side madam for one nearby town wey dey help am... some women too dey carry church for head.

chris2face:

Am currently in this situation,mine got lots of cloths and I jokingly reminded her how I haven't been able to buy new clothes, she said same thing
Indeed marriage just favours women

The money for on of your child school fee should be used to buy the jeans then tell her she would pay for the term as you have used the money to get yourself a pair of jeans.

GboyegaD:


She told you the truth and I understand your concerns.

I switched jobs last year and decided to get a few shorts since my previous bank allows jeans and t shirt/polo which became my normal wears.

I went to get shirts and found out Tommy (TH) Shirts were more expensive compared to the last time I bought and decided to buy some other brand (Joseph Abboud). For home and madam was vexed that I could have at least mix match by getting some TH.

About 2 months later, we went to the mall and madam packed a few TH shirts. I looked at her and laughed because for her profession, she wears a coat on her shirt at work.

One thing though, she encourages me to spend on myself too but I guess I don't know how to but I keep trying. One thing I spend on though is food since I do the major grocery shopping most times and will cook whatever I want to eat. For me, food makes me happy.

Lest I forget, we contribute 95% of our earnings, I draft the budget and we sit together to ensure it is reasonable and she manages the savings .

Food kills! Healthy food make me happy!

Bobodee09:
This advise goes especially to married men and men in general.

Don't put yourself under unnecessary pressure or take up loans to maintain a certain lifestyle.

I just lost an area senior bros this morning, the news didn't come as shock cos he has been in the hospital for a while and his BP refused to come down.

He is man in his late 40's married with 4 kids. This man was under alot of pressure to meet end means, he took up too many loans just to maintain his living standards to please his family.

The last time I visited him in general I also checked my BP and it was very high, I was also under pressure myself to meet target.
When I got home I promised myself I wont die young to please anyone.
I will do my best and leave the rest cos at the end no one really care all they want to do is take from you as a man.

Married men enjoy yourself, take care of yourself, buy what you want. You can't be working everyday and be suffering to please your wife and kids.

The men who die young are the ones who always labour and don't take care of themselves, you see men who only provide what they have and take care of themselves they live longer.

We are in this mess together trust me....those people you think are doing better have alot of loans on their neck. So don't let anyone push you by comparing you to them.

If what you provide isnt enough or appreciated tell your wife to also provide or take her leave.

Very correct my brother, but its not that easy, many of us took loans not because we want to maintain any standard, but so many times it is because we are in anticipation of big breaks. Other times to cover for temporary necessities especially if you are working or you have a business. No wise person wants to take loan just because of lifestyle. And please children are the biggest traps not wives. You see those lovely angels call children no man in his right senses wants to see them suffer.

onyxo76:


I know of someone whose wife dey partipate for all the church fasting wey dey, mfm go declare 70 days, she go , rccg declare 100 days she don , the man just dey console himself say he get one side madam for one nearby town wey dey help am... some women too dey carry church for head.

no b for my house

Make she kukuma pack go the church

Bobodee09:


So we many on this table.

Chai men dey suffer

Women are by nature selfish and self-centered, know this and have peace.

tensazangetsu20:


lol I understand the pain. Unfortunately I don’t live in Nigeria and will never live in Nigeria to partake in the suffering with you. My current income can comfortably take care of 5 children without sweat 😂😂. Continue playing.

Lol, Mr Santiago Vargas, as a new Chile citizen...I am not suffering here sir.
Not that I am bragging but I actually turned down Canada links twice just to stay here in Nigeria..

My monthly income here in Nigeria can take care of three wives with two kids each and I will still have savings...no be everybody dey suffer here sir.

I just want to get more funds, buy stocks from other developed countries stock markets, invest for my old age and have some properties.. kpele...we that are in Nigeria also has brains, we just decided not to move to a country where a rat race is bn lived in a regimented manner.




Where do dey do dna for less that 200k sir??