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My Mother Is Against Me Getting Married!! (19116 Views)
naijapikin2(m): 1:57pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Doesn't she want grandchildren ASAP Do what's best for you dude. She will eventually align. But don't I repeat Don't DISRESPECT HER 1 Like |
AntiChristian: 1:59pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Iriri aye! Nkan nbe! Obey your Mum! Go and buy land build before the year ends! Marry After! 3 Likes |
TenQ: 1:59pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Vikto17:Easy! Give them your marriage time line 1. Month you are Bringing the girl to introduce them to your family 2. Time you want your people to follow you for introduction to your brides' family 3. Time you want to do traditional wedding and church wedding Set the ball rolling and see if they wont follow you. If you can, during this time, purchase a plot of land you can build your own house. QED |
meobizy(f): 2:00pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Them no dey give certificate for who first marry. Na you get your life, do with it what you want.
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nwirinedu(m): 2:03pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
What about your dad? As a man if you're really ready to settle down as in you have the resources no one can stop you. Its not her call but the male figures in your household that actually decide as these are the ones to escort you when you want to do introduction. Talk to them. Your mother is being selfish. She is afraid of losing you to your fiance, seems like they don't get along well. 2 Likes |
Socratiz: 2:06pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Your mother wants you to give her what she could not give herself before you can marry, and this is not right. At 30, you are matured enough to take your own decision and be responsible for yourself. I don't advise you mortgage your future and happiness because she wants to live in a mansion. I had a similar experience several years ago when my parents ( mom in particular) wanted me to train my siblings (3 of them in primary school by then) up to secondary school before I could marry. I rebelled and I don't have any regrets. Just continue to her as necessary. She will learn to abide by your decision later on. By the way, how about your dad? Is he in agreement with your mum that you suspend marriage to build a house ? 5 Likes |
Slurity(m): 2:06pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Vikto17:Your fear is legit, you have sensed the danger, she is just afraid to loose all the financial help to the family and your simblings, i want to believe you are the first born or the breadwinnner of the family. The best way to handle that issue is to systematically reduce the financial help you rendering and keep letting them realise that you dont intend to achieve everything before getting married. Also stop asking them for their opinion about when best to get married, just let them know you are getting married, this is the date i want the family to follow you to see the family of my wife, this is the date of introduction and so on. Dont do as if you need their approval. Above all, your mother has little or no say over your marriage plan, you are the one allowing her to hold you, talk to your dad or the father figure of your family and see things work fast. 2 Likes |
OwoukoUrua(m): 2:07pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
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MrSmithy: 2:09pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Vikto17: You are a man... balance both ur family and ur relationship by learning to have a mind of ur own and work things out for the good of all parties. This will not only give ur parents more reason to trust ur ability as a man in handling future projects. Stop acting like mummy's boy cox this is where the problem is coming from |
Badtman(m): 2:10pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Vikto17: Bro to Bro We are almost the in same category but I did my things without family palava but they want marriage when am not ready yet …. Listen to your mom words carefully and Make sure you build a house for yourself even na selfcon before tying yourself with Kele because we are all human Once marriage come no more freedom for both couple except una wan see future drama …Focus on yourself Human come and Go ….As a man don’t marry who you love but marry who love you ✅ 1 Like |
Arrowhead71: 2:11pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Are still living in your parents house
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AngelicBeing: 2:14pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Nonexisting1:Hian, why did you post the picture of Ebanga54 , let me call Ebanga54 to get you arrested ![]() |
mrkenny05: 2:15pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
It's quite a thing done mostly by our mother, But they hardly realised that with new intake ( wife) to the family, a very strong bond is established.... The fear of sharing often becloud them to see the larger picture of their selfishness.... |
Arrowhead71: 2:22pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
And what work for Mr A may not work for Mr B , if you have the grace to build house now go ahead and build it , but make sure you build a commercial house first and later build private one for yourself , but if no money to build hose then go ahead and marry at 32yrs in 2026,
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Ogeneigbo1: 2:23pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
My brother, anything you did not achieve now that you are young and money is coming in MIGHT be difficult to achieve once you are married unless you have a strong and bright destiny with that your wife. You know why ?, it is because your responsibilities increases once you are married. If I were you , I will follow my mother's advice. Build house , then you can marry later. Vikto17: 4 Likes |
mrkenny05: 2:26pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
trium: May God Almighty bless you... The ever best institution that teaches maturity is Setting up of family and its manouvreability..... You unintentionally become a political sage..... But pls choose a rightly guided guardian to take a routine lesson of life as you move on... 1 Like |
chatinent: 2:27pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
After the marriage as I can see it, to mould two bags of cement go hard you uncle.
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mrkenny05: 2:29pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Ogeneigbo1: These yours Na blatant lie...... There is no limitations or hindrance of achieving anything over the time (of life) irrespective of any circumstances.... |
Ogeneigbo1: 2:30pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
I did not say he won't achieve anything after marriage, read in between line and digest before rushing to reply. mrkenny05: 2 Likes |
bolousadex: 2:33pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
At 30, you don't sound like you r mentally ready for marriage having read your replies and comments. And I think your mum knows also that you r not psychologically ready hence why she wanted you to achieve certain things before marriage. Go ahead and do what you want. But be sure your wife does not remote control you( I sensed this)
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ChiefOkporghe: 2:33pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
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Mathewrichard99: 2:34pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Hello Victor, Why are you talking like a female or let me say it well, talking like a woman. Some naive family might push their sons into marriage but yours with what you have said aren't such. Firstly, you are 29 yrs old, doing well and still I guess, still living with your parents. I appeal to you Victor, listen to your parents. Sit them down and have a heart to heart talk with them and be patient to take their advise Keep this in mind. Nobody loves you more than your parents. Nobody wants your success more than your parents. They are your God after the Almighty God. Now, listen Victor. I really don't know how responsible your parents have been to you until you get to the level you are presently. Incase they were practically in charge of your upbringing, education etc.....till now. My brother, never ever disobey them. They probably know something that you don't know. Advise your parents are giving you is not for you to build the house and buy the house in their name but yours. They just desire you to be full man before adding distractions to your life. Marriage is a distraction, having kids is a bigger distraction and definitely you might lose focus completely. At 29, single and successful. You are the type of hot and eligible guy girls will be searching and praying to have in their life, and due to that Victor, you need to be very careful. Sit together with your parents, don't be aggressive with them. Listen attentively and let them tell you what's behind that good advise given to you. Atimes, we parents make mistakes in delivering a good advise to our kids. We do approach it wrongly and often, we approach it half way by handing down judgement without really saying what is behind that judgement. However, your parents means well for you in all ramifications. There is a proverb that says if your eyes can be well focused, it would see your nose very well. Don't be too enthusiastic about marriage or even about women at this your young age. Also, stop fretting over that phrase that you don't want to lose a good girl. Who is a good girl? You are so naive and so innocent indeed and probably, that's one of the traits your parent sees in you for them to be against your getting married. Men like you always give their lives to their wives after wedding. That's just by the way. You need to be careful. Don't be woman centric in thinking at this young age. Please dialogue with Mum and Dad. Their advise is your com to a good life. Listen and obey them. Take care Victor.... Vikto17: 4 Likes 2 Shares |
beyep: 2:34pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Vikto17:she dey fear say d spending go stop |
obynokoko: 2:34pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Bro building a house before marriage is not ideal unless you are excessively rich.building a house is not something you will finish in 3 to 4 years but you must rent a house before marriage.women are naturally selfish and I don't know the exact reason why your mum is delaying you.i will advise you to get married to a working class woman and not a liability as soon as you hit 30.while in marriage you can be building your own house gradually.i didn't build house before I marry because it is a Capital project.i started building my house when am already married and raising children.be wise
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Trustmea: 2:35pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Nonexisting1:As in eh his mum has a good reason for saying that. She sees what her son never see 1 Like |
Ynix(m): 2:35pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Vikto17: Your mum gave a very intelligent investment advise. The money you could have used to build a house or car, one self-centered lady and her parents that are privy to your income will think of bombarding you with list for bride price and products to bring especially those from Akwa Ibom, Imo and some others. If you build the house and buy the car it is in whose name, yours of course. You can sell both at any time at even an higher price. What your mum is telling you is that your business can go down at any time but if you have a house and a car you have collateral for restarting. She is seeing what you are not seeing 2 Likes |
12345baba(m): 2:38pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
Better listen to her
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Ororocelemi(m): 2:39pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I'm also in your shoes, similar circumstance i don't even know what to do, i pay the rent where i stay with my mum, brothers and sister and i have to move out. Who will pay the rent if i do? i have to marry and i'm 35. Most nights i sleep off thinking about it. Vikto17: |
pocohantas(f): 2:39pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
You know your family better and you haven't given enough information. Where is your father? How old is the last born? I went through your threads and I can see you are about training your younger brother in the university. That is the house your mum wants you to build. If that wasn't the case, I would have seen genuine concern in her advice. I hope the woman you plan to marry can manage the resources you have or you. Because marrying a bread winner of most families is not easy. I can sense your mum won't like her. Goodluck to your future wife. She needs it more. 4 Likes 1 Share |
voortrekker966: 2:39pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
All these mothers that spent their lifetime cheating and scamming men are terrified of their sons getting married. Their fear of karma is real.
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obaidan: 2:42pm On Nov 27, 2024 |
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