NewStats: 3,264,047 , 8,182,411 topics. Date: Monday, 09 June 2025 at 12:24 PM 33r10

They see themselves as a no nonsense person, smart and an opportunists.


What you term brutality, they term it no nonsense.
What you call stealing/fraud, they call it smartness.
What you see as inhumane, like stealing accident victims' things, they call it opportunities.
Spoiling and degrading other people to gain popularity and acceptance, they call it politics.

And so on and so on........


Ironically, they get feared and so, seems to get away with it all, but the end justifies the means.


However, wickedness is subjective.

ireke:


Yes, I do. Just that no guest will (or should) find my dirty pile. I have always hated hanging my undies where anyone would see them. So you would never find my holey pants (pata olokun/rainbow pant) on the line outside when I was young and living with my parents in our face to face apartment. When I shared accommodation with friends, I also would not leave my undies (men's briefs) in the bathroom for flatmates to see. Now that I'm married and have my space, I drop my undies (pants/singlet/socks) in a pile in MY room. My wife drops hers in a bucket in the bathroom (HER/OUR bathroom). If you go find that kind of pile, na you know wetin carry you go there. By the way, our lifestyle doesn't afford us the luxury of washing undies every morning. When I'm at work and they put me in a hotel or their accommodation, I have people that come in to clean my room while I'm in the office. I will hate to have them come in and meet my undies in the bathroom. When I'm at home, I don't wear pants for days and would usually go into the bathroom in my pyjamas or whatever I wore to bed. Why will I go back to and pick undies to wash?

By the way, before I start sounding like a neat freak, I have worn my undies for more than one day before. I still do if I'm travelling and can't pack. Socks? No even think about that one. I regularly wear my socks more than once. I just try to space it so I don't wear them on consecutive days.

Long story short - Yes some of us keep it in a pile and yes some of us wear it for two days in a row. Who wan form, make he dey form.

I love this!

Loved the way and manner you put this down. The openness and truth in your post is vivid.

I can sense your age/maturity with the way you write, not only on this thread but in all your posts.
Keep being you sir.

God bless the helper and I hope the op will not disappoint his helper by frolicking with strange women again.


Say me well to your wife and the baby.

@op, so, your wife was this heavily pregnant and you preferred to engage in sexcapades with another woma/en instead of thinking and preparing for her safe delivery. What a pity! Poor woman! I pray she delivers safely.
You're a disgrace to responsible husbands and fathers.



https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/7531271/calabar-girl-shown-me-pepper

https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/6787206/1-years-old-witch

Were you not the one that opened the above threads?
You accused your wife of witchcraft and behind every ills that befell you. As if that was not enough, you also accused your daughter of 1+ of witchcraft and that both of them have connived and conspired to finish you financially, emotionally and even health-wise. So you ridiculously and embarrassingly sent them out. Causing them a lot of trauma and emotional torture. Insults and embarrassment from your far and near folks. After a year, you came back to your senses and apologized, she accepted to come back. Do you think those embarrassing moments she and her daughter suffered could be erased in a jiffy? Do you think accusing someone of witchcraft is something that can be easily forgiven? What if you're in a barbaric environment and she had been stoned to death when you accused her and her daughter of witchcraft, would you still be entitled to her forgiveness? What if she had committed suicide for not being able to stand the false accusations, would you still be saying this?
You're delusional, yes, you are.

May God heal your wife and daughter of those trauma and torture you caused them to suffer.

As for you, I really don't know the advice to give you but I pray not to have someone like you around me.

@op, why are you so specific about 80, why not 90 or 70 or 100, or even 85 or 79, why 80 gangan?

Or better still, why is your question not directed to old age? What is so spectacular about 80 years of age?

Now, these are real men speaking/typing, not those damaged boys who despise women as if they have neither mothers nor sisters.

God bless all good women indeed!
More blessings to good men too.
We're all useful to ourselves.
God bless us all.

It's mostly because they believe they know more than you do and it pains them to see their lovely children taking the wrong paths, or destruction paths, so they think. And because of this, they try to manipulate you into buying into their suggestions/advices.
Well, not that these their suggestions or opinions are always right or good for you but there are ways you can wisely turn down these opinions of theirs without necessarily making them feel offended or bad.
For instance, conversation like.... Mum, I really appreciate your motherly care and advice, I know you're afraid that I'm towing wrong path but believe me, I'm not trying to scorn or devalue you or your suggestions, I just like to take this personal opinion and I promise not to involve you if the consequences turn out badly but will take the full responsibility of facing the music and learn from my mistake. That's how an adult that I am should be and that's the upbringing and lessons you've imbibed us with. Thanks for your understanding ma'am.

If an adult child can humbly request his/her mum's understanding like this and the mum still get offended or try to guilt-trip the child, then the mother, I believe, is up to something sinister.

oakson:



I smell bullshit from far... hence, my replies.

This post is meant for ladies to respond to, not men with seemingly overbloated ego and megalomaniacs who chose to cocoon their personal struggles and shortcomings, then, come online as dinosaurs to prey on those who were bold enough to come out. You don't sit behind your keypad and type out how someone else should or should not live.

That, I can't and won't accept... you called what that 'americawhatever' said a 'suggestion'? Read it again. He spoke like he's the father and default mind of all ladies; even Father Abraham wouldn't be that absolute in authority over someone else's wishes.

Lastly, it is always worthwhile to read out loud one's comments to one's self and feel it before writing it out to someone else(no pun intended).

Then, and then, would social media be a safe, if not safer place for all!

Abi you get wife for me

It is well. But I personally don't think the commenter meant any harm sha.

But then, you need to be calm with the way you respond to posters sha, who knows, someone can be interested in trying things out with you and may be put off because of your responses.
May God grant you your heart desires.

Peace out!

JeffreyJunior:
So is it safe to also say that a single man without kids has no business dating or marrying a single mother with 3 kids?

We men have seen all manner of injustice in this life shaa.

Yes. Why will a single man with no kids get entangled with single mom of 3?

Let single man with no kids go for single woman with no kids.
A single mom is on the same page with a single dad.

What is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

oakson:


Like you care....

I really do. Believe me, I do.

oakson:


Read your signature and see the contrast in your comment. Must you NL folks really show how petty you are? These coming from men shows how warped and condescending most males on this forum are...

kilode, must you folks spit? Can't you just read, swallow and go in peace or pieces?

Dear brother, we're not fighting, as a matter of fact, I was only pointing out what you're expected to have known. This is a public forum, When you open a thread here, it's no longer personal, it has become public consumption. Expect different suggestions, comments and questions. The way and manners you now respond to these good, bad and sometimes ugly comments here says a lot about who you really are. Besides, there's no rule that stipulates the threads any member can respond to. Somebody's business is everybody's business once it gets to the public domain here, same applies to other social media.


By the way, the suggestion given by thegoodamerican wasn't a bad one, it now behoves on you to accept or not.

By the way, what was the cause of the divorce that couldn't be resolved even after three beautiful and wonderful kids?

oakson:


does it really cost a fortune to mind your business and get busier if need be?

If you really wanted people to mind their businesses, you shouldn't have put this in a public domain, you know.

APOPTOSIS:

I don't think you're correct
He hasn't in any way constituted any threat to National security not even to Nigeria's security.
In fact he has always demonstrated his love for both Nigeria and the US.

The US doesn't chase ants at the expense of elephants. A US senator representing Indiana twerked in bikini at a beachside many months ago and nothing happened despite widespread criticisms. The US doesn't work that way.
There are far priority issues to battle with and not someone who keeps people educated & informed with trips & vacations & who may have some life reservations he's entitled to.

People take pictures across United States, including the Whitehouse axis. It's not hidden. As long as you reside in the US as a documented visitor, you're known.
They only have issues with those coming in through borders.

Will you keep quiet! You shameless hypocrite! I'm ashamed on your behalf. We're talking about A, he's here talking about Z. If you were so sure your misogynous posts couldn't land you in trouble, why did you deactivate the name you used in posting them? You better change your ways or else, the hunter will soon be hunted.
, we aren't perfectly anonymous here. Pray, nobody have your time, else, your posts on that deactivated moniker is enough to track you down.
Henceforth, learn to talk less. If possible, give social media a break and stop bragging.


You have stepped on so many's toes here and that's why your thread was modified and put on front-page for enough yabbing. See your life. I pity the young guys you've misled, I'm sure they would be biting their fingers by now and be wallowing in regrets.

Lesson to all: Online is different from reality.

MALIGNANTGuest:


You Guys really need team up and start marrying them. IF you Guys don't, who will?
Who una want leave this pool of ladies for?
I only fear for their bitterness.
The Bitterness of women can be deadly
Initially, I thought they were all married or not interested in men. But this is an eye opener.

Bro, you should be ashamed of your hypocrisy. If you notice, that is if your hypocrisy will allow you to see clearly, you will see that it's not only ladies that are condemning your hypocrisy. Reasonable guys too are disgusted by this your obvious double-sidedness.


How can you say, your duty is to discourage men from having interest in anything marriage, when you're and remain happily married to your hearthrob. Nooooo! It's so disgusting. No any reasonable guy will henceforth take you serious.

And then, another thing, you talk too much for a man. It's not manly at all. Tone it down a bit, please. It sells you away.

Sorry for the truth, if it makes you uncomfortable.
Regards to your dear wife.

MMotimo:
OP is a classic example of a US-based Nigerian playing with career fire and when they are burnt, they start shouting racism. Almost all big US organizations have a social media policy that includes employees’ online posts, whether or not they are using the company’s device. I can guarantee that misogynist, incel posts such as his would not muster and could get him into very serious trouble, up to and including termination. . . . . . and yes, I speak authoritatively on the subject because it is what I know.

He has revealed enough about himself, his life and his location that anyone who wanted to deal with him seriously could forward his post history to his employer(s) and light a fire under him. Oooops! Too late to modify everything now

A lot of you come on Nairaland to air nonsense to the ignorant, thinking you are perfectly anonymous. Such a thoroughly disgusting post history

Thanks for this.
That's why I personally don't ire someone who talks too much. They won't know when they say what they aren't supposed to say. They won't know when they reveal what they're not supposed to reveal. He has revealed too much of himself, probably for public acceptance sake or just for who he is. He's a perfect example of someone who suffers from mouth diarrhea, a talkative.

I pity his wife and friends, because he's a dangerous person. Someone who can successfully murder you with a side of his mouth and praise you with the other side of his mouth.

Like someone posted above, the op is an hypocrite, a deceiver.

It's a lesson to everyone that, online advice shouldn't be taken seriously.
I pray we are wise enough to decipher the right advice and ignore the evil ones.

You all need to relax.
He who wants to be deceived can be deceived. It's not the first time the op is eulogizing his wife here. Exactly last year, he opened a similar thread of how his wife fed him. On another thread, he described how much gifts his wife showered him with. The problem with some people is that, they don't want others to be happy the way they are, and one of the strategies to achieve this is by constantly dissuading people to tow their paths, unfortunately, some easily-deceived-folks couldn't see the handwritings on the wall, they just blindly and ignorantly follow the evil advice. Anyway, no sympathy for them anyway. I'm sure, @op will be laughing at them in his closet after dishing out his callous advice to the ignoramus.

https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/6909694/brief-recall-how-wife-fed.
Where he claimed his wife melted his heart.

https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/6924286/how-heartthrob-just-melted-heart.

She's evil naturally.

If she can do this to someone she profess love to, I can't imagine what she will do to just anyone.

Wickedness and selfishness are in her blood.

phoebelove:
What about this?

That of the first woman looks photoshopped.

Honestly, I really sympathize with those carriers of those disproportionate heavy mammary glands. It must have been very very painful, especially, for the backbone.
It's a sorry case that nature doesn't favour her stature.

May we not be endowed with what will make life miserable and painful for us.

Orgasmgiver123:
Damn....
Watermelon bress, just as I like it

You like this one?
Your taste must be very very poor.

See ignorance!


And that's why most men die suddenly and untimely.

There's a need for intensive awareness and orientation on the adverse effects of this chemicals we apply on our bodies and the ones we ingest.

There was a day I saw a mother with her 3-4 months old baby girl, whose hair had already been braided.
There was a time I saw a small boy of not more than 2years old, whose hair has already been tinted gold, with a crazy, very crazy parting.

What about those parents who bleaches their skin and also applies same substance on their babies' skins.
Also, some parents who are alcoholic, and also derive pleasure in giving their young children alcoholic drinks to ingest.

The effects of these maladies will definitely manifest, if not now, definitely later.

And some mothers start applying the hair relaxers on their toddlers, some as early as 4 years old.

Now you can all read it by yourselves.
Nothing beats nature!

fman:
This wan go beat shege comot from all nairaland feminist

What about those self acclaimed alpha male?

The husband wey married her get mind, abeg.

He shouldn't have absconded. He should have informed them that he's no longer interested in the wedding and leave immediately. With that, it wouldn't have been reported that he absconded.

I witnessed something similar in Benin city about 20years ago.
The man told them directly facing them, that he's no longer interested in the marriage and left immediately. The wife quickly followed her husband and left her kinsmen and that was how the wedding came to an abrupt end.

Thanks sincerely for this post.
150 years is even too far, let's limit it to 50-70 years time.

It calls for a sober reflection for all of us.

Anytime I see or hear that someone scammed or forcefully take someone else possession or did an evil intentionally, I usually ask myself if the perpetrator of that evil thinks about what becomes of him in fifty years time.

We really need to thread softly and take life simple.
We came with nothing and with nothing we shall leave.

Saintmary:


Your Mom is wise, please don't accept any gifts until a proper relationship has been established between your Mom and your lady.


If Mama says no based on spirituality, please consider her opinion.

Funny enough, mama could have just given spiritual reason to dissuade him from bringing those used clothes for her and her daughters. She might have wondered what could have led to a total stranger offering to give out her used clothes to her and her daughters. So, in order not to sound rude or ungrateful, she might have just given that spiritual gilberish as an excuse.

My assumption, please.

Zonefree:

Wow. Unbelievable

So, we still have sensible ladies here

Your brother's wife is a great woman. She got my total respect. Other ladies would have been saving to buy wigs or weavon to put on an empty head that can't recite the 36 states and capitals.

God bless your brother's wife and the family.

Change your cycle bro, change your cycle.
Anytime I see your post degrading Nigerian ladies, I can't but pity you because I can sense that you must have been greatly and terribly dealt with by those girls you usually surround yourself with.

Or probably, your class of girls.

Bro, upgrade yourself in order to attract classy, intelligent and resourceful Nigerian ladies, not those classless mgbeke girls with urgent 2k mentalities.