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Nairalanders please help me suggest for me and my family to this issue..
My elder brother of 48 years old ..
He is a widower..
He lost his lovely wifef our years ago to breast cancers..
The death really pains him and our entire families because both him and his wife were the back bone of our family..
He has been training his kids alone..
And the first child and a daughter is now sixteen..
She is assisting in family work ..
Our brother call all of us last month to tell us about his plan to marry his old girlfriend who he did not marry because our late mother told him not to marry her.he did so because he loved our mother so much..
The girl got married to another man as soon as our brother did his wedding....
Now the Lady quitted the marriage because his husband is a terrible womanizer.. She has caught the man twice with a woman in their matrimonial bed...
She has been alone even before our brother lost his wife...
Our family is confused on whether to the marriage or not..
I need a good advice please

Sitting on the fence with my hookup biscuits

Your brother already got a new woman he loves, if the love can survive 5years and more and they still came together then they should marry

He should be old enough to know what he wants. If the ex is a good woman, he should go ahead to marry her. Did your mother gave any tangible reason why he shouldn't marry his ex?

Why the hell is he looking for a wife. Once he brought a woman into that family his relationship with his kids will sour. Concubines ok, girl friends ok. FWB ok. But never a wife; he doesn't need one.

zarathustra:
Why the hell is he looking for a wife. Once he brought a woman into that family his relationship with his kids will sour. Concubines ok, girl friends ok. FWB ok. But never a wife; he doesn't need one.

Lol a 40 years man don't need a partner? But you are ok with him jumping from one woman to another in name of fwb thereby setting not so good example to his kids

Those kids will grow up, leave him home alone when they go to university or married

If he married new wife now by the time he's 70 he will have spent 22 years with his new wife, he has alot of time

If he ever clock 80 new wife without issue will spend over three decades with him

oluwaseyi0:


Lol a 40 years man don't need a partner? But you are ok with him jumping from one woman to another in name of fwb thereby setting not so good example to his kids

Those kids will grow up, leave him home alone when they go to university or married

If he married new wife now by the time he's 70 he will have spent 22 years with his new wife, he has alot of time

If he ever clock 80 new wife without issue will spend over three decades with him

Remarry when the kids are grown and out.

New wives disrupt the existing harmony/ balance in the home. They always do.

A woman that doesn't need to bear kids anymore. Because she already has or because she can't have. So a mature woman in age and character fits this description.

What he needs marriage for now ideally should be for companionship.

Why does he want to remarry?
I thought men do not benefit from marriage?

I hope he won't marry that innocent woman and hang his late wife's picture inside her car. E no dey hard una.

ahnie:
Sitting on the fence with my hookup biscuits

Is this sweet? A few taste heartbreaks has made me wary of buying new biscuits.


If it is, I want to buy it.

You didn't mention if he is ex gave birth I. Her initial relationship or so . 🤔..well getting married to her is very easy and free but I want him to goto your mum again and ask her why she insisted he shouldn't marry her in the first place because a Yoruba adage says *A child sitting on 50 storey building will not see what an elderly man seeing while sitting at d ground floor*

Then after that he can decide what to and what not to do 😉

With all of the stories we hear about step-mothers and young girls?

Why does he wants to add his responsibilities and stress again? From someone who's not going to add anything to him or his table?


Toh. I will leave the stage for the redpillers to come and advise you.

Very sweet mag,the taste is relishing.you see how I take rush pick 2 at once

Magnoliaa:


Is this sweet?

If it is, I want to buy it.

ahnie:
Very sweet mag,the taste is relishing.you see how I take rush pick 2 at once

I'll take your word for it then.


I'll let you know how delicious I find it.

uchem2000:
■ Nairalanders please help me suggest for me and my family to this issue.. My elder brother of 48 years old .. He is a widower.. He lost his lovely wifef our years ago to breast cancers.. The death really pains him and our entire families because both him and his wife were the back bone of our family.. He has been training his kids alone.. And the first child and a daughter is now sixteen.. She is assisting in family work .. Our brother call all of us last month to tell us about his plan to marry his old girlfriend who he did not marry because our late mother told him not to marry her.he did so because he loved our mother so much.. The girl got married to another man as soon as our brother did his wedding.... Now the Lady quitted the marriage because his husband is a terrible womanizer.. She has caught the man twice with a woman in their matrimonial bed... She has been alone even before our brother lost his wife... Our family is confused on whether to the marriage or not. I need a good advice please

Best advice I can give you is to tell you to mind your own life and business! This is your brother's life and decision to make, not yours nor your family's.

Magnoliaa:


I'll take your word for it then.


I'll let you know how delicious I find it.

Looking forward to your review

Seems he wants someone to take care of his kids. No woman can love his kids like the mother can.

And if his old gf had any self- respect, she should refuse his advances. He's using her as a rebound. He's also not a catch to her anymore since he's plus 4.

The woman in person has three kids .two boys and a girl.

uchem2000:
The woman in person has three kids .two boys and a girl.

Going ahead with the marriage will be a very very bad decision. Complicating his life unnecessarily.

uchem2000:
The woman in person has three kids .two boys and a girl.

Your brother has 4, do you think he is some flashy commodity?

uchem2000:
Nairalanders please help me suggest for me and my family to this issue..
My elder brother of 48 years old ..
He is a widower..
He lost his lovely wifef our years ago to breast cancers..
The death really pains him and our entire families because both him and his wife were the back bone of our family..
He has been training his kids alone..
And the first child and a daughter is now sixteen..
She is assisting in family work ..
Our brother call all of us last month to tell us about his plan to marry his old girlfriend who he did not marry because our late mother told him not to marry her.he did so because he loved our mother so much..
The girl got married to another man as soon as our brother did his wedding....
Now the Lady quitted the marriage because his husband is a terrible womanizer.. She has caught the man twice with a woman in their matrimonial bed...
She has been alone even before our brother lost his wife...
Our family is confused on whether to the marriage or not..
I need a good advice please

At thus point, I think you guys should your brother to marry her because he ever wanted her but your mum rejected her

Now he needs a wife, he should be allowed to choose whoever that will make him happy and also make the children happy

The choice is his not your family to decide who he will marry in this circumstance

At this stage, what is of the best interest of the children should be paramount not that of the widower,

The woman he has in mind, also has her own children and I am 100% certain that his children are not ready to be part of a blended family, so he has to "sacrifice" more years and raise his children on his own without marrying another wife, many widows do it and I believe he too, can.

His children need his 100% attention, not sharing it with his new wife, their step siblings and the half-sibling(s) that may be product of the second marriage.

Marrying his divorced ex-girlfriend is very likely going to cause problem in the family, madam will be "reclaiming the spot" she was denied many years ago and put the children at risk...... dem go feel it.

uchem2000:
Nairalanders please help me suggest for me and my family to this issue..
My elder brother of 48 years old ..
He is a widower..
He lost his lovely wifef our years ago to breast cancers..
The death really pains him and our entire families because both him and his wife were the back bone of our family..
He has been training his kids alone..
And the first child and a daughter is now sixteen..
She is assisting in family work ..
Our brother call all of us last month to tell us about his plan to marry his old girlfriend who he did not marry because our late mother told him not to marry her.he did so because he loved our mother so much..
The girl got married to another man as soon as our brother did his wedding....
Now the Lady quitted the marriage because his husband is a terrible womanizer.. She has caught the man twice with a woman in their matrimonial bed...
She has been alone even before our brother lost his wife...
Our family is confused on whether to the marriage or not..
I need a good advice please

He should be looking for someone who will treat his children with love in addition to loving him. His responsibility to his children should be his biggest concern.