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Dont mind the new monika,

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year now. but after he came to my house and saw my parents he has been acting somehow. Like he is avoiding me.he said sth like i am not good enough for you.

He is a student in 400l, i can say his background is average(not poor not rich). He But we love each other so much,we both in our mid 20s.

When he came i left him with my parents to go get somethings upstairs. I dunno what they told him. I really love him.

Please what do i do

Sit him down and have a private discussion..

Sit him down and have a convo with him.

Something is amiss , you need to figure it out with him and churn out a pathway going forward.

Good luck.

Ask him why he was avoiding you after meeting your parent.

He should communicate whatever the issue is to you as a real man would do.

Or maybe he has eaten to his satisfaction,he just now looking for lame excuse or silly attitude to dump u.

Take second paragraph serious!

Ask your parents what they told him.

nifemi25:
Ask him why he was avoiding you after meeting your parent.

He is becoming very mean.

give him a good sex and stop when he is enjoying it and stand to leave

Zonefree:
Ask your parents what they told him.

My mum is not helping at all. All she said was I'll get a better man.

Lucyomolola:
Dont mind the new monika,

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year now. but after he came to my house and saw my parents he has been acting somehow. Like he is avoiding me.he said sth like i am not good enough for you.

He is a student in 400l, i can say his background is average(not poor not rich). He But we love each other so much,we both in our mid 20s.

When he came i left him with my parents to go get somethings upstairs. I dunno what they told him. I really love him.

Please what do i do

You are not good enough for him

Or

He is not good enough for you

Babygirl go on 14days fasting and prayer, he'll change. Chaii

BigRocky:
He should communicate whatever the issue is to you as a real man would do.

Or maybe he has eaten to his satisfaction,he just now looking for lame excuse or silly attitude to dump u.

Take second paragraph serious!

Eaten what

Lucyomolola:


My mum is not helping at all. All she said was I'll get a better man.

They threatened the innocent young man.

Seems your family is well to do than his family.

School love is like a mirage which evaporates with time.

Lucyomolola:


My mum is not helping at all. All she said was I'll get a better man.

This sum up his reactions and ask your mum to explain what she means.

Lucyomolola:


Eaten what

Haven't you guys been having sex?

Your parents threatened him.
They were expecting a Yahoo ritualist to show up with Benz like Regina's mom sold her to Nwoko.


The older generation are the ones destroying this country.

Lucyomolola:


My mum is not helping at all. All she said was I'll get a better man.

Your mum is right. You have lot of learning to do.

A 400l does not have a job, he has no plan, nothing, no future ambition yet.

How is he gonna take care of you and the kid after you get pregnant having unprotected sex?

He is going to run away.

Leave the young boy, love isn't enough to subtain a relationship

Zonefree:

They threatened the innocent young man.

Seems your family is well to do than his family.

I really love him. He doesn't lack though

Lucyomolola:


My mum is not helping at all. All she said was I'll get a better man.

Your mum has told him hes a gold digger...that you and him are not in the same class...that he should find his level

Lucyomolola:


I really love him. He doesn't lack though

I'll advice you remove Love from the equation.

The Love of a Nigerian girl taste as wine and last only for a while.

BigRocky:


Haven't you guys been having sex?

Thrice

Lucyomolola:


I really love him. He doesn't lack though

That's what your gender always say. Once things goes soar,you change and start giving him headache.

Shalommy:
Babygirl go on 14days fasting and prayer, he'll change. Chaii

The fault is not from the guy but her parents..

they don't like the guy cos he's not from a rich family.


Let him tell her exactly what they said to him when she left him with them to go get something for him.

Lucyomolola:


Thrice

That sums it all na lol.

Seems you are new to the dating pool.you might be dealing with a player for the past one year.

He is using ghosting tactics to slide away from the relationship.

Shouldn't be dishing out this info though!

thebosstrevor1:


Your mum is right. You have lot of learning to do.

A 400l does not have a job, he has no plan, nothing, no future ambition yet.

How is he gonna take care of you and the kid after you get pregnant having unprotected sex?

He is going to run away.

Leave the young boy, love isn't enough to subtain a relationship

He has it skills. Never said he did not have a plan

A serious convo has ensued between them all and since you said your mom isn’t helping issues, guess she doesn’t like what she heard or saw who knows.

As for your guy, you have to be subtle with him and have a deep conversation to know what happened but if he still doesn’t bulge as most guys would. Just let him know again how you feel about the relationship with some words of assurance, that’s if indeed he is the one o then leave him alone when done. He go reason the matter come tell you what transpired if he truly loves you back. But if not, my dear just keep your hopes aside.

As for your mom, leave her also for a while but be asking her indirectly and subtly whenever you and her are together. Or you both don’t really get intimate?? Or act as a good child for some time and use that to extract the info you need.

My 2 cent

Lucyomolola:


He has it skills. Never said he did not have a plan

How do you know?

chinwong:
A serious convo has ensued between them all and since you said your mom isn’t helping issues, guess she doesn’t like what she heard or saw who knows.

As for your guy, you have to be subtle with him and have a deep conversation to know what happened but if he still doesn’t bulge as most guys would. Just let him know again how you feel about the relationship with some words of assurance, that’s if indeed he is the one o then leave him alone when done. He go reason the matter come tell you what transpired if he truly loves you back. But if not, my dear just keep your hopes aside.

As for your mom, leave her also for a while but be asking her indirectly and subtly whenever you and her are together. Or you both don’t really get intimate?? Or act as a good child for some time and use that to extract the info you need.

My 2 cent

Thx

chinwong:
A serious convo has ensued between them all and since you said your mom isn’t helping issues, guess she doesn’t like what she heard or saw who knows.

As for your guy, you have to be subtle with him and have a deep conversation to know what happened but if he still doesn’t bulge as most guys would. Just let him know again how you feel about the relationship with some words of assurance, that’s if indeed he is the one o then leave him alone when done. He go reason the matter come tell you what transpired if he truly loves you back. But if not, my dear just keep your hopes aside.

As for your mom, leave her also for a while but be asking her indirectly and subtly whenever you and her are together. Or you both don’t really get intimate?? Or act as a good child for some time and use that to extract the info you need.

My 2 cent

Thanks

Are both of you still in school

Lucyomolola:
Dont mind the new monika,

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year now. but after he came to my house and saw my parents he has been acting somehow. Like he is avoiding me.he said sth like i am not good enough for you.

He is a student in 400l, i can say his background is average(not poor not rich). He But we love each other so much,we both in our mid 20s.

When he came i left him with my parents to go get somethings upstairs. I dunno what they told him. I really love him.

Please what do i do

Another girl has started giving him from behind