NewStats: 3,264,703 , 8,184,439 topics. Date: Thursday, 12 June 2025 at 06:03 AM h6z5m

DyshApp:
A Nigerian lady ended her relationship after discovering her boyfriend secretly married another woman when she became pregnant—only to learn, post-delivery DNA results proved he wasn’t the father.

This was shared in a series of posts on X (formerly Twitter) by @themamaG_, who confirmed it happened to her and explained why she walked away.

She wrote: “I found out last year that my boyfriend got someone else pregnant. He rushed into a marriage because of the pregnancy, but this year we discovered through a DNA test that the child isn’t his.”

Feeling betrayed and unwilling to “share” him with a baby mama, she continued: “I broke up with him because I can’t share a man—especially one who has a child with someone else.”

“He needed to take responsibility for his actions. He hurt me, yes, but I weighed my options and decided to move on. Even if he wanted me back now, I’m never going back to an ex. I’m proud of how I handled it and my heart is still 🤍.”

Reflecting on her intuition, she added:

“The craziest part is that I told him before we split that the child might not be his. Turns out I was right—crazy stuff.”

The chances of this post being a clout chasing stunt is extremely high. I can bet my left testicle that it only happened in her imagination.

Mistersolar:
the catfish you eat eats maggot, now if you cut dead person for catfish dem go chop am too and you self go enjoy the catfish with beer ooo

I hate you. And I have some catfish in the freezer. I hate you I swear.

So you people know pouch rats eat dead people? Probably the dirty animal ever. If you give me to eat and I ate it before knowing I can kill you.

And I eat a lot of busy meats as I grew up in the village myself. But Okete ( pouch rats )? GOD forbid.

oluwaseyi0:
What's tithe doing there?

It is his faith and belief. He has every right to it. Don't bully him into believing what you believe. It is none of your F*cking problem.

Chilipepper:
If you know when this Generator
Was sold for 10k, Signify!!

This was our first generator in 1999, it was 7k.

rinzaugustine:
Everywhere in the news now is now about ashawo talk of Natasha and not the bad governance that have currently ruined Nigeria….Nigeria is a cursed zoo that can never prosper as a country till the shithole breaks up

Your family house is the cursed zone. Idiota.

Interested in this too.

Bumping this up.

Reading the comments on the first page shows the IQ level in Nigeria is very low.

The bank doesn't need to have the money, it is electronic transfer ffs.

Yes. Just before covid. Heineken. It involves me going to and I won't be able to go with my wife and my girls. £6000 A month and with a chance to bring my family for 2 years. I rejected it cos I didn't want to cheat and I know I would cheat. I so regret it now.

Then 2 months ago, I got an offer of $4500 a month, part time. I rejected it because I know they will come back to me. And they will. The Indian they gave the job too is a rookie SEO and I am sure they will come back.

I am not greedy, I have been doing digital marketing and SEO for 17 years and as a result no longer cheap.

bukatyne:
Lovely analysis 👌 👍 👏

Merry Christmas to you and yours.

Merry Christmas and happy new year to you and yours too.

Newborn27:


Aside from the analysis on fuel and rent...there are lots of things being poor does to one that being rich or averagely okay wouldn't...e.g see finish, misconception and others.

I know your intentions with this reply but tell you what? If you as a woman, especially a married woman, learn to honour boundaries and not harassing or stalking people, people won't "see you finish". There is something called dignity for a reason.

ecomalchemistt:


That's dependent on what you have plugged to the powerbox.

It's rated 48,000mah with an output of 150w, check your device to know the specifications.

I will give you a call. I will be buying one off you.

How long does the power bank last on full charge?

franugo:


Who's Ego?

His neighbour.

mekleelex200:
Nonsense, is this where football is at now? Lookman is good player but he is lucky that there are no much African players doing much things at international stage.

If it was the modern time of Ego, Drogba, Diof,Yaya etc., who burn am to be nominated.

So they should give it to "Ego" whoever that's or Drogba because no one "burn" am well.

Receive sense, but I know you won't still use it.

Ynix:


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I am a digital marketer and I have been for 16 years. I know SEO in and out. I like real estate but recently got scammed by someone enlisted ( I don't want to say hire because she is like a mom to me ), to build for me. Lost of over 20m. Right now I am considering oil and gas even though I am not that rich but believe I can do it with time.

Shikena:
Can you imagine? Someone came to his ancestral homeland on vacation to rest after months of hustle and should now spend the bulk of his vacation budget on family ?

What sort of mindset is that? So his own destiny is like that of a machine to just work to others and die slowly?

I am currently battling health issues because of relatives who have mindset like that of that idiotic idiota I replied to. People are never full, they always want more and when you don't have it to give they label you.

It took me 1 year of acute depression and spending time at a psychiatric home before I stopped giving a damn. If you like blackmail me from now till tomorrow, it won't move me.

VeryWickedBro:
OP spent N3.350m on food, flexing and lodging but N500k on family .


Come succeed for obodo oyibo make I see

Some of you are very entitled. Which of the family helped work for his month? If it is easy none of them will need the "little" he gave them.

Mad people everywhere.

My daughters. GOD, I am a blessed man with three beautiful daughters who I adore and adore me too.

pneumaticos:

Hello boss
Have you setup one
How did it turn out

Not yet. Decided to build a house, got scammed big time by a so called pastor or maybe the people he used but now I have a house of my own and finishing a second ( where I intend to leave ).

I decided to go oil and gas. Starting with a very standard cooking gas station. It will be extremely capital intensive as I need two plots but it is something my mind is made up on doing.

Next year is it for the gas station.

Zonefree:
Okocha no get any level at all. People should stop addressing him as Super eagles legend.

His only achievement is to play alongside Ronaldinho.

That man whose surname should have used pulled or used a condom and save us this embarrassment.

Kaiser20:

Did you get permission from God before taking multiple Loans from different companies, even when you know that you can not pay them
After you intentionally defrauded 5 Loan Apps that assisted you in a time of need, you want God to help.

Do you have any proof that he intentionally defaulted?

Let's stop judging other people without knowing exactly what they have had to deal with.

SilentEmma:
I am currently owing
1. Okash
2. Branch
3. New credit
4. Xcross cash
5. Fairmoney

And they are all due... Not that I am not making efforts to pay them back, I am...

The country is too hard...

Though for now I only receive calls and constant reminders from anyone of them, that if I don't pay they will report my bvn to credit bureau... Sometimes branch and Fairmoney will tell me they will take legal action...

None of my s have called me yet to report any form of defamation yet...

I just hope and believe that these five loan apps I am owing are part of the ones that done defame... God go help me out to pay them all...

If you can

1. Create a video showing you logging into one of the apps and your nairaland to prove the loan actually exists

2. Allow me pay directly to them, I will assist you with a maximum of 50k.

The ball is in your court. Follow me and I will follow you back so we can DM each other.

Anyone else on this forum who s me is wasting his or her time, I will only help one person.

jify:

Thank you for your post. I make it a point of duty to only take up things I can do within the confines of my 9-5 job. In 9 hours of work, I get to work like only 4 hours,so I have like 5 hours to do any order thing which I fully utilize.

Why I outsource is cause, first I'm asthmatic, I do little work and I'm already drained. I explained this to him, that a normal woman would do this, but just mopping floors drains my total energy, so that's why I seek to outsource these. When these people come around, I'm always at home. I don't go anywhere weekend except church. I don't even have any friends, visit family like once a month. I'm not allowed to take my kids to any event where my family are, so I don't attend all events, cos where do I keep them? Secondly, like I said the other things I do are mentally draining and I wake up 4am every single work day, I get back by after 6, so the children are my responsibility till 10pm when I go to bed, so naturally weekends I want to rest. Whenever he is upset with me, he stops the person who I pay to bring them home by 5pm when he is around. I have to go pick them up.

I don't browse or do anything from 6pm that I come back. I stopped watching TV shows to stop anger that was boiling in my mind (he would just come and turn off the TV asking me what kind of show am I watching). It's been 4years that I stopped watching any TV show.

Believe me, I get your point but I had factored all these into my situation.

This is so inhumane. No one should treat the other person like this. I wonder what he will do if he was GOD. Please prioritize yourself. The children will be fine. You don't have to divorce him. Take a break from the marriage, if you can't say your mind verbally, take your time and write everything then leave till he behaves.

The Bible says GOD hates divorce not separation and even if it leads to divorce, GOD wants you to live and be in good physical and mental health.

If you are saying the truth, this is just absolutely too much.

May GOD give you strength.

Ex0rrcist:
You can put up with it till your kids are old enough for university, and leave him then if you so much think you can't raise them on your own.

What if she dies before then? If what she narrated here is not friction then best bet is for her to separate from him until he matures.

Mille:


This is my own honest advice from my experience in marriage and the marriages of people around us.

First, Financial arrangements of a family are unique to that family. There shouldn't be any basis for comparison with others. Most probably, what you started with is most likely what your partner will expect to continue.

I understand that you acknowledged you can be verbally abusive. Please try as much as possible to control your tongue. Unless you both have agreed to go separate ways, hurtful words spoken will remain. I hate when spousal arguments turn physical, so make arrangements to go outside when he starts dragging you even if it's inside the compound until the matter subsides.

Parental and family abuse is where I draw the line. Personally, I wouldn't be with anyone who is disrespectful or abusive towards my family. It denotes a disrespectful and impulsive individual. That's not someone I want to be a partner with. I don't know the unpalatable words you say though, maybe you abuse his family too. In that case, it would be hard to advise. But does he actually picks up the phone and call your mother to actually abuse her on the phone? If so, unbelievable.

Why is your brother saying that to your husband? Your brother's advise should have been to you and not him. I believe he said that due to what you have told your family about him. When you report your spouse to your family, you might forgive and forget, but your family wouldn't.

Finance is what causes majority of the arguments in marriage. Have a talk on the current realities and have him talk about what he wants to do financially. You can find someone he respects to have him talk to him if you cannot reach an agreement on your own. But like I said, you already started on the wrong foot by showing you were capable. I'll be surprised if there is a way out for you.

About the phone call harassment in the office, put your phone on airplane mode or disable the sim. No calls, no problem. But I wonder how long you'll be able to keep up with it.

Maybe it's due to my own upbringing, but I believe your mum's mantra is a little bit wrong.
It should only be followed if there is a major factor that causes a change in circumstances, if not, it will encourage irresponsibility and laziness in men. Like for example, I take care of 100% in my household. The only month in my marriage that my wife took care of like half of the bills due to medical reasons, I noticed how complacent I was. Have his family speak to him again, get financial commitments and make sure you don't bail him out, except he lost his job, a major expense or health reasons. You must also show strength in your resolve. For example, if he says he will pay the children school fees, have the children sit at home with him on the first day of resumption if the fees have not been paid by then. I hope you have neighbors who will ask him why his children have not resumed yet.

I do not understand this husband locking wives out of a thing. I never saw something like this growing up but I can't believe how common it is since I became an adult. It shows a lack of care about the safety of your spouse. This is why I strongly dislike impulsive people. If anything were to happen to you out in the cold, does he know he will take the blame for it. If such were to happen to my daughter, I'm certain it will be the last time it ever happens.

I wish I can meet you. May the GOOD LORD bless you. As a man,I am so proud of this write up of yours. GOD bless you real GOOD.

Esthered:
Make me understand a good father and a non loving spouse in one person.

Exactly my thought when I read that part.

Neptunium:
Divorce. The man does not like you let alone loves you. You're married to a demon. Three years ago he locked you out - of a house you rented o, three years later same issue on top of other issues. Marriage is not a do or die affair. You can't keep punishing yourself that you'll stay for the kids over a man who hates you. You're actually doing them more harm than good. And for your family including brother to not like him speaks volume. Imagine him insulting you parents and siblings, picking up his phone to insult your mother. What a fagg0t. Good thing no t with him. Leave for your peace of mind and health. You can make visitation arrangements for him to see the kids. You're doing them more harm than good staying in this awful marriage.

I don't divorce but your comment is the most sensible so far. That man doesn't love her ( if she is saying the truth ). You are a man, leaving your manly duties to a woman and still manipulating her. The op needs to temporarily leave at the very least. The children she claims she is protecting will be better off without such a toxic man.

capnies:
LET US HEAR THE MANS SIDE OF THE STORY. TO ME YOU'RE GUILTY

YOU CAN'T INSULT A MAN YOUR LIVING WITH, THAT'S CAPITAL SIN TO MEN

If what the OP wrote is true then he deserves the insults. You can't neglect the role that makes you the head of the family and then expect submission.

I am a man with 8+ years marriage experience. Men like the OP's husband ( if she is saying the truth ) deserves no respect. There is a borderline to everything. You can't keep pushing people and expect angelic behaviour.

Please find it unacceptable but for me, when a woman says a man beats her I first ask what led to it, and same when a man complains of abuses from his wife.

The moment you neglect your roles and then even become toxic you deserve whatever comes your way.

Nairaland is very toxic. I can't believe fellow men read this and they are all blaming you? It is shameful and unacceptable.

Your husband is a manipulator and it is high time you considered yourself first. I am just reunited with my wife after one year, I was always saying my kids this my kids that until it got to a point where my work was being affected and the children started to manage and adapt to lifestyles I didn't want for them. I had to leave and it was the best decision ever.

I feel your pain, if you are saying the truth, and I feel your pain even more seeing how people ( the first few comments were so judgmental it is disgusting ) people's comment. Consider yourself first. The only way you can care for those kids is when you are alive and in good physical and mental health.

Missroyalluv:
@op, you're very correct.

Take for example, buying things in bulk like a whole seller and buying little as a retailers.
Also, Enrolling your children in a good school closer to your house but expensive and enrolling them in a cheap school with poor academic standards and very far from your house.
The transport, risk of constantly on the highway on every school day, the poor academic performance. It doesn't make any sense.

I recently met this two young students who spent 21k on tp to and fro to school in a week.
Calculate 21k by 4, then by 4months. Add it to their current school fees. That's cra.zy

Thank you for this. Many people don't know they are making themselves poorer even when they think they are smart.