NewStats: 3,264,716 , 8,184,496 topics. Date: Thursday, 12 June 2025 at 07:32 AM 3766h

I have nothing to say, Victor. Just do what you want to do and be giving us regular updates over a fifteen-year period. Thanks.

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

this one no go South East. Everything na all about competition and money.
U can never hear this kind nonsense for North. North wey dey marry wife for their children sef

Nonexisting1:
I have some time and in a good mood so let me drop this. You are not 30 yet, why the rush? You have a business that is paying well now but you are not sure about tomorrow thanks to our useless government. This is your opportunity to do some things before bigger responsibilities like children school fees start coming your way and stop you from doing them. Before going into marriage, make sure you're a man first and the first step to becoming a man is to have a place of your own whether in the village or in the city where you hustle. If you don't have the means, I can understand. If you have the means which I suspect you do, build a house and get yourself a means of transport before getting married. Not when your wife is in labour now, you'll be running around to buy recharge card to call Okey the keke driver. Women always push unprepared men into marriage and when the responsibilities that come with it are not met, they blame the same men. Your mother may also sense that you're not ready and is deliberately trying to slow you down. Sit down and draw a list of things that are needed to be done first before marriage. If your girlfriend can't wait until they are done, she is not for you. You're welcome for the 'thank you'. Now let me go ahead and make my dick available to this girl, she has been waiting.

I'm so disappointed in you for advising that Moro.n. Why bro?

ravensckar:
If truly you meant what you typed above, then, you've just confirmed their worry that you're still immature and not fit for marriage yet.

There's no point explaining anything to someone like you, it's obvious that you're under a Naija lady's spell.

THREE CATEGORIES OF PEOPLE THAT ONE SHOULD NEVER ADVISE.

1- A man who is under a NAIJA LADY's spell.

2- A person who s Arsenal FC

3- A card carrying member of the APC.

😆😆

ravensckar:
If truly you meant what you typed above, then, you've just confirmed their worry that you're still immature and not fit for marriage yet.

There's no point explaining anything to someone like you, it's obvious that you're under a Naija lady's spell.

THREE CATEGORIES OF PEOPLE THAT ONE SHOULD NEVER ADVISE.

1- A man who is under a NAIJA LADY's spell.

2- A person who s Arsenal FC

3- A card carrying member of the APC.

Guy, wetin carry Arsenal enter dis Matter now

Shey na Chelsea and Manure Fans dey take Advice, abi?

Dat said, the OP is still a NAIVE Boy! Love dey Shack am.

His Mother wants him to Put his Life together properly and also Understand his Fiancee very well b4 any action,
But the Girl has don use TOWTOW water take Wash him Brain!

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

All mothers ate like dat bro. So you have to show u re a man. My brother was 26 when he wanted getting married n de did same thing. I'm 33 and de don't want me. So it's normal. If u stand your ground u will get married to her. Women are easily manipulated to agreeing..

pocohantas:
You know your family better and you haven't given enough information. Where is your father? How old is the last born?

I went through your threads and I can see you are about training your younger brother in the university. That is the house your mum wants you to build. If that wasn't the case, I would have seen genuine concern in her advice.


I hope the woman you plan to marry can manage the resources you have or you. Because marrying a bread winner of most families is not easy. I can sense your mum won't like her. Goodluck to your future wife. She needs it more.

best comment so far and I'm happy it's coming from a woman. You see the issue of this breadwinner thing, lol I pity the woman he's going to marry because there's nothing she'll do that will make her to be loved.

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

Marriage is added responsibilities and expenses unless u marry someone who independent and adds value. Aka An ASSET!

If u marry a liability (because of hips or beauty) u have incurred a double loss for urself and ur family cos the liability wife will be and extra competing demand and burden. u will be forced to live ur mother, family behind and many other projects will be delayed or suspended.

In otherwords ur mum is saying don't be in a hurry to marry a liability for selfish reasons with that self girl until u balance well but u can marry an asset immediately.

She is not against ur marrying its who u marry. LIABILITY OR ASSET?

u are probably trying to marry one small girl that u will start sponsoring to skol or opening a business for and she won't even know how to manage it well then ontop of that to have a hold on u she will bring her family to come and live with her and quickly get pregnant so u feel guilty not listening to her every command. Lol

Slurity:
Your fear is legit, you have sensed the danger, she is just afraid to loose all the financial help to the family and your simblings, i want to believe you are the first born or the breadwinnner of the family. The best way to handle that issue is to systematically reduce the financial help you rendering and keep letting them realise that you dont intend to achieve everything before getting married. Also stop asking them for their opinion about when best to get married, just let them know you are getting married, this is the date i want the family to follow you to see the family of my wife, this is the date of introduction and so on. Dont do as if you need their approval. Above all, your mother has little or no say over your marriage plan, you are the one allowing her to hold you, talk to your dad or the father figure of your family and see things work fast.

What kind of Foolish advice is this

A Son should Reduce the Financial Allowance he gives to his mother because of towtow?

All you P*ssyNiggars deserve to be PLANKED in the Head.

Beremx:
best comment so far and I'm happy it's coming from a woman. You see the issue of this breadwinner thing, lol I pity the woman he's going to marry because there's nothing she'll do that will make her to be loved.

It is obvious. Marriage no be by love o. Plenty factors to check. In his previous thread his younger brother no like am despite all his sacrifices. Mother is already throwing tantrums. One girl will na put head. She better have a source of income, else she go cry bushbaby.

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

I don't know your parents or the motive behind their decisions. But one thing I know is that you need economic stability and certain degree of maturity to build a successful and happy marriage. You may think you have money and is ready...but your parents should know better (in most cases) and by the time you start a family, you go sabi. But then, the decision is yours based on some other stuff only you know.

Vikto17:
it still doesn't justify anything.. l will still marry and start my own family bro...how do u think l should handle this,, if l lose this girl l won't be happy with them honestly...

Which girl you dey lose ... Person wey like you cause of wetin you get, na hin you dey hype ...

Vikto17:
it is annoying bro.. in some family once u start approaching 30 they will be the one gradually pushing u to get married...but this one it is one discouragement and the other...
if they attack my marriage plans l will make sure l send nothing to that house ever

and you think it is because of what you give them? Most times the pressure that comes with family and marriage may not allow you to invest adequately, do you know how demanding rising a family is? At the end it is your choice, whatever makes you sleep at night

PapaNnamdi:
There is nothing in marriage, don't let social media and your girlfriend's pre marriage behaviour fool you,

If you enter you go know say e better u de single .

Marriage go drag you down, I kid you not, mentally, financially, socially,
No good thing for a man inside marriage,
Na only woman marriage favour,

And your mama knw this but can't tell you the truth,

U fit marry now make ur wife wey no de do anything first you buy land,

Pls, listen to this subject advice above.

You are just 30 years as a man, still have some years to build resources and yourself.

Calm down.

Your mother would have evaluated that your fiancee and indexed her to what she wants for you. She is a woman, and a more matured one.

Nonexisting1:
I have some time and in a good mood so let me drop this. You are not 30 yet, why the rush? You have a business that is paying well now but you are not sure about tomorrow thanks to our useless government. This is your opportunity to do some things before bigger responsibilities like children school fees start coming your way and stop you from doing them. Before going into marriage, make sure you're a man first and the first step to becoming a man is to have a place of your own whether in the village or in the city where you hustle. If you don't have the means, I can understand. If you have the means which I suspect you do, build a house and get yourself a means of transport before getting married. Not when your wife is in labour now, you'll be running around to buy recharge card to call Okey the keke driver. Women always push unprepared men into marriage and when the responsibilities that come with it are not met, they blame the same men. Your mother may also sense that you're not ready and is deliberately trying to slow you down. Sit down and draw a list of things that are needed to be done first before marriage. If your girlfriend can't wait until they are done, she is not for you. You're welcome for the 'thank you'. Now let me go ahead and make my dick available to this girl, she has been waiting.

No water

PapaNnamdi:
There is nothing in marriage, don't let social media and your girlfriend's pre marriage behaviour fool you,

If you enter you go know say e better u de single .

Marriage go drag you down, I kid you not, mentally, financially, socially,
No good thing for a man inside marriage,
Na only woman marriage favour,

And your mama knw this but can't tell you the truth,

U fit marry now make ur wife wey no de do anything first you buy land,

The guy no sabi as e dey go ... Leave am make marriage dey shak am like small pikin

What a child see. STANDING


Elders see it. SITTING




Small advice but Big digestive

Vikto17:
it still doesn't justify anything.. l will still marry and start my own family bro...how do u think l should handle this,, if l lose this girl l won't be happy with them honestly...

sit her down and explain to her that nothing can stop you from getting married,that it is inevitable like the rise of the sun,either she s you or she is against you,but know this in your mind,if you later marry that girl,she and your mother will be mortal enemies till death

Some parents are very selfish and self-centered. I can you that the reason your mum is against you marrying is because she knows your financial of her and every other of the family (especially your siblings) will reduce once you start your own family.

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

...
Chairman listen to your mum.
Let me ask , are your siblings doing well and I hope you are ing them.
This happened to my stupid elder bro who got married at the age of 30 and the marriage just crumbled this year because of infidelity...
Just 5 years.
Imagine her wife catching him while another lady is giving him BJ right inside their matrimony home.
Their marriage was the talk of the town then.
Instead of him to use the money to help his siblings,he never did...
I could how I assisted this my elder bro to travel from Delta to nekede to help him write Maths exam because he was not good in math.
When I gained ission,
This brother never ed me and he was busy living a life to impress others and I am sure you want to follow the same footprint..
Build your family first...
Help your siblings with the marriage money for them to stand and marriage can come later.

Most people think marriage and their mind goes to the money they need to spend during the ceremony.

Well, it goes well beyond that. Even me wey no spend still dey talk, had I know.

You can get married sha, but you see having kids, let that wait till you are very very settled. You can survive with a reasonable woman in a self contain, but you see those kids, let them wait till you are settled.

It is not funny dragging children and entering keke or bikes.

Arrowhead71:
Are still living in your parents house

never!!! l live in my own apartment and in a different city too

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

Don't go there in 2026!
If you find someone that share your ideas,don't waste time before the first quarter of 2025 to get married.
Good luck 🤞

You're 30.
Unless you're still a dependent with no means of taking care of yourself, damn what they think

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

If d guy is right for u 2026 too far

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

Guyman, calm down. Watch and listen carefully, e get why.
Women always push unprepared men into marriage and when the responsibilities that come with it are not met, they blame the same men.
Parents love being grandparents 💯

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

Small pikin wan rush enter marriage but mumsy dey try calm am down yet him no wan hear. Na so dem tell my brother dat year but him no hear, now 40years old man dey drag everybody for family because of problem wey him cause. Very foolish brother. Abeg calm down you still be small pikin. Get things right first

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

Get lost

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

You should ask her if your dad was required to build & buy cars before marrying her? You must understand that your parents have their lives to live & you also have your own life to live. Matter of fact, in an ideal situation, parents are supposed to help their children start out in life but not look up to the for finances. I am wondering whether you live & work close to their house? If you do, I’d suggest relocating your business to a new location. Tell your parents that you are informing them you’ll be getting married, you are not asking for suggestions. If they prove stubborn, involve the elders.

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

Bro I got married at 26 with the full of my family. I was doing well too. But bro you see that thing called house, try get am or at least buy land before you you get married and start having kids. Once you marry and start having kids achieving those things would become 3 times more difficult because your responsibilities would have grown substantially.

Your own better o, at age 25 my parents don dey use different girls dey pursue me up and down to marry. They probably wanted me to tow the path of my elder bro who got married at 24. But guy, if you have the capacity to build even a 1-bedroon self-contained for starters, do it.

VinnyBaba:


What kind of Foolish advice is this

A Son should Reduce the Financial Allowance he gives to his mother because of towtow?

All you P*ssyNiggars deserve to be PLANKED in the Head.

I dont expect a mumu like you to understand what i mean. come and plank my head, I am waiting.