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Most of the people typing above will suddenly become friendly if the Neighbor parks a Range Rover in the compound. Nigerians are friendly based on your perceived level of success and what they think they might gain from you.
Over a decade ago, I used to attend this church and there is this family that are very successful and snub everyone in the church. They would never associate or talk to anyone perceived to be in a lower class.
Me, I was driving a Camry at the time as a normal young man.

I made some money, bought me a very recent, clean, black Toyota 4runner, immediately I parked in the church, this woman looked up, rushed and greeted me. This was a woman that would never even acknowledge my existence before o.

When you are very successful, most of your Nigerian Neighbors will be friendly forget all the crap people typed above me .
Me. I am the most unfriendly neighbor you will ever have as I lovd total privacy and silence.

hollatomi:
Don't know if I say Nigerian or human, but people r wicked!my house is in-between these wicked lots. They wake me up before 5, another takes over with mad blasting speakers
after around 7 , then hand over to the evening set beer parlour, those wl stay till 12 except there's no light. Most times when d grid is down, I'm happy . That's d only time my mind is at rest . This is d everyday circle. unbelievably, most people in the area dis. Sometimes, I try to think if I'm d one with a problem , but that can't be.

If yours is a gentle and quiet spirit, you're better off marrying trouble as wife than hanging around such neighbourhoods.
Your intellectual and mental health will be stunted! There is very little opportunity for growth and development in such environment.

iichidodo:
I'm not friendly to my neighbors, period.

BigDawsNet:


Why his he na wasting the weed inspiration

Some smoke and they are calm and not wide.

spencekat:
Some smoke and they are calm and not wide.

Eh en… okay na

sslcrypt:


So far there's no empherical evidence to their gosip, I say it's null and void. Does my actions add up to tickle their gossip? No. So it doesn't really bother me per day, like one rightly said when another asked if am always home because they wanted to contribute towards an issue that wasn't our headache. He mentioned this guy na only him back we dy see. They didn't know I was home while they were having this conversation.

That you're not bothered is a testament to your maturity.
However, thinking that's enough for them to leave you enough is wishful thinking - they won't! Instead it gives them more impetus to continue.
Never underestimated the power of Joblessness it's the devil's most productive industry!

essentialone1:
Unfriendly Neighbours: Narrate your worst experiences living close to them.

Very useless woman

She will park her car behind me and travel for days without leaving the key behind.

I show here shege: For a week, I parked behind her and didn't come home for a week. She understood the memo

SporaD8:

That you're not bothered is a testament to your maturity.
However, thinking that's enough for them to leave you enough is wishful thinking - they won't! Instead it gives them more impetus to continue.
Never underestimated the power of Joblessness it's the devil's most productive industry!

My brother I never underestimate the power of jobless people they are the most dangerous. But the is I served as a soldier for years so am use to been very very private and selectively talk to who deserves my attention. And I don't like spending years in one place, I move if it gets uncomfortable.

iichidodo:
I'm not friendly to my neighbors, period.

But even better is when you are neither friendly nor unfriendly to your neighbours. It is a skill. Master it!

xukwaa:
There is one that lives below me. He has been a nightmare to my kids from the first day I moved in. Always complaining about the kids making noise. The house neighbours agreed that no one should also play loud music and that children are not expected to play around but sit quietly. I have never met the landlord since when I moved in. I don't even know whether he exists. All of a sudden, the very very dumb lawyer brought a quit notice without even seeing me first to discuss. I was about going extreme with the whole thing but decided to let it be.
I was thinking that whole thing was a scam. The neighbours hold meetings without involving me.

All I see is turbulence. Wild, wild storm!

Congratulations, you dodged a bullet.

Please, shake my hands!

Run as fast as you can and while you run, you feet should be touching the back of your head. You shouldn't be living in a place where your kids cannot be whom they are - kids!

Let your kids breathe, please. You sef need some non-turbulent moments. Life is too short to deal with all the artificial storms you mentioned. If you are not at peace at home and with your neighbours, then you cannot have inner peace.

Better to live alone and die alone than having them around you.

I can't qualify them

Greenlandz:
I am a chronic introvert. I don't mingle that much. I stays indoors . I goes out only in the evening to drink and smoke loud and comes back by 10pm and retired back to my room without speaking to anyone. Am I wicked or uncaring?

You are who you are and what you know; on that basis your conscience is the judge.

hollatomi:
Don't know if I say Nigerian or human, but people r wicked!my house is in-between these wicked lots. They wake me up before 5, another takes over with mad blasting speakers
after around 7 , then hand over to the evening set beer parlour, those wl stay till 12 except there's no light. Most times when d grid is down, I'm happy . That's d only time my mind is at rest . This is d everyday circle. unbelievably, most people in the area dis. Sometimes, I try to think if I'm d one with a problem , but that can't be.

Noise kills genius. You will never think straight. That area is not good for you, move. It's started affecting you already; you are only happy when the grid is open.

Na me be the wicked and unfriendly neighbor... I be attacker!

I still believe that It is wrong for us to be Unfriendly to our neighbours. Nobody is saying you have to be their Friends. But at least you should be Friendly. When you meet in the gateway or in the driveway, whenever you greet your neighbours good morning, how are you doing, for example, you should smile, and say it like you really do mean it. Not mutter It like something you force yourself to even say.

Pokenosing neighbours and noisy neighbours is a no no for me. These 2 types I detest. I may never come into your apartment for years, unless you invite me to it, and with good reason. But you see that compound space, whenever I am around, because I am hardly at home anyway, Una go feel my vibe. I love to make even neighbours who are enemies to become friends. I can spend days working on both parties to come to the point at which they can at least see the other person then smile and greet them. That is enough. All these carrying of faces and feeling overly important, is not just for me. But las las, people are the product of their family background.

My experience taught me about how not to be nice with people. Many nairalanders here are unfriendly neighbours!

symbianDON:
Never had unfriendly neighbors

NoToPile:
I have one living above us, (this one is not about unfriendliness because they wanted to form unnecesary familiarity when they came) they moved in 2 years back we have been the one living alone downstairs, they have been a thorn.

I ve never met such children before , children that should be the range of between 15-10 2 boys and a girl, they play football upstairs the whole house will be vibrating and shaking, decking that I think it's not too strong already, also shouting and screaming at it. sometimes it's synchronized marching. And it's everyblessed day, once they come back from school, early morning before school.

And the eldest will always be doing solo practises in the masters bedroom at night(their father is abro) I am saying 9pm, 11.50 pm and we in the masters room downstairs will be hearing gbimgbimgbim.

You will come out and shout they will stop and then continue again, you will say the same thing over and over again.


No comportment no respect for boundary just doing jaujau jau, parents need to train their children o.

Their mother doesn't even talk when we come out to caution the children, pikin wey dem no train for house na outside people go caution them. It's after we complain she will now start talking to them in low tones. I am waiting for the day she will address us. They ve been talking Chochocho about that we complain blablabla. You cannot tell me not to react or how to react when you are behaving abnormally.

An electrician came to work for us one day and he couldn't bear it he said this thing they are doing damages a house, even had to ask if they were the owners of the house. The man was shocked as such.

The very day they packed into the house would you believe that these children had not even entered their flat rented upstairs they were peeping into our windows downstairs

Now their papa is around for Christmas we have some respite they are behaving like normal people small.

We have a hello, good morning relationship with them, no body enters any body's apartment.

As far as I m concerned I don't have neighbor and our landlord has entered one chance

Those people are crack heads, and such you match fire for fire, if I'm the one, I will just talk ones, (not shout o) And if they refuse to be reasonable, I'll wait till 11pm, I'll bring out my party speakers, fuel my gen, put on some hard metal collection, Plug in my ear protection unit and have an all night party, do this for a week and watch how sense will fall on them.

Makaveli217:


Those people are crack heads, and such you match fire for fire, if I'm the one, I will just talk ones, (not shout o) And if they refuse to be reasonable, I'll wait till 11pm, I'll bring out my party speakers, fuel my gen, put on some hard metal collection, Plug in my ear protection unit and have an all night party, do this for a week and watch how sense will fall on them.

Loool. I understand you

essentialone1:



Any neighbour that prays loudly is a witch and a trouble maker. I like such neighbours. Na me dey always stop their madness. I have a large woofer just bought for that purpose alone. I will play fetish or cult songs on speaker and turn it very loud and face it into your window. We all go craze together.

That's the best for such neighbour, if I respect you enough not to make noise and disturb you, and you decided to disrespect me give me sleepless night, I'll just talk only once, that's if I feel like, if you don't change, I'll make sure to vibrate your house and make your ears ring for days.
A friend of mine had similar problem, but he's was that people play loud music senselessly, he talk tire, nobody listened, he invited landlord, nothing happened, he became depressed, no rest, no sleep, he's always scared to go home after work, cause of noise, then I gave him the speaker therapy idea, he got two party speakers, and give everyone one month free party, the madness stopped.

No body that cannot be assisted in life, no matter how okay you think you are. Never underestimate people.

A neighbour can help you get a better job.
A neighbour can you financially when you are unfortunately down.
A neighbour can connect you to a trustworthy Visa Agent, who can process Visa for you, at little or no cost.
A neighbour can save you in an event of fire outbreak.
A neighbour can alert you if there is a security problem in the compound, like armed robbery attack.

The list is endless.

There are good neighbours ooo, whether you like it or not.

If you have never met a good neighbour, it may be because you are not really a nice person yourself.

Sp1ritHusband:
Most of the people typing above will suddenly become friendly if the Neighbor parks a Range Rover in the compound. Nigerians are friendly based on your perceived level of success and what they think they might gain from you.
Over a decade ago, I used to attend this church and there is this family that are very successful and snub everyone in the church. They would never associate or talk to anyone perceived to be in a lower class.
Me, I was driving a Camry at the time as a normal young man.

I made some money, bought me a very recent, clean, black Toyota 4runner, immediately I parked in the church, this woman looked up, rushed and greeted me. This was a woman that would never even acknowledge my existence before o.

What was your reply and reaction when she greeted you?
So if something happens along the line and you loose your car, she'll stop the greetings, and disregard your existence. Then when you get another one she'll continue from where she stopped, and you'll answer?

Makaveli217:


What was your reply and reaction when she greeted you?
So if something happens along the line and you loose your car, she'll stop the greetings, and disregard your existence. Then when you get another one she'll continue from where she stopped, and you'll answer?

I was not expecting her to greet me to be honest, so I was taken aback, ermh...How is your work? How is your family?

She was very awkward and looking for things to say while gazing at the tinted charcoal 4Runner. After she left, I shook my head. I can bet that if she finds me in a danfo tomorrow, I will continue to be ignored by her.

You will be famous in neighborhood with everyone acting friendly if you are very success, mothers will even send their daughters to you with hope that you get her pregnant. My two eyes don see things and nothing under the sun surprises me anymore. I now learn to snub and use people around me to my advantage.

Sp1ritHusband:


I was not expecting her to greet me to be honest, so I was taken aback, ermh...How is your work? How is your family?

She was very awkward and looking for things to say while gazing at the tinted charcoal 4Runner. After she left, I shook my head. I can bet that if she finds me in a danfo tomorrow, I will continue to be ignored by her.

You will be famous in neighborhood with everyone acting friendly if you are very success, mothers will even send their daughters to you with hope that you get her pregnant. My two eyes don see things and nothing under the sun surprises me anymore. I now learn to snub and use people around me to my advantage.

Your last paragraph is nothing but the truth. I noticed it also. Observe how your neighbours who act as though they are unfriendly or snubs, tend to change like chameleon when they are faced with another neighbour, who appears to be far richer than them, with a cool SUV ride.


Most Nigerians are Pretenders.

essentialone1:


Your last paragraph is nothing but the truth. I noticed it also. Observe how your neighbours who act as though they are unfriendly or snubs, tend to change like chameleon when they are faced with another neighbour, who appears to be far richer than them, with a cool SUV ride.


Most Nigerians are Pretenders.

Over 98% are.

femi4:
Very useless woman

She will park her car behind me and travel for days without leaving the key behind.

I show here shege: For a week, I parked behind her and didn't come home for a week. She understood the memo

u no follow am fight, she understood the memo

stacyadams:
u no follow am fight, she understood the memo

A very understanding lady. Lol

Sp1ritHusband:


I was not expecting her to greet me to be honest, so I was taken aback, ermh...How is your work? How is your family?

She was very awkward and looking for things to say while gazing at the tinted charcoal 4Runner. After she left, I shook my head. I can bet that if she finds me in a danfo tomorrow, I will continue to be ignored by her.

You will be famous in neighborhood with everyone acting friendly if you are very success, mothers will even send their daughters to you with hope that you get her pregnant. My two eyes don see things and nothing under the sun surprises me anymore. I now learn to snub and use people around me to my advantage.

It sounds like you've had a fascinating encounter with someone who was trying to be friendly, but only because of your apparent success and possessions. The fact that she was awkward and struggling to find things to say, while also iring your 4Runner, suggests that she was more interested in your status than in genuinely getting to know you.

Your observation that people often treat you differently when they perceive you as successful is quite astute. It's unfortunate that some individuals will only show interest in you because of what they can gain from you, rather than valuing you as a person.

Your decision to be cautious and use people to your advantage is understandable, given your experiences. However, it's also important to that not everyone will treat you this way. There are still genuine people out there who will appreciate you for who you are, regardless of your possessions or status.

It's interesting that you mention learning to snub people and use them to your advantage. While this may be a necessary survival strategy in some cases, it's also important to maintain your integrity and treat others with respect, even if they don't always deserve it.

VaginaAcademic:
I used to be a friendly neighbor until it nearly cost me my life. Now I keep to myself to avoid wahala.

I would love to hear your story

essentialone1:

It sounds like you've had a fascinating encounter with someone who was trying to be friendly, but only because of your apparent success and possessions. The fact that she was awkward and struggling to find things to say, while also iring your 4Runner, suggests that she was more interested in your status than in genuinely getting to know you.

Your observation that people often treat you differently when they perceive you as successful is quite astute. It's unfortunate that some individuals will only show interest in you because of what they can gain from you, rather than valuing you as a person.

Your decision to be cautious and use people to your advantage is understandable, given your experiences. However, it's also important to that not everyone will treat you this way. There are still genuine people out there who will appreciate you for who you are, regardless of your possessions or status.

It's interesting that you mention learning to snub people and use them to your advantage. While this may be a necessary survival strategy in some cases, it's also important to maintain your integrity and treat others with respect, even if they don't always deserve it.

This ChatGPT. You guys should stop this over reliance on AI, even in little issues.