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Is it a crime to call the Wife of your friend by her first name?

I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020.

They've done traditional wedding.

I once followed this guy to law faculty of our school during our Masters program and spent 6 hours typing the project of his then ex.

The same ex ended up blaming him for her misfortune.

I'm the best man for his white wedding tomorrow.

Yet, he's warning me for calling his wife her first name in the same sentence where I also referred to my girlfriend by her own first name.

He claims I was wrong and he has refused to apologise.

I need this one the front page.

Was I wrong?

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You ain’t wrong…


But since that’s what he wants then respect his wish!

africans and their foolishness...western world that everybody goes by their first name have they died...if I were you,that friendship ends tonight...calling people their name is not disrespectful,it's their name ain't it?

be careful though,cus one day he will tell you to call the wife "aunty"(you know say Aunty get two meanings for naija)

USE YOUR TONGUE COUNT YOUR TEETH,THE WORST Thing WHEN FIT HAPPEN TO A MAN "NA SEE FINISH"...bounce before him and him wife see you finish bro

goodluck

Yes, you're wrong. It's totally out of place. He has corrected you so see to it that you make adjustments.

And I think you also have an ego problem. Because if not, what the Bleep is I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020 .

it is disrespectful

Mille:
Yes, you're wrong. It's totally out of place. He has corrected you so see to it that you make adjustments.

And I think you also have an ego problem. Because if not, what the Bleep is I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020 .

it is disrespectful

I see.

You're one of those.

Like I asked him.

Is it "My Wife" that will appear on the Marriage certificate, the school certificate, the court documents?

I did not call the girl's name in a disrespectful way.

rickpat:
africans and their foolishness...western world that everybody goes by their first name have they died...if I were you,that friendship ends tonight...calling people their name is not disrespectful,it's their name ain't it?

be careful though,cus one day he will tell you to call the wife "aunty"(you know say Aunty get two meanings for naija)

USE YOUR TONGUE COUNT YOUR TEETH,THE WORST TIME WHEN FIT HAPPEN TO A MAN "NA SEE FINISH"...bounce before him and him wife see you finish bro

goodluck

Bros.

The insult I don see this night.

I just decided to limit it to this question.

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WackyJ1:


Bros.

The insult I don see this night.

I just decided to limit it to this question.

bro,I don tell you..give those people chance o..before see finish go enter... especially if you are still single...even my brother's wife way older than me...I call her madamB or ladyB( thats what I call her before they got married and start what I still call her till tomorrow,saved her number with it sef).even to the extent that my bro na calls her that...B is her initial..though people might argue it's different from calling her her name but na my elder bro wife and not my friend's wife...

just use your head...this matter don dey vex me already...if you called her her name on before the trad wedding,the Mumu for no complain o..well na him.luck Sha..if na me..I don free am

rickpat:
bro,I don tell you..give those people chance o..before see finish go enter... especially if you are still single...even my brother's wife way older than me...I call her madamB or ladyB( thats what I call her before they got married and start what I still call her till tomorrow,saved her number with it sef).even to the extent that my bro na calls her that...B is her initial..though people might argue it's different from calling her her name but na my elder bro wife and not my friend's wife...

just use your head...this matter don dey vex me already...if you called her her name on before the trad wedding,the Mumu for no complain o..well na him.luck Sha..if na me..I don free am

Bros.

Look at the chat.

I called his wife's name and my babe's name in the same quoted message.


I used both their first names.

Sincerely, your guy na ode. E dey put woman before him guy. Na tears go end am.

WackyJ1:


Bros.

Look at the chat.

I called his wife's name and my babe's name in the same quoted message.


I used both their first names.

imagine and he couldn't even wait for later to discuss it with you as your guy...he just thrash the matter instantly..na wa for that your day...HE BE LIKE HE NO EVER IMAGINE SAY WOMAN GO GREE MARRY AM FOR THIS LIFE..na yeye boy...free am...na as him sense reach...how you go talk to your guy like that...he could tell you much later...marry when he never marry reach 24hours...just be careful sha..if not more insult dey wait you for front...he go give you married man swag soonest...this is rubbish, totally uncalled for...if he must address it..not immediately or in that manner as close friends that you guys are..I see close friends that call their wives by their names or just use madam to address them

Only a much older friend can tell me such not my age mate.

The reality here is your so called guy has zero respect for you. Any friend who sends me such WhatsApp message forcing me to call his wife whatever name...I'll just block him and delete his number. If strangers call her by her first name, why should I who's a close friend be criticized for doing the same thing,

A friend of mine married his girlfriend last December. Her name is joy, till date whenever I call him or he calls, I'll ask him how's joy, and he'll say fine...what other name does he expect me to call her?

Abeg the problem in Nigeria is enough for me, I don't need anyone adding to it.

I don’t think you did anything wrong but Nigerians have a lot of weird hang ups about social positions so I’m not that surprised by his response to you.

Speak to him about it I guess

Abeg no vex, I no understand... Wetin he say make you dey call her again please? I didn't get that part

Richy4:
Abeg no vex, I no understand... Wetin he say make you dey call her again please? I didn't get that part

He say make I dey call am "My Wife"

WackyJ1:


He say make I dey call am "My Wife"

Chaii!!! Mchtweeeee
If I be U, after the best man thing, Na to find my levels man... I wouldn't want to be insulted for nothing in future...

I will just distance myself from him totally.. If we were 100%, we will now be 21%... If he ask, I will just say sorry bro, I don't want to encroach, u are now a married man....

I don't know what I will do or say in your home, and it will look like I am 'disrespecting' you or your wife.. u have warned me not to call her her God given name.. so it's better this way.. Trash it there and then too without mincing words so that he will understand that you are no longer the guy that typed a project for his girlfriend free for 8MONTHS

Start rebranding yourself...Except if there are some edge he has over you.. contract edge, helping to put food on your table edge, etc if none, I just can't tell where and how u got that 'outback' guy as a friend

E show say na locale him be....better start calling her Iyawo or madam or Mrs. Locale. When them see front commot naija go obodo oyinbo where children dey call person wey fit be their mama by name, their head go correct. Until then, humour them and move go front, they aren't really your friends.

Meanwhile, na wa for you too o, you sabi do useless friendship sha. Typing person gf project for 6hrs🤭🤭🤭

Just do his wish. Na guys una be

sisisioge:
E .

Meanwhile, na wa for you too o, you sabi do useless friendship sha. Typing person gf project for 6hrs🤭🤭🤭

😭😭

MMempire:
Sincerely, your guy na ode. E dey put woman before him guy. Na tears go end am.

No mind d mumu....marriage dey shack am.


Him eye go soon clear.

Help him do his best man, then stay clear after. Everybody should dey their dey.

Na love Dey worry am just leave am he even get person mak dey call he wife name he no happy
Na over familiarity cause am
When u start to Dey give am space then he go understand

The gal big who dem Dey call her name
Yeye person
U are not wrong ur friend is jus been stupid
If na me everybody go Dey on he own
Were u paid to be his best man ?

Sincerely, your guy na ode

Let him be,marriage dey shack am,E should come and ask we him oga......
He'll know how far later,besides,once the wife gives birth,you'll be the one to change the name by yourself. Make the guy chill Abeg,before he shock am

Lance008:
The gal big who dem Dey call her name
Yeye person
U are not wrong ur friend is jus been stupid
If na me everybody go Dey on he own
Were u paid to be his best man ?

I was not paid.

The guy is even owing me money.

More than ₦50,000 and I never bothered to ask for it.

It was ₦3,000 bill that his wife put on my Babe's head that made him warn me like that.

I even collected more insult yesterday.

I left this morning.

Small children and their wahala

WackyJ1:


I was not paid.

The guy is even owing me money.

More than ₦50,000 and I never bothered to ask for it.

It was ₦3,000 bill that his wife put on my Babe's head that made him warn me like that.

I even collected more insult yesterday.

I left this morning.

If u like continue collecting insult because of humility

Watin he give u chop mak u no fit talk !

WackyJ1:
Is it a crime to call the Wife of your friend by her first name?

I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020.

They've done traditional wedding.

I once followed this guy to law faculty of our school during our Masters program and spent 6 hours typing the project of his then ex.

The same ex ended up blaming him for her misfortune.

I'm the best man for his white wedding tomorrow.

Yet, he's warning me for calling his wife her first name in the same sentence where I also referred to my girlfriend by her own first name.

He claims I was wrong and he has refused to apologise.

I need this one the front page.

Was I wrong?

Person wey you suppose change am for sharp sharp then block both him and him wife

Friends kor

rickpat:
africans and their foolishness...western world that everybody goes by their first name have they died...if I were you,that friendship ends tonight...calling people their name is not disrespectful,it's their name ain't it?

be careful though,cus one day he will tell you to call the wife "aunty"(you know say Aunty get two meanings for naija)

USE YOUR TONGUE COUNT YOUR TEETH,THE WORST Thing WHEN FIT HAPPEN TO A MAN "NA SEE FINISH"...bounce before him and him wife see you finish bro

goodluck

Western World has their Culture and We have our Culture..... Our Culture is Respect Based Culture ....

If We have Respect for Ourselves as a Nation, Continents and Globe, The world would have been a Better place !

The Corrections seems Harsh .... Personally, I use Respect for Wife of a Friend while I can Disrespect My Friend as I Like !

Lol, give unto your friend what he wants, it's not that hard.

Some people don't like to be addressed by their names without prefix.

faithfull18:
Lol, give unto your friend what he wants, it's not that hard.

Some people don't like to be addressed by their names without prefix.

This one said I cannot address the woman by her name at all.

So because a man marries you, no one can address you by your first name again?

The man paying money to marry you erases your identity?

The woman changes her surname, yes, but the first name does not change.

I was addressing her by her surname before he did traditional marriage for her.

Now I cannot address her by her name again?