NewStats: 3,264,686 , 8,184,413 topics. Date: Thursday, 12 June 2025 at 03:26 AM 4p676b

Good afternoon everyone, I pray you can offer some good advice on an issue bothering me. I've been in a relationship with a lady I care deeply about for months now, and we intend doing our introduction this month. However, I've noticed some behaviors that are causing me concern.
She stays in touch frequently with her exes, including one named Attah, who frequently sends her love messages. In fact, they call each other on a daily basis, yet she claims nothing is between them. Although she deletes these messages and uses disappearing chats on all of her chats, I'm uneasy about her communication with them. Whenever I complained she would tell me I am insecure. I've addressed this issue with her multiple times ( more than ten times), but she keeps calling and chatting with them citing the fact that her exes are not enemies.
Another issue that bothers me is a text conversation I saw between her and her cousin. The cousin advised her to collect money from four different guys (total strangers) before allowing anything to happen between them. She apologized and attributed this to her past, and I chose to forgive her due to my love for her.
Furthermore, there's a guy who's currently asking her out, and she allows him to visit her. She even calls him and demands favors from him. I have asked her to seize communication with him yet she persists and this morning, I mistakenly saw a new month text from the guy referring to her as my love. I've reported my concerns to her mother and she advised her but unfortunately, there's been no change.
I love her so much, but the red flags are giving me concern. I'm torn between my feelings and the uncertainty surrounding our relationship. Should I end the relationship or I am only being insecure as she asserted.

Just imagine


You imagine someone posted this and asked for your advice abeg what are you going to tell the individual??

1. Constantly talk to her Ex(s)❎
2. Delete the messages ❎
3. Using disappearing chats ❎
4. Demanding favours from exs and strangers❎
5. Allows a stranger to visit her, who she might have prolly collected one gift from❎

The only reason iwont that woman of yours is because of number 4 Ireally detest lady that goes bout BEGGING men for money or material things... That her cousin should be persecuted



You men are even dumber than ithought.... For shame.. maybe wait for the Lord to come down and show you sign before you see red for the flag..

All those RED flag you see in her their a probability that she will continue with those behavior even when you married her, she already know you are a weak man that is why she don't respect you. If you like continue with her but she will never change those attitude.

Run o

Asquare84:
All those RED flag you see in her their a probability that she will continue with those behavior even when you married her, she already know you are a weak man that is why she don't respect you. If you like continue with her but she will never change those attitude.

Exactly 💯

Until one day when u will be knacking her tah tah tah and she will be calling u attah attah attaaaaaaah...

😳

Run for your life

Your first pikin , na Attah be d real father.. Make we bet am

My brother

Anything that will not give you peace of mind. Abeg, run.

Don't be forced,coerced, blinded, co-opted, begged, et al into marriage. Else, the rest of your life "may" be distorted.

Nart1:

Should I end the relationship or I am only being insecure as she asserted.

.nothing pple say here will make you do the right thing because are a weak, low self esteem man..and that's why you can allow so much BS from a woman that doesn't give half a fvck about you or how u feel.....

.. ..My only problem here is you saying you are in a relationship with community property ....woman wey everybody dey chop, e reach ur turn you dey go buy engagement ring.... As in I don't understand guys like you that can't different wife from wèrèy ......

Where is nlfpmod seff??

Are these red flags not big enough already to paint a whole community school?

A banny who's still being in touch with her ex's is a no-go-area for me....

Please for the sake of your heart, discard her and move on with your life cuz she ain't worth it....

Continue to love and wife her, please.

Do not forget to send us an invitation for the wedding.

Asquare84:
All those RED flag you see in her their a probability that she will continue with those behavior even when you married her, she already know you are a weak man that is why she don't respect you. If you like continue with her but she will never change those attitude.

I think we should call it red bedsheets now, it's no longer small but large...
And like you said, he had better FLEEEEEEEEEEE!!

OP, I'm married 25 years now, and dated same lady 8 years prior.
Love will not compliment any disregard and disrespect to your person from her. Even in years to come.
So, kindly, peacefully or trickishly let her go!
The next thread I want to see from you should be titled: How I left her and how she reacted!

That's a female player you're rolling with.. truth is that you're just like the other guys she is chatting with..
If any of those guys want to sleep with your girl, all it takes is a phone call and tfare.. o ti lo.

Is like she is the one feeding and taken care of you or is that women are scarce.

Just save money for DNA tests on your future children and don't forget to also buy a stronger matrimonial bed. You will never know the size of men that she will be fuccking on it so buy a bed that will accommodate all weight. Advising a fool in love is like advising an APC er. Na only hardship dey advise them better.

Poster its either you are a baby in adult body or you do not know what you want . You di not need an advice

Nart1:

Good afternoon everyone, I pray you can offer some good advice on an issue bothering me. I've been in a relationship with a lady I care deeply about for months now, and we intend doing our introduction this month. However, I've noticed some behaviors that are causing me concern.
She stays in touch frequently with her exes, including one named Attah, who frequently sends her love messages. In fact, they call each other on a daily basis, yet she claims nothing is between them. Although she deletes these messages and uses disappearing chats on all of her chats, I'm uneasy about her communication with them. Whenever I complained she would tell me I am insecure. I've addressed this issue with her multiple times ( more than ten times), but she keeps calling and chatting with them citing the fact that her exes are not enemies.
Another issue that bothers me is a text conversation I saw between her and her cousin. The cousin advised her to collect money from four different guys (total strangers) before allowing anything to happen between them. She apologized and attributed this to her past, and I chose to forgive her due to my love for her.
Furthermore, there's a guy who's currently asking her out, and she allows him to visit her. She even calls him and demands favors from him. I have asked her to seize communication with him yet she persists and this morning, I mistakenly saw a new month text from the guy referring to her as my love. I've reported my concerns to her mother and she advised her but unfortunately, there's been no change.
I love her so much, but the red flags are giving me concern. I'm torn between my feelings and the uncertainty surrounding our relationship. Should I end the relationship or I am only being insecure as she asserted.

Run!!!!! Do not make the mistake of marrying this one. In the grand scheme of her life you are plan D, for marriage. She is showing you that she does not respect you at all. What will change if you make the mistake of marrying her

If you want peace of mind

Just quit now before you cry later

Nart1:

Good afternoon everyone, I pray you can offer some good advice on an issue bothering me. I've been in a relationship with a lady I care deeply about for months now, and we intend doing our introduction this month. However, I've noticed some behaviors that are causing me concern.
She stays in touch frequently with her exes, including one named Attah, who frequently sends her love messages. In fact, they call each other on a daily basis, yet she claims nothing is between them. Although she deletes these messages and uses disappearing chats on all of her chats, I'm uneasy about her communication with them. Whenever I complained she would tell me I am insecure. I've addressed this issue with her multiple times ( more than ten times), but she keeps calling and chatting with them citing the fact that her exes are not enemies.
Another issue that bothers me is a text conversation I saw between her and her cousin. The cousin advised her to collect money from four different guys (total strangers) before allowing anything to happen between them. She apologized and attributed this to her past, and I chose to forgive her due to my love for her.
Furthermore, there's a guy who's currently asking her out, and she allows him to visit her. She even calls him and demands favors from him. I have asked her to seize communication with him yet she persists and this morning, I mistakenly saw a new month text from the guy referring to her as my love. I've reported my concerns to her mother and she advised her but unfortunately, there's been no change.
I love her so much, but the red flags are giving me concern. I'm torn between my feelings and the uncertainty surrounding our relationship. Should I end the relationship or I am only being insecure as she asserted.

pls marry her she will now change after marraige

Nart1:

Good afternoon everyone, I pray you can offer some good advice on an issue bothering me. I've been in a relationship with a lady I care deeply about for months now, and we intend doing our introduction this month. However, I've noticed some behaviors that are causing me concern.
She stays in touch frequently with her exes, including one named Attah, who frequently sends her love messages. In fact, they call each other on a daily basis, yet she claims nothing is between them. Although she deletes these messages and uses disappearing chats on all of her chats, I'm uneasy about her communication with them. Whenever I complained she would tell me I am insecure. I've addressed this issue with her multiple times ( more than ten times), but she keeps calling and chatting with them citing the fact that her exes are not enemies.
Another issue that bothers me is a text conversation I saw between her and her cousin. The cousin advised her to collect money from four different guys (total strangers) before allowing anything to happen between them. She apologized and attributed this to her past, and I chose to forgive her due to my love for her.
Furthermore, there's a guy who's currently asking her out, and she allows him to visit her. She even calls him and demands favors from him. I have asked her to seize communication with him yet she persists and this morning, I mistakenly saw a new month text from the guy referring to her as my love. I've reported my concerns to her mother and she advised her but unfortunately, there's been no change.
I love her so much, but the red flags are giving me concern. I'm torn between my feelings and the uncertainty surrounding our relationship. Should I end the relationship or I am only being insecure as she asserted.

RUN FOR YOUR LIFE OR SHE WILL KILL YOU VERY YOUNG.

SHE BE ASHEWO QED.

Even if I advice you, you will still marry her. So marry her first, so when I give you advice, you will take it serious.

You don't love her one bit.

You are obviously hypnotized by her beauty, physique or sexcapades.

Sadly, She knows all these your weaknesses and It's very hard to advice a drowning man.

Hence, we just have to leave you to destroy. You will learn the hard way!!!

Marry her first before the advice.

Do yourself a favour and dump her. imagine if you are seeing this when she is your fiancé, I wonder what she will do to you when you marry her. Save yourself a lifetime of headaches, heartbreaks and dump her. I pray you do not marry the wrong person because na only u go suffer am. Possibilities of her having kids with different men is there if you marry her.

Thank you for the advice

I think our advice would be better from marriage.
When you marry her, you will be the one to advise other intentional men.
Experience is the best teacher.

What other red flag are you waiting for?

Kindly pause the said relationship and return to your sense.

I believe you have been having sex with her which brought about the illusion you call love.

I believe you don't want to die before your time. Flee now that God is want to rescue you.

Shalom!

Nart1:

Good afternoon everyone, I pray you can offer some good advice on an issue bothering me. I've been in a relationship with a lady I care deeply about for months now, and we intend doing our introduction this month. However, I've noticed some behaviors that are causing me concern.
She stays in touch frequently with her exes, including one named Attah, who frequently sends her love messages. In fact, they call each other on a daily basis, yet she claims nothing is between them. Although she deletes these messages and uses disappearing chats on all of her chats, I'm uneasy about her communication with them. Whenever I complained she would tell me I am insecure. I've addressed this issue with her multiple times ( more than ten times), but she keeps calling and chatting with them citing the fact that her exes are not enemies.
Another issue that bothers me is a text conversation I saw between her and her cousin. The cousin advised her to collect money from four different guys (total strangers) before allowing anything to happen between them. She apologized and attributed this to her past, and I chose to forgive her due to my love for her.
Furthermore, there's a guy who's currently asking her out, and she allows him to visit her. She even calls him and demands favors from him. I have asked her to seize communication with him yet she persists and this morning, I mistakenly saw a new month text from the guy referring to her as my love. I've reported my concerns to her mother and she advised her but unfortunately, there's been no change.
I love her so much, but the red flags are giving me concern. I'm torn between my feelings and the uncertainty surrounding our relationship. Should I end the relationship or I am only being insecure as she asserted.

An adage says "the eyes that from the early years exhibit defect can't be useful to you in the later years. Please for your sake, kindly end the relationship and move on. She has shown that she isn't contented and this will rub on you, she will openly cheat and there will be nothing you will do about if after you marry her. End it now for you sake

With all the red flags 🚩 you pointed out
Negro you think you at a carnival 🎡?

Nart1:

Good afternoon everyone, I pray you can offer some good advice on an issue bothering me. I've been in a relationship with a lady I care deeply about for months now, and we intend doing our introduction this month. However, I've noticed some behaviors that are causing me concern.
She stays in touch frequently with her exes, including one named Attah, who frequently sends her love messages. In fact, they call each other on a daily basis, yet she claims nothing is between them. Although she deletes these messages and uses disappearing chats on all of her chats, I'm uneasy about her communication with them. Whenever I complained she would tell me I am insecure. I've addressed this issue with her multiple times ( more than ten times), but she keeps calling and chatting with them citing the fact that her exes are not enemies.
Another issue that bothers me is a text conversation I saw between her and her cousin. The cousin advised her to collect money from four different guys (total strangers) before allowing anything to happen between them. She apologized and attributed this to her past, and I chose to forgive her due to my love for her.
Furthermore, there's a guy who's currently asking her out, and she allows him to visit her. She even calls him and demands favors from him. I have asked her to seize communication with him yet she persists and this morning, I mistakenly saw a new month text from the guy referring to her as my love. I've reported my concerns to her mother and she advised her but unfortunately, there's been no change.
I love her so much, but the red flags are giving me concern. I'm torn between my feelings and the uncertainty surrounding our relationship. Should I end the relationship or I am only being insecure as she asserted.

You will suffer and die. Everything is obvious for U to know ur dating a public kuntus but Ur here claiming love and feelings. Why are some of U guys incapable of loving ur selves? What other nonsense advice are U looking for when the answers U seek are before U? Omor I no understand the kind of men that are being raised anymore. Weak ass mofos