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But seriously why are women like this? Let me tell you what I mean:
There's this girl that lives in the same compound as me that I guess she's around her late teenage years or possibly early twenties. She's a very wild girl and I suspected she's into hookup based on her careless dressing and men often dropping her off in their cars early in the morning after night outs. Her friendly nature made us to get along quickly as neighbours. One day she came to me to borrow money, and I innocently gave her. I waited for her to return the money but she never did, and when I asked her about it, she gave all types of silly excuses that made me realise that she didn't want to pay back.
The worst thing is that she would only come to me when she needed something either financially or in items of which I would give to her out of the sake of being just nice.
As time went on I started feeling stupid and used.
Even when her friend came over and started living with her, the friend started knocking my door to ask for stuff within a few weeks! She must have told her about "the nice guy who never says no!". One day I decided that enough was enough and I told them that I will not be borrowing them my stuff and they should buy whatever they need for themselves.
We didn't talk to each other like before but I liked it that way.
This made me realise something about women :
1. Women don't respect nice guys, they only pretend to like them because of what they get from them.
2. Any money you give to a woman is gone. 90% of them will never think of paying you back even when they have it. This is why most guys demand sex before rendering help to ladies. They believe the sex is the only thing tangible that can come out of it. Some sort of a collateral.
In all you do, learn how to say no to ladies that only take from you and never give. That is a parasitic relationship.
My neighbour banged the hell out of a lady that asked him for 2k. He knew she would never pay him back.
They might start to hate you when you stand your ground but it is better to be hated for saying NO than to be loved(If it is real) for being a FOOL.

. she would only come to me when she needed something either financially or in items of which I would give to her out of the sake of being just nice.

Wow.
You're truly a SIMPle nice man.

OP, Why will you give a lady money and expect it back

Woman believe that Men should always be of help to them,
Reason they can NEVER ask their friends for N200 but will ask you for 20K.

They believe they are like goddesses and Princesses and Men show Worship or do their Biddings.

Good to know u learned the hard way. That gender need iron hand.

This is why I do my best to dress broke outside of work.

Present yourself as if there's something to be gained and they will flock around you.

She will soon be "USED"!

My own mother told me to never lend money to women. Once you give the money, forget about it. They will turn around circles to not give it back to you.

A COMPLETE HOPELESS SPINELESS MESS OF AN IDIOT USELESS STVPID FVCKING IDIOT BASTARD ANIMAL FOOL

A MISTAKE LESS OF AN slowpoke STVPID EARTHWORM IDIOTIC ELEMENT BORN OF A STUPID HOPELESS USELESS IDIOT MOTHER

STVPID BASTARD.. SUFFER AND DI.E OF YOUR PUTRID STVPID ITY

FOOL

Gideonski:
But seriously why are women like this? Let me tell you what I mean:
There's this girl that lives in the same compound as me that I guess she's around her late teenage years or possibly early twenties. She's a very wild girl and I suspected she's into hookup based on her careless dressing and men often dropping her off in their cars early in the morning after night outs. Her friendly nature made us to get along quickly as neighbours. One day she came to me to borrow money, and I innocently gave her. I waited for her to return the money but she never did, and when I asked her about it, she gave all types of silly excuses that made me realise that she didn't want to pay back.
The worst thing is that she would only come to me when she needed something either financially or in items of which I would give to her out of the sake of being just nice.
As time went on I started feeling stupid and used.
Even when her friend came over and started living with her, the friend started knocking my door to ask for stuff within a few weeks! She must have told her about "the nice guy who never says no!". One day I decided that enough was enough and I told them that I will not be borrowing them my stuff and they should buy whatever they need for themselves.
We didn't talk to each other like before but I liked it that way.
This made me realise something about women :
1. Women don't respect nice guys, they only pretend to like them because of what they get from them.
2. Any money you give to a woman is gone. 90% of them will never think of paying you back even when they have it. This is why most guys demand sex before rendering help to ladies. They believe the sex is the only thing tangible that can come out of it. Some sort of a collateral.
In all you do, learn how to say no to ladies that only take from you and never give. That is a parasitic relationship.
My neighbour banged the hell out of a lady that asked him for 2k. He knew she would never pay him back.
They might start to hate you when you stand your ground but it is better to be hated for saying NO than to be loved(If it is real) for being a FOOL.

So you want to pretend like men don't lend each other money and never pay back?


Why didn't you give the money to your fellow man?

Mr "we women this, we women that" has viewed and ed

Waoow😂

1Sharon:
So you want to pretend like men don't lend each other money and never pay back?

Remain a good man, and don't let people like that change you. Just move wiser.

It doesn't make it okay, but the main reason this happens is a lack of opportunities, limited/no social safety net, and a major problem with sexism. It's also a product of dysfunctional families.

Gideonski:
But seriously why are women like this? Let me tell you what I mean:
There's this girl that lives in the same compound as me that I guess she's around her late teenage years or possibly early twenties. She's a very wild girl and I suspected she's into hookup based on her careless dressing and men often dropping her off in their cars early in the morning after night outs. Her friendly nature made us to get along quickly as neighbours. One day she came to me to borrow money, and I innocently gave her. I waited for her to return the money but she never did, and when I asked her about it, she gave all types of silly excuses that made me realise that she didn't want to pay back.
The worst thing is that she would only come to me when she needed something either financially or in items of which I would give to her out of the sake of being just nice.
As time went on I started feeling stupid and used.
Even when her friend came over and started living with her, the friend started knocking my door to ask for stuff within a few weeks! She must have told her about "the nice guy who never says no!". One day I decided that enough was enough and I told them that I will not be borrowing them my stuff and they should buy whatever they need for themselves.
We didn't talk to each other like before but I liked it that way.
This made me realise something about women :
1. Women don't respect nice guys, they only pretend to like them because of what they get from them.
2. Any money you give to a woman is gone. 90% of them will never think of paying you back even when they have it. This is why most guys demand sex before rendering help to ladies. They believe the sex is the only thing tangible that can come out of it. Some sort of a collateral.
In all you do, learn how to say no to ladies that only take from you and never give. That is a parasitic relationship.
My neighbour banged the hell out of a lady that asked him for 2k. He knew she would never pay him back.
They might start to hate you when you stand your ground but it is better to be hated for saying NO than to be loved(If it is real) for being a FOOL.

You are a late bloomer sha.

Something I already knew before I was 15? You think it's a coincidence I'm the chairman of stingy men association?

Hoard your resources or be simps and lose them. Your call.

1Sharon:
Mr "we women this, we women that" has viewed and ed

Waoow😂

Have you no shame....following another moniker like your life depends on it.

Gideonski:
But seriously why are women like this? Let me tell you what I mean:
There's this girl that lives in the same compound as me that I guess she's around her late teenage years or possibly early twenties. She's a very wild girl and I suspected she's into hookup based on her careless dressing and men often dropping her off in their cars early in the morning after night outs. Her friendly nature made us to get along quickly as neighbours. One day she came to me to borrow money, and I innocently gave her. I waited for her to return the money but she never did, and when I asked her about it, she gave all types of silly excuses that made me realise that she didn't want to pay back.
The worst thing is that she would only come to me when she needed something either financially or in items of which I would give to her out of the sake of being just nice.
As time went on I started feeling stupid and used.
Even when her friend came over and started living with her, the friend started knocking my door to ask for stuff within a few weeks! She must have told her about "the nice guy who never says no!". One day I decided that enough was enough and I told them that I will not be borrowing them my stuff and they should buy whatever they need for themselves.
We didn't talk to each other like before but I liked it that way.
This made me realise something about women :
1. Women don't respect nice guys, they only pretend to like them because of what they get from them.
2. Any money you give to a woman is gone. 90% of them will never think of paying you back even when they have it. This is why most guys demand sex before rendering help to ladies. They believe the sex is the only thing tangible that can come out of it. Some sort of a collateral.
In all you do, learn how to say no to ladies that only take from you and never give. That is a parasitic relationship.
My neighbour banged the hell out of a lady that asked him for 2k. He knew she would never pay him back.
They might start to hate you when you stand your ground but it is better to be hated for saying NO than to be loved(If it is real) for being a FOOL.

May I know how much money you gave her?

jorion:
This is why I do my best to dress broke outside of work.

Present yourself as if there's something to be gained and they will flock around you.

You are demeaning yourself by dressing broke.

Dress as you want and say NO if they flock around you to ask money. How hard is it to say NO?

Jesus!!!

luminouz:

You are demeaning yourself by dressing broke.

Dress as you want and say NO if they flock around you to ask money. How hard is it to say NO?

Jesus!!!

Uh, some people don't want others to suffer. Some people can see beyond their own needs.

That said, some people don't want to say "no" all day long, or worse. It may be a lot easier and/or safer to camouflage. People do this everywhere. Like going to a poorer area dressed down, or a woman who gets a lot of male attention choosing to wear no makeup, a cap, and very loose clothing.

You were probably given with the expectations of something hence exploitation

You could have set the barrier from onset

Cousin9999:


Uh, some people don't want others to suffer. Some people can see beyond their own needs.

That said, some people don't want to say "no" all day long, or worse. It may be a lot easier and/or safer to camouflage. People do this everywhere. Like going to a poorer area dressed down, or a woman who gets a lot of male attention choosing to wear no makeup, a cap, and very loose clothing.

Bullshiit excuses meant to camouflage weakness. I'm done.

luminouz:

Bullshiit excuses meant to camouflage weakness. I'm done.

The guy is right to some extent but one shouldn't demeaning himself because of others

What ever you decide to do with your life, don't be Mr nice guy, or captain save a
Hooee

A larger percentage of Women don't like nice guys for real, they are wired in a very weird way.

Unlike men, they are loyal to their feelings, so when dealing with them, use common sense, while you are using common sense to deal with them, you are going to be ruthless and appear mean to them, these are the types of guys they keep going back to, because the nice guy who is always available to her is boring, she only come around Mr nice guy when she is in need of something.

Gideonski:
But seriously why are women like this? Let me tell you what I mean:
There's this girl that lives in the same compound as me that I guess she's around her late teenage years or possibly early twenties. She's a very wild girl and I suspected she's into hookup based on her careless dressing and men often dropping her off in their cars early in the morning after night outs. Her friendly nature made us to get along quickly as neighbours. One day she came to me to borrow money, and I innocently gave her. I waited for her to return the money but she never did, and when I asked her about it, she gave all types of silly excuses that made me realise that she didn't want to pay back.
The worst thing is that she would only come to me when she needed something either financially or in items of which I would give to her out of the sake of being just nice.
As time went on I started feeling stupid and used.
Even when her friend came over and started living with her, the friend started knocking my door to ask for stuff within a few weeks! She must have told her about "the nice guy who never says no!". One day I decided that enough was enough and I told them that I will not be borrowing them my stuff and they should buy whatever they need for themselves.
We didn't talk to each other like before but I liked it that way.
This made me realise something about women :
1. Women don't respect nice guys, they only pretend to like them because of what they get from them.
2. Any money you give to a woman is gone. 90% of them will never think of paying you back even when they have it. This is why most guys demand sex before rendering help to ladies. They believe the sex is the only thing tangible that can come out of it. Some sort of a collateral.
In all you do, learn how to say no to ladies that only take from you and never give. That is a parasitic relationship.
My neighbour banged the hell out of a lady that asked him for 2k. He knew she would never pay him back.
They might start to hate you when you stand your ground but it is better to be hated for saying NO than to be loved(If it is real) for being a FOOL.

Are u a nice guy? Or you are longing to taste from her cookie? Since she already seen signal that your eye is thr, she explorted you to ur bone marrow.


Any guy that cannot off his eyes in every girl he see, he must be dealt with the way you are dealt with.

Lady will start respect and fear you wen ,she shake yanch up and down and you don't look her side to know what she is selling.

luminouz:

You are demeaning yourself by dressing broke.

Dress as you want and say NO if they flock around you to ask money. How hard is it to say NO?

Jesus!!!

HAHAHA. CONTINUE DRESSING LIKE THE MINISTER OF WOMEN AFFAIRS.

I'M GOOD DRESSING BROKE and I don't give them face except I want to kpansh.

luminouz:

Bullshiit excuses meant to camouflage weakness. I'm done.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I just dey laugh you. Mr macho man.

You think say if woman prepare for you, especially when you like am, she no go fit strip you naked.

That gender are master manipulators.

Not to mention that it is easier to tell when a girl likes you for real when you dress broke

1Sharon:
So you want to pretend like men don't lend each other money and never pay back?


Why didn't you give the money to your fellow man?

Wrong time to borrow money irrespective of gender . Make them collect from palmpay and opay

1Sharon:
So you want to pretend like men don't lend each other money and never pay back?


Why didn't you give the money to your fellow man?

This your habit of always standing logic on its head is unbecoming. Must you always exhibit your antithetical reasoning all the time ni?

Them go dey talk A, you go dey talk B. Wetin gan self?

Stick to the talking point and stop swinging back & forth like a pendulum. The matter under discourse is about how ungrateful you folks are.

#Picks_tooth

We guys need to put our biases in check.

I have lent a lady money and she returned it.

I lent my fellow guy money in April, he is yet to refund it as we apeak. Doesn't even talk about it.

You are sounding as though you actually borrowed her the money because she is a woman. Possibly, if it was a guy, you may not have borrowed him

All things being equal, this shouldn't be a gender thing.

ravensckar:
This your habit of always standing logic in its head is unbecoming. Must you always exhibit your antithetical reasoning all the time ni?

Them go dey talk A, you go dey talk B. Wetin gan self?

Stick to the talking point and stop swinging back & forth like a pendulum. The matter under discourse is about how you ungrateful you folks are.

#Picks_tooth

1sharon does have a point though. Me as a case study, all females I've ever lent money to return them while there are males I've borrowed money for almost a decade now that hadn't!

The most egregious experience was someone I lent money march 2023 saying he needed it to solve short term issues with his business which I did. The person's business is located in the next house to one of my own businesses so I see the activities in his business but he never paid. Excuses upon excuses. Worst incident was when I was informed he's about to win a bet9ja ticket worth 8 times the amount he borrowed from me and I asked him if it's true which he confirmed. The last match on that ticket was a Barcelona match in which he played over 1.5 goals. Around 80 minutes there was no goal in the match but Barcelona scored two late goals to secure the victory which meant he won the ticket. I then asked for my money again and he said he's yet to submit the ticket for cashing the money that he will redeem the win the next day, which is Monday. I waited patiently for monday only for him not to open his business at all that Monday. Tuesday came and he said he'd used the money for family issues bla bla bla. Close to two years now I'm yet to get my money. Now I've written it off as bad debt and avoid interacting with him at all if I can help it


Now for the OP, he needs some self reflection. He needs to ask himself why he'd been lending and gifting stuffs and cash to the girl and her friend, could he have done the same for a fellow men he has no connection to or a menopausal woman who's given birth to 8 kids from 4 different men? If the answer is yes then you're a nice guy but if it's no then you're just being nice as a means to an end and I strongly suspect the latter from the story you narrated. women sense when the latter is the case and would bill you to poverty if you don't get back to your senses when they see your penis is the one doing the thinking for you

Gideonski:
But seriously why are women like this? Let me tell you what I mean:
There's this girl that lives in the same compound as me that I guess she's around her late teenage years or possibly early twenties. She's a very wild girl and I suspected she's into hookup based on her careless dressing and men often dropping her off in their cars early in the morning after night outs. Her friendly nature made us to get along quickly as neighbours. One day she came to me to borrow money, and I innocently gave her. I waited for her to return the money but she never did, and when I asked her about it, she gave all types of silly excuses that made me realise that she didn't want to pay back.
The worst thing is that she would only come to me when she needed something either financially or in items of which I would give to her out of the sake of being just nice.
As time went on I started feeling stupid and used.
Even when her friend came over and started living with her, the friend started knocking my door to ask for stuff within a few weeks! She must have told her about "the nice guy who never says no!". One day I decided that enough was enough and I told them that I will not be borrowing them my stuff and they should buy whatever they need for themselves.
We didn't talk to each other like before but I liked it that way.
This made me realise something about women :
1. Women don't respect nice guys, they only pretend to like them because of what they get from them.
2. Any money you give to a woman is gone. 90% of them will never think of paying you back even when they have it. This is why most guys demand sex before rendering help to ladies. They believe the sex is the only thing tangible that can come out of it. Some sort of a collateral.
In all you do, learn how to say no to ladies that only take from you and never give. That is a parasitic relationship.
My neighbour banged the hell out of a lady that asked him for 2k. He knew she would never pay him back.
They might start to hate you when you stand your ground but it is better to be hated for saying NO than to be loved(If it is real) for being a FOOL.

You used one wild hook up girl to guage all women. Stereotypical of insanity.

jFrankNorfleet:


1sharon does have a point though. Me as a case study, all females I've ever lent money to return them while there are males I've borrowed money for almost a decade now that hadn't!

The most egregious experience was someone I lent money march 2023 saying he needed it to solve short term issues with his business which I did. The person's business is located in the next house to one of my own businesses so I see the activities in his business but he never paid. Excuses upon excuses. Worst incident was when I was informed he's about to win a bet9ja ticket worth 8 times the amount he borrowed from me and I asked him if it's true which he confirmed. The last match on that ticket was a Barcelona match in which he played over 1.5 goals. Around 80 minutes there was no goal in the match but Barcelona scored two late goals to secure the victory which meant he won the ticket. I then asked for my money again and he said he's yet to submit the ticket for cashing the money that he will redeem the win the next day, which is Monday. I waited patiently for monday only for him not to open his business at all that Monday. Tuesday came and he said he'd used the money for family issues bla bla bla. Close to two years now I'm yet to get my money. Now I've written it off as bad debt and avoid interacting with him at all if I can help it


Now for the OP, he needs some self reflection. He needs to ask himself why he'd been lending and gifting stuffs and cash to the girl and her friend, could he have done the same for a fellow men he has no connection to or a menopausal woman who's given birth to 8 kids from 4 different men? If the answer is yes then you're a nice guy but if it's no then you're just being nice as a means to an end and I strongly suspect the latter from the story you narrated. women sense when the latter is the case and would bill you to poverty if you don't get back to your senses when they see your penis is the one doing the thinking for you

My brother, don't mind me jare. I'm just being ERISTIC with 1Sharon. Of course I know she's just expressing her opinion, but I'm always inclined to pick on her because of my history with her.

To be honest, you'll never see the worst in people until you borrow them money. Whether men or women, humans will always be humans. About 8 years ago (when I was still naive), I once lent a nairalander 100K to help him with the expenses that his new job demands. The first month ended, story. The second, third, fourth and fifth, it's the same story. Immediately I swung into action by involving the law enforcement agency. After all the grigri, I was only able to recover 32K. Dude changed all his numbers and ran away from home. Till today, I no see my balance.

PS- the so-called nairalander has deactivated his previous but the mugu doesn't know that I know his new name. I always smile whenever I see his post because of the bad thing that I have planned for him.

1Sharon:
So you want to pretend like men don't lend each other money and never pay back?


Why didn't you give the money to your fellow man?

If a guy borrows money and doesn't pay back, them no born am well to come borrow something else again.
It used to be a good strategy to borrow guys money back then. If you don't return it, at least I can be rest assured I would never hear from you again.

CrownedPhoenix:
We guys need to put our biases in check.

I have lent a lady money and she returned it.

I lent my fellow guy money in April, he is yet to refund it as we apeak. Doesn't even talk about it.

You are sounding as though you actually borrowed her the money because she is a woman. Possibly, if it was a guy, you may not have borrowed him

All things being equal, this shouldn't be a gender thing.

Exactly. Not paying back debts is not gender-specific!