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DoWhatThouWilt:
Do they?

I love and enjoy my current state of bachelorhood and honestly I do not have the desire to get married now or in future because personally I have come to the realisation that men are living in a world today where there are too many impossible expectations to meet.

Recently, I have been noticing subtle hints of envy from my colleagues at work who are married just from the statements they make.

For example, they usually try to belittle me with statements like You're still a small boy, you don put woman for house? whenever we are having non heated argument over a topic that doesn't even concern marriage in anyway.

When it is their turn to work for some few hours on weekends they make statements like Men like us no suppose they do duty, na una (single men) suppose do am as if I don't have other affairs to attend to during the weekend.

So married men in the House, Do you people envy single men?

I can say that I have gotten to this stage and I do now understand when they make the estatement “Pht woman for house” Its not literal bro but its literal

lol

Best players and best leagues are two different things. Just as Premier league is the best league, it doesn’t mean it has the best players as there are better players in , spain.

Same with brazilian league. No one really watches it but they sure produce one of the best players in the world

Pumpi

ItisWell22:


This is really inspiring! 🤝

For me, it’s quitting my job as a ed nurse to study medicine.
Quite stressful and sometimes distressing, but the knowledge gained! 🥺
The paradigm shift! ✌️
My view of life and better understanding of myself! 🙏
Being in school with umu Gen Z! 😁

It’s all beautiful.

I’m really grateful to have taken and followed through, the decision of career path change. 😊

Why exactly did you do this though? And did you consider the ramifications of the numerous years in medicine before deciding to jump to this?

I have a colleague who has been bugging em to come to their useless RCCG church to find a Nigerian girl to get married to..after reading so many stories...I am, good

lol, as if you lived my life

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Legalolumoran:
Why buy from an estate a land that won't add to your own estate?

Ibeju Lekki is a fast appreciating commercial hub with massive investments being tly made in the axis by government and the private sector, targeted at making Lagos emerge as the next destination for business in Africa.

It's the home of the Lekki Free Trade Zone, Dangote Refinery, Deep Sea Port, Dangote Fertilizer Plant And The New Airport, and so on

It's pertinent to mention of the high sensitivity of the zone in of land titles and likelihood of government acquisition.

Bottom-line is that you should make consider findings because good title is key to an investment. If you must dole out that hard earned money to buy into any of these numerous estate 'fast selling' as they like to say, be clear of the root title. 

You owe yourself that due diligence. 

Some estate developing companies tell big fat lie even when they don't have any document, they still claim they do, and this is highly condemnable.

Before you buy any land around that region, the following are some of the questions you should ask yourself.

Is the land not subject to committed acquisition?

Is it a titled land or just traditional ownership?

In whose name are the titles they flaunt?
C of O, Excision and so on.

Who did the estate company contract with?

What mode would the ratification of the land title take?

What are the other hidden and ancillary charges?

Do you even bother to read the FAQs annexed to application forms where they cleverly scribble and position a future injury for you?

Have you put all these in consideration and fully understood?

Here's the thing, it will shock you to know that majority of people running close to eighty percent of buyers of estate lands and particularly ibeju lekki lands don't bother to investigate titles because they over-trust they are sold by the Outlook of the developing Estate Company.

How unfortunate.

Some properties bring you rest of mind, some bring your mind to pieces and sadly, the future cross-legs and awaits litany of doomed buyers or supposed owners who will re-buy their properties.

You can only rebook this when you do your due diligence and ascertain the true legal status of the land you want to buy, irrespective of whether it's an estate company who is selling or whether you are buying directly from the omoniles.


Here's another truth, marketers are entitled to commission when they market to you and you buy from the company, just as it's the model with other types of business, so ask yourself why they tell you everything that underlies.

However, while some marketers or estate company are even oblivious of the risk hanging on the neck of the buyers of their property, some indeed genuinely know of such and yet choose to make whoever is gullible swim. It is therefore for you to seek knowledge, because it's the principal thing known yet.

hello, what do you want us to do then?

Kaien:
This my next door neighbor, her husband is always beating her even in front of their kids. It has become a norm for her to receive beating two to three times weekly, he beats her and sometimes locks her outside with her two kids.

Most of the beating always happens when she asks him money for food, this her husband is rich always driving around with small girls in his car. When I ask her to leave, she would say no that she doesn't want her marriage to break up. I wonder what she is protecting. The type of abuses I am seeing, domestic violence is a norm, cheating is a norm.

Nigeria marriages are scary.
I am moving to a new apartment, just if my neighbor's husband ends up killing her, I don't want to be interrogated for murder.

Hitting a woman is WEAK. You have to walk away!

2buffagain:
As a man, you should only expend energy on a woman you want.

All women will give you the same amount of stress, whether ugly or fine.

This comment is from experience. Op, just take note

sweetmelanin:


I've read most of your posts on this thread. Dude, sorry to say you got your heads in the cloud. Maybe because you've spent so long abroad and you are homesick.

Nigeria is not what you think. I repeat.. NIGERIA IS NOT WHAT YOU THINK! It is a land of hardship, anger and frustration. Don't be decieved by the suffer and smile lifestyle.

Yes there is a better sense of community here but trust me, it's because there's no other option. When there's no light, wont you go out and gist with neighbours? who will sit inside in darkness? We need each other to survive in this decrepit land.. but believe me, the minute Nigeria develops like the western world, all these social whatever will stop.

Regarding opportunities, they are only there for the rich and connected. Someone like you may struggle since you've been abroad for so long. There are many returnees like you regretting their decision to return.

The best option is to live abroad and come home regularly for holidays. A word is enough!

Too much sense all over! .. This was the same thing i thought when I recently visited nigeria. Truly, the community is bonded by suffering.. That's why when you try to hail your fellow guy, he is quick to remind you that heis also suffering like you... Like... "baba I still be your boy o" "You be my oga.. Chairman" When things improve, trust me everyone will start minding their own business.... I like your thought process.. Its not a mass herd mentality

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We do not know the details of the argument, so we cannot conclude he was wrong because you and his friend thought so. 2ndly, you do not openly take sides with your boyfriend's opponent in a heated debate. Its okay for a small gist or joke, but not when things are serious. In life, this is where maturity comes to play, knowing when to speak publicly and privately

mikezuruki:


You've deviated. She said her boyfriend was not making sense! She knows. It was even obvious to her. It shows more of the personality of the guy as one who would not it wrong even though he knows obviously that he is.
Using Ronaldo and Messi is a wrong analogy to use in trying to drive home your point.

To even think that the guy would rather lose his girlfriend than an argument is even the more laughable. Because the guy is obviously displacing anger on the poor girl

First of all, you assume the guy wasn't making sense. Were you in the argument? How can you just believe one side of the story? Do you even know if the argument was on a very subjective topic, so it depended on each one's point of view -That was the reason I used the ronaldo and messi example.
Funny how you are already questioning his personality, based off the point of view of the girl. You were not in the argument, so you can't just assume he was wrong, because she and the friend said so. He maybe displacing anger, but I bet you, she definitely said things to hurt his ego which she ommited from her post. Don't be too quick to conclude

mikezuruki:

I will even be the more embarrassed that I'm not making any sense over a heated argument. The guy na child!

Not true... she shouldn't have taken sides in a HEATED argument, no matter what. Its like Ronaldo's wife taking sides with Messi when they are in an argument on who is better. Even if clearly, Messi is better. She must be his number one fan, no matter what and if necessary, correct him in private

Newboss:
Dude, don't marry anyone because of pregnancy.
Don't let any stupid person on Nairaland blackmail you. Marriage is not for pregnancy protection

I second. leave these dudes talking crap

Emmy417:
Just scared, I know how many years it took me to save such amount of money, now seeing myself raising a family with it. Frankly speaking, quite difficult for me. Ve already planned on relocating & starting up something with that money. This whole issues now. Am so freaking confused.

Bro.. take it easy... i ll advise you try to look at it from a different perspective. Try to ask yourself what's the worst that could happen? Parents angry, okay, it's nlt the first-time. They could be mad, okay, you ll relocate. You don't like her or see a future with her, okay, youmay actually love the child, and get to experience something different. I know I may not sound like what you want to hear, but trust me, when you analyze the worst, and see that there is actually a solution to the worst, then your "problem" gets reduced

I normally don't eat meat, so Why Not?

Mace0lane:
from wherever or however you have ever been helped learn to be grateful. All the nonsense you typed with the likes you got is the doing of ingrates one should never render help to.

I second. if you ask him how many people from his village he keeps with everyday, he will be mute. He is just an ingrate, trying to feel entitled. He should learn to accept things and move on, just like the people he has ignored too have done

Olarewaju89:


You must be wicked somebody i swear! How can you be talking gibberish from your mouth? You better change your attitudes please.

Honestly, he spoke with a lot of wisdom. I don't know your age, but certain experiences you have will open you to the meaning of his advice there. What he said is the same advice I will give a true friend or brother

edeXede:


We dont have to wait for government to do everything. Why didn't people take responsibility and put a demarcation with a warning inscription to put off people from walking close to the zone. But we would rather wait for the first victim so we can post on social media and get likes to massage our fake ego.

Keep quiet there Mr. Stop tolerating nonsense. We have governments up to the local govt level and if none of them could take action in making aversions to this unfortunate incident, then it's the govt's fault for crass irresponsibility. This is not about the govt failing to feed or clothe you.. This is a case of irresponsibility of the govt to the public's safety. Stop acting like you ve got no rights atall.

brainyvibe1:

That is how it use to be when there are lot of people who care and want Nigeria to work again but OMOYELE SOWORE ALL THE WAY EVEN THOUGH HE WON'T ENTER I WILL STILL VOTE HIM

Same here... SOWORE 2019! come rain come sunshine!