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I have a burning ion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.

Hehehehe, OP.

This Life, sometimes You have to sacrifice one thing to get Another.

Look at Oprah Winfrey, she Acquired Billions and International Fame,
But didn't Marry up till her 50's (don't think she is even married).

Since you want Wealth, Pursue it.

A Man/Husband will still come but remain Trim and maintain your Figure
like those Kate Henshaw and Genevieve kind of ladies.

Animegirl:
I have a burning ion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.

Life is sometimes like chess..
When you play chess, you will understand that for you to achieve a particular goal, you must give up something for something. The word is “Sacrifice”

you want to be very successful and powerful and wealthy and have a loving successful husband and a beautiful family with kids? Then live happily ever after like the movies, well you can!
Every one wishes the same, so how powerful is your mind to make it happen?
But from my own perspective, if I were to choose between a woman who is so obsessed with becoming powerful and a woman who’s so obsessed with family , kids and ing her husband, I will choose the family oriented woman

Marriage and children are EXCUSES used by rat-minded women to justify their MEDIOCRITY.

Choose a spouse whose ambitions and expectations ALIGN with yours.

DON'T marry a man who's interested in a homemaker and turn around to bitch about it.

FOLLOW the footsteps of the Venerable Madam Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala.

What if you sacrifice the marriage and u still fail to make the money? Double wahala your chances of becoming rich in Nigeria is very slim

You just need to have a man that have big dream as u do, it is easier when u have a guy who is ive and understands u.
Tell him children should come later as u want to focus on ur career for now. Marriage is ive but children can delay progress especially in their first 4yrs when they need the most attention, this is the time they learn to put their hands in fire, fall from the balcony, cry all night so u can't rest, pick sharp objects and put in their mouth.
Except u have someone to watch over them, don't have children in the earlier stage of ur career

arkad139:
What if you sacrifice the marriage and u still fail to make the money? Double wahala your chances of becoming rich in Nigeria is very slim

Yeah, Dat's a possibility.

But It is BETTER to Attempt to achieve something and Fail
Than
Not Try to and be Regretting for the rest of your Life.

One of my Female coursemates once posted that as a Young Girl, she had so many BIG DREAMS.
That now even with a Husband and 2 kids, sometimes she wished she could have had time to Pursue them.

Marriage is not an achievement. It is a responsibility. If you are not set to combine your dream and the responsibility of marriage then choose the one that matter most to u.

Animegirl:
I have a burning ion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.

Your dreams are valid, and you can balance family life with your ambitions. Success doesn’t have to be either-or; prioritize your goals, plan strategically, and find ive partnerships. , there’s no fixed timeline for success, so focus on building your path at your pace. Seek inspiration from role models and believe in your ability to create a fulfilling life that aligns with your vision.

Omoawoke:


Life is sometimes like chess..
When you play chess, you will understand that for you to achieve a particular goal, you must give up something for something. The word is “Sacrifice”

you want to be very successful and powerful and wealthy and have a loving successful husband and a beautiful family with kids? Then live happily ever after like the movies, well you can!
Every one wishes the same, so how powerful is your mind to make it happen?
But from my own perspective, if I were to choose between a woman who is so obsessed with becoming powerful and a woman who’s so obsessed with family , kids and ing her husband, I will choose the family oriented woman

How powerful is my mind, hmm.

You see, what you men want vs what I want is quite different. I'm unlucky meeting guys who don't align with mine. Moreover I'm not obsess with power, I just want to be successful and wealthy.

Namaster:
Marriage and children are EXCUSES used by rat-minded women to justify their MEDIOCRITY.

Choose a spouse that whose ambitions and expectations ALIGN with yours.

DON'T marry a man who's interested in a homemaker and turn around to bitch about it.

One thing I have learnt in life is not to follow people experiences but follow principles of life. Moreover I don't think is easy to find a spouse just like that, people change.

FOLLOW the footsteps of the Venerable Madam Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala.

Animegirl:



How powerful is my mind, hmm.

You see, what you men want vs what I want is quite different. I'm unlucky meeting guys who don't align with mine. Moreover I'm not obsess with power, I just want to be successful and wealthy.

Family is a team work, not individual success.

The way you desire success for yourself “I want to be wealthy!”
What happens to “I want me and my husband to be wealthy “
Afterall, your family wealth is for you, your husband and children… I sense a kind of selfish ambition (pardon my judgment)
But I as a man, will avoid someone like you… nothing personal, but I rather prefer to be with a woman that knows that when it’s time to make sacrifices, she won’t hesitate when necessary for the overall good of the family.

Omoawoke:


Family is a team work, not individual success.

The way you desire success for yourself “I want to be wealthy!”
What happens to “I want I and my husband to be wealthy “
Afterall, your family wealth is for you, your husband and children… I sense a kind of selfish ambition (pardon my judgment)
But I as a man, will avoid someone like you… nothing personal, but I rather prefer to be with a woman that knows that when it’s time to make sacrifices, she won’t hesitate when necessary for the overall good of the family.

Honestly, that's why I'm hesitant to start a family at this point in my life - I don't want to compromise my emotional focus. For me, achieving personal success is distinct from ensuring the success of my future family. If I become successful, my family will naturally benefit from the fruits of my labor.

Animegirl:


Honestly, that's why I'm hesitant to start a family at this point in my life - I don't want to compromise my emotional focus. For me, achieving personal success is distinct from ensuring the success of my future family. If I become successful, my family will naturally benefit from the fruits of my labor.

That’s good, nothing wrong with your ambitions..
I hope you find what you seek. All the best

Animegirl:
I have a burning ion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.

Yes for most women. But if U are well grounded in character and still maintain Ur true feminine nature, believing Ur man is head above U, not letting ur success get into Ur head, putting family and God above all u can overcome it. Otherwise na sexxtoys and angry bitter left wing men haters in disguise as feminists go surround U and it will eventually be Ur way of life.

VinnyBaba:


Hehehehe, OP.

This Life, sometimes You have to sacrifice one thing to get Another.

Look at Oprah Winfrey, she Acquired Billions and International Fame,
But didn't Marry up till her 50's (don't think she is even married).

Since you want Wealth, Pursue it.

A Man/Husband will still come but remain Trim and maintain your Figure
like those Kate Henshaw and Genevieve kind of ladies.

Oprah has been with her common law partner since 1986.
They live together. They just did not have a marriage ceremony

Animegirl:
I have a burning ion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.

Getting married to an open minded man will not truncate or delay your dreams but having children will.
Please note that regardless of what you see on social media men love wealthy successful women. Not the traditional ones with good character. No, the wealthy women.
So pursue your dreams. Look for an open minded young man (He does not have to be Nigerian or African). If you know you want children strategize to ensure you have them before 44.

Good luck!

Shokoloko:

Getting married to an open minded man will not truncate or delay your dreams but having children will.
Please note that regardless of what you see on social media men love wealthy successful women. Not the traditional ones with good character. No, the wealthy women.
So pursue your dreams. Look for an open minded young man (He does not have to be Nigerian or African). If you know you want children strategize to ensure you have them before 44.

Good luck!

Thank you.

Everything comes with a price,but if i can meet someone who aligns with my goals and dream in life, I'll certainly eat my cake and still eat it again and again. Money isn't what pushes me to succeed but the thought of being unable to provide for my loved ones and the people around me, and achieve my dreams (of proving that the "black man" can create something out of nothing) is one of the most important motivations.

If only, I can find such a woman... I'm handsome... blablablabla.

The point is: once you find that kind of person, you wouldn't have to sacrifice something important to you all because of your ambition. Not when you're not a nun.

I have a lot to write right now but...

Animegirl:
I have a burning ion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.

I will give you free advice as someone with lots of experience.

1. Fvuck societal or family expectations. In the end, you will be alone in the marriage, and if it does not work for you, you bear the consequences alone so if you think you may not be ready, never go into a marriage.

This is 2024, the age of information and artificial intelligence and man has come a long way. We need to begin to re-evaluate all these social norms and expectations such as marriage and determining our place in the world, and how we fit in.

You do not have to be married if you don't want to but, you will have prices to pay as a Nigerian living in Nigeria such as;

Social Stigma: You may face judgment and societal pressure due to cultural expectations of marriage and motherhood.

Family Pressure: Relatives might pressure or criticize you for not conforming to traditional family roles.

Economic Dependency in Old Age: Without children, alternative plans are needed for financial and emotional in later years.

Religious Criticism: Religious communities may interpret your decision as going against teachings, leading to potential judgment.

Relationship Challenges: Romantic options might be limited, as many men see marriage and children as non-negotiable.

Isolation in Friendships: Married or parenting friends might drift apart, leaving you feeling isolated.

Mental Health Impact: Societal pressures and loneliness may affect self-esteem and emotional well-being.

Reduced Community Respect: Leadership roles and influence in traditional settings may be tied to marital or parental status.

Missed Networking Opportunities: Many social and professional connections in Nigeria are built around family-related events, which you might miss.

You must be ready to live with the above.

Now, when It comes to relationships, it is not always black and white, you may be single and still not be successful, You may marry and be miserable so as a lady, there is a third alternative, Pursue your career and when successful, strike an arrangement with a partner for pregnancy like Linda Ikeji and continue enjoying your life absent of the restrictions of marriage.

I will stop here.

Pray for man that will your dreams.

Animegirl:
I have a burning ion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.

do what suits but , you have to sacrifice something to achieve something.

Do what you want to do now, some men will not allow women to even go back to school once the woman enters their house. Some men are envious, the things you want to do, fragile ego won't let them allow you to achieve them within the marriage.

So do what you want to do first. Then get a partner.

Simple advice: marry and rest.

Okonjo Iweala is not married Dora Akunyili didn’t marry? Make una dey calm down abeg

I see some people quoting Professors, whose husband are already intelligent people and have some sense. What about
Funke Akindele
Folorunso Alakija
Tiwa Savage etc

I am just giving you the flip side of the coin.

Men like to provide and whether you like it or not, it takes a self confident man not to be intimidated by your wealth. It's just the way the game is, except you want to be a second wife or something like that where you will not be in his life too much. Women in the past used to do this but that was because the extended family system was strong and they wanted to preserve the family. I am not discouraging you, I encourage you to go for what you want but this is human nature and reality.

Women are not inspired by men who are not up to their standards. Women marry up for a reason. It is in their nature to have a man who can provide security and if the woman is already doing it, it will cause problems. Women want that confidence from men and if unfortunately, his work does not pay off, it will affect him and the house.

Today women are earning more than men and we are seeing the results. If the man is okay with being a home dad, please accept it that way and don't complain but many times, we see that once women can do what men do, they don't see your worth anymore and it is usually difficult for that woman to respect the man. What does he bring to the table? You are already the table.

Should I tell you the worst thing? Once a man has seen that there is no need to provide, he stops hustling. He becomes mentally lazy, not totally his fault but because of the conditioning. He doesn't see the need anymore. There is already security and this thing pisses women off because they still expect him to work hard and make money. They call him deadbeat and write him off. This same man will see a poor girl and work hard to elevate her. When the man is beneath her, she does not see his worth even if he is trying his best. She also starts seeing the man as a leech not because he is, but because she is performing the role of provider. Men can provide without attaching too much emotions to it. Women are cunning in their finances. They don't mind taking care of their family and other emotional stuff but it makes her crazy when she is doing the work of provider and caregiver. A woman would rather bea single mom and know that she is the only one taking care of the family than to have a man who is around and not doing anything.

That's the nature of men. I just want you to ask yourself if you are very sure you can live with it. Don't think when I am giving you these examples, I am talking about poor men. I am talking about men who are millionaires and their wives are millionaires too.




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x5xY-o_Gs8E


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZyUXBmboj1E

It takes a wise woman to manage her ego and her household when she outearns him and before you get married, discuss with the guy you want to marry and check their family if they are confident people or they are small minded.

richmond500:
u just need to have a man that have big dream as u do, it is easier when u have a guy who is ive and understands u.
Tell him children should come later as u want to focus on ur career for now

Children will come later , Nkonjo iweala was having children in addition to her career and blossomed. Millions of ladies have done this and became successful. No man who has his senses on will ever agree to this views of yours but majority Wil agree she gives birth to fewer children and then squarely face her dreams.

Child birthing won't hold you down, even for those who work in big corporations there are opportunities for women to birth children without any consequences so what is the fuse about child birth hindering your goals. If she thinks it will it's better not to get married or tell the man she is involved with about her intentions not to get pregnant so he makes his decisions appropriately.

Animegirl:
I have a burning ion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.

First of all, getting married doesn't solve the problem of loneliness.
Getting a man who understands partnership does.
Be careful the kind of advice you take - offline and online.
You can be wealthy and have a family, but most of the time, one has to be compromised (not entirely abandoned) for the other.
In the end, everyone must live the emptiness of something - genuine love or genuine wealth.
I'm not saying there's no possibility of getting the two.
It's just a case of ½ in a million at best.
Good luck with whatever you decide to pursue.

Meet me for consultation.
I treasure your kind.

Animegirl:
I have a burning ion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.

wetin u want? be a business woman with pyjamas 80k + ur body at delivery = TOTAL package 300k and 3 years in to business u go connect Google MAP or other wise

CorrectionFLuid:


Animegirl please whatever you do, don't reply this idiot.

Ni orúkọ ti a n'pe Baba rẹ!

Omoawoke:


Life is sometimes like chess..
When you play chess, you will understand that for you to achieve a particular goal, you must give up something for something. The word is “Sacrifice”

you want to be very successful and powerful and wealthy and have a loving successful husband and a beautiful family with kids? Then live happily ever after like the movies, well you can!
Every one wishes the same, so how powerful is your mind to make it happen?
But from my own perspective, if I were to choose between a woman who is so obsessed with becoming powerful and a woman who’s so obsessed with family , kids and ing her husband, I will choose the family oriented woman

Gbam!!!
You've hut it exactly as it is!