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So I and my friends went to visit a friend that just put to bed her 5th child.

This child was unplanned for as they had already stopped having children.

She narrated to us how her husband was furious when she told him she was pregnant. He blamed her for not taking the necessary precautions.

This brought a debate between us, who actually is responsible for an unplanned pregnancy.

Is it majorly on the woman who knows her cycle and carries the pregnancy but was still careless or on both the man and wife for not working closely together to ensure what needed to be done is done

It's both their responsibility.
Men can wear condoms, have vasectomies to prevent pregnancy.
Women can do contraceptives too. Knowing your period is not a sure way of preventing pregnancy as your period can change due to stress, hormones for whatever reason

Neither a husband or wife can do or make a child alone..... It's a collective responsibility.. No matter how big the penis is or how nice and tight a vagina is, each can never produce a child single-handedly....

Withdrawal method never do you something.

To give a comprehensive answer to the question, a plethora of determinants must be considered. One of them is "cost". Others are the "pain" and "risk" involved.


After a detailed consideration of the various birth control techniques, I have resolved that the man is to blame because male condom use is the cheapest means of birth control.

Male condoms are usually given as souvenir at health awareness programs and campaigns. They're displayed for sale at the counters of malls and stores.

Spermicide is more expensive and the procedure is not without side effects.
Vasectomy is painful and there are cases of inability to reverse the male to his status quo. Pills and contraceptive implants can affect the female reproductive system negatively.

The use of condom is the birth control method that you're sure of stopping if the uneventful happens.

For instance, if you lose an only child or you discover through a DNA test that you're a victim of paternity fraud, you can always take off the condom and fill her up with white protein.

Nobody's fault, God can't give u what u can't train.....




But, if u can take kia of them all, fire on.....


After all, we dey 7 for my house, and my parents are enjoying it now ......



Gifts from here and there.......



17 grand children....Mumcy is still 65, Popsy is late....


Multiply if u can

sync:
So I and my friends went to visit a friend that just put to bed her 5th child.

This child was unplanned for as they had already stopped having children.

She narrated to us how her husband was furious when she told him she was pregnant. He blamed her for not taking the necessary precautions.

This brought a debate between us, who actually is responsible for an unplanned pregnancy.

Is it majorly on the woman who knows her cycle and carries the pregnancy but was still careless or on both the man and wife for not working closely together to ensure what needed to be done is done

The woman...

There's a reason the significant effort of family planning is on the woman.

The woman receives and if she's not willing or ready, the sender sends in vain. This is true most of the time

both... yikinyikin is too much

Funny question.

If we move beyond idealism and embrace the unique socio-cultural milieu that is our harsh reality, then the wife should be held responsible.

Frankly, this shouldn't even be a debate since the wife gets to do the grueling work of incubating a human baby for 9 months to the detriment of her mind, body and well-being. That alone in addition to so many other factors that are too numerous to mention now are enough for any woman to take charge and protect herself and future from unwanted pregnancies.

These days, practically all family planning methods for women are easily accessible and affordable. Furthermore, in many hospitals, the husband's consent is no longer required as a prerequisite for female family planning.

Any married woman with an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy has herself to blame.

A baby that will come will definitely come, even with sophisticated precautions inplace. I have experienced this.

this brought back memories from our neighbors. Just one beautiful morning, I and mum heard our neighbors insulting each other.

The wife be like " Nah inside poverty you come give me belle again after 5 children, I tell you say I no fit do family planning for the next couple of month because of no money. You come put prick inside me, now I don get belle"

The wife was cursing and insulting the husband but the man never said a word.

Well the woman later went to hospital for pregnancy test, but funny thing she wasn't pregnant. She had typoid reason why her menses delayed.

For me is a collective responsibility.

Both!.....but on a serious note parenting is gradually failing in our society oo!...I swear things dey happen!

Neither a husband or wife can do or make a child alone..... It's a collective responsibility

Both husband and wife and the hospital it was done

Nobody is to be blamed, when God says yes a child wil come forth, nobody says no.

sync:
So I and my friends went to visit a friend that just put to bed her 5th child.

This child was unplanned for as they had already stopped having children.

She narrated to us how her husband was furious when she told him she was pregnant. He blamed her for not taking the necessary precautions.

This brought a debate between us, who actually is responsible for an unplanned pregnancy.

Is it majorly on the woman who knows her cycle and carries the pregnancy but was still careless or on both the man and wife for not working closely together to ensure what needed to be done is done

Man, because our cucumber always 🥒 look for hole to vomit 🤮🤢 he is not 🚭🚫 satisfy anytime he vomits outside.

Blame the family planning
E no work well

The gods are not to blame

They commited the " CRIME " together , so the should both pay for it

sync:
So I and my friends went to visit a friend that just put to bed her 5th child.

This child was unplanned for as they had already stopped having children.

She narrated to us how her husband was furious when she told him she was pregnant. He blamed her for not taking the necessary precautions.

This brought a debate between us, who actually is responsible for an unplanned pregnancy.

Is it majorly on the woman who knows her cycle and carries the pregnancy but was still careless or on both the man and wife for not working closely together to ensure what needed to be done is done

The man no well, na who knack the woman?
The pikin fall from sky ?

The man should take responsibility, period.
If na me I go just take responsibility no be blame game. I the day my gf told me she no longer on birth pills, Omo! I switch mode to coitus interruptus. If u no want wahala, why look for one; and then say I no want wahala.

Both

From the comments I can tell that most of you are not married.
The woman is to blame
Let's look at it from this angle
If the husband want a child and the wife says she is not ready. Do you the woman will not get pregnant no matter how many times they make love.
But on the other hand if the wife want a child (in most case they don't tell their husband they want a child) and the husband says he is not ready. The one time they make love the wife will get pregnant. And the wife will blame it on the husband as if once you have given birth to the number of children you want no more love making for the man.
The married men and women in the house can confirm

Yu

sync:
So I and my friends went to visit a friend that just put to bed her 5th child.

This child was unplanned for as they had already stopped having children.

She narrated to us how her husband was furious when she told him she was pregnant. He blamed her for not taking the necessary precautions.

This brought a debate between us, who actually is responsible for an unplanned pregnancy.

Is it majorly on the woman who knows her cycle and carries the pregnancy but was still careless or on both the man and wife for not working closely together to ensure what needed to be done is done

The answer to your question totally depends on their chosen method of family planning.

Both parties are to be blamed. So many irreparable Nigerians giving birth to kids like pigs

Both the man and the woman are to be blame for me.
A woman must know how to calculate her menstral circle so as not to get pregnant easily
The man should apply withdrawal method though its not easily if you may ask me, or better still use condom to cut the long story short but you won't get 100% satisfaction with it though

Felif:
Both

I agree

It's not the fault of anyone of them.

They will both be blamed. It’s a partnership and both husband and wife should have ed hands to ensure that the wife doesn’t take in. They will bear their cross and responsibility tly.