NewStats: 3,265,116 , 8,185,729 topics. Date: Friday, 13 June 2025 at 02:35 PM 4r3k16

You did the right thing. Your girl is a guest and should be treated as such.

Why she sef oblige?

ZACHIE:
If as a young school leaver you throw abuses at people you hardly know, your journey is far, sir.

calm your ego veins down. Learn about shared responsibility and communal living. it will help you, sir.

But I should allow them insult me? Why’s Nairaland so toxic? If this question was to be asked on quora, you’ll only see mature responses and not useless comments like some of those above. I respect people and don’t tolerate disrespect in any form

Kennatic:
I rarely comment on nairaland because I love to conserve energy but listen and listen good,

I do not care if you have dated for 10 years, she's your girlfriend and not wife. He did absolutely nothing wrong or were you expecting him to sweep the room for you and your "girlfriend". If she even see am dey sweep she suppose collect the broom from em hand.

Apply common sense in everything you do, this isn't a big deal for you to get lost in thoughts and emotional to seek for advice cos wtf.

Channel that energy into bettering your life. A friendly reminder that Tinubu is your President and things will get madder, girlfriend no be investment my Guy.

Squash that shit like it's nothing and let your guy continue to be your Guy. Enjoy your girlfriend. 5 years from now you will understand especially if una no come marry.

Thanks for your input

This thread is funny sha.
When I was courting my husband, I him doing the sweeping and never telling me to do it.
OP, please calm down as you brought the issue here to seek opinions, and some people aren't nice here.

Isokoson:
Mehn, this is beyond local man logistics

Bros op, your roommate no be real guy, a real guy go keep calm and see whether she go sweep am or not, when I squat with someone then, my roommate girlfriend go come, we go just gist talk small, then I go dey look whether she go do am or not, if she no do am, I go lock up... Asking your girlfriend to sweep looks more like a disrespect to me, dat kind person no dey happy say u get loyal girl, Omo I go advice you to get your own apartment as you talk.... Nothing good like having your privacy.. Even if is just single room....

Seriously your guy no try

My guy then know me nah, even if him girl no do am I go do am, nah so shame go dey catch the girl, before you know, nah she dey do am without bein told.

I just didn’t expect him to do that, because I’ll never tell his girlfriend to sweep the room when he isn’t around. It’s looking like it’s because she’s coming around, because if she’s not, he won’t have the audacity to

Starboytwo:
Normal level, make una settle am between una selves later. We can't and should not always agree... We must have issues...

Pls OP, Nairaland is a toxic place, just skip any useless comments and don't bother to reply them. Most people will comment rubbish. Na small OT I give you so.

Thanks bro

Karleb:
You did the right thing. Your girl is a guest and should be treated as such.

Why she sef oblige?

Honestly. Why telling my guest to sweep? She’s supposed to do it if she likes. It’s our room and we’re meant to take care of it, I’m not of the opinion that a girl I’m not married to should do chores I’m supposed to do for me. The fact that I’m not the only one using the room makes it worse.

Esthered:
This thread is funny sha.
When I was counting my husband, I him doing the sweeping and never telling me to do it.
OP, please calm down as you brought the issue here to seek opinions and some people aren't nice here.

Its only an untrained guy that would want a girl to be doing his chores for him. I wasn’t trained like that. Plus, I don’t want it to look like I’m taking advantage of her because she’s in love with me to start using her to do my chores. Well, every man his opinion though

You over-reacted.
The girls that patronize both of you are supposed to keep the home neat.
Go and discuss things over with your friend.

@OP Try your best to save up, get your own place and have your own privacy.. some people are just unfortunate and always want to do to others what they'll never tolerate.

You should have confronted him that how would he feel if you also ask his girlfriend to sweep the room in his absence.. unless that your girl is two timing and doing your roommate secretly behind your back (you know that gender and their ways).

DonBenny77:
You be mumu, wetin you dey do with girlfriend when you no fit rent selfcon for yourself?
Dirty livestyle.
Why would your girlfriend wait for you in a shared house when you're not home, tomorrow it will be your roommate hitting on your girlfriend.
You lack proper orientation.
As for the matter at hand your roommate has every right to ask her to sweep.
You're the problem

You lots always wail that Nigerian girls never want to manage with a hustling man. Now we've seen one that defied your skewed beliefs and even obediently took to the orders of the insolent roommate, you decided to pour your bitterness on th boyfriend. Why are you people always bitter and frustrated?

Undilutedme:
Hello, Nairalanders. Good morning, I’m going to be short.

I stay in Ondo and I just finished my youth service and currently, I’m staying with long time friend(We’re splitting the rent) till we are able to find our way. Something happened last week Friday that has brought a little misunderstanding (We don’t flow like before) and I want your opinion.

Okay, so I went to my work, I work from 8-5, sometimes 6 and that day, my girlfriend called me and said she was around the house and wanted to wait and see me, I told her it was fine that I would be back soon. I went back later to the house and I met her, my friend wasn’t around then. The house was very neat, but I knew she was the one who swept it, so I didn’t ask. But one talk led to another and she told me it was that my friend that told her to get broom and sweep the room. When she said it, I wasn’t so cool with it because I felt he didn’t have that right to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room. Even if she wanted to sleep it, I should be the one to tell her and not my room mate. I told him and he didn’t see anything wrong with it and insisted that I didn’t like it and he shouldn’t do it next time, because I found it a bit disrespectful to myself and my girlfriend. Since then, he hasn’t been so cool, we talk but not like before. Did I overreact? Do you think it’s okay or wrong for my roommate to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room?

NB; I do not tell my girlfriend to sweep the room when my roommate is around, so it doesn’t bring “see finish “ so, she’s never swept in his presence before, but she does it when he’s not around.

Also, he has his girlfriend that comes to the house too and I have never told her to do anything like that before. So, what do you guys think?

he is wrong for doing that, he would have told you, you alone is having d autonomy to do that not him. he is actually rude.

You brought an issue for comments and , And you are busy fighting people up and down..........

If you have formed an opinion, why bring it here?

Undilutedme:
Hello, Nairalanders. Good morning, I’m going to be short.

I stay in Ondo and I just finished my youth service and currently, I’m staying with long time friend(We’re splitting the rent) till we are able to find our way. Something happened last week Friday that has brought a little misunderstanding (We don’t flow like before) and I want your opinion.

Okay, so I went to my work, I work from 8-5, sometimes 6 and that day, my girlfriend called me and said she was around the house and wanted to wait and see me, I told her it was fine that I would be back soon. I went back later to the house and I met her, my friend wasn’t around then. The house was very neat, but I knew she was the one who swept it, so I didn’t ask. But one talk led to another and she told me it was that my friend that told her to get broom and sweep the room. When she said it, I wasn’t so cool with it because I felt he didn’t have that right to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room. Even if she wanted to sleep it, I should be the one to tell her and not my room mate. I told him and he didn’t see anything wrong with it and insisted that I didn’t like it and he shouldn’t do it next time, because I found it a bit disrespectful to myself and my girlfriend. Since then, he hasn’t been so cool, we talk but not like before. Did I overreact? Do you think it’s okay or wrong for my roommate to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room?

NB; I do not tell my girlfriend to sweep the room when my roommate is around, so it doesn’t bring “see finish “ so, she’s never swept in his presence before, but she does it when he’s not around.

Also, he has his girlfriend that comes to the house too and I have never told her to do anything like that before. So, what do you guys think?

Your roommate has no business ordering any of your visitors around.

Be it your mother, your brother, your girlfriend or your paddy.

He is one of those people brought up in an environment where women say yes sah to any male instruction. He was testing his boundaries.

You did the right thing. Your girlfriend should have put the silly guy in his place.

The irony is that it is usually the other way round - a guy makes sure his place is clean to set the mood.

Undilutedme:
They're just blindly attacking me and not even handling the issue I brought. All I want to know is if I overrated or not.

It's rude of him but get your own fkin place..... No one will pet you

santaclaws:
Does your room mate bring a girlfriend to the shared room? You shouldn't bring a woman to a room you're sharing with your friend.

I am pretty sure it's not a flat where you have your own personal room. You finished NYSC under 1 year, you never make money, you dey carry girlfriend matter for head. If you were my younger brother I would slap you! 😡

Work hard and get your own apartment before carrying woman up and down.

Sensible and mature comment.

The OP is mentally unstable as you all would have noticed from his series of replies

Undilutedme:
Focus on the question I asked, you know nothing about me or my relationship with her. We’ve been dating for over a year, so I should just leave her because I share a room? So my girlfriend can’t come to visit me in my shared room? Answer what I asked or move on. It’s a simple thing. Thank you 🙏

You no get money, wettin u dey carry woman do? Eh Mr Simpson?
Instead to focus on getting out of poverty, you choose to dig an oil well. Good luck ooo Mr shared apartment wey no dey shame to carry woman come shared apartment.

Iseoluwani:


he is wrong for doing that, he would have told you, you alone is having d autonomy to do that not him. he is actually rude.

Sorry to ask, how old are you? Please i dont mean to disrespect you just want to knw.

Plenty people wey dey this nairaland the country has messed up with their brain that they can't think properly. A question was asked and they are diverting it by bringing stupid advise. Not everybody is frustrated like you guys. Not everybody will take your path, if you don't want girlfriend good for you.
She doesn't live with them, she came to visit her boyfriend so the friend does not have that right to ask her to sweep the house. Two of them living in that house should create a roster for sweeping. For the girl to be angry the friend must have seen it that it's the girl's duty to do that.

U are d worst mumu I have ever seen, u should b ashamed of yourself.
Am sorry u just reported ur high level of mumurision😉

Op na Simp, it's written all over him. Girlfriend wey yahooboi don collect finish,odee. ur guy na correct bro....if na me she go wash my boxers.

Don't mind those other commenters. You did the right thing. Your roommate should not order your woman around and you too should not order his woman around either.

Respect must always be reciprocal. If you want her to sweep, you should tell her. He shouldn't be the one to tell her. You also did the right thing by making her sweep in his absence and never in his presence.

Undilutedme:
Focus on the question I asked, you know nothing about me or my relationship with her. We’ve been dating for over a year, so I should just leave her because I share a room? So my girlfriend can’t come to visit me in my shared room? Answer what I asked or move on. It’s a simple thing. Thank you 🙏

Why should a girl come and visit you in your current situation?
If you had a daughter, will you like her to be visiting a guy up and down in a shared room?
Will you like your daughter to be like your girlfriend?

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U finished NYSC under 1 year...

U neva make money..
u dey carry girlfriend matter for head

Who knack u hammer 🔨 head

You're sharing a room to split rent and you still cornered a girlfriend to be billing the little you manage to save?

And you just finished NYSC?

Guy, I pity your mama.

Laugh wan wound me

descarado:
It is very disrespectful from either you or your roommate.

Poverty , trying to survive and hardship in Nigeria na bad thing o

santaclaws:
Does your room mate bring a girlfriend to the shared room? You shouldn't bring a woman to a room you're sharing with your friend.

I am pretty sure it's not a flat where you have your own personal room. You finished NYSC under 1 year, you never make money, you dey carry girlfriend matter for head. If you were my younger brother I would slap you! 😡

Work hard and get your own apartment before carrying woman up and down.

Konji no care whether u get money or not bro 😂😂😂

Undilutedme:
But I should allow them insult me? Why’s Nairaland so toxic? If this question was to be asked on quora, you’ll only see mature responses and not useless comments like some of those above. I respect people and don’t tolerate disrespect in any form

Too bad you had to learn the hard way that nairaland romance section is filled with bitter, toxic men who do not only bring women down, they also do same to men who have a little bit of stability in their lives. Ignore the losers and focus on the few sound advice given. Your friend had no rights to ask your girlfriend to sweep. He is not only disrespecting you and belittling her, he is also testing the grounds to see how low she can bend. Now that she has obliged, don't be shocked if he asks her to wash his clothes or go to the market, buy foodstuffs and cook. If you and your girlfriend know you will not be able to stand up to him, I suggest your girlfriend should stop coming to your room till you make alternate accomodation arrangements.