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I want to ask if there is any married men in here who have formed their own families without involving their family (mother, father, and siblings).

Is there any consequences for not involving family ?

I don't want to involve any of my family in any of my affairs including the time of difficulty, sickness, even to the point of my death.

I want to stay on my own till eternity

"Family isn't always blood. It's the people in your life who want you in theirs; the ones who accept you for who you are"

The fact that a motherfvcker is born with you doesn't make him family.

2Pac

In those days, blood is thicker than water, but in our days, Love is thicker than blood.

If you have genuine friends, associates, you are good to go. As an adult, I won't advise you to reconcile with your family, you know the best.

No, don't cut off totally. Them nor dey use as body take scratch person take dey scratch am, or else you go bleed..

In as much as some families are some kind, don't live a life of seclusion. You know why, they will suffer your kids and your wife (especially her) when you're gone. They will tag her a "bad wife" falsely accusing her of keeping you away from them. Let's not even talk about your inheritance that the so called kinsmen will convert to theirs as compensation. Legal will? Well, except your kinsmen are not diabolic (it is not as if you would know anyway), or else it is your kids and wife that would run for their lives, leaving inheritance behind. Based on live experience brother, don't or else your children and wife go hear ween for their hand during your interment at old age (by God's grace)..

So, don't cut them off (can one totally cut off family ? I doubt). Still maintain ties with them but don't trust any (with your secrets, next plan, etc). Give fake love to fake lovers and evil people, but give genuine love to those that deserve it...

Mosaafunhento

It's possible but know that the way you are trying to exclude your father, mother and siblings it the same way your children are going to exclude you when they come of age

hakeemhakeem:
It's possible but know that the way you are trying to exclude your father, mother and siblings it the same way your children are going to exclude you when they come of age

Thanks you brother

You will definitely regret your actions

YoungLionken:
No, don't cut off totally. Them nor dey use as body take scratch person take dey scratch am, or else you go bleed..

In as much as some families are some kind, don't live a life of seclusion. You know why, they will suffer your kids and your wife (especially her) when you're gone. They will tag her a "bad wife" falsely accusing her of keeping you away from them. Let's not even talk about your inheritance that the so called kinsmen will convert to theirs as compensation. Legal will? Well, except your kinsmen are not diabolic (it is not as if you would know anyway), or else it is your kids and wife that would run for their lives, leaving inheritance behind. Based on live experience brother, don't or else your children and wife go hear ween for their hand during your interment at old age (by God's grace)...

Wetin this one dey write?

Too much nollywood don clog up ur senses.

Abeg get sense

Ki11YurSev:
Mosaafunhento

Do you mean mosafun e to?

D111:
You will definitely regret your actions

What will be those things to regret?

hakeemhakeem:
It's possible but know that the way you are trying to exclude your father, mother and siblings it the same way your children are going to exclude you when they come of age

That will not be my problem. I am not scared of any consequences even to the point of death.

hakeemhakeem:
It's possible but know that the way you are trying to exclude your father, mother and siblings it the same way your children are going to exclude you when they come of age

This is not true unless he did not explain to them and his reason or reasoms are not reasonable.

parkervero:
I want to ask if there is any married men in here who have formed their own families without involving their family (mother, father, and siblings).

Is there any consequences for not involving family ?

I don't want to involve any of my family in any of my affairs including the time of difficulty, sickness, even to the point of my death.

I want to stay on my own till eternity

Almost did it but because I feared God a Lot and i have learnt to always look for His Opinion, i got to see that even though you may be right to cut off from them, you need God's continuous approval to do so.

Thus, you may find that after a time, you will feel that you are the one doing a wrong in not talking to them.

Dtruthspeaker:


Almost did it but because I feared God a Lot and i have learnt to always look for His Opinion, i got to see that even though you may be right to cut off from them, you need God's continuous approval to do so.

Thus, you may find that after a time, you will feel that you are ine one doing a wrong in not talking to them.

Hmm

It seems you had a bad experience with your family while growing up, and that is why you want to exclude them from your life.

It is better to resolve the adverse childhood experiences you had than to isolate yourself from them. Otherwise, you will transfer the trauma to your children and it would become a transgenerational experience.

This life is full of too many unpredictable variables so, please don't think you have ultimate control over your life.

While your nuclear family is important, your extended family also have their value.

, if you were not nurtured by someone you'd probably not survive your childhood.

Now consider how you'd feel if your children decide to abandon you as their parents in the future.

As I said, find a way to resolve whatever bitterness you have against your family rather than excluding them from your life.

Mumu talk

YoungLionken:
No, don't cut off totally. Them nor dey use as body take scratch person take dey scratch am, or else you go bleed..

In as much as some families are some kind, don't live a life of seclusion. You know why, they will suffer your kids and your wife (especially her) when you're gone. They will tag her a "bad wife" falsely accusing her of keeping you away from them. Let's not even talk about your inheritance that the so called kinsmen will convert to theirs as compensation. Legal will? Well, except your kinsmen are not diabolic (it is not as if you would know anyway), or else it is your kids and wife that would run for their lives, leaving inheritance behind. Based on live experience brother, don't or else your children and wife go hear ween for their hand during your interment at old age (by God's grace)...

If your family are bad, cut off from them

parkervero:
I want to ask if there is any married men in here who have formed their own families without involving their family (mother, father, and siblings).

Is there any consequences for not involving family ?


I don't want to involve any of my family in any of my affairs including the time of difficulty, sickness, even to the point of my death.

I want to stay on my own till eternity

It is possible to have a family without involving other people. Our soldiers went to Liberia and Sierra Leone and they had women who gave birth to them. We have men who had another family and it was on the burial date that the other woman with her kids came. So it is possible.

Your question may be due to the family problems you have but you can try to tell us more about it. The worst that will happen is that they know you exist but not connected to you. We have cousins who don't talk to each other because the parents cut off the ties or they have beef. But guess what? The cousins did not care about it, they said they are not inheriting beef that's not their own. It is just the way we had tribalism by our parents and they said don't marry someone from this or that side. The kids don't care about that!

It shows that all we are today is what we have been brainwashed with. If you are good, you will do good.

Family is the only people that care about you when you die. That's life for you. Who will be affected by this decision to cut off family?

1. Your wife: As a man, I always advise women to never be with a man who doesn't have anyone he revers. That guy will kill you without thinking 2x. He has no one to parent him or counsel him. This was the role of the elders in the past. Women are vulnerable when it comes to marriage. Such a man's power will notbe checked because he will believe he is alpha and omega.

2. Your kids: are you seeing those DNA stories coming out? Our elders were not dumb when they insisted that marriage was between 2 families. They had to investigate the other side to be sure that it is not the prodigal son coming back to take their daughter or vice versa where siblings are getting married. Your kids will only see their ancestry on paper. As a man, one of the things men want to leave behind is a legacy. Your kids will see life the way you project life to them. Your actions will be what will make them see the need for marriage or not. Why do I need my dad when my dad cut off his dad? Leadership by example sir

3. Your legacy: I can't write too much here but let me tell you something that happens to men who didn't know their dads. They will go find the man at a point in time. There is something missing in their lives. Men at a point in time will start setting up the way they want to leave this world. Trust me, it will come when you start having kids. Men are builders and there is something in them that makes them interested in structure.

4. You: I am not in any way trying to convince you. I am just having an adult discussion with you. Your last line reminds me of someone I know like you. Men go through stress and they set boundaries but I think you need therapy to go through this. Why? Because adults go into marriages with unresolved baggages. It is when they live with others they start to see it. Now, this my friend was not like you but i saw the signs. He couldn't handle conflict. I saw how he'll tell his family and his in-laws off just because they were overstepping their boundaries. I told him then that these things are expected, they are people and manage conflicts. Instead, he shut them down. People like this only need to look into the mirror, they think it's about others all the time. Sometimes, it's also them too. They can't manage conflict and this world is about conflict, we have to find a way to face it and deal with it.

....... even at the point of death.

I just hope you buried yourself when you die.

durentboi:


Wetin this one dey write?

Too much nollywood don clog up ur senses.

Abeg get sense

Instead of you to counter his points by stating your own points you spewed gibberish as the kid you are - in the brain.

He stated clean points, to which he is entitled to do. So why the attack ad hominem?

papyjaypaul:

It is possible to have a family without involving other people. Our soldiers went to Liberia and Sierra Leone and they had women who gave birth to them. We have men who had another family and it was on the burial date that the other woman with her kids came. So it is possible.

Your question may be due to the family problems you have but you can try to tell us more about it. The worst that will happen is that they know you exist but not connected to you. We have cousins who don't talk to each other because the parents cut off the ties or they have beef. But guess what? The cousins did not care about it, they said they are not inheriting beef that's not their own. It is just the way we had tribalism by our parents and they said don't marry someone from this or that side. The kids don't care about that!

It shows that all we are today is what we have been brainwashed with. If you are good, you will do good.

Family is the only people that care about you when you die. That's life for you. Who will be affected by this decision to cut off family?

1. Your wife: As a man, I always advise women to never be with a man who doesn't have anyone he revers. That guy will kill you without thinking 2x. He has no one to parent him or counsel him. This was the role of the elders in the past. Women are vulnerable when it comes to marriage. Such a man's power will notbe checked because he will believe he is alpha and omega.

2. Your kids: are you seeing those DNA stories coming out? Our elders were not dumb when they insisted that marriage was between 2 families. They had to investigate the other side to be sure that it is not the prodigal son coming back to take their daughter or vice versa where siblings are getting married. Your kids will only see their ancestry on paper. As a man, one of the things men want to leave behind is a legacy. Your kids will see life the way you project life to them. Your actions will be what will make them see the need for marriage or not. Why do I need my dad when my dad cut off his dad? Leadership by example sir

3. Your legacy: I can't write too much here but let me tell you something that happens to men who didn't know their dads. They will go find the man at a point in time. There is something missing in their lives. Men at a point in time will start setting up the way they want to leave this world. Trust me, it will come when you start having kids. Men are builders and there is something in them that makes them interested in structure.

4. You: I am not in any way trying to convince you. I am just having an adult discussion with you. Your last line reminds me of someone I know like you. Men go through stress and they set boundaries but I think you need therapy to go through this. Why? Because adults go into marriages with unresolved baggages. It is when they live with others they start to see it. Now, this my friend was not like you but i saw the signs. He couldn't handle conflict. I saw how he'll tell his family and his in-laws off just because they were overstepping their boundaries. I told him then that these things are expected, they are people and manage conflicts. Instead, he shut them down. People like this only need to look into the mirror, they think it's about others all the time. Sometimes, it's also them too. They can't manage conflict and this world is about conflict, we have to find a way to face it and deal with it.

what is all this wankers you're writing for Christ sake!!

baba ni

parkervero:
I want to ask if there is any married men in here who have formed their own families without involving their family (mother, father, and siblings).

Is there any consequences for not involving family ?

I don't want to involve any of my family in any of my affairs including the time of difficulty, sickness, even to the point of my death.

I want to stay on my own till eternity

parkervero:
I want to ask if there is any married men in here who have formed their own families without involving their family (mother, father, and siblings).

Is there any consequences for not involving family ?

I don't want to involve any of my family in any of my affairs including the time of difficulty, sickness, even to the point of my death.

I want to stay on my own till eternity

No be my mouth you go hear am.

Family of birth cannot just be discarded because of starting a new family, if they have not given justifiable reasons to severe relationships with them.

Op. y r just m@d

parkervero:
I want to ask if there is any married men in here who have formed their own families without involving their family (mother, father, and siblings).

Is there any consequences for not involving family ?

I don't want to involve any of my family in any of my affairs including the time of difficulty, sickness, even to the point of my death.




I want to stay on my own till eternity

No be small thing

Mindlog:
Family of birth cannot just be discarded because of starting a new family, is if they

Him head no correct ni. Make he first change his Surname. You cannot be beating a family name and call them goats. Make he drop the names that him Papa give am, let him go and give himself name. After that he should calculable much us gather and mother have spent on him from birth and family that transport themselves to his making ceremony, birthdays, e.t.c. and refund all these monies.

parkervero:


That will not be my problem. I am not scared of any consequences even to the point of death.

Why then are you bringing it to the forum if your mind is made up even to the point of death?

Someone will just make small money and start feeling the world revolves around them.
Why didn’t you cut them off when you were still a teenager?