NewStats: 3,264,687 , 8,184,417 topics. Date: Thursday, 12 June 2025 at 03:40 AM i25r

BellaElla:


Unbelievable! In this 2018?

I am telling you, I just shook my head when I saw that response. The kind of things people put up with in the name of marriage!

KanwuliaExtra:


Now, you know I am the TRUE daughter of Trump. We can be PRESIDENTS, but not DIPLOMATS.

Lol. You are a comedian and you are certainly trump's African daughter. Nothing do you.

SweetPuffPuff:
lady the food itself is not $500 it dont cost that muxh because u can make it cheap,u agreed yaself.

Its u who seems to be confused
Now stop quoting me and arguing the same thing over bye

This comment shows the kind of person you are. You are the type that will pay for the ingredients and then expect the caterer to work for free. The ironic part is, you will pay for the service for an American caterer but will cheat your fellow Nigerian, because you feel they are not worth the payment since you know how to cook the food. That is why in one of your comments you were asking why Nigerian restaurants would charge the same as American ones. It is because of people like you that Nigerians cannot progress in business. Please don't ever order from a caterer because you will be wasting their time.

SweetPuffPuff:
and u get it with that last stament -the food aint worth $500 .
I dont need u to explain labor costs to me ,its irrelevant. The food is NOT $500 dollars worth of food -that was the point.

Why dont ya'll get that
****
Why wouldnt nigeria charge as much? Simple because things are cheaper in the developing world

You are a confused human being who does not state things logically. You say I should not explain labour costs to you and then in the same breath talk about the food not costing $500. When a caterer provides food, you pay for labour and the food. So in this case why would you talk about the food not costing $500 when you are also paying for a service. Of course the $500 includes other things, not just the food. Also, obviously the food costs will be higher in America due to the cost of shipping. When you are wrong, just it it, and stop going around in circles, saying contradictory things.

KanwuliaExtra:
. . . . and dinner!!!
No wonder I SUPER SLEPT all day!
2 more days off and loving it!!!!

Yes! I always serve my food on a TRAY!
My mom taught me that.
Presentation is EVERYTHING!

You made some salient points about presentation, but I think you went overboard with the criticisms. It would have been nice if you had tactfully put across your points. After reading so many of your comments on the family board, I can tell that tactfulness is not your forté. I have been a silent visitor to this thread for over a year and I can say some of the meals displayed here could have been better presented and in cleaner environs. Yes it is an informal forum but it is nice to do things in a professional manner. I watch a lot of cooking shows and there is a lot of emphasis on presentation and proper sanitary conditions. It is time we start emulating that in our homes.

SweetPuffPuff:
what im saying IS correct. irregardless of what she was charged . THAT is NOT $500 worth of food and experince?

No nigerian resturant should charge the prices of american 1s . The exchange rate makes her pay more for that food
So yet again Its not $500 worth of food.
And not by US standards becuz she can make all that herself for far less both here and in 9ja,is what i meant.


American . ....If u say so

I hope you do realize that African food is more expensive in America than in Nigeria. Secondly, you also have to pay for labour. When you say " No nigerian resturant should charge the prices of american 1s ", that doesn't make sense at all. Why won't Nigerian restaurants charge the same as American? Times have changed and the level of service expected from African restaurants is high. It seems you do not eat in African restaurants because if you did, you won't say that food is not worth $500. Yes, if the poster had cooked the food herself, it would have cost her less because obviously she won' be paying for her services and she most likely would not have a markup on the ingredients.

sarahade:


Sorry. Was just angry
Rape issues always get to me.
I take back my comment

Thank you for your mature response. I do apologize for my harshness.

sarahade:
This girl is saying the truth.
For those men ing the driver you are all potential rapist and should be raped through your dirty anus

What kind of church do you attend? What kind of prayer is this? So you will stand in the midst of people and call yourself a Christian? It is because of people like you, many people are becoming atheists. What kind of God will answer this kind of vicious prayer?

tonytony208:


I'm a Catholic but I don't understand this one. Are you sure you aren't trying to give the Catholic Church a bad image? Are you sure you aren't making this nonsense up?

That was the same thought I had when I read the op's story. I just thought to myself that maybe the Catholic church in Nigeria has changed its approach because the Catholic church I know does not lay emphasis on tithes and it certainly has no such thing as "sowing of seeds". Sowing of seeds is done in the Pentecostal churches.

Guysses:
Am ashamed on some people here even those that call them self catholics.. now OP, catholic pay tithe nd seed which nobody will force you to do, u cn drop ur seed nd tithe in a box in d chapel wher d priest wil later collect it nd pray over it

This is a big fat lie. There is nothing like sowing of seeds in the Catholic church. During offering, a basket is sent out or people walk up to the front to drop their offerings. You are encouraged to give what you can afford and no mention is made of tithes.

ikennaf1:
My own neighbors wife has succeeded in nagging her husband to drop their ward out of school. He hasn't seen his class throughout this session.

The poor boy now carries baby at home and also chop beating from this woman while her kids who are same age as him go to school. This is upon the fact that when he was even going to school , this same woman made sure he went to a very cheap public school away from her children. I seriously don't know why most women are like this.

But I blame parents who give birth to kids they can't take care of.

As for this woman, I guess she should kiss her NGO goodbye if she hasn't already. After serving jail time, she should gather whatever money she has left and enter into the self employed market... Let's know if her "aunty or madam" status go remain the same.

Instead of coming online to do 'amebo', you should report to children services. How can you live with yourself knowing that something evil is taking place next door and you do nothing about it?

Cutefine02:
I Have a younger bro of 18, who used to b an introvert, and timid, but recently, he changed completely, it's like we(my parents n other siblings doesn't know him anymore)


Someone who cries at harsh words said to him by mum n dad, and would feel d pains for a long time.

Recently, Dad gave him a slap, he was so bold to stand his ground this time n faced dad and everyone in the house was surprised at his behavior. It's like he just reformed.

On a normal day, when dad speaks or talks to him he'd b pained n cry. But now, he talks back without fear and even dad is surprised. Just this evening dad was comparing him to cousins and he broke out and began to compare his earlier personality to dad n how beta he was than dad when dad was his age and how beta he is than those people he's been compared to. Dude now fearless, dunno if we should b worried or not.

I do not think that you should be worried about your brother. He is now an adult and should be treated as one. Instead of slapping him, your father should have communicated his displeasure verbally. Communication is the key. Treat him with respect and I am sure it will be reciprocated.

Tozara:
I'm absolutely opposed to freedom of speech. I only FREEDOM OF INTELLIGENT SPEECH. Animals don't have rights. Only humans will be tolerated in our society and in public debates.

Free speech shouldn't be an absolute guarantee; the freedom to express an intelligent, well-thought-out and well-defended viewpoint is certainly something no one can oppose, but I don't think it's good for society to let any old wingnut or bigot run their mouths and poison public debate (just look at nairaland).

A little bit of regulation of speech goes a long way to make things less dysfunctional, less toxic, and more productive and focused on more important issues. It has a low cost, but a high benefit---it's targeted, effective, and reaps big returns.

37 years have ed, yet we're still reaping the "benefits" of Maitatsine's (Muhammed Marwa) "free speech" in the monstrous form of Boko Haram.

That "Lawyer" should rot in jail.

Wow! I am so impressed with what you wrote, I had to quote you. You succinctly defined what "freedom of speech" entails.

sonnie10:


My dear, if there is anything I learnt from NL, it is the spectrum of human mind.

Lol so true

OBIGS:

If you can explain how God will receive $100 million that be cool.

Sonnie10 was being sarcastic. You both are saying the same thing.

Jesse01:
op dis ur wahala no be here oo but wat did u do to ur husband? it seems he is scared of u,I mean he calls u a devil, he won't eat d food u prepare unless u taste it, I have a feeling dat ur not telling us d full part of d story.

Another useless comment.

Pierohandsome:
The op is not been sincere here. For every action there is equal and opposite reaction,judging by ur writeup i could sense an intimidating and a dangerous looking woman so the man decided to start playing safe.

Even babies recognizes luv whn they see it not to talk of adult. If truly u are showing him luv, he wil be comfortable and happy around u.

Stop exhibiting your ignorance. So if the man is depressed or mentally unstable, you would say it is wife that caused the mental illness? If you have nothing reasonable to say, just keep quiet. Is it not because of her love for him, she has reached out to his family and has even come online to Nairaland to find answers?

Spaxon:
Oga mind ur business

It is because of people like you evil deeds go unpunished. So if this were your daughter, would you ask the op to mind his business?

Gulderbottle85:
Putting him behind bars will have effects on the child. Who will take care of her?

Where is the child's mother? What about the extended family, grandparents, aunts and uncles?

Gulderbottle85:




I don't know why I got involved it's too hard on me. I just wish all these would just be a dream. It's sad.

You need to help that child. I understand it is a difficult situation but you need to do what's right for that poor innocent child. that she has already been let down by one of the people she should trust. She has confided in another adult, so please don't let her be disappointed by another adult. Think about the lasting effect this would have on her if she continues being sexually assaulted by her dad.

Gulderbottle85:




We will confront him today

How will this help? So you think by confronting him this will stop his disgusting behaviour? What if he moves out of the area or threatens the daughter? Report the situation to the child's mom and social services.

Gulderbottle85:



What about the stigma if people around finds out?

It is due to sentiments like this, that things get brushed under the carpet. As a society we need to change our mindset. I think it is best you inform the mother of the child and social services. The child will need proper counselling. So what if people talk, show me a family that does not have a sad story to tell. In fact, your friend has to go to prison for sexually assaulting his daughter. That is not normal behaviour and he should not be free to assault other young females. If he is sexually starved why doesn't he start a relationship with a mature lady and not his blood? How does he even sleep at night knowing what he does to his daughter is an abomination. If I knew the identity of your friend I would be on the phone right now reporting him.

OldBeer:
LOL!
This hungry-looking thing with red rope around his neck like goat is also fighting against equality.
When they call men, this one too go come out.
Broda, fight against poverty in your life first.
Namaste!

Chai! You really finished the guy. I had to go and look at his dp. I'm at my desk trying not to laugh out loud at work. If I were at home I would be rolling on the floor. Nigerians have bad mouths!

KanwuliaExtra:
The GREATEST challenge is MARRIAGE itself.
Reason? MOST PEOPLE CHANGE FOR THE WORSE!
To stay na WAHALA.
To comot na HEAVY WAHALA o!

Better to die h-insai ONE marriage o, than to make the same mistake TWICE or THRICE.
Can’t imagine getting married again.
Will never try it.
You can NEVER know what is in the other person’s mind. So many dishonest people out there with lots of baggage ooooo.

They say one thing, mean another and DO NEITHER!

No need to inherit another set of emotional/financial PLUS MEDICAL RISKS, all in the name of looking for love, peace and happiness. Tufiakwa!!!!

Na real GAME OF WOES I swear!!!!


Glad to have tried it.

It is a very expensive education process.
You MUST find happiness within YOURSELF.
Simple.

You are a real comedian. I totally agree with everything you said. Marriage is an eye-opening experience and you can never vouch for the other person.

hisgrace090:
Rocha's! Your hatted by your people for ing APC.

Even though Zuma promise to help IMO state under you, mind you your people will do all to stop him so that you wount be praised.

Match forward don't look back God and very few are all you HV for now. Remain blessed.

Instead of ing buffoonery, you should go back to school and get a proper education. Your post is littered with spelling and grammatical errors most pupils won't make.

Tecno66:
I am 100% sure that every guy who masturbates has an unseen spirit wife prompting him to do so and the semen you are sending out goes into her. I also have this strange feeling that women who have fibroid which are abnomal shaped foetus get them from spirit husband. Just my thought though.

Chai! What level of education do you have because your post is the most stupid and most ignorant, I have ever read on Nairaland. And that is an achievement because there are so many dunces on this forum.

peteofi:
Well I just did an online interview for a job I got from LinkedIn. Was looking good until they asked me to pay some amount to have an interview in USA or locally. I think $150 for local interview. So now am thinking on LinkedIn again? The USA face to face meet was about $1500. So am a little skeptical about LinkedIn at the moment. And nope. This is the first interview am about to get and am already losing faith.

That's a scam. No potential employer would ask you to pay for an interview.

GoodFaith:

when you travel a path
You will have more understanding of life
Experiences is the best teacher

Bla bla bla. How do you know what path I have travelled?

GoodFaith:

The man is treated like nobodyin the house
MAYBE the wife stop sleeping with him or treat him like trash
Other woman might be the one that listen to all is problem at home and take the presure off him

All what you said are "maybes". There is no evidence that is what happened and even if the wife stopped sleeping with him, he could have filed for divorce, instead of impregnating another woman.

BrotherJesu:

apart feom his monthly salary, whixh camt be ed for i think mumcy pushed him out am a guy too i cant be blind to d truth kus i love my mum.

What about the illegitimate child? Isn't that a constant reminder that your father broke his marital vows? Do you think that is something easy to forgive? What does he do with his salary? Probably spend it on other women. Before you remove the speck from your mother's eye, you should remove the log from your dad's.

Evaberry:


this is a normal thing na

MOST women have a penchant for doing this

Ask married men and women.

if they are going to the market and the total sum is 10,000 it's either they add 5k or 10k.

That's not true. No honourable woman will extort her husband. Marriage is a partnership, not a "get rich scheme" at the expense of your partner.

@op, since this is a big issue, you need to evaluate if you want to continue with the relationship. that marriage is supposed to be a lifetime commitment, so if you aren't comfortable with this attitude, then it's better to have a broken relationship than a troubled marriage.

BigIyanga:

Even the man allowed his concubine to harrass his family and for folks are here siding with the man. What manner of toto-drowned man would allow his concubines to come and harras his blood?? That man needs to be flogged mercilessly in a market square on a market day!!

Tell me about it. The kind of nonsense they expect women to tolerate. That's why we have all these useless pieces of advice telling women how to keep their marriages but none for the husbands. If we spoke up more and shamed these irresponsible husbands, then maybe our society will be better.