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My dad's always quarrelling with me about the issue of me pressing my phone Everytime he sees me 😩

Like dad relax this is my office now abi you give me work? Be it begging o, doing gigs or farming engagements at X. I make sure I stay active at all times because who knows where this helper would come from😌

But he keeps lecturing me about how the phone that I am pressing will make me lose focus.. lose focus in what exactly sir 🙄 it's not as if I am still a student o.. maybe just because I stay under his roof and the little little foods I eat from his kitchen here and there na. I don suffer for this life wey I come sha 😑

Abi make I drop this phone now make thinking kpain me bah☹️

Abeg make una find person work abeg

I dey run any type of editing, PDFs, etc.

I can even teach you sef if you want. Video editing or graphic deg just tell me and it's done

The role of women in shaping modern society is not just underrated—it’s almost erased. People walk around acting like men alone built the world, like one day we just decided to organize society, invent language, build homes, write poetry, compose music... for what though? For who?

Take women out of the story, and men lose direction. We’d still be outside, dirty and proud, competing over who can throw a rock farther or who smells the least terrible. Purpose wouldn’t exist. Civilization might just be organized but no meaning.

Even from the start—check the Bible. Adam was in the Garden, alone. Man had no worries. No self-awareness. No goals. Just walking around, probably scratching his balls and sniffing it, naming animals for fun and what have you. He wasn’t building anything. Fecker wasn’t even cleaning himself up. He wasn’t even conscious of how lost he was. God had to step in and say, “It’s not good for man to be alone.” Not because Adam was crying for company, but because he didn’t even realize what was missing.

So what did God do? He introduced woman. And that’s when life began. That’s when things changed. History began, ability came into the picture. Pressure entered. Intention followed. The presence of a woman forces things to come alive. She brings order to the man’s chaos. She gives structure to his energy.

The truth is—whether it’s your mother, a friend, a girl you like, or even one who doesn’t rate you—every woman you cross paths with has the potential to refine you.

I’ve felt it myself. There was a girl in my compound—close to me, but not emotionally involved. We flirted sometimes, shared energy, but I could feel she didn’t truly see me that way. Why? Because of my reality. Still staying at Dad's house, no separate room to be with her sef. Still trying to find footing. And as much as she liked the vibe, I could sense that my instability was a silent barrier.

She didn’t mock me. She didn’t insult me. But just the truth of how she responded to me woke me up. Her energy didn’t say “I don’t like you”... it said “I need you to level up.” And that stung. But I needed it. She became a silent motivator. Unintentionally, she pushed me toward self-respect.

That’s what women do, even when they don’t mean to. They activate your hunger. They make you look at yourself differently. You can be content one moment, and the next, you’re wondering why you’re still not stable, why you haven’t built something meaningful yet. And suddenly, you want to fix it. You want to grow. You want to be someone—not just for you, but because someone might be watching.

Let’s be honest. Once a man starts desiring a woman genuinely, something inside shifts. You start smelling better. You start acting right. You begin to care about your words, your money, your mindset, your future. You stop moving like a boy. Your choices start reflecting seriousness.

It’s not because women demand it—it’s because they inspire it.

Now, all this new cultural noise—redpill talk, anti-marriage views, “modern women this, modern women that”—it’s creating a cold, suspicious generation of men. And honestly, it’s stripping away a lot of the magic. Music isn’t the same. Art feels emptier. That spark that used to come from love, affection, longing... it’s disappearing. When was the last time someone made a song like “All of Me” by John Legend? Or “Dear Mama” by 2Pac? Or painted someone like Mona Lisa?

Those things didn’t come from self-love alone. They came from the desire to express love, to protect, to honor.

That gentle “thank you” from a woman you respect—that quiet smile she gives after you help her out—that small gratitude? That alone can lift your spirit in ways business success can’t touch. That’s the kind of beauty and affirmation that reminds you you’re human. That you matter.

And people don’t want to say it, but women influence our taste, our presentation, even our language. The way men dress, the way we talk, the way we behave in public—somewhere deep down, it’s because we know they’re watching. Whole languages like French and Spanish, called “romantic” languages, were shaped with women in mind. No woman? That whole aspect of language and culture wouldn’t even exist. What’s the point of poetry without someone to write it for?

And those little side jabs—when women gossip about you still living with your mum at 35? It hurts. But sometimes that’s the only fire you need. Men don’t usually say those things to each other. Women do. Because they see the gap between who you are and who you could be. And that pressure, that sting? It’s fuel.

So no—women are not just “behind” every successful man. They are part of the reason men even rise in the first place. Whether through , rejection, challenge, encouragement, or just quiet inspiration—they are deeply tied to what makes us want to become better.

If they weren’t here? Bro, we’d still be in the Garden. Naked. Lazy. Naming animals. And thinking life is complete.

We were meant to love, to risk, to build. And through that—we get sharpened. Stronger. More focused. More human.

Women don’t just make life beautiful. They give it depth. Without them, men may still survive. But we wouldn’t become anything worth ing.

FitCorper:


😂
Baba no whine urself na just lame excuse to glorify porn b dis. If no porn existed, u for locate the nearest ashana t.

exactly my point bro. Coming from a Christian background I don't know how I would've done it. And also lack of funds too.

When we were teenage boys back in the days I had a friend who wouldn't feel the same if he doesn't go to prostitutes. Baba would sell everything he owns when the urge comes and if he doesn't have money at that time. I'd imagined myself being that addicted and hopeless and I shudder. He was behaving like a crack addict then if he hasn't to them a day and that put fear in me at that time.

So you see porn and masturbation creates a safe heaven to explore all these without looking like a crack addicts or a perv.

I even know a guy who bleeped a sheep then when we were young men (hormones going on overdrive) although that was in the village but my point still stands

Holluwhakemmy:
stop lying they don't do that.

ask around bro.

advanceDNA:
Sigh!! ....u don't need validation and justification for feeding your mind with explicit sexual content and dragging your pen!s...

Sure there is validation for everything bro.

Holluwhakemmy:
Did your fore father's watch porn before they know how women instruments look like?

My forefathers used to kill physically deformed people because they knew they wouldn't have a chance and don't want to continue the defective gene.

As a physically challenged guy I know the hurdle I face everytime I try to get close to a lady for intimacy even more trouble because I am broke.

Without porn I wouldn't even have had an idea what the female Instruments was all about which will make me so naive but all thanks to porn at least I can find my way (eventually) when I get so close.

So tell me what would've been my fate if I had no access to porn? I'd be a man of 30+ without an idea what the woman look like down there. Or without masturbating, how would I have coped with my hard-ons and sexual urges? maybe accused or rape by now or labeled a perv.

Masturbation and porn helped me explore sex safely and without involving myself with illegal stuff and I am thankful for that.

Masturbation and porn is not so bad afterall

highchief1:
nobody is poor na their time never reach.Just be doing something u will be shocked when ur time comes.see the sole in rivers state.man wey don work retire come become governor again at old age.no election Nthg.the money he didn’t make 35yrs in service he has made in 24hrs.Stay healthy and prayerful.

Boss man can I partner with you? As a marketer? Please think about it.

highchief1:
nobody is poor na their time never reach.Just be doing something u will be shocked when ur time comes.see the sole in rivers state.man wey don work retire come become governor again at old age.no election Nthg.the money he didn’t make 35yrs in service he has made in 24hrs.Stay healthy and prayerful.

Thanks Chief

highchief1:
I sell cars importation.as e Dey land I Dey give am to dealers for port Dey turn back.whole sale kinda.

Omo.. "whole sale kinda" that kind thing 🤗 boss man👐

Chai

Well thank you sir for your time (to get big man wey dey listen to poor man na by strong juju) your humility is refreshing.

I appreciate 🙏

highchief1:
my bad for the small pikin language I used.U sef go Dey ok na just time.but as a Man U must learn how to be careful with money.did u notice nobody knew obi cubana until his moms burial,even zenco.coded life is the highest life.I[b] no get coperate world connect[/b] na business I Dey do and u fit no fit do the type I do bro.

I no even dey find corporate work like that sha because I no go school (no degree) but I smart like werey.

Make I no stress you Chief.

I will be alright as God is on the throne.

But sir no vex o. If your business na something I go fit market for my area (Aba, Abia State) then feel free to help your boy 😁 try me one time make you see what I can do (to assess me)

Solofresh2:
You can actually hide wealth when you decide to keep your cool without any fame and when people don't really know who you are
I am a very good example but I don't want to reveal too much
What I want you to know is what you will know

You have revealed enough boss. Please anyway to help me get a good job? 🙏

I have to do this sir please don't be angry with my attitude. (There's always a cause for all things)

highchief1:
na students full nairaland.na today i confirm 70m na money?I was squatting in my sisters house when I built my first house.nobody knew.i was living in the 3 bedroom bungalow I built with my wife and kids driving a 2010 corola my business was already worth over 500m.people started talking so I decided to build a mansion and I did it in 9 months.still using the corola.na small pikin Dey worry una.500m is no money for a 50yrs old man that understands life.but small boy go get 3m go buy phone change cloths begin make noise.the way u handle money shows how matured u are.i fit get 50m no even buy one shirt.my age mates are governors why should 70m make me begin to mumu.Money wey no buy ordinary Prado abi hilux.nairaland should find a way to remove children from this forum.

Chief we all can not be as fortunate like you na. Some of us still dey for our mama house still dey chop mummy thank you even at 50 sef.

No be everything be about small pikin o. Some of us na because of the hand that life dealt to us.

Abeg forgive us 🙏

If you can have a good word for me amongst your friends.and help me I will appreciate 🙏🙏

I need a job so bad.

Please

In our world, where every person carries a little darkness inside, religion, government, law, and order act like a strong wall holding that darkness back. Without these walls, chaos would rush in like a flood with no dam to stop it.

Think of life as walking through a dense, dangerous forest at night. Everyone is scared and on edge. You do not know who will protect you or who might harm you. This fear pushes people to be suspicious, to fight first before they get hurt. This is what life would be without rules and structures — a constant battle for survival.

Religion, government, law, and order bring light and structure to this forest. They create rules that guide behavior and consequences for breaking them. They give us a sense of safety, a shared understanding of right and wrong. This shared understanding is vital because it helps us trust each other enough to live together, work together, and build communities.

Religion often brings hope, forgiveness, and a moral com. Government and law enforce boundaries that protect the weak and punish those who break the peace. Together, they stop us from becoming animals fighting for scraps.

History shows us that when these pillars are strong, society flourishes. When they weaken, fear grows, trust fades, and the dark forest inside us becomes alive again. People stop believing in justice and start believing only in power and survival.

So, protecting religion, government, law, and order is not about blind loyalty or ignoring faults. It is about understanding that without these, the fragile peace we enjoy today will collapse. It is about holding leaders able to keep the fire burning, the forest lit, and the darkness away.

In short, these systems are our shield against chaos. We must protect them with wisdom, demand fairness, and keep the fire of order alive.

Because when the fire dies, the dark forest wins — and nobody wants to live there.

I’ve been thinking hard about evolution — not just biological but by will. Imagine reengineering ourselves into superhumans: flying with nano-powered suits or even better, upgrading our own biology for jet speed, super intelligence, energy efficiency, near immortality. We’d be masters of motion, thought, and space travel. Maybe even Kardashev Type III civilizations, harnessing entire galaxies.

Sounds like a sci-fi dream, but maybe it’s inevitable. The only thing that might stop us? That biblical Tower of Babel moment — scattering language and thought to keep us in check.

But then I ask: what if we transcend even that? What if there’s no limit — no highest scale? What if we actually built the universe ourselves — simulation style — and boredom becomes the real problem? I imagine God as a bored creator, fiddling endlessly with time, universes, and versions of themselves to escape eternal monotony.

And here’s the kicker: The traditional image of God as an all-knowing, all-powerful, perfectly calm being is kind of... boring. If God knows everything — every thought, every outcome — what’s the thrill? It’s like watching a movie you wrote, directed, and starred in... repeatedly.

Maybe the divine is us in motion. A collective consciousness where death is just another state, and unpredictability — chaos — is the spice of existence. Maybe God isn’t a separate, distant entity but the sum of human experience, evolving as we do.

Now, I know some will say: “You can’t understand God’s mind. It’s beyond human comprehension.” That’s a common rebuttal, but let’s unpack it:

If God’s mind is unknowable, how can anyone claim to truly know God’s will or intentions?

If we can’t know God’s mind, can we even be sure God has a “mind” at all, or are we just projecting human traits onto the unknown?

This unknowability turns all dogma into interpretations — none absolute. Who then decides which one is correct?

Saying “God’s ways are mysterious” feels like itting that God’s nature is a blank canvas painted by human fears, hopes, and needs.

If God is truly unknowable, then does the idea of a bored, omniscient God hold any real meaning? Or is it just human imagination running wild?


So, where does that leave us? Perhaps not worshipping a fixed, eternal deity, but acknowledging a dynamic mystery — a process of becoming that we are part of, shaping and evolving in real time.

In other words, God might not be a boring all-powerful ruler on a throne — but the unpredictable, evolving totality of our collective being.

This is the kind of future I want to discuss. A future where humans stop waiting for divine intervention and start becoming the architects of reality — with all the chaos, power, and beauty that entails.

What do you think? Are we really on the path to becoming God? Or is God just the story we tell to make sense of ourselves? And how do we navigate the tension between faith, reason, and this grand vision of human evolution?

We was poor and I was disabled. Although I had fun trying to do little I could but damn 🤧So I give it a 3.

T9ksy:




what a d.um.b statement!!! So, because of migrations, all fulanis in west Africa can also claim to be nigerians. Geez!

This is why i stand by my conviction that nigeria is irredeemable and must as a matter of urgency, be put to rest permanently else............the fulanis will eventually wipe off all yhe indigenous people of nigrria
In due course.

You don't know what tribe is then. You can be of same tribe but exist in different geographical locations.

Can you say that all the Hausas in all part of Africa are from Kano?

Or that all the Yorubas in the world are from Oyo?

Or that all Igbo people are from Anambra?

You don't know what you are saying because you just want to insult me.

Zeebuy:


Fulani man don drop quote.

Fulanis aren't indigenous to Nigeria, get that into your head.

By the time other tribes wake up, I pity you people

Eeyah, sorry for you.

Me, Fulani keh? 😂

I don’t even blame you. It's ignorance that’s doing backflips in your head.


All of us within this geographical location at the time of independence are the bonafide and original citizens of this nation. Say whatever you like, but the fact remains.

What you should advocate for is a review of the entity called Nigeria — where all factions can come to a round table and decide the way forward: whether to continue in this format, change the format, or go for outright dissolution — make everybody go answer him papa name.

Or, if luck shines our way,

We get quality leadership.

If not, all this talk about Fulani and where they are coming from — blah blah — is dead in the water.

Urgent1Million:
That is not news.
They're on a mission to take over the entire country which they consider as the estate of their forefather, Uthman Dan Fodio.
Sadly, those who are supposed to prevent that calamity from happening are oiling its wheels through stupid political machinations.
They invite them for negotiations, aid their cash movements, supply them weapons and food, but come to the media to pretend they're fighting insecurity.

This delusion runs through all armed terrorist militias with Islamic roots, a very disturbing mission to either convert all of humanity to Islam or subjugate them under tribute and tax.

G0odharddick:
Fulani people are not even Nigerians to start with. They're from Niger Republic.

In a sane society, the military, LAPD, swat and all armed forces will swing into action with this information and ensure those bast.ards are completely dismantled from Nigeria, but of course, Nigeria and its govt sees nothing wrong with this. Their mumu governor is busy fighting with obi wey no even send him papa. Benue people are in for a long ride

Shut up!

Fulani like every other tribe in Nigeria migrated here one way or the other at some point in history.

As long as they were present when we got Independence, then they are really as Nigerian as anyone else

Kushites:



''We Waz Kangz'' is the 'mocking' line that MAGA white supremacists in America use when they have no evidence to disprove the fact that Africa is the Cradle of Civilisation.

All you are doing is copying their line.

Because your heads are turned upside down to despise yourselves and worship ''white people''.




Empty head.

Are you aware that the first empires of China, Japan and India, Cambodia, Korea, etc were established by black Africans?

These are paintings from the Mogao Caves in China:





Godfrey Higgins (1772–1833) wrote— Anacalypsis (1836)

Godfrey Higgins was a British historian of ancient civilizations. His quotes:

“The ancient Chinese were black, and their features are African to this day, particularly in the south.”
— Anacalypsis, Vol. I

“The learned inquirer into the history of the early nations of the world will find almost everywhere traces of a Negro race… They penetrated into China, and even formed settlements.”
— Anacalypsis, Vol. II


These are statues in Angkor Wat, from the Khmer Empire of Cambodia.

Who do they look like to you?




Gerald Massey (1828–1907) — Author of The Natural Genesis and Ancient Egypt: The Light of the World

“It is certain that the Negro was the first builder of civilization in the Nile Valley, India, and possibly in China.”
— The Natural Genesis (1883)

“The ...black race carried their solar mythologies and symbols of wisdom into India, Cambodia, China… and from thence to the isles of the Pacific.”

— Gerald Massey, Ancient Egypt: The Light of the World, Vol. I

John G. Jackson — Introduction to African Civilizations

“Many of the so-called ‘yellow races’ of Asia were originally Negroid… The earliest Chinese were undoubtedly dark-skinned people.”


Cheikh Anta Diop — The African Origin of Civilization: Myth or Reality (1974)

“Negroid populations are observable in very ancient times in Southern China and throughout Southeast Asia. Their presence confirms a prehistoric expansion from Africa.”

Runoko Rashidi — African Presence in Early Asia

“The Black presence in early China is most visible in the Xia dynasty, China’s first dynasty. The Shang, too, were likely of African origin — this is clear from the artifacts and early Chinese records.”

“Early Chinese legends speak of Black emperors and sages. The people of the south were often called ‘Black Chinese’ by the Han.”


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So wait, na because you see one old Chinese or Cambodian painting wey the people skin paint brown, you come conclude say black people rule those empires? Bros, abeg shift.

Ancient artists no get Photoshop na. dem just dey use natural pigment wey dey around. If na dark mud dem get, na wetin go show for everybody skin. That no mean say dem be Africans. E just mean say dem paint with wetin dem get that time.

And who even tell you say statue features na DNA test? You dey look nose and lips like say you be Hotep forensic expert. Statues no be selfie

You no go fit confirm race from weather-worn stone, abeg.

All those white authors you dey quote — Gerald Massey, Godfrey Higgins — dem no be real historians. Dem just be old school conspiracy theorists wey smoke plenty pipe and write anyhow. Meanwhile, real Chinese and Indian historians never mention anything like black rulers in their entire record. But na you from Nairaland wey discover am? LOL.

Oga, make we no lie give ourselves. Africa get rich history, yes. But instead make we build on am, una dey do cosplay with fantasies. Meanwhile, countries like Japan, China, India wey swallow humiliation, studied the West and industrialized

Now dem dey lead in tech, finance, and medicine.

You dey here dey shout ‘We Waz Kangz’ while dem dey run global markets. Who really wise?

Make we face truth: no be who shout for history na him go lead future. Make we calm down, learn wetin we suppose learn, and build something better. That one go do all these statue drama and internet pharaoh dreams.

Who are you if I may ask? 🤔

"We Waz Kangz"

😂😂😂😂

Y'all better drop this narrative. The earlier the better.

Everyday "Who we are.." yen yen yen.

Where any black African nation's as prestigious as the Chinese or the Japanese I'm the past

NO

but the mellowed and learnt from the Masters. Now look at them now competing with the Masters in all disciplines.

African man with our useless pride, clinging on past things and forget that nations come and go, others assimilate and transcend.

This has been repeated in all of history. Cultures either assimilates with another culture whether superior or inferior or the get exterminated forever.

That's nature for you.. call it cruel or whatever but nature is brutal and worst still against the weak.

Y'all are weak that's why you cry all over sm instead of going low to learn and strategies and rise like your peers.

Cry cry black men😭😭

"We Waz Kangz" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

RichBoy247:
Issokay.

Some churchgoers are deceiving her that are sins are forgiven, they will never quote tge part of the Bible that says “it is appointed unto man to die once, and after death is judgement “. Everyone will pay for his/her sins

Jesus has paid already

We should stop pointing fingers to anything else but us.

Crying about being manipulated, colonized and subjugated by the whites but the Asian tigers (Japan and China even Malaysia and Singapore) experienced this things but now are among the most important countries in the world right now.

But we are still crying everyday of how PEOPLE are stopping us from being better than we are right now and it's pathetic tbh.

I keep asking myself what this mental blockage that prevents us from seeing past old colonialism rhetorics. Why can't we focus on how we can better our lot and stop pointing accusing fingers everywhere?

Are we so mentally handicapped in that the Asians did but we cannot do same.

Why didn't this nonsense devil's plan not work for Asians or even South Americans?

Why must it work in Africa or is the devil selective?

What is wrong with my fellow blacks?

Firebox123:
pained

2008 kids

na when I comot from school sha

wunmi590:


You are right, alot of people ing clubs you least expected..

I've a friend too who has been ing dortmund for years, during the days NTA used to show German league...

He was ing Dortmund because of Jan kollar...

Nah small small pikin dey watch ball now

Oga rest. I know a guy yen yen yen

What of people that are ing Coventry city in Nigeria have you met them too? Or Barnsley?

And which wan come be "...na small pikin dey watch match now"? Who wan watch match before.

All this old men will not allow someone to live our lives in peace without constantly reminding us how their outdated opinions matters.

Nonsense and Hibernian FC

Aniahbaby:
Let's not forget that there is a limit to what the president can do. Although the educational system is already broken, that doesn't justify students not reading their books.

But hunger, hardship, tales of frustration from older ones about the government ills can disincentivize students from focusing on the task at hand.

Check the news and you will see that there are thousand and one reasons not to be serious with education in this country.

Sorry guys you don't have a country.