I believe and democracy
But democracy has to be seen as belonging to the voice the people.
When you vote, you should feel and believe that your vote counts.
When the process is rigged or manipulated by some people becos they have some advantage over other (supposedly equal) citizens, don't be surprised when you see coups.
beekind:
I am in my mid 30s, very comfortable and a dual citizen of Nigeria and a first world country.
I decided to relocate back to Nigeria because of starting a family and having my own children.
Since arriving the country and based on my experiences so far, my plans have changed.
I decided to first focus on having children as I found out that the Nigerian society has become almost worse than the west in of sexual debauchery.
People have sex for indomine, girls commit abortion without remorse, the worst thing is that no one here uses protection and by the time your average Nigerian girl reaches 30 years old, she has aborted 4 times, slept with almost 100 men and ed several stds in the process.
What this means is that disciplined men like me are left with these category of girls, worst still is that they come very entitled and empty and can even ruin you with their lifestyle as they are usually impossible to reform.
Solution:
I had to go back to the drawing board and re-evaluated my plan, I have an ex-girlfriend (29 years old) whom I am very close with. She fits the bill in of who I want as a life partner but she is a single mother.
So I gave her a choice.
Have 2 children for me, those 2 children will automatically become dual citizens and I might consider marrying you and adopting your child but even if I don't marry you, your 2 children that you have by me will be taken care of and being dual citizens of a developed country they can turn to a blessing for you and your whole family in future.
Now, let me explain, I still love this lady and my decision was premised on how uncertain I am of what my choice will be in the future as such I wanted to be very open from the beginning, but even at this point, I can not guarantee I will marry her but I could depending on what happens in future.
She's going to give me a later and I am quite positive she will take the offer.
If it were you faced with this option, what would you do ?
I stopped reading where you said "no one here uses protection". Are you for real??
Versitee:
I have been feeling like my husband has been cheating on me with our neighbors daughter. She is just about 23 years.
Yesterday which was Sunday, I went to our neighbors house around 6pm to ask if I could use their oven.
Their compound is not fenced so I just walked in straight to their backyard if I would see the man's wife.
I overheard this girl making a call. Apparently she was the only one at home and she wasn't expecting anyone.
She was asking the man over the fone who was sexualy better between his wife and her.
My attention was arrested immediately. I stopped to hear more of the conversation. When I had enough, I made my presence known. She quickly hung up and tried to put up an innocent face.
I also pretended like I heard nothing, I asked to use the oven and left .
Getting back home, I was worried if that was my husband that girl was talking to, so I decided to find out.
I got my husbands fone later that night and went through the call log. The time that girl was making that call was few minutes past 6. I checked my husbands fone and there was a number he called around that time.
The number was not saved on the fone so I decided to call that number on my own fone and my true caller identified the number as "Vicky hookup".
Guess what, the girls name is Victoria.
I was surprised because I have the girls number saved on my fone. But I guess the number I have is for her family and friends. The one my husband has is for clients.
I opened his WhatsApp and found no chat with the girl, so I decided to check his telegram. ( Normally I don't like telegram so I never open it on either my fone or husband's)
My husbands telegram was locked. I was surprised cos that is the only app locked on his fone.
To cut the long story short, I found a way to open the app, and I saw his chat with that girl.
It pains me to say that my husband has been having sex with that girl without protection.
I want to go for HIV test tomorrow. Please how do I confront my husband about this.
Also I am scared I might be infected with an sti.
Hmmmmm... Inspector Madam, The Chief Private investigator.
Na State C.I..D you suppose dey work.
Tell you husband that a stranger gave the girl's hookup number to you. The stranger alleged that she and Vicky were both into the hookup game but they have a small quarrel. That's why she wants to expose her to you, being your neighbor, that she is hooking your innocent husband.
After that give your husband the microphone, let him address the press.
fryo4life:
My younger brother was born on November 6th, 1996. He became 26 years old last year November. He is worried if he can still apply for bank graduate trainees vacancies in which the criteria for the fresh graduates is that they should be not more than 26 years old. Because he will be 27 years on November 6th this year. Just few months to go.
Can he still be considered 26 years? Or is he above the age limit?
If no be say dem dey add pesin age for WAEC certificate dis days, e for go take one year comot for BVN and NIN, good to go...
ManirBK:
Tinubu will do the needful as much as possible
Thank you BABA BUHARI we still your good work towards Nigerians and we still Love you for another term again after Jagaban
Is this a robot?
I've observed the pattern for a while, and it appears un-human.
If it's human, then we have a mental health issue on our hands.
FreeStuffsNG: : Four Nigerian siblings deported despite being integrated into society
Published on : 2023/07/26
By Benjamin Bathke
After close to a decade of living in , four siblings aged between 11 and 17 were deported to their home country Nigeria in May. Their return forms part of a trend of more and more minors being deported from in recent months.
A tennis racquet, a pair of soccer cleats, a bible, a pencil case -- personal items like these are all that's left of the Ovbiagele family's life in .
Before their belongings were placed into a storage unit in May, police forcibly entered the apartment of Godsand, Victor, Miracolo, Victoria and their mother Bose in southern on the evening of May 15.
"The police officers came into my room at night and woke me up," 11-year-old Godsand is quoted as saying in a recent article published in German news magazine Spiegel.
"I was shaking. They said: 'You will be deported. Pack your things, but only what you can manage.' We weren't allowed to talk to mommy. We were afraid. I heard Victoria cry in her room."
The next morning, the family of five found itself on a chartered flight which took them back to Nigeria from Frankfurt airport. There were 35 other deportees on board, who had been living in Austria, Luxembourg, Sweden and .
Also among the engers in the coordinated group deportation flight were a number of alleged criminals, who were seen to be chained on their hands and feet.
Reluctant new beginnings in Nigeria
Different people have tried to provide to the Ovbiagele family since their sudden deportation; one of them is Rex Osa, a native of Nigeria who has been living in for 18 years.
The refugee aid worker was waiting for the four siblings and their mother in Lagos when their plane touched down there, who described their situation as "catastrophic."
The family have since moved into a small room in Benin City, Bose Ovbiagele's hometown, with the help of Osa. However, this is only a temporary solution.
According to the Spiegel, the city of 1.5 million people is notorious for being a center of human trafficking and forced prostitution and is considered to be one of the most dangerous places in Nigeria.
The children's mother agrees with that assessment: she says she had left for Europe seeing no future for her children in Nigeria. She has been raising them on her own since her first husband died and since she separated from the second one.
Despite these many challenges in life, the siblings are now trying to start again in an unfamiliar place 4,600 kilometers away.
"I don't know if I can find friends here," 14-year-old Miracolo explains. "I don't feel safe here. There are people stealing and kidnapping people; they have guns, too."
Uncertainty for the future
For almost nine years, the family called Kempten their home -- a city located in the southern state of Bavaria, about 100 kilometers away from Munich.
The siblings attended elementary school and middle school in the town of 70,000 people, they completed internships, attended church, played in the local soccer club, and learned how to ride a bike.
"Before , I cannot anything. We were still young. I don't know any other country," 17-year-old Victor told the Spiegel.
"I was about to get my diploma," Victor's twin sister Victoria said. "I was already in tenth grade and had completed my oral examinations. I lived in for almost nine years. Was this all in vain?"
The family is still trying to fight for their return with help of Osa and a lawyer, but a final decision could take months. Until then, they have to live in fear of facing assaults, contagious diseases and, above all, uncertainty.
Little hope for a reversal of fortunes
Back in Kempten, the siblings' friends are also fighting for their return. In June, some 60 people protested in the city on their behalf with banners, saying 'Bring the Ovbiagele family back!'
However, the overall protection rate for Nigerians in is low: the Ovbiagele's asylum applications were rejected all the way back in 2016 already.
As a result, for years, the family-of-five were among the around 300,000 people in whose status is referred to as 'ausreisepflichtig' -- or legally obliged to leave the country.
"Receiving negative letters from the authorities breaks down your psyche," Victoria told the Spiegel.
"Deportation was always a threat we fought over a lot. It was too much for my mother."
Deportations on the rise
According to the Spiegel, the Bavarian Refugee Council had criticized the state's increasingly volatile deportation policy back in February already, highlighting that forced returns from Bavaria now appear to target families with children.
"The Interior Ministry and the foreigners' offices have become unscrupulous. The cases, in which families are getting deported into hopeless situations, are on the rise," the council stated at the time.
Almost 13,000 people were deported from last year, according to Spiegel. Among them were 2,196 minors, including fully integrated school children, many of whom have little or no connection to their parents' home countries.
In many instances, their language skills in German are superior to their abilities to speak their parents' mother tongues.
's need for immigration vs. reality
's present deportation policy, however, is in stark contrast to the fact that the country needs immigrants rather urgently: At the end of June, the EU member state ed its new skilled labor migration law to fill the gap of an estimated 400,000 skilled workers.
Economists say, however, that even this target falls short, claiming that needs a net influx of nearly 1.5 million people -- per year.
But not everyone in is in favor of welcoming more foreigners: A survey from May found that one in two Germans are scared of more refugees coming to . Regardless, the government has pledged to invest more into attracting workers from abroad.
This new policy, however, is of little use to the Ovbiagele family; after living in the country for a total of for nine years, eventually threw them out -- shortly before they would finally become ready and able to start giving back.
Na tunda go faya all of una wey dey spoil Benin name becos una dey look for who go pity una.
Forced prostitution since when? One of the most dangerous places to live in Nigeria? Where Lagos dey, PH, Warri, North, Onitsha...
Ogun Kee una!
FuckSilly:
Most x tain fools, hypocrites and real terrorists will still come here to say trash.
They have serious problem at respecting people's culture, way of life and stance.
A X tian can make fun of her religion by acting as a orn star nun and absolutely nothing will happen. Muslims don't tolerate that and if you find that hard to understand, FucÆ™ up first publicly with YOUR REAL IDENTITY, and not all these social media bluffing and see how you're made to learn your lessons - THE HARD WAY.
Extremist, fanatic and religious bigot spotted!
Must you always resort to violence? Is your religion a form of violent cultism? Religion of peace indeed.
Any small tin, na to kill. You can't argue like a civilised human being, instead na violence upandan... That's y'all's stock in trade.
Make una go dey inside jungle and rough it out with your like.
You don't belong with regular human beings.
Abeg gerrout!
Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....
I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....
If I may ask, why are you so upset over what other people choose to do with their lives and time? Do you think you are better or more intelligent than people who watch BBN? What difference do you think it makes if people in the country are watching BBN or not? Is the government also behind the FIFA Women's World Cup that is holding this year? Or the just concluded Nigerian Idol?
More importantly, why are you even here on this thread?
I have 'spoken' my piece and I have counted to three.
And.., you don't get to choose which thread I'm supposed to be on. You don't own nairaland!
Dunce!
It's an all stars edition
Housemates from previous seasons
Quick to insult, obviously because of your level of intelligence.
If you think I'm not too much of a dunce to be able to read and understand, then you may know that I saw what edition it was....
But edition of what? BBN!
Go and learn some proper communication abilities. You'd appear smarter, trust me.
Odewaleadesoye: Names of Male House Mates to be updated here:
Stay tuned.
I have no doubt in my mind that some usurper in Abuja, along with his gang of desperados and power mongers are behind this year's BBN. You can see that there was no time for auditions.
At a time when Nigerians are struggling to put food on the table... BBN?
During the early stages of the campaign, APC said Labour Party/Peter Obi was inconsequential. BATman said that he wouldn't even utter Peter Obi's name (to emphasize his inconsequence).
In the course of the tribunal proceedings though, they couldn't stop mentioning Peter Obi, who is purported to have come 3rd. They left Atiku, in the purported 2nd position, alone.
Now, they are asking the court to kindly exclude Peter Obi from the Ballot, should they decide on a rerun.
There must be something about this Peter Obi that they proly didn't see coming.
Wish kain gist be dis wan again na?
Wait 1st;
Number one, they went to a t, to do what exactly? No be to go drink? If dem no wan buy drink from de t, why de guy no bring de drink from house as e dey go de t?
Number 2, either de guy papa/mama na strong native doctor or dem know de real tin wey kpuff de poor friends - for ALL de families to decide not to pursue justice.
In any case, may their souls rest with whomever/whatever they served while on earth.
tonye33:
I have been married for 14 YEARS and 'we' have 3kids(all boys) but none of them belongs to me.
5years before I met my wife, I was involved in a car accident together with two of my friends. We were traveling from Lagos to Abuja and our car skidded off the road.
I was the only survivor of that accident, my friends died. I spent about 11months at the hospital and that left me with a condition that says I can't have children.
I gave my life to Jesus Christ and became a committed Christian after the incident.
In summary I became a pastor in a local church in my community 5years later and met my wife in the process.
I did not tell her about my condition because I was hopeful that God will heal me.
6 years into our marriage, my wife got pregnant and had 'our' first child.
To be sure, I secretly went for a DNA and it was clear I wasn't the father. I repeated the test for all 3 children and they are all not mine.
I have been living with this situation for the past 8 years and I am beginning to get irritated by both the children and my wife.
My wife pretends to be a good wife. She goes around preaching to women in the church about the need to remain faithful to their partners but she has had 3 children by another man or men I don't know.
I want to confront her, but I am confused as to how to go about the situation.
I am just angry and irritated by everyone in my house lately. I feel like a total stranger in my own home.
What should I do!?
--Please advise him.
Wetin dey do dis wan? "... advise him" Kee you dia. Na you!
So you actually risked someone's daughter's life based on your fathom faith that God will heal you.
Your self-centred nature is 2nd to none.
Sorry about your accident o, but your wickedness is great. I'm sure it's the devil that saved you from that accident.
My advice, be grateful and raised your family quietly. No one has to know.
Bolt458:
I am not writing this for religious people to come with their funny talks, I am just putting this out here to hear from people who might have tried this methods or who heard about this methods and still proceeded or did not. I want to hear your experience. I have been dating someone for 5 years now, it happened that I began to see her as someone I would want to spend my life with. Last year we did our genotype test and we were both AS. Now , I know some of you will say this should be the first thing you ask when you meet someone but c’mon, would you say people in university that are dating now, would ask their sef that question? That theory is only feasible when you are single and ready to get married and want to start a new relationship, then you can always ask, but we all know some of our relationships started when we no Dey even see marriage in the nearest future, all of a sudden you just see them as the right person and you take the bold step. Now, I had to meet my family doctor here in Canada, I explained to him my current situation and he referred me to a GENETIC COUNSELOR. I am trying to take the necessary steps cause I am not ready to bring in a child with Sickle cell to this world, and I am not leaving anything to faith. A fone appointment was set with the counselor and we spoke at length. She told me that in every foetus, there is a 25% chance that we can get an SS child. Now , how do we mitigate this percentage to the barest minimum I asked as I am not even ready to bring in a sickler to this world. She gave me three options, I would rather say two because the last involves test when the baby comes, and that is out of the question.
Option 1:
A) CVS: They take a sample of the fluid in the womb through her vagina, at 12 weeks to test, if it’s good then fine, if not we have to terminate.
OR
B) At 16 weeks, they take the fluid using a needle directly from her womb, and if it’s SS , they terminate. Both procedures are cover by the government and we don’t need to pay a dime.
Now, she assured me that abortion is a very safe procedure if done properly, and it is even a bigger risk that one can die from a penicillin injection or carrying a pregnancy to term than any harm during an abortion.I know many people would come here and say abortion is this and that but let us be frank to ourselves. If you were told that the child in your womb would have cerebral palsy, or Down syndrome or a neurological disorder, would you still keep that pregnancy? Is there a 100% assurance that two AA people would give birth to a healthy baby? I have come to a realization that pregnancy is just a risk that people take, cus you really don’t know how your child would turn out.
Option 2:
PGD. This is just like IVF, where they would select the genotype before they insert back to the womb. She told me the government doesn’t cover this, and it could cost between $10K- $40k. However she mentioned, just like IVf, it is not guaranteed as it can fail and your money is gone.
I discussed this with my girl in Nigeria and she said she was fine with option 1a. I then asked her, that if the first, second are SS would she still remove it. She accepted. I would not lie to you, this girl is everything I want in a woman. I am not just looking at just love because I know love fades with time, but she is a really nice person, and has a good character. She has always been like this from my days in Nigeria because I was with her before I moved outside. Now after finding out our genotype, I tried to get into a relationship with AA. The first one Dey nigeria, she is a nice person, beautiful, but I just didn’t like her or feel attracted to her. She got tire and we just free ourselves, the second one is here in Canada, I just don’t like this one . Please note, I never slept with any of these ladies because I feel it’s not fair.
Now my question is for those who knew all this and still proceeded, how did it work out for you?
I repeat, don’t come here to tell me about how abortion is this and dat. Cus I know if they tell any of you that your child would be abnormal, 90% of you will go for the abortion
Oga bend go wan side!
You are seeking advice and you're still the one telling people wat not to say. Wetin dey catch you for body?
Lunar2010: 9:17am On Oct 01, 2023 
