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I met this girl in school around January 2020. We exchanged s. After we left school due to the pandemic towards end of January 2020, we only communicated once in a while on WhatsApp. Fast forward to Jan 2021 school resumed and we started seeing more often. She started getting comfortable with me and started sharing her academic struggles with me. She was in level 2 then in my faculty and she was already on her 2nd probation 2 more and she will be withdrawn from the faculty. I started to counsel her on how she can navigate through and come out of the probation but it seems it was too late. Her attention seems to be somewhere else, she was always sober whenever we met to discuss her issues. As times go by, she started sharing the details of how she found her self in her present predicament. Apparently, she has been unserious with her studies, moving around with men and even sleeping in different hotels with them. This she started right from when she was a pre-degree student before gaining ission into the school. Fortunately for her, she got ission via jamb to a top faculty in ‘Bermuda’. One will think she will sit up and change into a better person but no, she continued with her previous lifestyle. Sometimes she left school to see some of her boyfriends where they smoke and do different form of ‘highness’ together. This made her 100 level to be so woeful. Has she had plenty carryover and couldn’t make the benchmark CGPA of 2.4 throughout the level.

By the beginning of 200 level she was already on 2 previous probations. She had only that level to make things right. However, things have gone really bad to make things right. She was still in the previous toxic relationship that lead her to her probations and still very much involved in those acts. I met her at a point where she was considering an interfaculty transfer because according to her course adviser had advised her it is mathematically impossible for her to come out of the probation. To cut the long story short, my role during this period as a Snr colleague in my finals was mainly telling her not to give up and leave those friends that lead her to her current situation. We became so close because I was always available for her when she calls to see me while also offering her emotional and guidance. We began hanging out more frequently and I asked her out. Knowing all the shit she been involved in, I wanted to give her a chance cos I thought she ed through all those because she was too naive and young. A year down the line I graduated and her inter faculty transfer didn’t work. So she was advised by her sister to come back home to for our state university afresh. Mind you, we come from the same state.

I make sure I use every chance I get to counsel and advise her not to make same kind of mistakes that brought her back in her new school and she also felt she will never do such again considering what she has ed through.
But yesterday as I was going through her phone I was shocked to see that this girl still occasionally chat with one of her exes. I could it was the same person she lied to me to go and see in another state while she was battling her probation issue in school. I was so furious and felt stupid. I decided to dig deeper into her Facebook chat history and what I saw break me so bad. Since yesterday I haven’t felt okay. Apparently she was seeing different men and exchanging nudes with them, sex chatting with one. I also learnt she was pregnant at some point and aborted for one from the chat. Some of these things happened while we were already friends while some happened before I met her. I didn’t want to judge her but this new information I discovered about her past life is killing me. This is the same person I took to see my dad last week. I’m in such a dilemma right now, either to end things with her and move on or to bullshit those things and continue dating her.

Please guys I need your contributions

All this grammar for someone not your daughter or sister? If you want to go far in life, focus on more important things. It's 2025, a perfect time to set useless things aside.

zed7:
All this grammar for someone not your daughter or sister? If you want to go far in life, focus on more important things. It's 2025, a perfect time to set useless things aside.

This is someone I wish to marry. If I can’t be assured of her loyalty shouldn’t I be worried?

Nezy4Real:


This is someone I wish to marry. If I can’t be assured of her loyalty shouldn’t I be worried?

Do you know the meaning of marriage? If you are considering marrying someone like that, it shows you have a low IQ.

Brother, the truth is this: You can take a horse to the water but you can't force it to drink.
Obviously the girl is completely unwilling to turn a new leaf and be a better person.
So you have to leave her and focus on your life.
For her to be still seeing different men and sexting with them even while you both are together,speaks ocean volumes about her level of promiscuity.
Better leave her now for your mental health and peace of mind.
One of these days, she would get pregnant by one of her lovers and pin it on you.
But she won't be able to do so if you haven't slept with her.
Brother, leave the shameless unrepentant scarlet women now.
For your own good.

Nezy4Real:


This is someone I wish to marry. If I can’t be assured of her loyalty shouldn’t I be worried?

was waiting for you to say this. I will not advice you. But everything I read now tells me she is not your wife. W hat happen to helping and moving on?

Red flags everywhere.

You are still asking questions and waiting for someone to advise you not to continue your wedding plans with an olosho. Don't worry, you will learn the hard way. I trust experience to teach people bitter and unforgettable lessons, it always does. Take a hint, start saving up for DNA tests on your unborn children with her.

I perceived you as someone that is too emotional, you've become emotional attached to the girl.

Let me be honest with you bro, girls don't value weak guys, the girl only see you as her escape from her stresses when needed, you don't become too nice to a girl—she'd take you for a long silly ride.

My advice to you, leave the girl alone and give your time & value to someone that really needs it. She's tasted the bad side of love, she loved & still loves it, she's trapped in it. If you still foolishly condone all these flags & wifed her, you'd live with regret all your life.

Girls love good-bad guys, in ratio 30:70(30 good, 70 bad). In your next relationship, don't be all nice, apply my 30:70

To break free from her emotional clutches, look for a better behaved & more beautiful girl.

If you still decide to go ahead with her after all these, don't come & bore us with infidelity & DNA scandals on here in the future.

Nezy4Real:


This is someone I wish to marry. If I can’t be assured of her loyalty shouldn’t I be worried?

sorry for what you ed through; however, experience has taught me that people in love are one of the hardest people to advice. Your own case small, my friend went through a lot than your case and we all sat down to advice him. Senior men, mentors and even the sister. However, at the end of the day, he still went back to the lady and even begged the lady to come back. So, I dont think we are in the best position to advice you; until you learn the hard way. If not, whatsoever we say here, we are just wasting our time because you will still beg her to come back. All the best

Girls of her age always want to explore, there's no amount of advice you can give her that will make her slow down. Keep your fingers crossed and watch her walk into her doom or perhaps she might be lucky to understand the true meaning of life before it becomes too late for her.
Personally, I dont advice any girl between the ages of 18 and 25, they always feel they are on top of the world somehow.

Pennywise2:
was waiting for you to say this. I will not advice you. But everything I read now tells me she is not your wife. W hat happen to helping and moving on?

Red flags everywhere.

She can never be loyal to him, girl wey don dey smoke with other boys, that has tasted different dick sizes in highness. I wasn't expecting him to even plan a thing with her, 'cos they're worlds apart, got nothing in common.

zed7:

Do you know the meaning of marriage? If you are considering marrying someone like that, it shows you have a low IQ.

I like your approach. No time to placate nonsense. You float or sink, the choice is yours.

You did great brother.

Nezy4Real:


This is someone I wish to marry. If I can’t be assured of her loyalty shouldn’t I be worried?

if we study case of things very well this girl is more intelligent than you,

Like you won marry public hotspot 🤣🤣

So mumu men till plenty for this Life na WA hoo

Pennywise2:
was waiting for you to say this. I will not advice you. But everything I read now tells me she is not your wife. W hat happen to helping and moving on?

Red flags everywhere.

Hmmm! I want to move on but I don’t know how to. But anytime I those things she did my heart break.

is her name Silvia, so dat i can advise u from there.


Run from any Ijaw gal name Silvia, unless u wan die prematuredly..



Anyways, it not easy to find peace when u are dating a Nigerian gal. I could have been in the USA by now if not for my ex in the University. She plummeted me to the past lyk 5 years behind... If not for my current wife, my ex emotional damage to me would have driven me to utter madness.


In sincerity, this is a common thing in a gal. Any gal that tells u she is holy or av a tiny titties for moral is either lying or she has Insomnia thus forgetting her own life.

U need to do like the way guys lyk us do. We lure dem with luv and fucck and move on. Only my wife means something to me.

I can't even count the number of married woman i av touched in Abuja. Even a neighbor close to my office that is always proud of his wife, well, i had my pounds of flesh from her and since then, she has been showing me attitude cause i discarded her.


If u invest ur feelings in a woman, d only interest you will get is heart break. D only good gals are the dead ones. The ones that died during the civil war. Of cos except my wife, my mother and sisters...

If u are in Abuja, i can link u up with any spec of lady u lyk... bt get ur pocket ready to settle bills lyk a real man and to pay for hotels... u don't av to give dem money.

If u are ugly and dirty, don't just bother.

Augustine2244:
Brother, the truth is this: You can take a horse to the water but you can't force it to drink.
Obviously the girl is completely unwilling to turn a new leaf and be a better person.
So you have to leave her and focus on your life.
For her to be still seeing different men and sexting with them even while you both are together,speaks ocean volumes about her level of promiscuity.
Better leave her now for your mental health and peace of mind.
One of these days, she would get pregnant by one of her lovers and pin it on you.
But she won't be able to do so if you haven't slept with her.
Brother, leave the shameless unrepentant scarlet women now.
For your own good.

I’m trying to move on but it’s difficult. Her mom and sisters know me very well and we have come a long way. I wanted to 4get her past life and move on with her but she is not helping matters. The chat I read about the abortion she did in the past is the most disturbing thing to me now.

Olachase:
if we study case of things very well this girl is more intelligent than you,

Like you won marry public hotspot 🤣🤣

So mumu men till plenty for this Life na WA hoo

Easy for you to talk when you’re not directly involved.

That bitch belongs to the street bro,she ought to be ur sex slave by banging the shit outta dat hoe instead u thinking bout wifey her..U got a very low street OT.

phorget:
Girls of her age always want to explore, there's no amount of advice you can give her that will make her slow down. Keep your fingers crossed and watch her wall into her doom or perhaps she might be lucky to understand the true meaning of life before it becomes too late for her.
Personally, I dont advice any girl between the ages of 18 and 25, they always feel they are on top of the world somehow.

True. But she has cried her eyes out in regret for her past actions. It still baffles me why she is still in with the same people responsible for her woes. 😪

Amsickindahead:
That bitch belongs to the street bro,she ought to be ur sex slave by banging the shit outta dat hoe instead u thinking bout wifey her..U got a very low street OT.

To be honest before I got to know about her shitty past, my intention was to hit and run. But I became stuck with her and now it’s difficult to leave.

Why advice a man who can't advanced himself when it comes to a woman. Leave that man to suffer a pinch of his stupidity, since he can't sit himself down and rethink wtf his doing.

Men becoming feminine is a dangerous thing we have in this planet earth.

DarkLover:


She can never be loyal to him, girl wey don dey smoke with other boys, that has tasted different dick sizes in highness. I wasn't expecting him to even plan a thing with her, 'cos they're worlds apart, got nothing in common.

We are truly worlds apart. But foolish me thought she was going to turn a new leaf, at least that was what she made me believe.

Nezy4Real:


Easy for you to talk when you’re not directly involved.

may the god's that did it for you avoid me 😏

Augustine2244:
Brother, the truth is this: You can take a horse to the water but you can't force it to drink.
Obviously the girl is completely unwilling to turn a new leaf and be a better person.
So you have to leave her and focus on your life.
For her to be still seeing different men and sexting with them even while you both are together,speaks ocean volumes about her level of promiscuity.
Better leave her now for your mental health and peace of mind.
One of these days, she would get pregnant by one of her lovers and pin it on you.
But she won't be able to do so if you haven't slept with her.
Brother, leave the shameless unrepentant scarlet women now.
For your own good.

To be fair to her, the nude sharing and sexting happened before we started dating but we already knew each other. Didn’t get to know this deeper secrets else won’t have taken things the way I did with her.

Nezy4Real:


To be honest before I got to know about her shitty past, my intention was to hit and run. But I became stuck with her and now it’s difficult to leave.

But the bitch ain't ready to change or be loyal to ya.why waste ur precious time trying to be mr nice guy.You deserve someone better nigga,don't dull.

Why waste your time on him? them no dey advise who dey in love

Pennywise2:
was waiting for you to say this. I will not advice you. But everything I read now tells me she is not your wife. W hat happen to helping and moving on?

Red flags everywhere.

Amsickindahead:
But the bitch ain't ready to change or be loyal to ya.why waste ur precious time trying to be mr nice guy.You deserve someone better nigga,don't dull.

Yeah it’s obvious. This last time makes it the 3rd time I have told her to cut ties with these people. She keeps claiming they’re the ones that check up on her. I told her to block them. But it seems she still have unfinished business with them. Me I am mentally out of the relationship.

DarkLover:


She can never be loyal to him, girl wey don dey smoke with other boys, that has tasted different dick sizes in highness. I wasn't expecting him to even plan a thing with her, 'cos they're worlds apart, got nothing in common.

As in

Os oooo...

He's just typing in big grammar to describe a young lady who simply happens to be an olosho as it were...

You wanted to be "captain save a how"

He say he wan give her another chance, top tier fooling 😂😂🫵🫵

Nezy4Real:


This is someone I wish to marry. If I can’t be assured of her loyalty shouldn’t I be worried?

You took her to see your dad? Haaa