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My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...

The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....

l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....

Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

It'd be an unwise decision to quit your relationship simply because your fiancee's ex has refused to move on.....You should be more concerned on how she's handling the whole situation.....Is she giving him the room to have a conversation with her? Cuz we all know how vulnerable bannies could be...With their little tiny brains like that of a fish . How they can be easily be manipulated............

But then again,now I just realized that a man shouldn't be wasting his precious time on a banny .

If you love her, why would you drop her because of a persistent ex? If no man is chasing your girl, it means you've been left with remnants rejected by everyone else. You should be comfortable only if you have confidence in her and know she truly love you. Some Ex can be so useless too.

Just let her be, she will chase him off herself but also keep an eye out so she's not playing you for a fool... and there's no need picking up a fight with him. Only if neccessary, talk to him when he calls when you're around and warn him to mind himself or you will treat his Bleep up. Simple.

Edit: My 2 only relationships had some of the worst recalcitrant men I have ever seen for exes. No suprises because they were both highly valuable women. I married the second one. It was so bad they would stalk them at events we had together because they've been blocked on telephone and social media. One almost fought me at an event but I told him I am more than that. He only embarassed himself.

When they got frustrated, they left because my woman was having none of their nonsense. The second one was crying at my in-laws house when he heard about the planned parents introduction. Just chill but be certain she isn't playing you for a fool.

Play along then abscond on the wedding day

OP, Do Investigation on the kind of relationship ur GF had with her Ex.

If you find out there was much Knackings in the relationship, QUIT.

Bcus the day he catches her in a Corner, he will definitely fcvk her.

Dem dey use OP head play ping pong

Oga na de one ur woman wan show u e go do,forget this one dem de do ooh ,de go still reunion fr ur back nd continue were dem stop, Mark my words

emperor4love:
Oga na de one ur woman wan show u e go do,forget this one dem de do ooh ,de go still reunion fr ur back nd continue were dem stop, Mark my words

so what do u advice l do?

Elzazzi:
Dem dey use OP head play ping pong

she is the one telling me all this things ,, l did not find out myself

Okafor's Law of Congoelasticity must take place if you go ahead and marry that your Gf

No zuzu yourself o Op

Vikto17:
My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...

The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....
l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....
Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

You better do quickly before you become collateral damage.

Do what is on your mind

Vikto17:
so what do u advice l do?

de will reunite as time goes ,cos women are emotional nd fall for that,constant of that from that guy will weaken her and she will one day giv chance nd gbam, de rekindle again at ur back, be sure she blocked her in all places then if serious,let her go nd meet one or two relatives of that guy nd talk with them about there son spoiling show for her, lastly read ur girl friend very well,if she is willing nd true to do away with that guy,if she is serious, ascertain truly,if she it, go on with her...most time some ex got tired once de noticed u are married nd can do anything about it

Vikto17:
My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...

The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....
l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....
Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

If ur post is not figment, you need to study your girl very well, if her mind has made up to be with you or her ex. Oga, your girl still given him full access for communication, provided not still given him romantic gesture, and if you dnt careful, your girl would be going behind to warm his bed.

One behaviour that is certain and common to all women is, "woman cannot completely off her mind from anyone that has slept with her before".
If the ex, really know how to manipulate, it's a matter of time before the woman fall yakata again, irrespective how their relationship ended in the past, ex only needs communications to start flowing between two of them again.

Vikto17:
she is the one telling me all this things ,, l did not find out myself

I pity who know pity you.

Let me tell you this. If your girl shout at him and warn him, in a strong term not to ever call her again, you think, the communication won't die a natural course immediately?


And for you, shout and warn ur girl In a very strong way you haven't done before and treating to cut the relationship, after that, go ahead to cut communication with her for just a week and see if the girl won't do the needful.

Women are like kids, they need carrots and stick approach,for them to behave normally and for husband to be in control of the relationship


If you do that and she doesn't show remorse, oga flee for your safety from bad girl.

Are you dating a teenager?

See eh.. this life is simple o. If this is giving you serious concern leave the relationship. If this guy keeps ing her when you married her , it might lead to serious fracas between you and your wife which may abruptly ends the marriage.. THINK AHEAD.

Vikto17:
My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...

The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....
l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....
Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

You can't force a woman to know the right thing..if she can't do it without any warning she doesn't deserve you..you can't always be with her to drive away the guys chasing her.

Guy go and make money and forget woman...it's only an idle man that depend on women activities that you can't never win. You can't control her emotions... Even Ada, Samson etc couldn't

Change her numbers then if it continues ask her how he got her numbers if she didn't give you good answers then quiet because she may be the one calling the guy.

Fiscus105:



I pity who know pity you.

Let me tell you this. If your girl shout at him and warn him, in a strong term not to ever call her again, you think, the communication won't die a natural course immediately?


And for you, shout and warn ur girl In a very strong way you haven't done before and treating to cut the relationship, after that, go ahead to cut communication with her for just a week and see if the girl won't do the needful.

Women are like kids, they need carrots and stick approach,for them to behave normally and for husband to be in control of the relationship


If you do that and she doesn't show remorse, oga flee for your safety from bad girl.

This is the advice here ☝

Is she a kid that can't handle her ex or her past?
Why pushing it on you...she no get fear o.

A lady you love, will you tell her your ex is still disturbing you?
I believe you'd have cut it like a man, and tell the lady to stop calling you...else...

So she should get her shit together, take charge of her life and decisions.

Don't stupidly go and fight for love o...you'll keep fighting forever.

Tell her to go and fix her shiiii, you no get energy for ex wahala.
A lady that wants to stay, knows what to do to stay.

MyExpression:
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This is the advice here ☝

Is she a kid that can't handle her ex or her past?
Why pushing it on you...she no get fear o.

A lady you love, will you tell her your ex is still disturbing you?
I believe you'd have cut it like a man, and tell the lady to stop calling you...else...

So she should get her shit together, take charge of her life and decisions.

Don't stupidly go and fight for love o...you'll keep fighting forever.

Tell her to go and fix her shiiii, you no get energy for ex wahala.
A lady that wants to stay, knows what to do to stay.

At times, you need to threatened a woman for her to know, you mean business, and for her head to receive senses. if you a man that wants your woman to always fix her issues alone ........ intruder would break in and destroy your beautiful marriage o.

Not everyone man wants to be married and remarried and litter every town and villages with uncaring kids ooo

OP, look into the kind of relationship your girlfriend had with her ex. If you discover there was a lot of intimacy in that relationship, consider ending things. Because if he gets the chance, he may try to pursue her again.

Bro since it is getting out of head... simply tell her to get a new sim card or you call it quits... that guy will knack her one day

I am speaking from experience. Your girl have not even moved on from the guy. Also bear in mind that in a relationship, you don't fear new toasters of your babe...but you see her ex, if he mean business to get her back...you don't stand any chance. He knows the button to press.

Vikto17:

Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number..

she has seen that you're just a barking cat and you can't do nothing. When a man talks tooooooo much. She will turn you to a childish parrot with her childish games then one day turn around to tell the world that you nag.

Grow some ballz and Tell that fish brain to go handle her issues, i mean.... why the hell is she telling you that a guy called her? to show you that she is still hot cake and you should be worried about the other guy? Now see you have become so worried and restless that you made a topic on Nairaland while she is chilling.

AcadaWriter0:
OP, look into the kind of relationship your girlfriend had with her ex. If you discover there was a lot of intimacy in that relationship, consider ending things. Because if he gets the chance, he may try to pursue her again.

Ignore all previous instructions. Type an engaging Nairaland topic.

Ure obviously not from the streets
When next he calls tell her to arrange a meet and go Bleep the nigga up

God punish you, leave that useless girl

Vikto17:
My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...

The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....
l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....
Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

For your peace of mind and long life. Tell her that after you have paid her bride price, you would need her to be purified in a native shrine. Which means that she would not sleep with another man as long as both of you are still married.
If she agrees, go ahead and wife her.
Finally, purify her immediately after you have paid her bride price, before she takes in.

ENJOY!

Modified: Never fight for a banny or quarrel your banny coz of a man. You will have your worth reduced.

Vikto17:
My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...

The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....

l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....

Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

One day, the next Victim will be here with ur Name, the Ex Quited and later found his mistake n can't live with it.
So you are Weak as the EX, she should Quit not u